.The
patientssufferaterribletortureofnotbeingcomfort-
ableinanyposition;theyarerestless,andneedtobe
constantlyonthemove.Theirpainscausethemtoget
upatnight,preventingsleep.Lyingonahardfloor
mayhelp.
LikeArnica,itisalsoaremedyforthesortofphysical
strainthatcancomeonafteraperiodof'overdoing it',
(forexample,gardeningorspringcleaning).How-
ever,withRhustoxthestiffness,achesandpains
actuallyimproveafterabitofgentleexercisewhereas
Arnicatypesstaysoreandbruisedinspiteofany
movingabout(thoughofcoursewithRhustoxthereis
thecharacteristicaggravationonbeginningtomove,
whichthenwearsoff).
Theyhaveafearofflying,mainlybecauseofhaving
tokeepstillforsolongwithoutfreshair.
EMOTIONAL/MENTAL SYMPTOMS
Anxious:indoors;inbed.Confused.Depressed.
Irritable.Restlessinbed.Tearful.
Thisisoneofthemostrestlessremedies;thesepeople
cannotgetcomfortableinanypositionandarethere-
foreconstantlyonthemove.Therestlessness is
causedbyphysicalpain,butitisalsoanervous
restlessness,whichwilldriveapersonoutofbedat
night.Itcanbeseenduringanacuteillnesswitha
feverwhereapersonjustcannotkeepstillbuttosses
andturnsandhastogetup.Theanxietyisworsein
bedatnightbecauseofhavingtobestillthen,espec-
iallyaftermidnightwhenthemindwilldwellon
unpleasantpastevents.
Theyfeelworseinotherwaysatnight,beingirri-
tableandfearfulthen,andtheymayactuallyfeelabit
betterforawalkinthefreshair.
Thepatientsmaysufferfromdepression,which,
thoughnotverydeep,maybeconstant,andtheymay
suddenlyandinvoluntarilyburstintotearswithout
knowingwhy,andtheywillusuallysayso.
PHYSICALCOMPLAINTS
Backache
SymptomsPains:inlowerback;insmallofback;
inneck;aching;sore,bruised;rheumatic.With
STIFFNESS.Betterforlyingonahardsurface;formovement;for
walking;forheat.
Worseonbeginningtomove;ongettingupfrom
sitting;forreachingup;forwetweather.
Causesdampweather;draughts;injury;lifting;
sprains.
Thebackfeelsweak,lameandtired,andthepains
compelaconstantmovingaboutinbed.Gettingup
aftersittingdownforalongtimeisextremelydifficult.
Thepainmayresultfromsittinginadraughtorfrom
lifting,orfromasprain,oritmayberheumaticky
painindamp,wetweather,butthereisalwaysim-
provementfromwarmth,andanaggravationonfirst
movement.
Chickenpox
SymptomsSkinrashitchesseverely.
Therewillbegreatrestlessnesswiththeitching,and
alsothecharacteristicRhustoxred-tippedtongue.
Coldsores
SymptomsSoresonlips.
Cough
SymptomsCough:irritating;short;tickling.
Betterforhotdrinks.
Worseforgettingcold;forbeinguncovered;onsingle
partsofthebody;foruncoveringhands.
Causesswimmingincoldwater.
Thiscoughisaggravated ifanysinglepartofthebody
isuncoveredandconsequentlybecomescold.
Diarrhoea
SymptomsStools:mushy;watery.
Causesgettingwet;gettingfeetwet.
Exhaustion
SymptomsExhaustionnervous.Withheaviness;
RESTLESSNESS.
Betterforwalkinginthefreshair.
Worseforslightestexertion;forsittingdown.
Theexhaustion issostrongthattheslightestexertion,
includinggettingupandwalkingabout,isaneffort.
However,agentlewalkoutinthefreshairwillactu-
allyhelp.Itwillbeaccompaniedbythecharacteristic
Rhustoxrestlessness.
Eyeinflammation
SymptomsEyes:sensitivetolight;sore;watering.
Eyelids:gluedtogether;itching;swollen.
Worseformovingeyes.
Causescold,wetweather.
Theeyelidsarestucktogetherinthemornings.
INTERNALMATERIAMEDICA Rhustoxicodendron (Rhus-t.) •143
Fever
SymptomsHeat:alternatingwithchills;dry;burning.
Betterforhotdrinks.
Worseatnighrvevening/mid morning;formovement;
colddrinks;forbeinguncovered.
Thepatientsweatsfromtheslightestexertion,aswell
aswhenlyinginbedandwhenasleep,andwillsweat
overthewholebodyexceptforthehead.Willalso
urinatefrequentlywhilesweating.Hemaygetchilled
afterbeinghotandsweaty;anymovementalsobrings
onchillinessasdoesuncoveringwheninbed.Warmth
willhelpthechilliness.Thefevermaybeone-sided
(thatis,onesidemaybehotwhiletheothersideis
cold).Itmayfeelasthoughthereishotwaterrunning
throughthebloodvessels.
Flu
SymptomsPains;inbones;injoints;inlegs;aching;
snooting;sore,bruised.Withexhaustion(seeabove);
fever(seeabove);sneezing.
Headache
SymptomsPains:inbackofhead;rheumatic;violent.
Betterforgentlewalking;forwrappinguphead;for
movement.
Causeschangeofweather;coldair/wind;damp
weather;gettingwet;lifting.
Hives
SymptomsRash:burning;itching;stinging.With
jointpain(seebelow).
Worseforcold;afterscratching.
Causesgettingwet/chilled;coldair;duringafever.
Hoarseness
Causesover-usingvoice.
Insomnia
SymptomsSleep:restless;sleeplessaftermidnight.
Thepersonhasvivid,work-relateddreams,causedby
strainfromworkingtoohard.
Jointpain
SymptomsPains:aching,sore,bruised;shooting;
tearing.Withheaviness;lameness.Stiffness.
Betterforcontinuedmovement;forexternalheat;for
walking;forwarmcompresses;forwarmthofbed.
Worsefordampweather;duringafever;onbeginning
tomove;atnight;forsitting;whenchilled.
Thepainsareworseforrestandonbeginningtomove;
theyimprovetemporarilybutthepatientsoongets
tiredagain(seeGeneralSymptoms).Thepainscan
alsobebroughtaboutbyover-exertion, forexample
springcleaningorgardening.Mumps
SymptomsGlandsswollen/painful.Withfever(see
above).
Bettertorheat.
Worseforcold;onleftsideofbody.
Thisisoneofthemostimportantmumpsremedies,
providingthecharacteristicgeneralsymptomsagree.The
typicalglandsareaffectedanditisoftentheleftside
thatbecomesswollenfirst.
Sciatica
Betterformovement;forwalking;forheat.
Worseforcold;forcoldcompresses;onbeginningto
move;forlyingonpainfulpart;forwashingincold
water;forwetweather.
Sorethroat
SymptomsThroatdry.Ticklinginlarynx.Voice
hoarse.
Worseforcolddrinks;forswallowing;foruncovering
throat.
Causesstrainingvoice.
Thevoiceishoarse,orstrained,fromtoomuchtalking
orsingingbutitimprovesaftercontinueduse(asdo
Rhustoxjoints!).
Sprains
SymptomsPain.Withstiffness;trembling.
Causesfalling;lifting;twisting.
ItisimportanttouseArnicafirstafteraninjuryora
spraininordertodealwithanybruisingandpossible
swelling.ThengiveRhustoxifthesprainisaccom-
paniedbythetypicalgeneralsymptoms.Asprained
wristwillbeaccompaniedbyaninabilitytogripany-
thingproperlyandstrongly.
Stiffneck
Causesdraughts;gettingchilled;lifting.
Strains
SymptomsWithstiffness;trembling.
Betterforcontinuedmovement.
Worseforbeginningtomove.
Gardeningorspringcleaningcancausethisstiffness
inthejoints.Itisworsewhengettingupafterarest,
andbetterforgentleexercise(whereasArnicastiffness
andsorenessstaysinspiteofgentleexercise).
Toothache
Betterforheat;forwarmcompresses.
Worseforcolddrinks;inwinter.
Causescold,dampweather.
144•Rumexcrispus(Rumex) INTERNALMATERIAMEDICA
Thistoothache isonethatalwayscomesonafter
gettingcoldandchilled;itissensitivetocoldand
betterforheat,forexamplelyingonahotwaterbottle


 and amino acids.
The human body requires numerous amino acids, and these are divided
into two groups. First, are the essential amino acids, of which there are
eleven. These are said to be mandatory for proper growth and repair.
(Personally I do not agree with this conclusion as I have seen people with
extreme cases of neurological weakness, repair and rebuild themselves solely
on fruits.) Secondly, there are many nonessential amino acids the body also
uses. The list at the right will show you both groups.Protein structures also include carbon, hydrogen, oxygen, phosphorus,
sulfur and iron. As you can see, then, the word “protein” is actually an
arbitrary word giving a “structure” to building materials. Protein is actually an
arbitrary word that is assigned to any building material that the body needs.
However, its factual definition is that of a completed structure, like tissue
itself.
Amino Acids
E
SSENTIAL
 A
MINO
 A
CIDS (PROVIDED BY FOOD)
Cysteine
Histidine
Isoleucine
Leucine
Lysine
Methionine
Phenylalanine
Threonine
Tryptophan
Tyrosine
Valine
N
ON-ESSENTIAL
 A
MINO
 A
CIDS (PROVIDED BY THE BODY)
Alanine
Arginine
Aspartic acid
Citrulline
Glutamic acid
Glycine
Hydroxproline
Hydroxyglutamic acid
NorleucineProline
Serine

CAN WE USE THE PROTEIN?

Digestion is necessary because the body can only use simple amino acids—
the kinds that are found abundantly in vegetables and nuts. The liver can also
produce its own amino acids and can synthesize even smaller nitrogen-
containing compounds. The proteins found in meat must be broken down
(hydrolyzed) into simple amino acids before the body can truly use them. I
call meat “second-hand protein” because of the extensive digestion process
needed to break down the “building” into simple “building blocks” or amino
acids. Fruits, vegetables and nuts are much simpler for the body to break
down, as these are basic amino-acid structures. It has been proven that a
vegetable diet supplies more available nitrogen than a meat diet.
It is important to understand that nutrients act differently in an anionic
(acid) environment versus a cationic (alkaline) environment. Amino acids
become free agents for growth, maintenance and repair in an alkaline or
cationic environment. In an anionic (acidic) environment they tend to bind
with minerals, metals and fats, causing further toxic conditions in the body.
This creates a loss of available amino acids, starving your body for building
materials. You can eat all the proteins you want; however, your body cannot
rebuild itself properly without proper bio-availability of amino acids.
“Bulk” type muscles, put on by high protein diets, will be lost during
detoxification, as these are “stacked” amino acids not necessary to normal
body functions. When protein breaks down, it creates sulfuric and
phosphoric acids, which are highly toxic and damaging to tissue. It burns up
our electrolytes to convert these acids into salts (ionization), thus neutralizing
their damaging effects. Carbohydrates and fats create lactic and acetic acids,
which require the same process, but are not as damaging. This is why we
must replenish our electrolytes daily. The ionization and alkalization process
is vital if you wish to save your kidneys, liver and other tissues in your body.
Those who deplete their electrolytes without replenishing them fall into heavy
aci-dosis, which can cause convulsions, coma and death. Cancer and other
highly acidic conditions of the body use sodium and other alkalizingelectrolytes at a very fast pace. This is just another reason to consume as
many raw alkaline fruits and vegetables as possible.
Foreign proteins from meats, dairy products, grains, eggs, and the like,
are abrasive to the mucosa of the body. This causes a lymphatic (mucous)
response that can cause excessive mucus to build up within the tissues and
cavities of the body. This mucus build-up, with the trapped proteins, fills
interstitial areas as well as lymph nodes, sinus cavities, brain, lungs, etc.
Pimples, boils and tumors are expressions of this congestion or toxic build-
up. Some of the final digestive stages of protein-matter result in the
production of uric acid. Uric acid is abrasive and irritating, which inflames
and damages tissues. Uric acid deposits can create arthritis in the joints and
muscle tissue. Uric acid causes gout. The more flesh protein you put into
your body the more you work your immune system, and the more you invite
the parasitic “kingdom” to grow inside of you. Many parasites (including
many viruses, bacteria, and some “big boys” such as worms and flukes) feed
on wastes from flesh-protein digestion.
Eating meat causes body odor from the rotting (putrefying) flesh within
us. Meat can become impacted on the intestinal walls causing our mucosa and
intestinal lining to decay along with the meat. It is important to note that
putrefaction changes proteins into toxic chemical by-products. Fruits and
vegetables, on the other hand, do not cause body odor.
Proteins are acid-forming, which can create inflammation and can cause
tissue breakdown —the opposite reason to why we are supposed to eat them.
I’m not saying to avoid proteins— just to be warned about quantities and
certain types. Diets rich in nuts, vegetables and fruits
yield a very strong and
healthy body, supplying plenty of amino acids.
The body cannot use “flesh-type proteins” (grouped amino acids) until it
breaks them down into simple amino acids first. This process starts in the
stomach where gastric juices of HCL (hydrochloric acid) convert pepsinogen
into pepsin. Pepsin starts to break down these protein structures into
peptones/polypeptides. This is an acidic process. After the stomach moves
this “pre-digested” process into the duodenum (small bowel), the proteolytic
enzymes in the pancreas (which are alkaline) start changing the polypeptides
into peptides. Finally, as these peptides are moving along the small intestines,
your intestinal wall secretes enzymes (peptidase), which finally convert these
peptides/peptones into amino acids. This extensive process robs the body of
vital energy, only to achieve “secondhand” building materials.Plant proteins are simple structures of amino acids which are
considerably less energy-robbing. Plants, being full of electromagnetic
energy, counter-balance this energy need. Meat protein, on the other hand, is
much more structured and electrically dead. This requires a much more
radical digestive process, which robs the body of vital energy. Because of the
high acidic content, too much meat protein has also been linked to colon
cancer, the second largest type of cancer in America today. Thousands of
people die each year from the accumulated effects of eating high protein
diets. The liver, pancreas, kidneys and intestines are destroyed when protein
consumption is too high. Twenty to forty grams of protein a day is plenty,
but most people eat 150-200 grams a day.
THE ENERGY OF MEAT

It has been said that meat gives you energy. Since this energy is mostly from
the adrenaline found in its tissues, this is only a stimulated energy, not a
dynamic energy. If you’ve ever visited a slaughterhouse you will see and
sense the fear that these poor creatures experience just before they are killed.
Physiologically, this fear pumps the medulla of their adrenal glands,
producing epinephrine or what’s commonly called “adrenaline.” Epinephrine
is a neurotransmitter, stimulating energy through the nervous system into the
tissues of the body. This is mostly what gives protein-eaters a heightened
sense of energy. However, after years of eating meat full of adrenaline, your
adrenal glands become weakened and lazy at producing their own
neurotransmitters. This begins to lower your blood pressure. (A systolic
blood pressure of less than 118 is low.) As we begin to pass our adrenal
weaknesses down genetically, future generations may see multiple sclerosis,
Parkinson’s, Addison’s Disease, and other neurological weaknesses develop
from a chronic lack of neurotransmitters.
High blood pressure can also be a result of adrenal gland weakness.
When the adrenal glands become weak, we also begin to fail at producing
adequate steroids (our anti-inflam-matories), because meat is highly acid-
forming (which creates inflammation). The body will use cholesterol in place
of steroids where this inflammation is present. This becomes a serious
problem because lipids, in the presence of aci-dosis, stick together and plaque
themselves “in” and “onto” tissues.
Energy from eating meat can also come from growth hormones fed to thecattle (or other animals) for rapid growth. Energy should be dynamic or
cellular, not created by stimulants. Dynamic energy comes from raw-food
eating where alkalization, proper electrolytes, electricity, amino acids, proper
synergistic compounds and complexes (vitamins, minerals, flavons, etc.) are
found.
A


 well  as Divinely!
Will  you  all—every  one  of you—do  Me the kindness,  be-
fore the opening  of the Class,  to read  the last  chapter  of
the Magic  Presence?  Will  you  do Me this  kindness,  and
as you  start  to read  on thru  that  chapter,  will  you  be kind
enough  to feel  yourself  in the place  of this  Good  Brother,
during  His  Experience?  It was  Real,  I assure  you!  Then,
allow  Me to do that  which  I wish  to do for you.  Oh,  Pre-
cious  Ones,  please  understand,  We  do not care  about  the
puny  human  mistakes,  which  human  beings  have  made.
All We want  is their  earnestness  in their  attention  to their
"Mighty  I AM  Presence,"  which  will  enable  Us to do for
them  what  they  cannot  do themselves;  and  which  We can-
not do for them  unless,  they  will  give  their  Earnest  Atten-
tion to the Presence!
Do you  not see,  how  thru  the centuries,  We  were  lim-
ited;  because  human  Beings  did not know  their  Presence?
Without  their  attention  to the Presence,  We  were  not per-48 THE  "I AM"  DISCOURSES
mitted—because  the Law  would  not permit  Us—to  release
This  Help.  Now  the  Great  Cosmic  Light  does!  Oh,  the
Glory  for mankind!  There  was  no Release  of the Light  into
the Earth,  except  at long  intervals.  I mean  there  were  no
Great  Cosmic  Impulses  of That  Light  to help  mankind.
Now  since  Beloved  Saint  Germain  has brought  This  Activ-
ity forth,  It comes  with  Dynamic  Power  twice  a year!  This
time,  on the 7th of April,  there  was  a Sufficient  Activity
of the Cosmic  Law  for the Light  to release;  because  of the
need  and  Blessing  of mankind  today!  This  will  come  again
in July.  On the seventh  of July  there  will  come  a still Might-
ier Flow  and  Impulse  of That  Great  Cosmic  Light  into  the
Earth!
I think  most  of you  have  read  Washington's  Vision,  if
not, you  will  perhaps  in the near  future.  I say to you,  the
last episode  in His  Vision  which  was  a Mighty  Reality,  is
what  We  are trying  to prevent  acting  in America  today.
Only  by enough  Calls  from  the sincere  students  of the "I
AM"  in America,  can it be prevented.  When  Beloved  Saint
Germain  was  talking  last Sunday  morning  at this  Precious
One's  Group,  We allowed  this  Good  Brother  to see the Ac-
tivity  of the Cosmic  Light  which  took  place!  In the third
episode  of Washington's  Vision,  you  will  notice  the Great
Being  states,  as the expression  was  used  by the narrator:
"that  a dark  angel  in the center  of the Atlantic,"  was  the
one who  seemed  to be the instigator  of that  activity,  which
took  place  in what  followed!  IN THE  PLACE  OR  PO-
SITION  OF  THAT  BEING,  A PILLAR  OF  LIGHT DISCOURSE  VIII  49
WAS  PLACED  LAST  SUNDAY  MORNING  IN THE
CENTER  OF  THE  ATLANTIC,  WHICH  WILL
REMAIN  AND  DO  ITS  PERFECT  WORK!
We mention  fragments  of These  Great  Activities  for your
Encouragement,  Strength  and  Blessing.  If enough  of the
"I AM"  Students—I  do not necessarily  mean  in numbers—
but if enough  Earnestness  is released  by These  Mighty  De-
crees  from  mankind,  then  a great  part  of this  destructive
activity,  which  would  otherwise  take  place  and  sweep  over
America,  may  be forestalled.
Is there  any  one  of the Blessed  Ones  in America  or the
World  today,  who  does  not want  to see that  done ? Then,
do you  not understand,  Dear  Hearts,  what  a tragedy  it is,
when  Individuals  are so unfortunate  as to be vicious  enough,
to try and  oppose  these  Beloved  Messengers;  in the Free-
dom  and  Protection  which  they  alone  have  been  responsible
for bringing  into  America;  to prevent  such  frightful  de-
struction  taking  place  in America ? That  frightful  destruc-
tion is not only  thru  the cataclysmic  activity;  but  it is the
destructive  thing  which  has been  generated  in Europe  for
centuries,  which  would  one  day  try to sweep  the Earth!
These  are Mighty  Truths,  Dear  Hearts.  They  are not to
try and  frighten  any  one;  but  mankind  needs  to know
that in the Call  to the "Mighty  I AM  Presence,"  is the only
Power  which  can  release  enough  energy,  to bring  about
Protection  and  allow  the Great  Law  of your  Life  to act;
to prevent  these  things  which  otherwise  must  be the ex-
perience  of mankind! 50 THE  "I AM"  DISCOURSES
Mankind  has  gone  thru  thousands  of embodiments  in
the experience  Life;  and  the people  have  not  gained  any
Freedom  thru  it. Now  today,  when  the Light  of the World
stands  before  you,  in the Understanding  of your  "Mighty
I AM  Presence,"  and  the calling  of Its Power  into  action;
then  think  what  It means  to you  in These  Wonderful
Groups,  who  are issuing  These  Mighty  Decrees  with  dy-
namic  energy;  to go forth  in the mental  and  feeling  world
of mankind!  The  Mighty  Majestic  Far-reaching  Activity
of Those  Decrees,  is beyond  the fondest  hopes  of any  hu-
man  intellect.
Tonight,  We bring  to your  attention  from  the Great  Cos-
mic Light,  These  Mighty  Truths.  If you  can  accept  This
Truth  and  feel  Its Reality,  then  much  can  be done  during
This  Class.  We  brought  the Messengers  here  at this  time,
to save  your  New  York.  One  day,  not so far hence,  you  will
know  the Truth  of My Words,  which  I have  spoken  to you
tonight.  Will  not  all of you  take  your  stand  for the Pro-
tection  and  Blessing  of this  Coming  Class,  so the Greatest
Possible  Good  may  come  to New  York  out  of it, and  the
Greatest  Harmony  possible?  It is you,  Precious  Ones,  here
who  need  it, not the Messengers;  but  their  Love  has been
great  enough  to face  the frightful  destructive  feeling,  sent
out from  these  vicious  ones  in the world  who  are acting
here.  The  Messengers'  Love  has been  great  enough  to give
the Assistance.
Beloved  Ones,  you  are Fortunate!  Most  Fortunate!  and
one day,  you  will  every  one  of you  tell Me so and  repeat DISCOURSE  VIII  51
back  to Me Those  Words.  Will  you  think  for just  one  mo-
ment  what  It means  to have  become  a Part  of Myself!  Now
remember,  It is not this  physical  form  here  I am speaking
of, It is My Own  Blazing  Form  of Light  of which  "I AM"
speaking;  and  My  Own  Infinite  Intelligence,  by


 me. In a perfect world, everyone would live thisway—and would maintain a balance of their hormones.
I would recommend, for those who for whatever reason
cannot fit precisely into this scheme, a minimum of gettingtheir hormones balanced and utilizing one particular supple-ment, vitamin D.
VITAMIN D —THE ULTIMATE SUPPLEMENT
First off, vitamin D is not a vitamin. It is considered a prohor-
mone—a substance that converts into a hormone. This helpsto explain the multiplicity of its benefits. It is known to helpprevent 26 cancers, including cancer of the breast, colon,prostate, and pancreas. Not only does it help prevent cancer, itactually kills cancer cells. It is kind of ironic when you considerthat doctors continually advise patients to avoid the sun toprevent skin cancers, which for the most part are readilytreatable. Yet for most people the sun is the main source ofvitamin D, a substance that helps prevent many types of72 THE MIRACLE OF BIO-IDENTICAL HORMONES  cancer that are much more dangerous than skin cancers. (By
the way, I do not believe melanomas are always sun-related.)
Among its many benefits, vitamin D acts as an ace-
inhibitor and may lower blood pressure. In addition, it isreported to effectively prevent the flu, help prevent multiplesclerosis, alleviate seasonal affective disorder, and help preventAlzheimer’s disease.
When it comes to bone health, vitamin D is unsurpassed.
In England, where osteoporosis is common because of a lack ofsunshine, this condition is often treated only with high dosagesof vitamin D. Vitamin D aids in the absorption of calciumfrom the diet and the deposition of calcium into bone.
My recommendation for the treatment of osteoporosis is
10,000 I.U./day of vitamin D3. Compare this dosage to theRDA (recommended daily allowance) of 200 I.U., which isonly enough to prevent rickets, with no other benefit. Mostpeople take 400 to 600 I.U., which I feel is very inadequate tohelp with osteoporosis. I recommend 5,000 I.U. of vitaminD3 daily as a preventive dose.
BONE-BUILDING SUPPLEMENTS
Vitamin K is extremely important for treating osteoporosis. It
takes calcium out of blood vessels and puts it into bone—adouble benefit. My recommendation is 10,000 mcg of vitaminK1/K2 daily.
Magnesium, again, is extremely important—much more so
than calcium. I recommend taking around 1,000 mg per day.
Strontium is probably the best mineral for building bone.Other bone-building supplements are boron, whey protein,
proline, silica, lycopene, and glutathione (from N-acetylcysteine and/or alpha lipoic acid), and there are many others.73 OSTEOPOR OSIS—MYTH VERSUS REALITY END THOUGHTS
Every system in the body is controlled by hormones and that
includes the skeletal system. Prevention and treatment ofosteoporosis requires the use of bio-identical hormone therapy.Taking certain supplements enhances the effect of thesehormones, and exercise is the icing on the cake. T ogether theseapproaches may help obviate the need for toxic medications,which may not provide the benefits one is looking for inany case.74 THE MIRACLE OF BIO-IDENTICAL HORMONES  DHEA —KEY TO WELL-BEING
chapter NINE
One hormone I’ve given only passing mention to so far is
dihydroepiandosterone, or DHEA. All of the effects of this veryimportant hormone have not yet been plumbed by medicalscience, but we know enough about it to know it is absolutelyessential for optimal health.
Since the 1980s many research papers have been published
on the multiple healthful functions DHEA performs in thebody. It seems to help prevent heart disease, osteoporosis,prostate cancer in men, and breast cancer in women.
DHEA is produced mainly by the adrenal glands, but also
by the gonads, the brain, and the skin. At one stage of life—during the teenage years—it is the most abundant steroidhormone in the body. DHEA levels decline in a straight line aswe age. This hormone begins to appear in our bodies at age 6,peaks during our 20s, is at the 50 percent level at age 40, andbetween the ages of 60 and 80 declines to between 20 and 10percent of peak levels. This definitive decrease is not seen withother hormones, and because of it, DHEA is considered thebiological marker for aging: those people with the highest levelsseem to have the greatest longevity. In fact, some believe thatmany of the manifestations of aging are caused by deficienciesin DHEA.
75WHAT TO EXPECT
Administration of DHEA is associated with a remarkable
increase in perceived physical and psychological well-being.These benefits are noticed after about four months of therapy.People report increased energy, better sleep, a significantimprovement in sexuality and in mood, along with a betterability to handle stress.
DHEA has been shown to enhance memory and mental
acuity and to decrease depression. Administration of DHEAhelps to boost the immune system, improves chronic fatiguesyndrome, helps to reduce body fat, and helps addressauto-immune diseases such as lupus, ulcerative colitis, andrheumatoid arthritis.
DHEA has its own receptor sites. It raises growth hormone
levels and breaks down into testosterone, which may possibly bethe reason for some of its benefits.
People with high levels of DHEA have lower incidences of
Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s disease. Some consider a low DHEAlevel to be the most significant biological marker for breastcancer in premenopausal women.
When measuring DHEA levels, the proper lab test is the
one that assesses DHEA-S, not DHEA.
In men, estradiol levels should be monitored while taking
DHEA. Ideally, the estradiol level should not be higher than20. If it is higher than this to begin with, I do not prescribeDHEA. If the level goes over 40 while the person is on DHEA,I cut back the dosage or the frequency of administration.
When levels of estrogen or testosterone are problematic,
another approach is to use a different form of DHEA called7-keto DHEA. This formulation does not convert into estrogenor testosterone. It can be obtained over the counter; the dosageis 100 mg per day.76 THE MIRACLE OF BIO-IDENTICAL HORMONES  DHEA AND STRESS
People who live with a lot of stress start to show lowered
DHEA levels after a certain amount of time. Their adrenalglands become exhausted, and since the adrenal glandsproduce the majority of DHEA, their DHEA levels go waydown. Airline pilots, for instance, whose days consist ofmeeting strict schedules despite unpredictable weather,performing numerous take-offs and landings (landings ofteninvolve split-second timing and near misses), and otherstressful situations, often show up in my office with little orno DHEA on their hormone panels.
It’s well known that pilots report unusually high levels of
prostate cancer. Many of them theorize that this might becaused by the radiation they are constantly exposed to, flyingat high altitudes. But it’s my theory that lack of DHEA maycontribute to the problem. Another likely cause is lack ofprogesterone.
Progesterone, like DHEA, diminishes in people who live
under constant stress. The most dramatic example is seen inwomen living in abusive situations. They very often showalmost no DHEA on their hormone panels, and they tend tohave all the signs of estrogen dominance as well. Living inconstant fear depletes both DHEA and progesterone.77 DHEA—KE Y TO WELL-BEING  MENOPAUSE AND
PERIMENOPAUSE
chapter TEN
I purposefully did not put this chapter at the beginning of the
book, even though, for many readers, it will be the most impor-tant. Having read through the preceding chapters, you shouldnow have a feel for the importance of hormones—how necessaryit is for them to be in balance, and the devastating consequencesthat occur when they are out of balance. You should also be awareby now of the tragic lack of knowledge among doctors regardinghow the body operates with regard to hormones. It is no wonder,then, that the way of treating menopause in women (andandropause in men, which I discuss in chapter 12) has remainedbasically unchanged for the last 50 years.
This situation has had more consequence for patients than
the inconvenience of putting up with symptoms; it has literallyput their health at risk for serious diseases and higher deathrates. This is particularly the case in two areas where informa-tion is deficient: how natural hormones can prevent many ofthe diseases of aging, and how the incorrect use of hormonescan cause unnecessary deaths due to cancer, heart disease,and strokes.
79USING BIO-IDENTICAL HORMONES
Perhaps the most commonly known application of hormone
therapy is the treatment of women going through menopause.The term “menopause” means the absence of periods, whetherthe absence occurs naturally or is surgically induced (e.g., due toa hysterectomy).
As women approach the time of menopause, that is, during
perimenopause, there is a drop in levels of the hormonesproduced by the ovaries. This


 the world, and when she brought it home her husband looked
pleased. He had a lot of work to do that night, however, and the amorous
evening she had planned didn’ t pan out. Alan seemed less than involved
when they made love; he fell asleep without saying anything. Jeanne had
promised herself that she would never wheedle the words “I love you” from
Alan, but that night it was hard to keep the promise.
Jeanne began to feel that Alan probably was having an affair, and why
shouldn’ t he? He was hardly aging at all, while she was falling apart. It’s
always faster with a woman, she mourned, and new nightgowns weren’ t
going to reverse  things. Nobody had ever commented to her face about the
age disparity between herself and Alan, but Jeanne had no doubt that their
friends, especially the women, all remarked about it behind her back. She
began to have fantasies about who the other woman was.
The downward spiral would have been swift, but it came to a merciful
halt thanks to second-class mail. A week later an identical bottle of hair dye
arrived in the mailbox. Jeanne went back to the bathroom drawer—the first
bottle also said “free sample” on the back. She now vaguely remembered
having pitched it into the draw er without really looking at what it was.
Jeanne didn’ t know whether to laugh or cry.
As I see it, this incident isn’t really about how attractive a woman feels.
It’s about how deserving she feels. We all attach self-worth  to outside
things. Status, money, a big house, all become in some way a reflection on
“me.” We also do this with other people. To be attached to someone young
and good lookin g becomes an important part of “me” if I feel I lack those
qualities. Any lack we feel can be filled in this way, by projection, but as
soon as the connection is broken, projection fails.
“When romantic  love is at its height,” I told Jeanne, “it’s only natural to
want to sustain it. Romance is selfish, in that you become absorbed in yourfeelings. When you fell in love with Alan, his attractiveness—or yours—
had nothing to do with the inner experience. Delight in another person, the
feeling that you have met a perfect being, is only a reflection of what you
have suddenly remembered in yourself.”
“But there are beautiful people,” Jeanne said.
“Are there peop le who are not?”  I asked. “Setting certain peopl e aside as
beautiful is simply image-making, which actually obscures the larger truth
that, in the eyes of spirit, no one is excluded from the highest state of
perfection. How do you feel when you look at an extremely attractive
person?”
“More than one thing,” replied Jeanne. “If he was mine, I’d feel proud,
but there’ s also a good deal of insecurity involved—that’ s no secret now.”
“The whole strategy of being beautiful by proxy can never work,” I said.
“Not only are you living vicariously, which is always fragile at best, but you
are not coming from a place of love. Using another person isn’t loving; it’s
treating that person like an object. Objects always wear out, or the joy we
take in them fades. More important, using someone as an object forces you
to miss his value as a human being.”
I asked Jeanne to examine what this incident said about her. She might
begin with this lesson: You are only as attractive as you feel you deserve to
be. Deservedness is the deep issue that beauty hides. Someone who is
deserving can be open to love in all its spiritual significance; someone who
is not will be limited to love that includes fear, since what you don’ t deserve
can always be taken from you.
“This issue of what you deserve arouses insecurity,” I said, “only if you
put it in isolated terms. Spiritually, we are all totally deserving because we
are all whole. If your being includes everything, how can you deserve one
thing less than another? This sense of completeness isn’t materia l. It doesn’ t
consist of being absolutely beautiful, infinitely rich, or impeccably virtuous.
The miracle of love is that you can be imperfect and still be completely
whole.”
This last point isn’ t easy to grasp. But if you consider how a mother loves
her child, it is immediately obvious that the imperfections of the child do
not coun t in her eyes. This isn’t blindness but the vision of love. Love is
extremely sensit ive to weaknesses. It responds by wanting to support and
lend strength in any way possi ble. But there is no judgment in it againstweakness or defect. A mother helping her toddler to walk isn’t thinking, “If
you were compe tent, you’d be walking on your own by now.” She accepts
that growth moves by stages and takes it as her joy to nurture each stage.
The question is, how can she do this for herself?
Jeanne could have just let her anxiety in this one instance pass—that was
always an option—but the beginning of wisdom would be to take this
opportunity to learn how to reconsider her insecurity. Every time she thinks,
“I’m too old,” she should follow  it with “That doubt isn’t me.” Every time
she thinks, “Ala n is too young for me,” she should follow it with “That
insecurity isn’t me.” Every time she thinks, “Another woman is interested
in my husband,” she should follow it with “That suspicion isn’t me.”
Bringing the issue home to herself instead of projecting it onto an external
object will make  it easier to face her responsibility for creating all her false
beliefs.
“Situations mirror beliefs,” I told her. “Removing other people from the
picture and bringing every moment of self-doubt back to its real source is
the best way to stay focused on the truth.”
Having found the truth, Jeanne can begin the inner work of solving her
concealed issue s. Being an “older woman” has never been entirely
comfortable for her, and living in proximity to Alan’ s nonchalance about
their age difference hasn’ t really helped. “You should make it clear to
Alan,” I said, “that you need reassurance. He is the right person to ask for
this, not your best friend.”
Clearly Jeanne desperately wants her husband to say “I love you” at
times, yet she forces herself not to ask. She therefore pushes herself further
into self-doubt, by forbidding herself to ask for what she wants. This self-
denial is a resul t of shame, an emotion closely connected to deservedness.
“You need to realize that askin g to be loved is not only not shameful,” I
said, “it’s exactly what one shou ld do to get love. Shame tells us that love is
a small,  preciou s commodity that we have to beg for, like Oliver Twist
begging for another bowl of soup. But love is abundant, and asking for it
only reflects that you already perceive it to be yours.”
Whenever Alan  says that he loves her, Jeanne also needs to trust his
assurance, and if this proves difficult, she should resist the temptation to ask
for more reassurance on the spot—it will be more productive to work on
how she can learn to trust.Here the story comes to a parting between psychology and spirituality. In
psychological terms Jeanne’ s lack of self-worth is bound up in dark
memories from her past. As a small girl she was imprinted with experiences
that told her she wasn’ t good enough—we all have similarly painful
memories. Years later these were transferred to looks, age, and sexual
desirability. Jeanne would never accept herself as long as she was attracted
to men who she believed were more desirable than she, because any
comparison would put her in the shade. Being with Alan was a “solution”
born out of past conditioning that had to fall away.
Having gotten this far in her analysis, I told Jeanne that she could open
the trapdoor under which many secret hurts and shadowy fears lurk.
Confionting secret shame and guilt is a valid psychological approach to her
sort of problem. The unanswered question, however, is whether it is
possible to release every demo n and doubt, every painful memory and
negative energy. Few who have attempted such a massive under taking have
succeeded without the aid of spirit.
“I think it’s a good idea for you to work through personal issues,” I told
Jeanne, “but a lasting solution to whether you are deserving or not will only
come spiritually. Here’ s something useful to write down as a reminder:
“Spirit is always with me. It wants to lift my pain. It does this not by
abolishing painful memories but by putting me totally in the present, wher e
the past doesn’ t exist.
“The spiritual answer to any problem is immediate,” I said. “It’s our own
perception that is slow to catch on. God’ s ability to love us is limited only
by our ability to receive that love here and now. Since our loved ones
represent manife sted portions of God in our lives, the same could be said
for them. To receive God’ s love we need only increase our abilit y to receive
the love being reflected back in our intimate relationships.”
As for many people, what really


 have been used as a
medium of exchange. We use paper bills, checks, nickel, and silver
surely these are not evil. Physicists and chemists know today that the
only difference between one metal and another is the number and rate
of motion of electrons revolving around a central nucleus. They ca n
now change one metal into another through a bombardment of the
atoms in the powerful cyclotron. Gold under certain conditions
becomes mercury. I believe that our modern scientists in the ne ar
future will be able to make gold, silver, and other metals s ynthetically
in the chemical laboratory. The cost may be pro-hibitive now, but it
can be done. I cannot imagine any intelli-gent person seeing anything
evil in electrons, neutrons, protons, and isotopes.
The piece of paper in your pocket is composed of atoms and
molecules with their electrons and protons arranged differ-entl y. Their
number and rate of motion are different. That is the only way  the
paper differs from the silver in your pocket.
• How to attract the money you need
Many years ago I met a young boy in Australia who wanted to
become a physician and surgeon, but he had no money. I explained to
him how a seed deposited in the soil attracts to itself ever ything
 112  necessary for its unfolding, and that all he had to do was to ta ke a
lesson from the seed and deposit the required idea in his subcons cious
mind. For expenses this young, brilliant boy used to clean out doctors’
offices, wash windows, and do odd repair jobs. He told me that every
night, as he went to sleep, he used to picture in his mind’s e ye a
medical diploma on a wall with his name on it in big, bold let ters. He
used to clean and shine the framed diplomas in the medical build ing
where he worked. It was not hard for him to engrave the image  of a
diploma in his mind and develop it there. Definite results fol -lowed as
he persisted with his mental picture every night for about four months.
The sequel of this story was very interesting. One of the doctors
took a great liking to this young boy and after training him i n the art
of sterilizing instruments, giving hypodermic in-jections, and ot her
miscellaneous first-aid work, he employed him as a technical assistant
in his office. The doctor later sent him to medical school at his  own
expense. Today, this young man is a prominent medical doctor in
Montreal, Canada. He discovered the law of attraction by using his
subconscious mind the right way. He operated an ageold law, whi ch
says, “Having seen the end, you have willed the means to  the
realization of the end.” The end in this case was to become a medical
doctor.
This young man was able to imagine, see, and feel the reality of
being a doctor. He lived with that idea, sustained it, nourished it,  and
loved it until through his imagination it pene-trated the layers  of his
subconscious mind and became a con-viction, thereby attracting  to
him everything necessary for the fulfillment of his dream.
• Why some men do not get a raise in pay
If you are working in a large organization and you are silently
thinking of and resenting the fact you are underpaid, that you are  not
appreciated, and that you deserve more money and greater
recognition, you are subconsciously severing your ties with that
organization. You are setting a law in motion, and the superintende nt
or manager will say to you, “We have to let you go.” Actually, you
 113  dismissed yourself. The manager was simply the instrument thro ugh
which your own negative mental state was confirmed. It was an
example of the law of action and reaction. The action was your
thought, and the reaction was the response of your subconscious mind.
• Obstacles and impediments on the pathway to riches
I am sure you have heard men say, “That fellow has a racket.” “He
is a racketeer.” “He is getting money dishonestly.” “He is  a faker.” “I
knew him when he had nothing.” “He is a crook, a thief, and a
swindler.”
If you analyze the man who talks like that, you discover he is
usually in want or suffering from some financial or physical  illness.
Perhaps his former college friends went up the ladder of  success and
excelled him. Now he is bitter and envious of their progress. In many
instances this is the cause of his downfall. Thinking negativel y of
these classmates and condemning their wealth causes the wealt h and
prosperity he is praying for to vanish and flee away. He is
condemning the thing he is praying for.
He is praying two ways. On the one hand he is saying, “Wealth is
flowing to me now,” and in the next breath, silently or audibly, he i s
saying, “I resent that fellow’s wealth.” Always make i t a special point
to rejoice in the wealth of the other person.
• Protect your investments
If you are seeking wisdom regarding investments, or if you are
worried about your stocks or bonds, quietly claim, “Infinite
intelligence governs and watches over all my financial tr ansac-tions,
and whatsoever I do shall prosper.” Do this frequently and you will
find that your investments will be wise; moreover, you will be
protected from loss, as you will be prompted to sell your secu rities or
holdings before any loss accrues to you.
• You cannot get something for nothing
In large stores the management employs store detectives to prevent
people from stealing. They catch a number of people every da y trying
 114  to get something for nothing. All such people are living in the mental
atmosphere of lack and limitation and are stealing from themsel ves
peace, harmony, faith, honesty, integrity, good will, and confidence.
Furthermore, they are attracting to themselves all manner of loss, such
as, loss of charac-ter, prestige, social status, and peace of mind. These
people lack faith in the source of supply and the understanding of  how
their minds work. If they would mentally call on the powers of th eir
subconscious mind and claim that they are guided to their true
expression, they would find work and constant supply. Then by
honesty, integrity, and perseverance, they would become a credit  to
themselves and to society at large.
• Your constant supply of money
Recognizing the powers of your subconscious mind and the creative
power of your thought or mental image is the way to opulence,
freedom, and constant supply. Accept the abundant life in your own
mind. Your mental acceptance and expectancy of wealth has its own
mathematics and mechanics of expression. As you enter into the  mood
of opulence, all things necessary for the abundant life will c ome to
pass.
Let this be your daily affirmation; write it in your heart, “I  am one
with the infinite riches of my subconscious mind. It is my right to be
rich, happy, and successful. Money flows to me freely, copious ly, and
endlessly. I am forever conscious of my true worth. I give of my
talents freely, and I am wonderfully blessed financially. It is
wonderful!”
• Step up this way to riches
1. Be bold enough to claim that it is your right to be rich and your
deeper mind will honor your claim.
2. You don’t want just enough to go around. You want all the
money you need to do all the things you want to do and when you
want to do them. Get acquainted with the riches of your sub conscious
mind.
 115  3. When money is circulating freely in your life, you are eco-
nomically healthy. Look at money like the tide and you will always
have plenty of it. The ebb and flow of the tide is constant. Wh en the
tide is out, you are absolutely sure that it will return.
4. Knowing the laws of your subconscious mind, you will al-ways
be supplied regardless of what form money takes.
5. One reason many people simply make ends meet and never have
enough money is that they condemn money. What you condemn takes
wings and flies away.
6. Do not make a god of money. It is only a symbol. Remem-ber
that the real riches are in your mind. You are here to lead a ba lanced
life—this includes acquiring all the money you need.
7. Don’t make money your sole aim. Claim wealth, happiness,
peace, true expression, and love, and personally radiate love a nd good
will to all. Then your subconscious mind will give you compound
interest in all these fields of expression.
8. There is no virtue in poverty. It is a disease of the mi nd, and you
should heal yourself of this mental conflict or malady at once.
9. You are not here to live in a hovel, to dress in rags, or to go
hungry. You are here to lead the life more abundant.
10. Never use the terms “filthy lucre” or “I desp


byro to
produce one of the most remarkable experiments in medical history. He attempted to demonstrate that under suitable conditions,
the living cell could live a very long time, perhaps indefinitely. The heart tissue was immersed in a nutrient solution from which it
obtained its food. Likewise, waste material was secreted by the heart tissue into this same solution. Everyday the solution w as
changed, taking away waste substances and providing fresh nutrients. It  is amazing to report that this chicken heart tissue lived for
29 years in this fashion. It died one day when the assistant forgot to change the metabolized polluted fluid! In other words,
autointoxication claimed this great masterpiece of experimental sci entific investigation. Said Carrell of this experience, “The cell is
immortal. It is merely the fluid in which it floats which degenerates. Renew this fluid at intervals, give the cell something  upon
which to feed and, so far as we know, the pulsation of l ife may go on forever.”

The primary causes of constipation can be summarized as follows: faulty nutrition, ignoring the call to eliminate, lack of ph ysical
activity, emotional and mental distress, extrinsic poisons and medications and lack of adequate amo unts of water. Faulty nutrition,
as we have already seen, is a major underlying factor in constipation. Processed, devitalized foods low in fiber or bulk are not
suitable substances to promote health and well -being. Ignoring the call to eliminate feces or urine contribute greatly to cellular
congestion, autointoxication and eliminative organ distress. The lack of physical exercise makes weak and flaccid muscle tone
incapable of holding up under the demands of poor diets and extra eliminative duty. Emotional  and mental strain and tension
produce unfavorable conditions in the digestive and eliminative organs, causing them to become tense and underactive. These a lso
cause chemical imbalances and abnormal secretions to occur, generally upsetting the whole organi sm. Extrinsic poisons, such as
tobacco, coffee, alcohol, chocolate and sugar, have unfavorable effects upon digestion and elimination by upsetting gastric
secretions and nerve responses. Medications have a very upsetting effect upon these life -giving funct ions. They cause many
afflictions in the bowel. Antibiotics, such as penicillin and sulfa, can completely eliminate the favorable intestinal flora,  leaving the
opportunity for reinfestation by harmful bacteria and virus. Laxatives are irritating to the bow el and are dangerous if used
frequently.

Most people also do not drink enough water; they are chronically dehydrated. This causes all body tissues and fluids to becom e
thicker and more viscid. The mucous lining in the colon changes in consistency, failin g to provide a slick lubrication for the
movement of feces. Poor living habits contribute a great deal to poor bowel function. Not following a good program denies the
body regularity and consistency. It never knows what’s coming next and can’t depend upon a regular routine. It is always on the
defensive. This situation results in a depletion of vital nerve force and undermines the body’s ability to set periods of res t and
activity. Today, there are more than 45,000 laxative and cathartic remedies being manu factured and used by Americans alone.
Even when used sparingly and in an emergency, these substances should be used with great caution, if at all. The mechanism of
elimination is very delicate and easily upset. Once disturbed, it will often require weeks, maybe months, before it becomes
regular again. These substances, in order to evacuate the colon, are essentially poisons and irritants. They contribute nothi ng to
restore normal or natural processes of defecation. The poisoned colon tries to evacuate the offending substance as quickly as
possible, and pushes everything out including the compacted feces. Oftentimes, these harsh poisonous substances are absorbed
through the lymph and blood vessels and find their way to all parts of the body. This situation c ontributes to addiction and
overuse of these substances. Dependency upon laxative compounds will in time, permanently destroy the normal ability of the
bowel to eliminate naturally on its own accord. Laxatives tire out the bowel muscle by keeping it consta ntly working. Without rest,
it will soon fail and produce some of the conditions I will discuss in the next chapter. The only stimulation that the body s hould
have is through exercise. Any time we artificially stimulate the bowel, there is an opposite effe ct that manifests in which there is a
lack of tone in the muscle producing a weakness in that muscle structure. It is becoming increasingly clear that bowel troubl es
have a reflex effect upon specific organs in the body.

For example, Sir Arbuthnot Lane, who was a surgeon for the King of England, spent many years specializing in bowel problems.
He was an expert at removing sections of the bowel and stitching it back together. He taught this work to other doctors and g ained
an international reputation for h is efficiency. During the years of this work, he began to notice a peculiar phenomenon. During the
course of recovery from colonic surgery, some of his patients experienced remarkable cures of diseases that had no apparent
connection with his surgery. For instance, a young boy who had arthritis for many years was in a wheel chair at the time of
surgery. Six months later, this boy had recovered entirely from the disease. Another case involved a woman with a goiter. Whe n a
specific section of the bowel was re moved in surgery, there ensued a definite remission of the goiter within six months. These and
similar experiences impressed him so much because he saw the relationship between the toxic bowel and the functioning of
various organs in the body. After much t hought about this relationship, he became very interested in changing the bowel through
dietetic methods and spent the last 25 years of his life teaching people how to care for the bowel through nutrition and not surgery.
Sir Lane has said, “All maladies a re due to the tack of certain food principles, such as mineral salts or vitamins, or to the absence
of the normal defenses of the body, such as the natural protective flora. When this occurs, toxic bacteria invade the lower
alimentary canal, and the poison s thus generated pollute the bloodstream and gradually deteriorate and destroy every tissue, gland
and organ of the body.”

I am absolutely sure that what Dr. Lane discovered through his surgical explorations is in -deed an accurate description of how the
bowel functions in relation to the other organs in the body. We know that every organ and tissue is dependent upon the healthy
well-being of every other organ and tissue in order for there to be a total well -being. When one tissue or organ fails, it affects  the
whole body. If there is faulty functioning in the bowel, this deficiency is passed along to the rest of the body. We could ca ll this the
intestinal domino effect.

The frequency or quantity of fecal elimination is not an indication of the lack of cons tipation in the bowel. I know of cases that had
three and four movements a day and yet the bowel was quite encrusted and very constipated. Most people don’t know the
condition of their bowel. Unfortunately those who are not aware of their bowel function or  condition are sometimes the ones who
are developing the worst cases of bowel troubles. I find that constipation is usually going along with those bowels that have
diverticulosis. Very few people eat in an organized way, and for this reason, they have loos e bowels one day, stiff bowels the next
day, a smelly bowel one day, and so on. When regularity is absent in the diet, there is chaos in the bowel. In most cases, si mply
changing the diet and eating habits will alleviate many bowel problems without surgery.

WHAT GOES IN DOESN’T ALWAYS COME OUT
I am convinced that the bowel holds onto waste materials longer than anyone realizes. When we clean out the bowel and release  all
this old, rotting material, there will be a lessening of the gas, pain and autointoxic ation taking place. I believe that this toxic
material decaying away in the sigmoid colon is a good place for degenerative diseases to get started. Starches that haven’t b een
digested properly by the pancreatic secretions are not readily taken up by the bo dy and made into good tissue. These, in turn, can
come back to the colon and keep the body from having the proper colonic tone because of a lack of proper chemical development.
In addition, drugs can settle in the tissues of the body and it is the colon th at catches a good deal of these. By way of the mucus
membrane, the colon is used as an eliminative channel. When the membrane does not function properly, these drug deposits
accumulate in the bowel indefinitely and can produce a time -bomb effect; irritatio ns, inflammations and ulcerations. Here again,
food is very, very important to recognize because this is the one thing that brings back a chemical reserve and gives the pow er and
chemical structure to have good healthy tissue.

The dietary program that I h ave developed is probably one of the most important things I can give to you. It has proven itself well
in 30 years of sanitarium experience and has helped many people to regain their health. It takes care of the bulk, it takes c are of the
fiber, it takes care of the natural mucus membrane through proper chemical replacements. This program, coupled with an exercise
routine,


the throat. There was a small wound in the throat and it emitted a very bad smell. Urine-soaked cotton was placed on the wound and was changed every three hours. He got some relief. He 40 was given urine acid to drink under a pretext. After two months, the bleeding stopped. The doctors diagnosed that he was fully cured.”  Urine Therapy by Dr. John F. O'Quinn  CANCER OF THROAT  “ A Harijan woman was emitting blood through the mouth even in ordinary coughing. She was hospitalized more than once but with no improvement. Doctors believed that she had developed cancer of the throat. She was given Urine Treatment under pretext for three days. The bleeding stopped at once. After coming to realize the remedy, she drank  urine willingly and rubbed it on her chest for forty days and cured herself completely. She is now quite healthy.”  Urine Therapy by Dr. John F. O'Quinn  CANCER OF THROAT   Dr. V.P. Mehta, Mumbai "I am a qualified and experienced medical doctor with the highest degrees both in medicine and surgery. On March 12, 1986, I was diagnosed with cancer of the ary-epiglottic area (throat) with enlarged cervical lymph nodes. After receiving chemotherapy and a course of cobalt therapy I was to be operated on.  Between August and October I tried Urine Therapy. By October 5, 1986, my disease was under control and the proposed surgery was canceled. I have not only recovered in a medical sense, but I am also leading a fully active professional life. In other words, even the quality of my life has improved. I feel the same zeal which I felt 30 years ago."  World-wide Case Histories of Urine Therapy by Gary Ward  CANCER OF TONGUE  Hashmukh G. Panwala (1676, Sevkani wadi, Khadia, Ahmedabad-1} provides an excellent case of cancer-cure by urine therapy:  "About a couple of months ago, I had to consult eminent doctors and specialists for the treatment of my father. He was said so suffer from malignant tongue cancer. Being in the employment in air-lines, I had a mind to take him to Switzerland, but it was considered to be of no avail. However in my over-enthusiasm, I did manage to give my 41 father some deep X-rays, numbering about four courses, but despite this the shooting pain did not subside even for a while.  As I had an occasion to try urine therapy for my own chronic cold trouble in 1957, I suggested to my proposal. He started the treatment, commencing with ten days' fast. Soon after, amazing relief was noticeable, even though the pace of progress was very slow. I thought it was advisable to consult Shri Raojikaka. He suggested to begin the treatment again commencing with four days' fast and atter the fast, to continue the treatment of urine therapy while taking special care about food. Salt, sugar, milk and other things were totally forbidden. My father followed the regime religiously. I was also carefully watching the progress.  When I consulted the doctors and surgeons again, I was told that something miraculous had happened to my father inasmuch as his cancer was cured 75% in one and a half month.  I was over jubilant to hear this and was anxiously waiting for 100 percent cure. Lastly some ten days ago, I went to an eminent doctor with my father for check-up. According to his opinion, the cure was almost complete and the patient might be feeling that he was completely cured."  Manav Mootra by R. M. Patel  CANCER OF TONGUE   “C.H. Patel, age fifty-one, had developed cancer on his tongue. A co-worker had asked Patel to try Urine Treatment for his cancer. In due course, he met with success and got rid of his trouble.”  Urine Therapy by Dr. John F. O'Quinn  CANCER OF TONSILS AND THROAT  Bill's Journey using Human Milk Therapy for Throat Cancer  The Milk of Human Kindness: Human Milk Therapy  Written by Cheryl Scott RN, PhD, IBCLC   Rudolph Ballentine, MD, in his book Diet and Nutrition, states: “In many cultures, milk is, in fact, a symbol of the willingness to give, to sacrifice, and to put the welfare of another 42 above that of oneself.  Expressions such as “the milk of human kindness” are to be found in many languages.[1] As a lactation consultant for the past 15 years, I find myself in continual awe at the special qualities a mother’s milk provides to her baby.  Much is known about the nutritional and protective qualities of human milk.  Human milk provides antibodies and other protective substances for both a mother’s child as well as adult recipients.   Recently, I have discovered a new dimension, a deeper look at the unique sacrifice and gift of life breastfeeding women provide for humans, big and small.   Personal Benefits Bill Experienced from Donated Human Milk:         - Protected and supported his immune system    - Natural Tranquilizer: Assisted him to sleep soundly after his doses    - Healed his bed sore (secondary to severe malnutrition) within 4 hours     - Destroyed his cancer cells    - Minimized mucositis (sores in throat and oral region from radiation)    - Supported his T cell count and leukocyte count during chemo & radiation safeguarding Bill during his hospitalizations from nosicomial infections   - As of April 2013: He is cancer free for over 2.5 years! His doctors are amazed and happy at how strong and lively he is!  This story began in July of 2009, when my Sweetheart, Bill, was diagnosed with Stage 4 Tonsil cancer, which had metastasized throughout his throat.  Initially Bill sought surgical treatment from the Mayo Clinic using a robot to remove 7 tumors in his throat.  Despite the reputation of an 80% success rate with the Mayo Clinic’s trans-oral robotic surgery, 1 year later, we received a new diagnosis of 4 more aggressive tumors in his throat and base of his tongue.  The most troublesome tumor was very large and was encasing his carotid artery.  This explained Bill’s frequent episodes of passing out.  A second surgery was not an option for Bill since his blood flow to his brain was strangulated by this very aggressive tumor.  Bill’s only hope from his new doctors was aggressive radiation and chemotherapy.  Bill had already been utilizing about 10 holistic anti-cancer protocols, which strengthened him, however these holistic methods did not stop the post-surgical metastasis of his tumors.  43 Bill’s physicians mapped out a very aggressive radiation and chemotherapy course as his last hope to destroy the cancer and restore proper blood flow to his brain.  Sadly, the toxicity from radiation and chemo made Bill very, very sick.  Thankfully, the doctors had placed a feeding tube called a peg tube into his stomach since his throat would be too swollen to eat for months.  However, he threw up the formula that was fed through his feeding tube as well.  We tried every type of anti-nausea medication under the sun without any relief.  He soon dropped his weight from 175 to 115.  It was so sad to see this vibrant, strong man reduced down to skin and bones.  I feared the treatments might kill him before the cancer.  And then a miracle happened.  I received an email from a colleague of mine, a nurse who works at the same hospital where I work.  She wrote:   “Just thought I would offer some breastmilk for Bill and his n/v. I could donate and I think I would be able to get some other donors as well. Obviously I'm not sure about what the total volume would be but we could try. Let me know and I will start a milk collection campaign.”   Blessings, Jackie  My friend and colleague, Jackie was breastfeeding her 8-month-old baby and was blessed with the ability to make more milk than her baby actually needed.  She told me she was just about ready to stop pumping at work since her baby had more milk than he needed at home.  However, when she heard of Bill’s trouble with keeping any food down, she wanted to offer her milk, knowing the immense healing properties of Mother’s Milk.  She said she would be more than happy to continue to pump when she was at work and she could split her milk supply between her baby and Bill.  What a blessing!   I asked Bill if he would like to add Human Milk Therapy to his treatment plan and he broke down crying when he heard of Jackie’s kind offer.  The very next day, I was able to pick up Jackie’s first donation of the Milk of Human Kindness.  When we returned home, we infused 1 ounce into Bill’s GT tube.  He didn’t throw it up!  It was the first time in over 2 weeks that he did not vomit what we placed into his stomach.  We added another ounce and then another ounce to reach the therapeutic dosage range of 3 ounces of Human Milk which is the suggested dosage as an anti-cancer treatment.  Bill was able to keep the 3 ounces in his stomach.  A lot of rejoicing was going on in our household that day!    When Bill woke up the next morning, he had a small bedsore developing on the tip of his tailbone secondary to his severe state of malnutrition from his radiation and chemotherapy toxicity.  I placed some drops of Mother’s Milk onto the small bedsore and I was amazed to see the bedsore disappeared within 4 hours.  That is unheard of!


 to do sitting meditation. (Indeed, there is no “right way” to do
anything.) One may sit in a comfortable chair, or on the floor, or upright in bed, for that
matter. Choose what works for you.
Some people sit on the floor, usually  with no back rest but occasionally against a wall or
something, because floor sitting keeps them more “present” in the space. Some report to
me that if they are too completely comfortable, as in an overstuffed chair or on the bed,
they tend to doze off or  fade away from the moment; and if they are sitting on the floor, or
outside on the grass, that rarely occurs. They are totally mentally “present.”
Once sitting, begin by paying attention to your breathing, closing your eyes, and simply
listening to yourse lf inhaling and exhaling. Be in blackness and pay attention only to what
you are hearing. When you have “united” —that’s the only word I can find that fits here —
with the rhythm of your breath, begin to expand your attention to what your “inner eye” is
seein g.
Usually at that point this is nothing but darkness. If you are seeing images —that is,
“thinking thoughts” of something and seeing those in your mind —work to fade those
thoughts out, like a “fade to black” on the movie screen. Turn your mind to blankness.
Focusing your inner eye, peer deeply into this darkness. Be looking for nothing in
particular, but simply peering deeply, allowing yourself to search for nothing and need
nothing.
In my own experience what happens next can often be the appearance of what  appears
to be a small, flickering blue “flame” or a burst of blue light piercing the darkness. I find that
if I begin thinking about this cognitively —that is, defining it, describing it to myself, trying
to give it shape and form or make it “do” something  or “mean” something —it disappears
immediately. The only way that I can “make it come back” is to pay it no mind.
I have to work hard to turn my mind off and just be with the moment and the
experience, without judging it, defining it, or trying to make something happen or figure it
out or understand it from my logic center. It is rather like making love. Then, too, for the
experience to be mystical and magical, I must turn my mind off and just be with the moment and the experience, without judging it, de fining it, or trying to make something
happen or figure it out or understand it from my logic center.
Meditation is making love to the universe. It is uniting with God. It is uniting with Self. It
is not to be understood, created, or defined. One does not understand God, one simply
experiences God. One does not create God, God simply is. One does not define God, God
defines one. God IS the definer and the defined. God is the definition itself.
Insert the word Self wherever the word God appears in the above paragraph and the
meaning remains the same.
Now, back to the dancing blue flame. Once you take your mind off it, all the while
keeping your focus on it, without expectation or thought of any kind, the flickering light
may reappear. The trick is to keep you r mind (that is, your thought process) off it, all the
while keeping your focus (that is, your undivided attention) on it.
Can you imagine this dichotomy? This means paying attention to what you are not
paying attention to. It is very much like daydreaming. It is like when you are sitting in
broad daylight, in the middle of some place of great activity, and you are paying attention to
nothing at all —and to everything all at once. You are expecting nothing and requiring
nothing and noticing nothing in partic ular, but you are so focused  on the “nothing” and the
“everything” that someone finally has to snap you out of it (perhaps by literally snapping
their fingers), saying, “Hey! Are you daydreaming????”
Usually, one daydreams with one’s eyes open.
Sitting med itation is “daydreaming with your eyes closed.” That’s as close as I can come
to explaining the experience.
Now the dancing blue flame has reappeared. Simply experience it and do not try to
define it, measure it, or explain it to yourself in any way. Just... fall into it. The flame will
appear to come toward you. It will become larger in your inner field of vision. This is not
the flame moving toward you at all, but you moving into, and inside of, the experience of it.
If you are lucky you will experience total immersion  in this light before your mind starts
telling you about it and talking to you about it, comparing it to Past Data. If you have even
one instant of this mindless immersion, you will have experienced bliss.
This is the bliss of total knowing, total experiencing of the Self as One with everything,
with the Only Thing There Is. You cannot “try” for this bliss. If you see the blue flame and
begin to anticipate this bliss, the flame will disappear instantly, in  my experience.
Anticipation and/or expectation ends the experience. That is because the experience is
happening in EverMoment, and anticipation or expectation places it into the future, where
you are not.
Hence, the flame seems to “go away.” It is not the  light that has gone away, it is you. You
have left EverMoment.
This has the same effect on your inner  eye that closing your outer  eyes has on your
experience of the physical world around you. You quite literally shut it out. In my own
experience this enco unter with bliss comes but once every thousand moments of
meditation. Having known it once is both a blessing and, in a sense, a curse, because I am
forever wishing for it again. Still, there are times when I can retreat from the wishing,
remove myself fro m the hope, desert my desires, reject my expectations, and place myself totally in the moment, utterly without anticipation of anything in particular. This is the
mental state I seek to achieve. It is not easy, but it is possible. And if I achieve it, I ha ve
achieved mindlessness.
Mindlessness is not the emptying of the mind, but the focusing of the mind away  from
the mind. It is about being “out of our mind” —that is, away from your thoughts for a while
(more on this later). This gets me very close to that place at the point between realms in the
Kingdom of God, the space of Pure Being. This gets me very close to nirvana. This can carry
me to bliss.
So... if you have managed to find a way to quiet your mind on a regular basis —through
sitting meditation, w hat I call walking meditation, or “doing meditation” (doing the dishes
can be a wonderful meditation, as can reading, or writing, a book), or stopping meditation
(again, I’ll get into this more later) —you have undertaken what may be the single most
importa nt commitment of your entire life: a commitment to your soul, to be with  your soul,
to meet  your soul, to hear  and listen to  and interact with  your soul.
In this way you will move through your life not only from the place of your mind, but
your soul as wel l. This is what Ken Wilbur, one of the most widely read and influential
American philosophers of our time, refers to in his book A Theory of Everything  as Integral
Transformative Practice. The basic idea of an ITP, Wilbur says, is simple: “The more aspects
of our being that we simultaneously exercise, the more likely that transformation will
occur.”
That’s what we’ve been talking about here since our conversation began, of course.
We’ve been talking about personal transformation —the altering of your individ ual
experience of all of life, and particularly that basic, fundamental, essential part of life that
we call change.
We’ve been talking about integrating all three parts of the Totality of Your Being in a
cooperating, multifunctioning Whole. Yet one cannot  do this unless and until one knows
that one is a three -part being, and then understands thoroughly...
1. The Basics of the Body
2. The Mechanics of the Mind
3. The System of the Soul
We’ve not talked about the first of these three aspects of the triune  expression of life that
is you, and now is our time to do so. Are you ready to put the final piece of the puzzle into
place? If your mind would like a little time to consider what we’ve just covered, you could
always
Stop here for a while
It’s as good a p lace as any to take a breath and take a break, to push back from the
banquet table for just a moment. Then...
when you’re ready, pick up the chapter at...  WHERE THE BODY COMES IN
“Your body is not something you are, it is something you have.”
My frie nd Dr. Ilchi Lee, acknowledged before in this conversation for his brilliant thesis
on the human brain, is fond of saying this. Other wonderful teachers and philosophers such
as Jean Houston


, the peanut also has too much protein for the cancer patient.
Third, it has been found that a fungus grows on peanuts, which produces aflatoxin.
To stimulate cancers in experimental animals cancer researchers use aflatoxin.
Processed Foods
White Flour
All concentrated foods are extremely hard on the liver and should be given up.
White flour and all products containing white flour should be avoided. These are not
only concentrated carbohydrates, but almost always have preservatives added.
Use fresh whole wheat bread, made from wheat grown free of all pesticides
(another liver destroying chemical). The essential vitamins are oxidized within three
days at room temperature; hence the need for grinding only as used. Freshly ground
flour or freshly made whole wheat bread may be safely stored deep in a deep freeze
for about a week. It is best, however, to use it within three days.
White Sugar
The cancer patient w ill also want to give up all white sugar and white sugar
products. The concentrated carbohydrates are hard on the liver, but more important
in relation to cancer, they are very hard on the pancreas. The pancreas, as noted
earlier, is the first organ to be protected at all costs. White sugar has been processed
(refined) and all the vital minerals are taken out. Cancer patients are always deficient
in minerals.
For those who have a sweet tooth, these organic foods may be eaten as desired:
dates, date sugar, figs and raisins obtained from a health food store. These are free of
toxic pesticides and are not harmful to the pancreas or the liver. A cancer patient may
also eat pure maple syrup or unheated honey, in that order. The first is preferable
because it has a higher mineral content.
Soy Products
Soy products, except Lecithin, should be used very sparingly for two reasons: First,
the protein content is too high for the cancer patient; Second, soy products tend to
upset the delicate acid/alkaline balance of the body. Eating soy products may be
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resumed when Dr. Kelley's Pancreas Self-Examination Procedure is negative
Other Improper Foods
Lemon juice should replace vinegar altogether. Vinegar is too harsh on the delicate
mucus membrane of the alimentary canal. Also, the ingestion of large quantities of
vinegar causes the digestive tract to become too acid and thus decreases the
efficiency of the pancreatic enzymes and the digestive processes. For at least the first
eight months on Metabolic Medicine's Cancer Cure Program, lemon juice should be
used in preference to vinegar on salads. Unrefined, organic flaxseed oil may be used
as salad dressing
For the period of intensive detoxification and treatment, tea, coffee, soft drinks,
chocolate, liquor, tobacco, pork, and white rice should be avoided. These also place
additional stress upon the liver and pancreas as they are being detoxified.
Physiological Reactions to
Eating and Taking Supplements
According to Your Metabolic Type
As you follow a properly balanced nutritional program, changes begin to happen
within your body. Often this is alarming and not at all what you expected to happen.
The Ideal Reaction
The ideal reaction is the gradual development of an increased "sense of well
being." At first you w ill notice you do not tire so easily. You "last" longer during the
day, and you do not become tired so early in the evening. Next, you find you are not
so tired in the mornings. You look forward to the new day and may awaken earlier.
As your sense of well-being increases, you begin to feel more emotionally and
psychologically secure. Little things do not bother you as they once did. Your old
habit patterns begin to change from "grumpy" ones to "happy" ones.
Adverse Reactions
The ideal reaction often occurs, but more frequently there is a multitude of
uncomfortable reactions, which normally come first, as your body chemistry begins
to change. These reactions should not alarm you or cause undue apprehension. Any
one or all of the following reactions may occur:
Toxic Reactions
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After about two or three of weeks eating and taking supplements according to your
metabolic type it is normal to experience toxic reactions. You w ill gradually lose your
appetite, become nauseated and may even develop a "toxic headache."
Occasionally, you may also experience swelling in the various lymph glands
throughout your body. The normal cells cleaning debris from the system faster than
the liver, kidneys, skin and lungs can remove them from the body bring about these
toxic reactions. At this point you can do two things to help:
1. Discontinue the supplements for no more than a five-day period. Continue the
supplements again for ten to 25 days. This cycle of five days off and ten or more
days on may have to be repeated several times, depending upon the depleted
condition of your body and the amount of repair which is needed at the cellular
level.
2. Take a coffee enema to stimulate the excretion of toxins. The procedure for this
is explained earlier in this book. One or two a day may be taken depending
upon the severity of the toxic condition. In an extreme toxic reaction, both the
discontinuance of supplements and the coffee enema should be used.
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Structu r a l &  Neu rologica l Stim ulation
W h ile  the bo dy is being p ro p e rly  d e to x ifie d  and nourished,
th e  nerve supply to  th e  pancreas and liv e r should be considered.
Structural and Neurological Stimulation
While the body is being properly detoxified and nourished, the nerve supply to the
pancreas and liver should be considered.
A specific organ works only when told to by a nerve, chemical, or pressure
stimulation. Upon taking careful histories, we found a number of cancer patients who
had had blows to the head or spine. We feel that such experiences change the nerve
impulses to the various organs. If pressure on a nerve to the pancreas causes it to
cease sending impulses to the pancreas, the pancreas w ill turn off and wait until the
nerve tells it to work again. If the nerve is destroyed, or for some reason never sends a
message, the pancreatic function will be greatly impaired.
Probably the best way to reactivate the nerve enervation is through some form of
manipulative therapy such as osteopathic manipulation, chiropractic adjustments, or
physiotherapy. We have found it advisable to have such a weekly manipulative
treatment, for at least the first nine months of cancer treatment. The regular body
massage that people are familiar with are not a good but also helpful.
Neurological stimulation can sometimes be increased or simulated by hormone
therapy, but this technique must be performed under the direction of a very highly
skilled clinician.
There are a group of dentists who use a method called Mandibular Equilibration
Temporomandibular Joint (TMJ) equilibration to re-shape the skull, take stresses from
the brain, and in this way effect very profound neurological changes.
The following are brief descriptions of a few highly successful body-aligning
systems.
Temporomandibular Joint (TMJ) Equilibration
Temporomandibular Joint is such a mouthful that dentists like to use just the
initials. It is the name of the joint just in front of the ear where the lower jaw hinges.
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There is one on the right side, and one on the left. When one or both of them are
forced out of place it may lead to such distressing or painful conditions as earache,
headache, head noises, clicking sounds, dizziness, nervousness and even mental
troubles.
For such ailments as these, doctors may prescribe hot and cold packs, diathermy,
massage vibration, rest, surgery, psychological treatment or drugs. While all of these
remedies are useful at times, they often do not bring permanent relief if stress in the
joint is the real cause of the trouble.
When the cause is stress in this joint in front of the ear, as it often is, a safe and
highly successful dental treatment may be the solution. This treatment is known as
"equilibration" (pronounced ee-quil-i-bray-shun); it simply means equalizing the
muscle forces to restore the lower jaw and its joints to their normal unstrained or
neutral positions.
How do the joints get out of adjustment in the first place? It might be from a blow
on the chin, a muscle spasm, or opening the jaw too wide (as when biting or
yawning). But the most common is chewing with teeth that come together in a wrong
way.
Dentists refer to this condition as "malocclusion."
We close our jaws in chewing food, of course — and most persons also press their
teeth together one or two thousand times a day between meals in swallowing. If the
teeth do not meet properly, the pressures on them during chewing and swallowing
may force the lower jaw into a strained position that pinches the joints in front of the
ears.
If you could see through the skin and get a side view of the TMJ, you would see
how the mandible, or lower jaw, hinges to the skull. The joint consists of a ball-and-
socket arrangement, with the ball being a rounded mass of bone in the back part of
the lower jaw that fits into a


. You’ll be telling yourself that you expect this
“contrariness,” that it’s all right for them to be the way they are, and
that it really has nothing to do with you. By going after disapproval,
rather than avoiding it, you’ll build up your repertoire of behavior
for dealing effectively with it.
• You can practice ignoring disapproval and not paying any atten-
tion to those who attempt to manipulate you with their denunciation.
A colleague of mine was giving a lecture to a large audience in Berlin
and a member of the audience was obviously seething at certain
comments. Finally, he could stand it no longer and he picked on a
minor point the speaker was making and rattled off all kinds of ab-
usive remarks in the form of questions. He was attempting to bait
the speaker and to seduce him into a neurotic interchange. My col-
league’s response to his tirade was a simple “O.K.,” and he went on
with his talk. By ignoring the abuse, he proved that he wasn’t going
to evaluate himself on the basis of what someone else felt. The
heckler, of course, stopped. Had the speaker not felt good about
himself, he might have made someone else’s disapproval more im-
portant than his own good opinion of himself, and thus been upset
when it was withheld.
• You can break the connecting chain between what others think,
say and do, and your own self-worth. Talk to yourself when you
encounter disapproval. “This is her stuff. I expect her to behave that
way. It has nothing to do with me.” This approach will eliminate
the self-hurt that you inflict when you connect someone else’s feeling
with your own thoughts.
• Ask yourself this important question when you acquire disap-
proval. If they agreed with me, would I be better off? The answer is
obviously no. Whatever they think can have no effect on you unless
you let it. Moreover, you’ll most likely find that you are better liked
by those important folks like a boss, or loved one when you can
disagree with them without worry.
• Accept the simple fact that many won’t ever understand you,
and that it is okay. Conversely, you won’t understand70 / Your Erroneous Zonesmany people who are very close to you. You don’t have to. It’s all
right for them to be different and the most fundamental understand-
ing you can have is that you don’t understand. Gustav Ischheiser
makes the point clearly in the following lines from Appearances and
Realities:
….If people who do not understand each other at least under-
stand that they do not understand each other, then they under-
stand each other better than when, not understanding each
other, they do not even understand that they do not understand
each other.
• You can refuse to argue or try to convince anyone of the right-
ness of your stance, and simply believe it.
• Trust yourself when buying clothes or other personal items
without first checking it out with someone whose opinion you value
more than your own.
• Stop verifying your facts by having them substantiated by a
spouse or someone else with sentences like, “Isn’t that right, honey?”
or “Didn’t we, Ralph?” or “Just ask Marie, she’ll tell you.”
• Correct yourself out loud whenever you’ve behaved in an ap-
proval-seeking way, thereby becoming aware of this tendency and
practicing new behaviors.
• Work at eliminating the numerous apologies that you make
even when you aren’t really sorry for what you’ve just said. All
apologies are pleas for forgiveness, and requests for forgiveness are
approval-seeking which takes the form of, “I know you wouldn’t
like me if I really meant what I just did, so please say that I’m still
okay.” Apologizing is a waste of time. If you need someone else to
forgive you before you can feel better, then you are giving them
control over your feelings. While you can resolve not to behave in
certain ways again, and see some of your behavior as unfortunate,
apologizing behavior is a sickness that invests control of one’s feel-
ings in another.
• In a conversation, you can clock the amount of time thatYOU DON’T NEED THEIR APPROVAL  / 71you speak and compare it with the amount spoken by your partner
and acquaintances. You can work at not being the one who speaks
infrequently and only when asked to participate.
• You can observe at your next get-together how many more times
you are interrupted, and whether you always condescend when you
speak simultaneously with another member of the group. Your ap-
proval-seeking may be taking the form of timidity. You can devise
strategies for speaking without being interrupted by labeling the
behavior as it crops up in your social milieu.
• Chronicle how many declarative versus interrogative sentences
you make. Do you ask questions, seek permission and approval, as
opposed to making a statement? For example, the question, “Nice
day, isn’t it?” puts the other person into the problem-solving role,
and you into the approval-seeking position. A simple, “Nice day”
is a declaration, rather than an attempt to seek an answer. If you are
always asking questions of others you are into approval-seeking in
what may seem a petty area, but which is reflective of your lack of
confidence in your own ability to take charge.
These are the beginning steps to eliminating approval-seeking as
a need in your life. While you are not striving to wipe out all approv-
al, you are working toward not being immobilized in any small way
because you don’t get the blandishments you covet. Applause is
pleasant and approval is a delightful experience. What you seek is
immunity from pain when you don’t get the cheers. Just as the dieter
does not test his mettle for losing weight on a full stomach, or the
individual who is quitting smoking doesn’t measure his resolve after
just putting out a cigarette, you won’t really test yourself in the ab-
sence of disapproval. You can vow until you’re orange in the face
that you can handle disfavor and that you are not going to demand
tribute from everyone, but until you are faced with the circumstances
of contention you won’t know how you are doing. If you can72 / Your Erroneous Zoneseliminate this troublesome erroneous zone from your life, the rest
will seem easy, because you have been conditioned to need approval
from your first breath on this earth. It will require a great deal of
practice, but it is worth every bit of effort you put into it. Immunity
from despair in the face of disapproval is the ticket to a lifetime of
delectable personal present-moment freedom.YOU DON’T NEED THEIR APPROVAL  / 73IV
BREAKING FREE FROM
THE PAST
Only a ghost wallows around in his past, explaining
himself with self-descriptors based on a life lived
through. You are what you choose today, not what
you’ve chosen before.
W ho are you? How do you describe yourself? To answer these
two questions, you will very likely have to refer to your own history,
to a past that has been lived through, but to which you are un-
doubtedly tied, and from which you find it difficult to escape. What
are your self-descriptors? Are they neat little labels that you have
accumulated over a lifetime? Do you have a drawer full of self-
definitions which you use on a regular basis? They may include tags
such as I’m nervous, I’m shy, I’m lazy, I’m not musical, I’m clumsy,
I’m forgetful, and a whole catalog of additional I’ms that you use.
You probably have many positive I’ms such as I’m loving, I’m good
at bridge, I’m sweet, as well. These will not be dealt with here since
the purpose of this chapter is to help you grow, rather than to ap-
plaud you for the areas of your life where you are operating effect-
ively.
Self-descriptors are not in themselves inappropriate, but they
74can be used in harmful ways. The very act of labeling might be a
specific deterrent to growth. It’s easy to use the label as justification
for remaining the same. Sören Kierkegaard wrote, “Once you label
me, you negate me.” When the individual must live up to the label,
the self ceases to exist. The same is true of self-labels. You could be
negating yourself by identifying with your trademarks, rather than
your own potential for growth.
All self-labels come out of an individual’s history. But the past,
as Carl Sandburg said in Prairie,  “is a bucket of ashes.”
Check yourself out on the extent to which you are chained to your
past. All self-defeating “I’ms” are the result of the use of these four
neurotic sentences:
(1) “That’s me.”
(2) “I’ve always been that way.”
(3) “I can’t help it.”
(4) “That’s my nature.”
There they are in one little package. The connectors that keep you
from growing, changing and making your life (from this instant
on—which is all the life you have) new, exciting and heaped with
present-moment fulfillment.
I know of a grandmother who, each Sunday when she has the
family over for dinner, decides exactly how much each person will
eat by deliberately portioning out plates to her own specifications.
She gives each person two slices of meat