completions.csv

query,model response,score
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit

TITLE: How do you get someone out of your head?

POST: Hi,
I'm 22, and I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years now. We recently moved together. We've always loved each other intensely.

Problem, I recently started to have feelings for an other person (a friend). This person has had a boyfriend for now 3 years, and has absolutely no ideas. Those feelings were so strong, it was hard to hide them. After 2 months of me being distant and really sad, my girlfriend forced me to say what was bothering me. I'm not a good liar, and now she knows.

We decided to give us a week alone, I went to my parents. 

Now, I'm completely lost. I keep on thinking about this person, and I hate that. I would like for those feelings to go away, to leave me alone. But I can't.  

What do I do? It's been 3 months now, and I'm just desperate.

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," I'm a liar, and I have feelings for an other person.

Gf: I'm a liar, and I have feelings for an other person.

TL;DR:

Assistant: I'm a liar, and I have",-0.63475823
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge

TITLE: So, my mom woke me up with a loud TV.

POST: She was in her living room, watching TV. This was at about 8:30 in the morning, and she was exercising. She turned the TV up extra loud to hear it over her excercycle, and woke me up. I went in there asking for her to turn it down. She said she didn't have to; I explained that I always used headphones so she didn't have to deal with my noise and that she should give me a little more respect, given that I paid rent at the time.

She disagreed. I went back to my room, rather pissed off at the lack of equality. I had no lock on my door; but I had a dresser right next to it, so I pulled one of the drawers out enough so that it caused the door to not be openable. Then, I turned my speakers up really loud and blasted Gangnam Style on repeat, with the bass cranked up as high as it could go.

If you hate Gangnam Style for being overplayed, you will see why I chose that particular song. I personally don't mind it. But here's the thing about my bass; it vibrates the walls, making one hell of a lot of noise. Needless to say, my mom was not pleased and shut off the internet. But it was oh so worth it.

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," Mom woke me up with a loud TV.

Me: I paid rent at the time.

Mom: I don't have to deal with your noise.

TL;DR: I paid rent at the time, and I don't have",-1.6009978
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationships

TITLE: My girlfriend (20f) of two years cheated on me (20m) by kissing two guys at a Halloween party.

POST: Lately her and I have been having a few problems, and these problems have been brought up before a few times. One problem being that I don't show enough affection. I don't tell her she's pretty very often or don't compliment her much. I feel terrible about it, but this time I was really trying to change for her.

For Halloween she went to visit her step brother at a college and I got drunk with my friends and watched movies. Last night (11/1) we got in a huge fight about me not changing and how our relationship won't work out and basically broke up over the phone. So in an effort to try and fix it I drove to her house. She told me how at the parties she went to that two guys kissed her. The first one she pushed away, but the second one I asked her if she kissed him back and she said yes and that she did it because it made her feel wanted, which I guess I haven't been making her feel that way lately. We cried, we talked about everything, we had great sex, and I stayed over at her house just to sleep with her and then snuck out in the morning so her parents wouldn't know.

We both obviously want to work things out but aren't sure if we should. I love this girl, but the more I think about it, all I can think about is her cheating on me, and more importantly, liking it. It makes me sick to my stomach. Should I even try to fix it or would I be better off cutting all ties.

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," Girlfriend cheated on me by kissing two guys at a Halloween party.

I love her, but I don't know if I should try to fix it or cut all ties.<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD]",2.7958856
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/running

TITLE: One year post-pregnancy, aches and pains in hips and knees, can't even comfortably do day 1 of C25k. Help?

POST: I'll try to keep this short!

**Background**

* I've always been an on again/off again (very casual!) jogger, typically doing 3 - 5 k
* My knees have always been finicky, and I went to a physio who thought I had ""runner's knee""
* Pre-pregnancy, my ""runner's knee"" would flare up when I got to the 8 - 10 k distance range, even if I had a decent base (doing a C210k type program)

**Current Problem**

I had my baby a year ago, so all in all I haven't run for about 1.5 years.  I'm quite slim and have been doing aerobics-style classes for the past year, so I'm not totally out of shape.  Body weight exercises, aerobics, bikes and ellipticals are all fine.  However, when I run even the tinyiest bit, or even go on a long walk or a hike, my pelvis gets very sore and tight, and my knees start hurting very quickly.  I already am doing general squats/lunges/stretching type things.  

I'm starting to feel like running just isn't for me anymore. Which is a bummer, because I really enjoy running!

Has anyone had something similar? Can anyone recommend some stretches or exercises that might help?  Should I see a Dr?  Or should I just see a physio?  Not quite sure how to proceed.

Thanks!

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," I have a runner's knee, and I'm not sure if I should see a physio or not.<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD]",0.16023885
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/tifu

TITLE: TIFU by staring too much.

POST: Unlike most tifu's I have seen, this happened today. So, to start off I am 16 years old and have started my second semester as a sophomore, in one of my new classes (team sports to be specific) I noticed a very attractive and genuinely cute girl. I have never been on dates or been romantically involved with any girls before, because I have social anxiety and I am pretty chunky and I have confidence problems because of it. Any way, back to the story, I notice this cute girl and I can't help myself and I stare at her then I gain focus and I am focused back on the game. The day continues normally until I look back and her eyes avert away from me quickly, like when you get caught staring at someone and you act like you weren't staring. So, I thought ""does she like ME?!?"" thought it might have been a coincidence but I caught her stare a few more times. So after we dress back into our normal clothes I stare at her and question. whether or not she could like a person like me. She caught my gaze this time and she turns away and talks to some dude. The dude was pretty weird but there wasn't a day when she wasn't talking to him during class. Anyway the dude gives me a dirty look and the bell rings and I thought maybe she doesn't like me maybe she was creeped out and told her possible boyfriend that I was staring at her all class. So yeah saw her walking away with the dude and I saw her eyes on me again and they avert again. Don't know her name or anything so probably creeped out the poor girl and might get confronted by the dude, also I seem like a total creep...
P.S. sorry for formatting on mobile.

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," I stare at a girl and she turns away and talks to a dude.

TITLE: TIFU by staring at a girl.

POST: So, I am a freshman in college and I have been dating this girl for a few months",-0.41615528
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit

TITLE: Reddit, I think our family dog just consumed a significant amount of chocolate. What do I do?

POST: Okay so my father and I went out to dinner tonight and left the dog at home. I'd left half a bar of dark chocolate (about 1.5 oz, still in the wrapper) sitting on my desk. Mind you, the bar has been sitting on the desk for about three days now and the dog hasn't done anything about it, and typically doesn't. She knows not to climb on surfaces and has shown no interest in the candy before. 

However, I returned home to find my bedroom in shambles. The contents of my desk were all knocked around and a bunch of family photos were all shredded and chewed up. I found the empty chocolate bar wrapper on the ground and still can't find the offending candy. I can only conclude that the dog has eaten it.

This is something that my dog would've done as a puppy. However, she's ten now and hasn't behaved like this in years. She's acting fine at the moment, but I'm still worried. My father doesn't seem concerned about her at all, which worries me even more.
FYI, my dog is a dachshund mix and weighs about 25-30 pounds. 
Has anybody been in this situation before? What happened? Does anybody know what to do?

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," Dog ate chocolate bar wrapper.

Dog: She's ten now and hasn't behaved like this in years.

TL;DR: Dog ate chocolate bar wrapper. Hasn't behaved like this in years. What do I do?<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD]",5.073036
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationships

TITLE: Me and my (former) best friend.

POST: I'm a 15-y.o. female, and I'm pretty sure that I just lost my long-time female best friend (a year older), who has been with me for about 4 years.

I had only two friends in school, and 'she' was one of them. We never argued a lot, but there were very rare occurrences when we didn't get along. I had already been ignored for a week once--as if my presence wasn't there at all--and I always assumed it was simply because I had said something wrong (I apologise to her, I swear). But we would always get along, eventually.

In the remaining several days before we had to part for summer, our interactions were becoming a little awkward, and it was with the knowledge that I would already be attending a different school from hers when classes return. In those days, I would see her making conversations with other students rather than me. She would always speak to my only other best friend (the three of us have been really close friends for > 4 years), and not include me in the conversation. My online messages are all unread. I have, of course, asked her if I had done something wrong; she would say ""no"", as always, without looking me in the eye.

And now she has finally blocked me in social media. 3 months have passed now, and I cannot even fathom what wrong I could have possibly done. I don't have much friends. Now that I am in a new university, I could simply forget that part of my past and move on, but I cannot bring myself to do so. You can't just forget years of shared experiences, right?
 

Hell, I even dream about her sometimes. I adore her as a great friend, no less. But in those last few days together, she'd just blatantly ignore me, and wouldn't at least tell me what I've done wrong--and that really hurts me. I'm rarely emotional, but look at me now.

Any help at all would be strongly appreciated. If it's me who's at fault, do tell--I'm open. Apologies for the long post.

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," I'm a 15-y.o. female, and I'm pretty sure that I just lost my long-time female best friend.

Best friend: She's been with me for 4 years.

Me: I'm a 15-y",0.65822536
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/tifu

TITLE: TIFU by trying to creatively announce my first pregnancy.

POST: This happened a couple months ago. My husband and I spend most of our time working in the overseas, and we recently came home to the U.S. for a year to apply for another long term visa. We decided that we should spend that year trying to have our first baby.

Within a week after making this decision, I realized I had missed my period. The next week I took three pregnancy tests at work, and that's right, my Mexican ass is knocked up. Instead of telling my husband right away, I came home from work and made a cookie cake that said ""I Got Knocked Up"" and a bunch of cupcakes with letters on it that, when unscrambled, say ""I am pregnant."" 

Here's the FU part. Since we spend a lot of time overseas, we don't have many close friends, but we had a few people we had begun hanging out with and I invited them all over that night to play Settlers of Catan. When my husband got home that night, they were all there waiting with the board set up. I brought out the cupcakes I made and told them all to unscramble them. My husband stared at the cupcakes for a minute and said, ""I am pregnant."" All our new friends were super excited, but my husband just sat there dumbstruck.

Finally, one of our friends stopped and asked my husband, ""Dude, are you just finding this out right now? Ohhh Shit."" My husband and I went into our room for about a half hour and he was pretty upset that he didn't know first and we didn't decide together how to tell people, and how he was put on the spot in front of practical strangers. But then we made up, cried, called our parents, and then rejoined our awkward guests for a game of Settlers.

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," I got knocked up.

Husband: I am pregnant.

Friend: I am pregnant.

Husband: I am pregnant.

Friend: I am pregnant.

Husband: I am pregnant.
",-0.46799272
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/running

TITLE: Knee pain due to poor balance

POST: I've had difficulty with distance running due to strong knee pain. My endurance is great, I can cycle for very long distances, but I can't run because my knees give out around 8 to 10 mies.
I went to the Orthopedist who did a full series of x-rays and pronounced my knees in excellent condition. Then he had me do a bunch of balance exercises and told me that balance and ""hip stability"" was my issue. He prescribed PT, but my insurance is kinda crappy and 3x's/week PT will run me around $300/month. That's a bit steep.
So, has anyone else had knee issues due to balance and hip stability? What did you do? Are there balancing exercises I can do at home and not spend a ton of money on PT?

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," I have knee pain due to poor balance.

Doctor: I have knee pain due to poor balance.

TL;DR: I have knee pain due to poor balance. What balance exercises can I do at home and not spend a ton of money",1.4126104
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationships

TITLE: I'm (18M) jealous of other guys flirting with my (18M) girlfriend on social media. Help?

POST: My jealousy is starting to become a problem in this relationship. Actually, it has always been. Last year, a boy my girlfriend was friends with had kept walking her to class, writing her cute notes (something boyfriends do) and asking her if she's sure about being with me. I threatened to break up with her if she never stopped talking to this guy, because he was obviously trying to make a move. Now that she's in college, she's hanging out with more guys! 75% of her friends are guys, always hanging out with her, and after the ""friend"" she had last year, I can't stop being jealous or mad about her friends. The social media part about this, guys put heart eyes on her photos on instagram, and I tell them to back the fuck up, and my girlfriend gets mad at me for confronting them! ""You don't know what they meant by them, it doesn't mean they're flirting with me."" I understand that she is right, she doesn't respond back but she obviously likes the attention she gets. My jealousy is also fueled by my friend group. My friends have dated my exes, I've been apart of closed door conversations about how some of my friends want to fuck my other friend's ex, visa versa. I would never do that to my friends, and in my world, most guys in college or highschool just want to take my girlfriend if they hang out with her. Or want to fuck her. She has already encountered a guy trying to flirt, and she gave him her number just to talk when we were arguing and on a break from our relationship. I have influenced her as well to be jealous with how i act with my anger and jealousy, but a big break up caused her to stop being clingy. Now i'm stuck being mad and jealous towards guys around her, and now I feel overprotective.

TL;DR:

Assistant:", I'm jealous of other guys flirting with my girlfriend on social media. I'm not sure how to deal with it.<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD],0.9605114
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationships

TITLE: I [22 F] want to buy my bf [28 M] of 6 months a $500 very rare video game for his collection for his birthday/Christmas. Will a gift of this caliber scare him off/ be considered too much after being laid off from his game dev job?

POST: My boyfriend's birthday is December 24th, which is Christmas Eve. He grew up in a foster home and never got great presents for either his birthday or Christmas. He often spends his birthday and Christmas alone because his foster mother is uninterested and he doesn't have a great relationship with his birth mother. 

He spent Christmas with me last year, so I went out of my way to get him both a birthday present AND a Christmas present, both of which valued above $50. However, he was so thrilled to have someone to spend his birthday and Christmas with, he showered me with 5 very nice, expensive gifts. I felt terrible. Happy, but terrible.

He is a video game artist but was recently laid off from his job. He is very passionate about his video game collection. There is one game I noticed in his collection that he only has the sequel of. I asked him why because it is very unlike him. He said it was because the original was wildly expensive and he already had a hard time affording a mint condition version of the sequel.

The cheapest, mint condition version of the game I could find is about $500. I do not make a whole ton of money, but I have saved up enough for it but now I find myself having second thoughts. I would have to buy it now or within a few months because the price skyrockets the closer it gets to Christmas. We haven't been together all that long (about 6 months) and I don't know if it would be right to drop $500 on a present just yet.

I have so many questions. Is this too much? Would it be creepy to get him something that he never asked for? What if giving him a game gives him bad feelings about getting laid off? What if we break up before Christmas and I am stuck with the game? Would the game have the same value to his collection if he didn't earn it himself?

Any help would be great. I am torn.

TL;DR:

Assistant:", I want to buy my boyfriend a $500 video game for his birthday/Christmas. Will a gift of this caliber scare him off/ be considered too much after being laid off from his game dev job?<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD],4.565548
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationships

TITLE: I (16f) don't want my Boyfriend (16m) hanging out with his female friend anymore

POST: My boyfriend's been very close friends with this girl for a few years, and him and I have been dating for a year and a couple months now. I've never had a problem with their friendship and I know that it's platonic, they've never done sexual stuff or dated or anything. And she had a boyfriend throughout out entire relationship, but they broke up last Thursday. Since then she has been trying to talk to my boyfriend more and I'm worried that she wants to do stuff with him. I've hung out with my boyfriend twice since and both times he got several texts from her and she hardly ever used to text him while we've hung out before. And yesterday evening I called him and he was talking to her on the phone. All of a sudden since her boyfriend and her broke up now she's constantly trying to talk to my boyfriend? I think she likes him and I don't want them hanging out anymore, when he said he was talking to her on the other line I told him he's not allowed hanging out with her anymore and he seemed angry at me for saying that. Since that I've apologized and we aren't fighting now but I think he still talks to her. How do you think I could get them to stop their friendship without ""telling him what to do""? Do you think that she wants to date him? Or why is she so obsessed with him now that she's single? I'm so upset and I'm worried about what will happen if they hang out with eachother now.

TL;DR:

Assistant:", I (16f) don't want my boyfriend (16m) hanging out with his female friend anymore.<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD],2.870372
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationships

TITLE: Me [22m] with my girlfriend [19 F] of 1 and a half years, has been having communication and trust errors as of late

POST: Everything in our relationship up until about a month ago was fantastic.  We never fought, we understood each other and acted like the bests of friends and lovers through it all.  Recently, I went back to school and our communication has been a bit strained, since I didn't do so well in last semester and have been focusing more on my studies.  

Last weekend, I could tell something was definitely wrong.  She was constantly on the phone texting, conversation seemed strained and she seemed more engrossed with her phone and because of this there were problems during sex which made it not enjoyable at all.  We confronted each other and she told me she felt as if she doesn't feel as if we're in a relationship when I'm up here because I don't text as often as I used too.  

On my end, I'm worried because a new guy friend has come into her life and she seems to be putting more time into talking to this guy than to me.  I told her I would change and nothing was threatened in terms of a break up or anything, we both agreed we want this to last.  However, I can't shake this feeling that something is up and the more and more I think about it it makes me more and more paranoid and depressed. 

I just need someones outside opinion before I do anything or say anything irrational. I truly don't want my relationship to end with her, but with all the signs I'm getting, I just don't want to get dragged through the mud for months before something bad happens to me. 

Note-my girlfriend was a lesbian before I met her.  Failed relationships with men and a bad upbringing led her to hate men for a long time and I was the first guy she dated in years.  Doubt this has any relevance but I'm just trying to put all the facts out there.

TL;DR:

Assistant:", I'm worried about my girlfriend because she seems to be putting more time into talking to a new guy friend than to me.<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD],1.7188879
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationships

TITLE: 26[f] who has never had children or married, dating 30 year old man who has divorced and 2 children. Part 2.

POST: [Backstory]:( He has been divorced and has two children. I've never experienced any of those. I also realize that it takes a lot to be part of a broken family.

I don't feel that my emotional needs are being met. I feel like I'm always listening to his problems, but he never hears mine. He also likes to go to strip clubs, a lot, and has all of these women who just randomly give him their numbers, etc. I'm concerned about one friend in particular of his. He says she's just a friend, but he's admitted to me before that she has a crush and she has also text me from his phone pretending to be him before. He never did anything about it and got mad at me for ""over reacting about it"". 

Recently things have changed though. He's been calling every day and showing a lot of improvement. I want to fall for him, but I keep having that nagging feeling in the back of my head. I did tell him that we would give this ""relationship"" one last try and then just let it all go if it didn't work. Since then there hasn't been a lot of fighting and there hasn't been any issues with his ""female friends"".

I want to say I care about him, but I don't think he feels the same way towards me. He has made improvement, but it still just feels strange. I'm not sure where to go from here.

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," I'm 26[f] who has never had children or married, dating 30 year old man who has divorced and 2 children. Part 2.<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD]",2.2510922
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice

TITLE: [28/f] Boyfriend [28/m] has skeletons and baggage from childhood, he's acting out. Break-up or help him?

POST: In short, i'm at a cross-roads. Bf of 2 years has a lot of personal stuff he needs to address. It's not stuff that will be fixed in one session of therapy. It's a lot of stuff. Until recently things have been fine. 

Now I'm finding that these issues are affecting how he acts in his relationship with me and others. Certain things that he has done recently have led to complete distrust, simply because he withholds information until I stumble upon it and bring ""it"" up. I literally have to make a case before he confesses to ""it.""

I dont know what to do. I don't necessarily think that mental health is a reason to break up IF THE PERSON IS WILLING TO PUT IN WORK. I do think a lack of trust is a reason to break up. BUT, when the actions that led to the lack of trust are bc of the mental state of the person I'm lost.

WHAT DO I DO????

TL;DR:

Assistant:", I'm at a cross-roads. Bf of 2 years has a lot of personal stuff he needs to address. It's not stuff that will be fixed in one session of therapy. It's a lot of stuff. Until recently things have been fine.,3.2909818
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationships

TITLE: My BF (34m) had an online dating profile I (30f) didn't know about that was created after we started being exclusive. What do I do?! Help!!!

POST: I (30f)found out my boyfriend (34m) of 4 months opened an online dating profile about two months after we because exclusive.  I was devastated and am freaking out.  He just told me he loves me a week ago and I feel the same.  We get along amazingly.  He is the first man in years I have felt a true honest connection with.  We made conscious mutual decision to be together exclusively and detailed all online accounts etc.  He suggested em make it fb official etc.  He is never super protective Iver his phone.  
He is under a lot of stress with work and an ill parent.  Thins moved pretty quick with us.  He has met all my family etc.  Hr is divorced and has been cheated on but (says)  he has never chested.  

I confronted him and he said he dosent use the account.  He has never really engaged in it but just browsed.  He knew it was wrong and stored but never deleted it.  He also said that he was watching porn and then wants to browse POF because that is what he had done previously.  He told me I'm very caring and amazing and done nothing wrong. He wants to be with me and loves me.  He wants this to work.  He is deeply sorry and didn't want to hurt me.  There also had been a lack of sex in the relationship which he states is due to stress

I'm town.  Ita still a new fresh relationship and I've been told when someone shows you are the first time to believe them. But then again he has been through alot and crests it a couple months ago.  I don't knoe how to feel or what to do or how to handle it.  Please help!!!

TL;DR:

Assistant:", BF (34m) had an online dating profile I (30f) didn't know about that was created after we started being exclusive. What do I do?!<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD],3.7285762
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit

TITLE: I have begun treatment for adult ADD. I feel I have climbed out of Plato's cave. Now that my brain functions at its full capacity, I hunger for knowledge. Help me nourish my ambitions!

POST: A little background information:
My condition was overlooked until now (19) due to a combination of what I assume was my intelligence compensating for the deficit and an aversion to the idea of ADD/ADHD by a great part of my family.

I first became interested in ADD while talking to a friend about her condition and, upon further research, diagnosed myself; however, that is another story.

This thread isn't about ADD and I don't want ADD to be discussed on it.  My question stems from a new found ambitious drive and the fact that, while medicated, I am able to better access and apply my mind.  A lot of my current inspiration comes from the idea of a renaissance man, Edmond Dantes, and The Most Interesting Man in the World.

All being said, I humbly ask my fellow Redditors to answer a few questions:
(feel free to answer as many or as few as you please)

What do you wish you would have done  (to invest in yourself) when you were 18-22?

Name your top 3 books/philosophers/inspirational materials of all time.

Convince me why I should learn a specific language as opposed to any other.

Ladies of Reddit, what sort of learned habits/characteristics/hobbies/skills do  you find attractive in a Man?

What is a skill/subject I should dedicate some time to grow/learn about that will benefit me down the road?

What ideas/motifs should I attempt to avoid throughout my human experience?

Any other piece of information you would like to give me.

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," I have begun treatment for adult ADD. I feel I have climbed out of Plato's cave. Now that my brain functions at its full capacity, I hunger for knowledge. Help me nourish my ambitions!<|endoftext|>[PAD]",7.1016617
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationships

TITLE: Me (22f) and boyfriend (21m) of 7 years moving in together for the first time across country

POST: My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years this November. We've been together since we were 14 and 15 and have never broken up. I would have liked to live together already at this point, but his parents have a rule that we cannot get engaged, married, or live together while he's in college. 

He's just about to start his senior year of college and he's already got job interviews lined up for the west coast. He would like to work on the East or West coast while I'm hoping for West. We currently live in the Midwest (USA) but in separate houses. We're both concerned that because we've never lived together a move across the country to live together might break our relationship. I suggested that we do couples counseling. I have been in therapy personally for my own issues for about a year and have found it very helpful. We've had big fights in the past where I've brought up couples counseling, but he doesn't want to go because he feels uncomfortable with it and thinks we can fix our problems ourselves. 

I think it would be beneficial to do preventative couples counseling for this school year before we make the big move. He seems slightly more open to it than he has before because he's concerned as well and feels unprepared for the future. We have been through so much together and we're on the same page about big things like religion and children. We have a very solid foundation and there is so much love between us. We just want to be as prepared as possible so that our relationship flourishes when we move in together for the first time. 

My question is has anybody gone through something similar and what would you recommend for us to be successful? Do you think couples counseling is a good idea for us? Please share your experiences and any advice you have! Thank you very much.

TL;DR:

Assistant:", I'm going to be moving across country to live with my boyfriend for the first time. I'm worried that because we've never lived together before that we might break up.<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD],1.7188648
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice

TITLE: [24/m] I am that controlling boyfriend.

POST: Actually, I was that controlling boyfriend. I noticed it, but thought that it was just a little phase I was going through because of stress at work, past relationship experience, blah blah blah; but really, it doesn't seem like that was it at all.

It was pretty bad. I'd make mountains out of molehills, volcanoes out of mountains, and could find any reason in my head to think that she was deceiving me. Part of my personality is very analytic and I have a good memory, which didn't help at all. She would tell me about her day or a story from her past, and if something didn't add up I would prod and say things like, ""yeah, but you also said..."" or ""but wait, didn't you do...""

It was bad, all bad.

The worst part is that in my head, I was sure that I was really in love with her and wanted her to have freedom. But in the back of my head, I was worried that deception is everywhere and its never that easy. I would get so sure of myself, becoming condescending while I told her what she was *really* thinking or did. Then, she'd finally get the straight story through to me and I'd start bawling and apologizing. I swore up and down that it wouldn't happen again, but it always would. 

Well, the day after I called about enrolling in therapy, she dumped me. I deserved it 100% and I'm not here to ask how to get her back, because, frankly, it will never happen. But, I'm wondering what experience and insight I can find here to help me overcome this problem. I would like a healthy relationship in the future, but I am completely incapable of having one, as I am now.

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," I am that controlling boyfriend.

Bf: I am that controlling boyfriend.

TL;DR: I am that controlling boyfriend. I am incapable of having a healthy relationship.<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD]",1.9396814
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/Pets

TITLE: Pet lovers, how do you keep your home clean?

POST: Everyone has their favorite tricks/tips to keeping a clean house, so I'm curious...and in the market for a new vacuum and/or steam mop. 

We have three adult cats and one Italian Greyhound puppy and live in a mostly hard-wood apartment [two carpeted rooms and two large area rugs]. The cats are short hair but shed like crazy [black, white and grey!] and IGs don't really shed at all, but track in a decent amount of dirt from the yard. Getting sick of sweeping, swiffering and then pushing around dirt with a mop. It'd be nice to have a vacuum that picks up dirt and hair effectively on hardwood and carpet and I'm strongly considering investing in a steam mop.

So what do you do? What do you recommend?

TL;DR:

Assistant:", I'm looking for a vacuum and/or steam mop that picks up dirt effectively and doesn't leave a mess.<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD],1.4436115
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationships

TITLE: How do I end a friendship even though they haven't done anything wrong?

POST: I am in a situation that I have dreaded, and since I can't sleep, I figured I would reach out.

I(24F) was friends with a group of guys in college my first two years- it was maybe the social circle I hung out with third most? They all lived in my same dorm community and I was pretty close to one of the guys because of our shared interest in video games. The rest of them I just enjoyed the company of and because they were in close proximity, we naturally would grab meals and hang out in the dorm. I don't think we ever went to any parties or any non campus based activity. I have since lost touch with most of them.

One of them attempted to get in touch a few months ago since we now live in the same city. It seemed like he had just gotten out of a relationship. I told him we could hang out when I wasn't busy with work. He reached out to me again a few weeks ago and I ignored him. I know I probably should have addressed this then. Now he has messaged me saying that he wants to know why the animosity between us and why I'm ignoring him.

He hasn't done anything wrong, I just don't have the desire or social capacity to continue a friendship. I often move from one social circle to the next and will maybe find one person I genuinely want to be life long friends with. I find myself stretched thin just keeping up with that handful of friends. I find most of my time spent with them, my SO and my two sisters, and they make me very happy. Some past friends have figured this out about me, and with others it is a gradual growing apart. I don't know how to handle someone trying to come back into my life uninvited. I also can admit that my concern the first time that he wanted to explore a possible romance opportunity and I was having none of that.

I don't think it makes me a bad person to not continue being friends with this person, but I don't know how to end the friendship without being an asshole. r/relationships, have you ever been in a similar situation? How do I respond to this person?

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," I don't want to be friends with this person, but I don't know how to end the friendship without being an asshole.<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD]",1.74499
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice

TITLE: Me [21/F] with my hookup [24/M] recently few months, Advice Hookup: Go after it or stay put?

POST: I've been friends with this guy that goes to college on the same campus as me for over a year. We would always catch up and hang out between classes, and even have some homework nights that would involve wine and getting our work done. I had always had a crush on him but he is so hard to read that I thought I was completely friend zoned.

It wasn't until one night I came back from the bars early and wanted to keep drinking that I asked if he was down to hang out and drink. I went over and we drank, talked and ended up watching episode after episode of a TV show. No moves were made this entire time. Then as it reached the early hours of the morning I fell asleep during one of the episodes and he woke me up to basically making out with me and hooking up.

After this I didn't know what to do so I just sort of waited for him to say anything and I think we were both in shock so I just got dressed and we swapped a few words and I dipped out. Just recently we hooked up again after he came to a kickback I threw and we went back to his apartment with friends to play some drinking games and then I went back to my place only to get an invite to come back down. After this hookup he's the one that left me and told me was only leaving bc he had to be up in 3 hours. But we never kiss or anything after its just put on clothes and awkwardly showing each other out the door.

His friends have been pushing me to go after him and saying that he's lazy in the fact that he can want something but never really goes out of his way to get things. He also has told his friends in front of me that you cant just be friends with girls and also be attracted to them and plan to hookup because it doesn't work that way. So should I try to go after it or just keep it how it is now? My friends tell me I'm the Ice Queen and I don't show enough interest.

TL;DR:

Assistant:", Hookup with guy that I've been friends with for a year. He's a college student and I'm a 21 year old. I'm not sure if I should go after him or just stay put.<|endoftext|>,0.09467822
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationships

TITLE: Me [25F] with my friend [27F], she hasn't made an effort to hang out with me for about two months despite being friends for about 17 years. What should I do?

POST: I should preface this by saying that she lives about 5 minutes away from me, we've known each other for 17 years, but I don't know if she is choosing to drift away or is just naturally busy.

She hasn't made the effort to hang out with me for two months and had been declining hanging out with me to the point where we would only hang out on weeknight rather than the weekend.

She has a mom that has quite a few mental-health related 'issues' but I think the majority of her time has basically been spent with her boyfriend.

I feel like she's ditching me which is fine, but I don't know what I should say if she tries to reach out.  She has also stopped texting me and only sent me one text in the course of a month and a half...Should I end the friendship if she reaches out again?

TL;DR:

Assistant:", Friend of 17 years has been ignoring me for 2 months and has stopped texting me. Should I end the friendship?<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD],3.3425796
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit

TITLE: Want to tell me the story of your life?

POST: Hey!
First off, sorry for my bad english, it's not my native language.

I don't know if there is any kind of specific reddit for this, so please tell me if there is a better place to post.

I'm in college studing arts in Barcelona, and i'm doing an antropology work where i have to search someone to tell me the story of his life. I thought that doing this in the street could be quite troublesome, since people might not want to tell face to face some parts of their life, so i thought that reddit could help me, becouse of the anonymity of internet.

I'm not searching for an incredible and full of awesomeness fake story, i just want some real human, kinda detailed (around 2 - 3 pages), story. I know u might be just lazy, so don't even care about ortography or structure of the text; I'll have to translate it into spanish or catalan. I just want to ask for sincerity.

Needless to say, you will be appearing as anonymous.

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," I want to tell you the story of my life, but I don't know if I can do it in the street.<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD]",1.4516978
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationships

TITLE: Me[18F] with my partner [18M] together 1 year, thinking of moving in together

POST: We've been considering moving in together. We've really been growing in to our relationship, and despise our age have matured into it. I've had a lot of struggles through the year - including my father's death. He has not left me, or avoided me, but he supported me through it all.

We're both studying a bachelor at university (first year) - he has a decent paying job (about $400 a week), and I've been getting temporary jobs here and there (Currently working 2, and earning $500 week). If we register our relationship officially and move in together, we will both be eligible for about $400-500 of government assistance each. 

We are both ready for the challenge, and one way or another I am moving out of home. We won't be moving out until December-January, earliest. I will hopefully have a more permanent job, consistent.

I'm seeing a lot of positives to moving in together, it may help develop our relationship further and build a life. We're certainly not ready for kids or marriage or anything. Just moving in together, into a small house/flat for rent (which is pretty cheap in our town, I've looked into it).

So, money aside - I'm really focused on the good points, and I'm hoping I'm not overlooking a crucial point. Is there some dead obvious reason not to move in together? Or any good advice on handle the situation, assuming it does go through? Or good advice for figuring it out.

I want to move in with him. I want to cook with with him, and fall asleep beside him every night. I want to drag myself home after work, and have a cup of tea with him. I want to have those moments where one of us get grumpy because our assignment is due and it's not finished until 11.34pm... and the other stays up late enough to read it through that one last time before it's submitted. I want us to sort out our problems, make decisions together, and know we're in this for each other.

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," I want to move in with my partner.

Student: I want to move in with my partner.

Student: I want to move in with my partner.

Student: I want to move in with my partner.

Student:",-1.498903
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit

TITLE: Dear Reddit, What silly/irrelevant/rediculous family miscommunications have lead to feuds lasting years?

POST: My Grandma and my aunt (her daugher-in-aw) haven't spoken to each other in years over a phone that didn't get hung up.  My aunt and uncle screen their calls and frequently do not return them-- one time, my grandma called and left a message then thought she hung up the phone.  A few minutes later-- my Grandma was talking with someone in her home and used the word ""bitch""-- this was all recorded on my aunt and uncle's answering machine and my aunt assumed it was about her and hasn't spoken to nor seen my Grandma in upwards of 5 years.  My Grandma wants to reconcile and clear the air, but my aunt won't go near her, won't let her husband (G-ma's son) and kids go there, and avoids family events.  My Grandma is almost 85-- and I think this is rediculous.  Why waste time the time you have with somone?  Why continue to hold a silly grudge?  To complicate matters further, my grandma has a daughter who lives with her and likes to be in other peoples business-- I think she is also part of the problem here as she won't drop it either.  Grandma is innocent but has a daughter and daughter-in-law who won't grow up and drop it.

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," Grandma and Aunt have been talking on the phone for years.  Grandma wants to reconcile and clear the air, but Aunt won't go near her, won't let her husband and kids go there, and avoids family events.  My grandma is",1.5211179
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit

TITLE: Reddit, help me name a student-funded scholarship

POST: Hi reddit.  I am writing a proposal for a student-funded fellowship program for mba students at UC Davis.  Here's the deal:
Each summer, MBA students do internships.  Students interested in finance go off and work for investment banks, students interested in marketing go for advertising or market research positions with retailers or biotech/pharmaceutical companies, and students interested in energy business go for spots with utilities.   As you may guess, those internships can pay quite well.  At the same time, there are a few students who are pursue nonprofit, government, or other organizations driven by a social or environmental mission.  Those internships often don't pay at all.

So, what many schools do, is implement a student-funded fellowship program where each student that has a paid internship pledges one (or more) days salary to support the costs of those who take unpaid ones.  The idea is that the few students who commit to supporting the social and environmental bottom lines are supported by the many who are earning well on the economic bottom lines.  Kind of balancing out the 3-legged stool.

OK so this is where you all come in.  I have the proposal all written but I need a name for the fellowship.  Most everything I have come up with is a mouthful or otherwise off-target.  Here are some examples:
Nonprofit Fellowship Fund (name of the narrower program I am proposing to replace),

Social and Environmental Enterprise Fellowship,

Triple Bottom Line Fund,

Socially Responsible Internship Fund.

See, none of these are particularly inspired. Help me.

TL;DR:

Assistant:", I need a name for a student-funded scholarship program.  I have a proposal for a fellowship program that will support the social and environmental bottom lines of students who take unpaid internships.  Help me name it.<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD],6.7909594
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationships

TITLE: Not sure how I (24/m) feel about girl (22/f) that I've been dating for a month

POST: So I've been dating this girl for a month and on paper we are perfect for each other. On the outside, we have a lot in common in that we like the same kind of music, same food, same movies etc, but also on the inside we are the same in that, we are both quite independent, we both are ambitious, both have the same cultural values, but most importantly we approach life the same. I have met a lot of people in my life (due to my job and how my social life is) and I genuinely have very rarely met anyone who has the same approach to life as me but who I also want to pursue a relationship with.

However I have stumbled across a problem... Normally when I like a girl, I normally fall quite fast, quite hard for them. However, with this girl, only half the time do I feel infatuated for her, while the other half I'm not very bothered. E.g. Normally when a girl doesn't text me back for a couple of hours, I get quite concerned, but with her, I don't really pay attention. I'm quite confused as to why I'm not feeling fully infatuated with her - Is it because I either:

a) Am not really that interested in her. 

b) Realise that this relationship is doomed because she is moving back to her home country at the end of next year. 

c) Am still numb from the pain that my ex-girlfriend inflicted on me when she cheated on me a year ago.

d) Am growing up/have a job and therefore the feeling of infatuation has reduced, but I'm also too busy with work to care.

e) All of the above

TL;DR:

Assistant:", I'm not sure how I feel about this girl. I'm not sure if I'm just not that interested in her.<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD],-0.032096207
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/tifu

TITLE: TIFU by not wearing a helmet on a bike

POST: I didn't hurt my head but I got injured in another way. So I rode a bike today, something I rarely do. I grabbed a helmet and put it on the handlebars of the bike. After riding for maybe a quarter mile the strap of the helmet which was hanging down near the wheel got caught in the front wheel. The bike immediately stopped moving and I flew over the handlebars. I landed (hard) on my knees, left arm, and hip. I have no idea how I didn't hit my head, but if I did this may have been a much more serious ordeal.

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," I didn't hurt my head but I got injured in another way.

I didn't hit my head but I got injured in another way.<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD]",-0.23587023
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationships

TITLE: I[F21] showed my boyfriend [M21] some vacation photos I had taken with my black boyfriend few years back. He got mad and is ice cold towards me right now.

POST: I was showing my boyfriend photos from Greece when I was there a few years ago. he is a big history buff so we cuddled in bed and looked through the photos. I was there with my black boyfriend so he was of course in a lot of those photos. my new boyfriend asked who he was and when I said it was my ex-boyfriend he replied with a pained ""oh ok"" so we stopped looking at photos and watched some netflix instead.

he got really quiet and didnt want to cuddle anymore, he just sat and read a book. after a few hours i just had to ask
him what was up with his reaction to the photos with my boyfriend?

He said something like ""why would you even date me? if you like black guys so much why don't you date black guys? what's the point of being with me? im not your type"" 

I didn't even know I had a type. I just thought he was cute and nice so we dated. He didn't like my answer, got upset, we fought and he left.

I don't really understand his reaction, it was actually very shocking. He has never come off as racist in the year I have known him, more like the opposite. He is a really sweet and fun guy and this was very out of character for him.
that was a week ago now and he didnt text me once. nothing. at first i expected an apology but got nothing so i started texting him and he is really distant and cold in his responses. i ask him what I did wrong and he doesnt answer me and avoids the subject. 

i ask him if he wants to break up and he said no and then stopped responding. what the hell is up with him?

TL;DR:

Assistant:", I showed my boyfriend some vacation photos from Greece. He got mad and is ice cold towards me right now.<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD],0.9564614
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationships

TITLE: Me [21 M] seeing [Late 30's M], is it weird?

POST: So basically I've been hanging out with this guy who is in his late 30's. Almost a 20 year age difference. He looks great and seems like an okay guy but I feel like if I was in his situation I wouldn't even look at someone as young as me. It makes me think that he's strange to want to even talk with someone who is in a completely different stage of their life and are naive about a lot of aspects of life that he's experienced. He's come on pretty strong and I can make this into something if I want to. So what do y'all think, does he have issues? Using me for sex? Or can someone who is older and has dated with that much of an age gap explain why he would date that much younger

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," Late 30's M, looking for advice on dating a 20 year old.

Me: 21 M, looking for advice on dating a 20 year old.

TL;DR:

Assistant: Late 30's M, looking for advice on",0.8070763
"User: SUBREDDIT: r/relationships

TITLE: Me [18 M] with my college friend [19 F] about 1 month, I wanna hang out with her but I don't have a car.

POST: This is the link for an earlier thread I posted about her 

She basically doesn't have any friends and will spend all her spring break at home playing video games. I wanna hang out with her, but both of us don't have a car. I live with my grandma 10 minutes away from her house. Would it be weird to ask her to spend a day with us playing video games and eating pizza?

 Another thing I could do is ask her to go see a movie with me, but I would just meet her there since I'll be going with a bike. Do you guys think it's okay to do that? I also have 0 experience with girls. You can say this is the first girl in my life.

TL;DR:

Assistant:"," I wanna hang out with my college friend, but I don't have a car.

Me: I wanna hang out with her, but I don't have a car.<|endoftext|>[PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD][PAD]",0.7946087