 is soft. 3. Add vinegar, raisins, gingerro ot, cinnamon, salt and allspice. Bring to a
boil, stir ring con stantly and boil for 5 minutes. Stir in pectin an d boil for 1
minute. Remove  from heat and let stand for 10 minutes. Add a lmonds and
stir well. 4. Skim  of f and discard any foa m. Fill hot jars, leaving a 1-inch (2.5 cm)
headspace. Run a thin non-metallic utensil around the inside of the jar to
allow ai r to escape. Slide one whole star anise down the side of the jar so
that it shows through the glass. A dd more hot chutney, if necessary, to leave
a 1/2-in ch (1 cm) headspace. W ipe rims, top with flat lids and screw on
metal rin gs. Ret urn jars to the hot water bath, topping up with hot water ifnecessary. Bring  to a full rolling boil and process jars for 20 minutes
( Boiling W ater Method, Step by Step ). 5. Remo ve cann er lid and wait 5 minutes before removing jars t o a towel or
rack to cool com pletely. Check seals, label and store in a cool place for up
to 1 year. Use: The tangy citrus and sweet spices perk up the milder peach flavour
of this savoury condiment and  extend its use from fish and chicken to
pork an d beef. Combine up to 1  cup (250 mL) of this chutney w ith ground
beef or chicken and cooked noodles for a quick pasta dish. s w e e t - s o u r  s a u c e
One of the gr eat  r ewar ds of pick ling and canning is that you always have a
stock of  flavour ed vinegar and sauces on hand for quick and flavourful
glazes a nd othe r finishing touches. I save all of the spiced vin egar brines
and strained sauces fr om the pr eserves I’ve opened and substi tute them in
r ecipes t hat call for vinegar or liquid—soup stock, stews, casse r oles, salad
dr essings, vinaigr ette. MAKES 1/2 CUP (125 mL)
1/2 cup (125 mL) pickle brine, strained liquid or chutney (for example,
strain the sauce fr om Peach and Onion Chutney, left)
2 tbsp (25 mL) soy sauce
2 tbsp (25 mL) cornstar ch
1 tsp (5 mL) W or cestershir e sauce

1. In a j ar with a tight-fitting lid, combine brine, soy sauce, cor nstarch and
W orcestershire sauce. Shake we ll and add to cooked stir -fry ingredients in
wok or pan. Stir and cook over m edium-high heat for 3 to 5 minutes or until
sauce is thickened.For a tangy dipping sauce, combine sweet-sour sauce ingredients and pour into cast-iron skillet. Heat
over grill, stirring occasionally, until thickened. p e a c h  c h u t n e y  f i s h  c a k e s
Make these flavourful fish cakes  as spicy as you like by adding 1 tsp (5 mL)
Dijon m ustar d or horseradish or hot sauce, or even chopped hot chile
pepper t o your desir ed heat level. For convenience, you can make the cakes
a day in advance. Panko is  the name for Japanese  br ead crumbs. I like to use pan ko for these
fish cake s becau se the crumbs ar e light, very dry and lar ger t han r egular
br ead cr umbs. T her e is sugar a dded to panko crumbs, which i s why foods
coated in them b r own and crisp so nicely. Panko gives a crunchy coating to
fried or baked fish cakes, but you can use dried br ead crumbs if you cannot
find panko. If you pr efer, br oil these cakes in the oven on a lightly oiled
rimmed baking sheet until br own and crisp on both sides, about 3 minutes
per side. Some su mmer herbs you can use ar e parsley, savory, marjoram, thyme or
sage.MAKES 4 SER VINGS
1/2 cup (125 mL) pr epar ed mayonnaise
3 tbsp (45 mL) Peach and Onion Chutney, drained
1 tbsp (15 mL) chopped fr esh summer herbs
1 lb (500 g) fr esh or fr ozen (thawed) whitefish, cod or per ch
1/2 cup (125 mL) milk
2 bay leaves
3 cups (750 mL) r oughly cubed potatoes
1/2 tsp (2 mL) salt
1 tbsp (15 mL) chopped fr esh chives or onion
sea salt and fr eshly gr ound pepper
1 cup (250 mL) panko or dry br ead crumbs all-purpose flour
1 egg
1/4 cup (50 mL) olive or sunflower oil, for frying

1. In  a bowl, co mbine mayonna ise, chutney and herbs. Cover a nd set aside
in the refrigerator. 2. In a skillet, lay out the fish  so that it fits the pan, cutting in half if
necessary. Add milk, bay leaves  and enough water to cover the fish (about
1/2 c up/125 mL). Cover and bring to a boil over medium-high h eat. Reduce
heat and  simme r gently, covered, for 4 minutes. Remove from heat and let
stand for 10 min utes. Using tongs or a slotted spoon, lift out of milk and let
cool in a colander over a sink. 3. Mean while, in  a saucepan, cover potatoes with water. Add 1/2 tsp (2 mL)
salt. Bring to a  boil over high  heat and simmer for 10 minutes or until
tender b ut not soft and broken up. Drain well and tip back into the hot
saucepan to dry over the still -hot element or over low hea t, watching
carefully. Using a potato masher or fork, mash the potatoes. Add 1 tbsp (15
mL) of the mayonnaise-chutney sauce and chives. Mix well, taste and add a
few grinds of salt and pepper to taste.4. Pat the fish dry and, using a fork or your hands, break it into lar ge flakes
into the potato mixture. Using your hands, gently mix together the fish and
potatoes, being careful to keep the fish in lar ge flakes. Add more
mayonnaise-chutney mixture by the tablespoon (15 mL), only if required. T aste and add salt and pepper as required. 5. O n a sheet of  waxed paper, spread out panko. Lightly flour another sheet
of w axed paper. In a pie plate or shallow dish, beat egg. Div ide the fish
cake mixture into 4 equal portions. On the floured paper and using floured
hands, gently shape 4 cakes, ea ch about 3/4 to 1 inch (2 to 2.5 cm) thick. Use a wide metal lifter to move cakes; do not try to pick them up with your
hands. W orking with one fish ca ke at a time, set each in the egg and brush
over top and sid es. T ransfer to t he panko and pat crumbs on top and sides. T ransfer to a wa xed paper–lined  plate; cover and refrigerate fo r at least 30
minutes or overnight. 6. In a skillet, heat the oil over high heat. Reduce heat to medium; add
chilled f ish cake s, 1 or 2 at a time, and fry for about 4 minutes or until crisp
and gold en on the bottom. T urn once and fry for another 4 minutes. Serve
with remaining mayonnaise-chutney sauce. h o n e y e d  p e a c h  f r e e z e r  s a l s a
I wanted a r eal fruit salsa that was as close to a traditional southwestern
salsa as  possible. These zippy vegetable or fruit mixtur es con sist of little
mor e than diced fruit, lime juice, chile peppers and herbs (definitely no
thickener added). I also wanted a r eliable mixtur e that could be fr ozen and
thawed and still hold a firm textur e, showing little or no weepin g or watery
sauce. W as I asking for the moon? Appar ently I was—until I decided to try
adding a  small amount of fr eeze r jam pectin. This version is the r esult of a
few trial s. It’ s close to an authentic fruit salsa: it’ s ar omatic, th anks to the
cantaloupe, and fruity and saucy all at the same time. Even though most
salsas ar e thick only with fruit or vegetables, not sauce, I like thecohesiveness of the mixtur e, and yet it


 in the past. And every time you
use one of these four sentences you are really saying, “And I intend
to continue being the way I’ve always been. ”
You can begin to unknot the ropes that link you to your past and
eliminate the fruitless sentences which are spoken to keep you just
as you’ve always been. Here is a typical list of “I’ms” that may be included in your own
self-portrait
I’m Fat I’m a Lousy Cook I’m Shy
“Not Musical “a Poor Speller “Lazy
“Not Athletic “Tired Easily “Timid
“Sloppy “Sickly “Afraid
“Stubborn “Gauche “Clumsy
“Immature “Accident Prone “Anxious
“Meticulous “Short Fused “Forgetful
“Careless “Hostile “Not Mechanical
“Vindictive “Solemn “Poor at Mathematics
“Irresponsible “Apathetic “A Loner
“Nervous “Bored “Frigid
You are probably in there several times, or perhaps you are con-
juring up your own list. The point is not which labels you choose,
but that you choose to label yourself at all. If you are genuinely sat-
isfied with any of the I’ms, then let them be, but if you can admit to
any of these or other I’ms getting in your way at times, it’s time to
make some changes. Let’s begin with an understanding of the origins
of the I’ms. People want to label you, to pigeonhole you into neat little76 / Your Erroneous Zonescategories. It’s easier that way. D. H. Lawrence saw the folly of this
labeling process in his poem What Is He. *
What is he. —A man, of course. Yes, but what does he do. —He lives and is a man. Oh quite. but he must work. He must have a job of some
sort. —Why. Because obviously he’s not one of the leisured classes. —I don’t know. He has lots of leisure. And he makes quite
beautiful chairs. There you are then. He’s a cabinet maker. —No, no. Anyhow a carpenter and joiner. —Not at all. But you said so. —What did I say. That he made chairs, and was a joiner and carpenter. —I said he made chairs, but I did not say he was a
carpenter. All right then, he’s just an amateur. —Perhaps. Would you say a thrush was a professional
flautist, or just an amateur. I’d say it was just a bird. —And I say he is just a man. All right. You always did quibble. How Those “I’ms” Got Started
The antecedents to your I’ms fall into two categories. The first
kind of labels come from other people. They were pinned
* The Complete Poems of D.<|eot_id|><|begin_of_text|>
Q: What is one way to eliminate self-destructive behaviors, according to the text?,
A: By recognizing and challenging the self-destructive thoughts and behaviors, and making a conscious choice to change.
Q: What is the author suggesting as an alternative to using self-labels to justify avoiding certain activities?,
A: The author suggests that instead of using self-labels, one should take responsibility for their actions and choices.
Q: What is the author's stance on the idea of human nature?,
A: The author does not believe in the concept of human nature, stating that "there is no such thing as human nature."
Q: According to the text, what is one way to eliminate guilt and worry?,
A: The text suggests that one way to eliminate guilt and worry is to recognize that they are not a natural part of human nature, but rather a learned behavior, and to take responsibility for one's choices and actions.
Q: What is the author's message about the concept of "I'm" labels?,
A: The author emphasizes the importance of recognizing and challenging these labels, and reframing them in a more empowering and growth-oriented manner.<|eot_id|><|begin_of_text|>Getting old  (“No one wants to get old, and you can’t kid me,
everyone worries about that one.” “I don’t know what I’ll do when
I retire and I really worry about that.”)
22. Flying  (“You hear about all those plane crashes.”)110 / Your Erroneous Zones23. My daughter’s virginity  (“Every father who loves his daughter
worries that she’ll be hurt, or get into trouble.”)
24. Talking in front of groups  (“I get petrified in front of a crowd
and I worry like crazy before I do it.”)
25. When my spouse doesn’t call  (“It seems normal to me to worry
when you don’t know where some one you love is, or if they’re
in trouble.”)
26. Going into the city  (“Who knows what’ll happen in the jungle. I worry every time I go in.” “I always worry about whether I’ll
get a parking space.”)
And perhaps the most neurotic of all…
27. Having nothing to worry about  (“I can’t just sit still when
everything seems all right, I worry about not knowing what will
happen next.”)
This is the collective worry sheet of people in our culture. You can
give worry points to each of those that seem most applicable to you,
total it up, and no matter what your score, it still adds up to zero. The following paragraph illustrates the extent of worry in our world. It’s taken from a story in Newsday  (May 3, 1975) on hospital malprac-
tice insurance. West Islip—Two officials of the Nassau-Suffolk Hospital
Council warned yesterday that those worrying  about the prob-
lems that the malpractice insurance crisis could create—if doc-
tors cease treating patients entirely or treat only emergency
cases—have not worried  quite enough. Indeed, a call to spend more time worrying about a problem. How
could a story like this even appear? Because the cultural pressure is
to worry, rather than to do. If all of those concerned were to worry
a lot more, perhaps the problem would go away.THE USELESS EMOTIONS—GUILT AND WORRY  / 111In order to eliminate worry it is necessary to understand the why
behind it. If worry is a large part of your life, you can bet that it has
many historical antecedents. But what are the payoffs? They are
similar to the neurotic dividends that you receive for guilt, since
both worry and guilt are self-nullifying behaviors, that vary only in
a temporal sense. Guilt focuses on the past; worry on the future. The Psychological Payoffs for Choosing Worry
• Worry is a present-moment activity. Thus, by using your current
life being immobilized over a future time in your life, you are able
to escape the now and whatever it is in the now that threatens you. For example, I spent the summer of 1974 in Karamursel, Turkey,
teaching and writing a book on counseling. My seven-year-old
daughter was back in the United States with her mother. While I
love writing, I also find it an intensely lonely, difficult chore which
requires a great deal of self-discipline. I would sit down at my
typewriter with paper in place and the margins set, and all of a
sudden my thoughts would be back on little Tracy Lynn. What if
she rides her bicycle into the street and doesn’t look? I hope she’s
being watched at the swimming pool, because she has a tendency
to be careless. Before I knew it, an hour had elapsed, and I had spent
it worrying. This was all in vain of course. But, was it? As long as I
could use up my present moments worrying I didn’t have to struggle
with the difficulty of writing. A terrific payoff indeed. • You can avoid having to take risks by using your worry as the
reason for immobility. How could you possibly act if you are preoc-
cupied with your present-moment worry? “I can’t do a thing, I’m
just too worried about———” This is a common lament, and one
with a payoff that keeps you standing still and avoiding the risk of
action.112 / Your Erroneous Zones• You can label yourself as a caring person  by worrying. Worry
proves that you are a good parent, good spouse, or good whatever. A handsome dividend, although lacking in logical healthy thinking. • Worry is a handy justification for certain self-defeating behavior. If you’re overweight, you undoubtedly eat more when you worry,
hence you have a sensational reason for hanging on to the worry
behavior. Similarly, you find yourself smoking more in worrisome
situations, and can use the worry to avoid giving up smoking. This
same neurotic reward system applies to areas including marriage,
money, health and the like. The worry helps you to avoid changing. It is easier to worry about chest pains than to take the risk of finding
out the truth, and then have to deal forthrightly with yourself. • Your worry keeps you from living. A worrier sits around and
thinks about things, while a doer must be up and about. Worry is a
clever device to keep you inactive, and clearly it is easier, if less re-
warding, to worry, than to be an active, involved person


 of good
dental health. Using the blotting method to poke out food with an ultrasoft tooth brush, or using a
water flosser (oral irrigator) seems to be much better suggestions. If you choose to floss with a string,
then use dental tape.The Fluoride Deception
Fluoride does not heal tooth cavities
. There are different forms of fluoride, and the one put in
drinking water is usually hydrofluosilicic acid. In 1986-1987, a study involving 39,207 children aged
5-17 showed no statistical difference in tooth decay from using non-fluoridated or fluoridated
water. 34
 Several large scale studies worldwide show the same results. 35
 According to data published
in the July 2009
Journal of the American Dental Association
 children’s cavity rates are similar
whether the water is fluoridated or not. 36
Fluoride is dangerous
. Most of the fluoride used in water supplies is toxic waste from the fertilizer
industry. 37
 The Environmental Protection Agency's Employee Union (consisting of approximately
1500 scientists, lawyers, engineers and other professional employees) is opposed to water
fluoridation. The EPA Union states:
Scientific literature documents the increasingly out-of-control exposures to fluoride, the lack of
benefit to dental health from ingestion of fluoride and the hazards to human health from such
ingestion. 38
Fluoride is an enzyme and hormone inhibitor, affecting the nervous system as well as digestion. Fluoride is the major cause of brittle bones and teeth, and is responsible for causing mottled enamel,
producing white, light gray or brown spots on the teeth. Fluoride actually alters the natural biological
creation of tooth enamel and creates false, more brittle tooth enamel (which now contains
fluorapatite). This false enamel is no better at preventing tooth decay than regular tooth enamel in the
long term. A stronger barrier to bacteria is not what keeps tooth decay at bay, but rather a balanced
internal body chemistry from good food habits. Fluoride may cause brain and kidney damage, a decrease in I.Q., and may cross the placental barrier
in pregnant women. Water fluoridation has also been linked to cancer. In 1977 Dr. Dean Burk, former
chief chemist of the US National Cancer Institute, and Dr. John Yiamouyiannis, president of the Safe
Water Foundation proved that water fluoridation increased the risk of cancer. Their studies
concluded that:
One-tenth of the 350,000 cancer deaths per year in the U.S. are linked with artificial public water
fluoridation. 39
The U.S. Congress called for animal studies to confirm these results and the studies were released in
1990. The studies showed clear evidence that fluoride does cause cancer. 40
A majority of Europe does not use water fluoridation and neither should we. Countries that rejected
fluoridation on the grounds that its use is unethical and that it imposes unnecessary health risks
include: Austria, Belgium, Denmark, Finland, France, Germany, Holland, Hungary, Italy, Iceland,
Luxembourg, Netherlands, Norway, Sweden and Yugoslavia. Nature has given us the map for perfect tooth enamel, impervious to tooth decay. We can maintain a
high immunity to tooth decay without fluoride, provided we obey Nature's laws, eat a proper diet richin calcium, phosphorus, and the fat-soluble vitamins, and avoid overly processed nutrient-devoid
foods. Synthetically derived fluoride cannot replace or reproduce the total harmony of Nature's
design. I do not recommend that you drink fluoridated water or use fluoridated toothpaste. Do not submit to
dental treatments that contain fluoride. Because of fluoride’s damaging effects on the glandular
system, it is possible to get weak enamel from fluoride, so check with your local water board to find
out if your water supply is fluoridated. If it is, then you need to purchase a special fluoride filter or
have fluoride free water delivered to you. Placing fluoride in toothpaste and into our water supply is a crime. It is unethical because fluoride
has never been proven safe and effective. In fact, the opposite has been proven to be true. I urge you
to support efforts to eradicate fluoride use in the United States. Please visit the Fluoride Action
Network,
fluoridealert.org
, and The Fluoride Education Project,
poisonfluoride.com/pfpc
. Tooth Decay is Not an Infectious Disease
I have shown how it is now scientifically proven that bacteria are not the main cause of cavities by
the life’s work of dentist Ralph Steinman in explaining the dentinal fluid transport mechanism. When
dentist Percy Howe tried to inoculate bacteria into guinea pigs to cause tooth decay or gum disease,
he could not. He could only cause cavities with a change in diet. The bacterial theory of cavities is
justified through the assertion that tooth decay is an infectious disease. This infectious disease theory
is false for several reasons:

1
. Antibiotics that kill bacteria do not stop tooth decay. 2
. People do not develop antibodies to tooth decay. 3
. Antibacterial mouth rinses do not effectively prevent cavities. 4
. Once you are infected with tooth decay you do not develop immunity to it unless your diet is
dramatically improved. Bacteria exist symbiotically in our mouths at all times and evolve and change as our health does. Hence, no antibacterial remedy will ever cure tooth decay.Moving Beyond Painful Dentistry
The truth remains that a significant majority of dental treatments are unnecessary when diet is changed
and teeth remineralize as they are biologically designed to do. The big question that remains
unanswered is why haven’t we been told the truth about our teeth from modern dentistry? Weston
Price's research with indigenous diets was published many decades ago in the
Journal of the
American Dental Association
, so his treatment successes and research findings were widely
available. In this chapter we have looked at the high price we have paid for modern dentistry. Modern dentistry
is an unequivocal failure. Treatments from conventional dentists are highly toxic and usually disease-
promoting such as fluoride, mercury fillings, leaky root canals and metal tooth fillings. Holistic and
biological dentists offer more natural, less toxic alternatives to modern dentistry. This is a huge
improvement, but few of them offer the real cure, which is found through diet and the balancing of
body chemistry. I am not trying to destroy the dental profession. The dental profession is destructive, and is destroying
itself. What I ask of the dental profession is for it to change and evolve. The future of dentistry lies in
disease prevention through proper nutrition and body chemistry balancing, along with minimally
invasive methods to correct dental arch problems and bite problems. Imagine being able to find a
cavity before it happens, and then remineralize it with nutritional intervention? We have the ability
and the technology to do this today; we simply lack the desire, care, willingness, and legal framework
to provide this level of treatment to the public. This would be real dentistry: finding and preventing
cavities completely organically before tooth enamel was lost, and before tooth infections occurred. Dentists could still earn very decent livings by analyzing blood chemistry, examining teeth, offering
nutritional consulting, and repairing bite imbalances non-surgically. As long as a dentist’s income is
tied to performing invasive treatments, where more severe treatments mean greater profit, the current
state of modern dentistry will remain a rotten profession. Making dentistry work for all of us means changing the rules of the profession. The dentist of the
future will not be focused on performing complex tooth surgery. This will be a specialty field. All a
preventative dentist would need to know is how to check for cavities and how to help people
intervene with their diet using the most modern and scientifically proven methods (such as fermented
cod liver oil) and they will cure a large portion of people’s cavities before they even happen. Imagine seeing a DPD, a doctor of preventative dentistry, or a DDH, a doctor of dental health, who
would help you keep your teeth healthy and strong naturally with diet, supplements, herbs and
homeopathy. A large percentage of our population is suffering from poor health, physical stress, and a loss of
vitality from bite disorders. There is a vast and largely untapped market for holistic methods to return
the upper and lower jaw to their harmonious state and bring balance to the facial structures while
healing head, neck and jaw pain. This will make people happier, more relaxed, and more resistant to
disease. The problem with modern dentistry is that to become a licensed dentist, you must spend most of your
schooling learning how to perform dental surgery. Yet what really matters in this new school of trulyholistic dentistry that I propose in this book is preventing tooth decay and repairing the bite with non-
surgical and holistic methods. Yet these methods are not currently being taught to dentists in dental
school. The training in dental school does not give dentists the foundation needed to be effective
nutrition counselors and efficient bite repairers. Furthermore there needs to be more of an integrative
care model which emphasizes the health of the entire body so that the art and science of dentistry can
complement and work synergistically with all the other health professions. There is no longer any reason for the population at large to be afflicted with tooth decay (dental
caries). Join me now in vo


paired	electron	aggressively	seeks	a
mate,	trying	to	“grab”	an	electron	from	something	else,	perhaps	a	molecule	that
is	performing	an	important	job	in	one	of	your	cell	membranes. Once	the	electron
is	grabbed,	that	molecule	can	no	longer	perform	its	job	properly;	furthermore,
the	molecule	now	becomes	a	free	radical	itself,	aggressively	seeking	its	own
electron	mate. The	subsequent	chain	reaction	can	result	in	serious	cellular
damage	commonly	associated	with	aging	and	disease,	unless	the	body’s	tissues
are	rich	with	antioxidants	that	can	stop	hazardous	chain	reactions	as	soon	as	they
begin. Free	radicals	are	naturally	produced	as	we	metabolize	oxygen. Free-radical
chain	reactions	are	constantly	being	produced	and	stopped	inside	your	body. Cells	were	designed	to	cope	with	these	reactions,	but	not	of	the	magnitude	that	is
present	today. For	example,	chlorine,	a	highly	oxidizing	gas	put	in	municipal	tap
water,	can	easily	damage	our	skin	and	lungs. Taking	a	shower	in	chlorinated
water	is	like	stepping	into	a	chlorine	gas	chamber—a	health	hazard	of	which
most	people	are	totally	unaware. We	can	make	choices	to	protect	our	cells,	but
first	we	need	to	know	the	source	of	the	damage. Today,	we	expose	ourselves	to	free-radical	damage	from	chemicals	to	which
our	biological	ancestors	were	never	exposed. Our	modern	environment	is	filled
with	substances	that	cause	free	radicals	to	form,	such	as	ozone,	chlorine,
pesticides,	tobacco	smoke,	petroleum	byproducts,	synthetic	perfume	and	many
others. We	need	more	antioxidant	protection	than	ever,	because	we	are	exposed
to	so	many	more	free	radicals. The	problem	is	that	the	need	for	antioxidant
nutrients	is	up	while	the	supply	in	our	diet	is	down. To	avoid	the	weak	and	rusty	body—to	slow	the	aging	process	and	keep
disease	at	bay—the	sensible	solution	is	to	stop	the	free-radical	damage. The
necessities	are	simple:	a	diet	rich	in	antioxidant	nutrients	along	with	antioxidant
supplements,	and	clean	food,	water	and	air. None	of	these	ideas	are	new,	but
what	people	don’t	understand	is	why	they	are	important. If	you	allow	free
radicals	to	damage	your	cells—to	allow	them	to	become	weak	and	rusty—your
body	ages	faster	and	becomes	vulnerable	to	disease. Salt	Is	Often	at	Fault
To	be	healthy,	the	nutrients	in	cells	must	be	in	proper	balance. Upsetting	the
natural	balance	of	chemicals	inside	a	cell	causes	the	cell	to	malfunction,	which	is
what	is	happening	to	the	balance	of	sodium	and	potassium	in	our	cells. Over	the
past	one	hundred	years,	our	diets	have	changed	dramatically,	increasing	the
amount	of	sodium	and	decreasing	the	amount	of	potassium	in	our	diet,	thus
reversing	the	natural	balance. Modern	food	manufacturers	add	lots	of	salt
(sodium	chloride)	to	their	products,	while	modern	diets	do	not	include	enough
potassium-rich	foods	such	as	fresh	fruits,	vegetables,	whole	grains	and	legumes. When	our	genes	were	evolving,	human	diets	contained	little	sodium	and	a	lot	of
potassium. For	example,	eating	an	apple	provides	only	1	mg	of	sodium,	but	310
mg	of	potassium. Eating	a	piece	of	modern	apple	pie	provides	110	mg	of	sodium
and	only	80	mg	of	potassium,	a	drastic	change. Salt-rich	diets	force	excess	sodium	into	cells,	disturbing	the	normal	and
healthy	sodium/potassium	balance. Among	other	problems,	excess	sodium
interferes	with	cellular	energy	production,	causing	fatigue. Sodium	attaches
itself	strongly	to	water	molecules,	so	when	more	sodium	goes	into	the	cells,	so
does	more	water. Water	retention	elevates	blood	pressure	and	causes	weight
gain. Dietary	salt	contributes	to	an	increased	incidence	of	cancer	and	metastasis,
cardiac	disease,	stroke,	kidney	disease,	bronchial	problems	and	kidney	stones. By	avoiding	processed	and	packaged	foods,	most	of	our	excess	dietary	sodium
can	be	eliminated. An	Important	Litmus	Test
Healthy	cells	must	have	the	correct	pH. In	addition	to	the	dangerous
imbalance	of	sodium	and	potassium,	our	modern	lifestyles	and	diets	have
detrimental	effects	on	another	critical	balance:	the	pH	of	our	cells. Commercials
commonly	tout	“pH	balanced”	shampoos	for	our	hair,	and	most	of	us	remember
the	litmus	paper	tests	from	our	chemistry	sets	or	grade-school	experiments—
those	tiny	sheets	of	paper	that	turn	pink	or	blue	based	on	pH. Cells	must
maintain	proper	pH	balance,	and	our	food	choices	affect	that	balance. The	pH	is	a	measurement	of	acidity	or	alkalinity. On	the	pH	scale,	7	is
neutral;	0	to	7	is	acidic,	and	7	to	14	is	alkaline. The	normal	pH	inside	of	a	cell	is
about	7. 4,	which	is	slightly	alkaline. Maintaining	normal	pH	in	the	fluid	inside
the	cell	as	well	as	in	other	body	fluids	is	critical	for	keeping	body	systems
functioning	normally. Most	of	the	chemical	reactions	in	the	body,	including	the
production	of	energy,	occur	most	efficiently	in	an	alkaline	environment. The
enzymes	involved	in	these	reactions	are	pH	sensitive	and	only	function	within	anarrow	pH	range;	pH	level	affects	other	vital	operations,	such	as	the	transport	of
substances	through	cell	membranes. You	can	monitor	your	acid/alkaline	levels
by	using	pH	paper	(see	appendix	C). Modern	diets	often	cause	cellular	pH	to	drop	below	7. 0,	into	the	acidic	range. (Cells	also	can	become	too	alkaline,	but	excessive	acidity	is	most	common. ) A
cell	that	becomes	too	acidic	is	said	to	have	intracellular	acidosis. Acidosis,	an
extremely	serious	condition,	is	one	of	the	common	factors	present	in	many
manifestations	of	disease. The	more	acidic	a	cell	becomes,	the	more	impaired	its
function. At	very	high	acidic	levels,	the	cell	will	die. Herman	Aihara,	author	of
Acid	and	Alkaline,
says	that	“one	of	the	important	causes	of	cancer—	and	other
degenerative	diseases—is	the	cumulative	effect	of	the	acidic	condition	of	body
fluid. ”
How	do	cells	become	too	acidic. Different	foods	have	different	effects	on	our
pH. Ideally,	we	should	consume	only	foods	that	maintain	proper	cellular	pH. Instead,	we	consume	a	diet	high	in	foods	that	have	an	acidic	effect,	such	as
sugar,	soft	drinks,	white	flour	(pasta	and	bread),	excessive	protein	and	salt. Consumption	of	these	foods,	which	deplete	the	body	of	alkaline	materials,	has
skyrocketed	over	the	past	few	generations. Because	acidosis	is	such	a	threat,	the	body	tries	to	prevent	it	by	using	its	own
alkaline	minerals	(such	as	calcium	and	magnesium)	leached	from	the	bones	and
teeth,	leading	to	dental	problems	and


 calories to come from carbohydrates. That figures to be about 399 grams of pure carbohydrate. The DRI for the aggregate amount of mineral matter and 47
Fruiticulturevitamins figure out to about 7 grams of solids of the 583 grams of food solids computed
above. The RDAs have us consuming, in practice, the following as a percentage or pro -
portion of our diet:
 •  Carbohydr
ates: 62% by weight of solids, 57% of calories
 •  Proteins: 8% by w
eight of solids, 10% by calories
 •  Fats: 19% by weigh
t of solids, 35% by calories
 •  Mineral matter
: 1% by weight but as a part of the primary nutrients
It should be noted that mineral matter is actually a part of the protein, carbohydrate and fat portions and has no separate consideration in the DRIs by weight. Vitamins consti -
tute such a small part, 1%, as to have neither weight nor caloric considerations. As the calories of prot eins ar
e for measurement only, there being a greater expenditure
of calories in humans in their digestion, deamination and use than is obtained from
them, we may not take them into account in the consideration of caloric requirements. Our Natural Foods Must Adequately Supply Our Caloric NeedsThe DRI for our caloric needs is about 50% too high, considering that our natural foods
in their natural state yield more usable calories than cooked foods. Let’s look at a study by Drs. Alexander Leaf and Mark Hegstead of Harvard University: the
caloric need of an active 154-pound man per day is actually about 1,800 calories. Our essential fatty acid needs are really only about 1% to 2% of our net nutrient needs
by weight according to RDIs, and about 2. 25% to 4. 5% of our caloric needs. Thus, for nutrient considerations, carbohydrate food solids from which we derive calories can be, and perhaps should be, weight-wise, near 90%. As fiber is a neutral factor, being virtually unused in its passage through the intestinal
tract, we need not consider it as a nutrient even though its caloric values are included in conventional figures because it is a firebox calorie. For convenience sake we’ll leave our caloric requirements as being weight-wise and calorie-wise about 90% of our utile diet. It is perhaps an accurate figure for natural food eaters. Our foremost fuel is glucose and fructose. The body can use these as is. If we eat starch -
es we must heat them to dextrinize them, thus facilitating their breakdown into glucose. 48
FruiticultureOur starch-eating capability is very limited, which indicates it is not a natural food. As
glucose and fructose are our natural sugars, there is about 95% energy gain if we get these directly from our foods, whereas an equal amount of energy in raw starches yields perhaps 40% of its potential (humans secrete no enzymes needed to break down the cellular membranes that protect starch globules—all breakdown is due to crushing and chewing), as long as our limited secretion of the starch-splitting enzyme amylase holds out. When heated to the point of dextrinization of the starch, the cellular membranes burst by expansion. Even so, because of the problems involved with cooked fare, the body can realize only 65% to 70% of the energy potential of starchy foods. Our Natural Foods Must Adequately Supply Our Amino Acid NeedsNote that I have said amino acids because our actual needs are for amino acids, not pro -
teins. If we eat proteins, they must be laboriously digested, that is, broken down by body
enzymatic action in t
o amino acids. Per Dr. Mark Hegstead of Harvard University, the true need for amino acids by an 154-pound (70 kg) man is about 21 grams per day, or 84 calories. Very active people will need close to 30 grams. The FNB’s protein numbers for a 154-pound man are high: 46. 2 grams. The FNB’s are so high because they agree with Dr. Hegstead’s numbers; however, they almost double them to give a safety margin. Beware: when you’ve got your build -
ing built, throwing extra bricks into it may mess things up. Any amount of cooked pro -
tein will cause your body-temple structural weakness and reduced vitality. Twent y
-one grams of amino proteins in a diet consisting of about 500 grams of usable
nutrient solids required daily is about 4%. In our natural diet the amino acids are about
100% usable whereas in the conventional American diet they are only about 20% us -
able. The average American consumes about 105 grams of protein daily, but mostly in a cooked form. C ook
ing coagulates, deranges and deaminates proteins and amino ac -
ids, thus rendering them unusable except as carbohydrates. In the cooked and oxidized form they are v er
y readily putrefiable. Ninety percent of amino acid and protein wastes of the body are recycled. This means that proteins involved in body processes are providentially used and reused. It also means that losses through cellular death are largely reclaimed and reused. The overall loss is thus about 10% of the daily usage. It is estimated that the body of the average 49
Fruiticultureman requires about 230 grams of new protein formation daily. If 90% of this is supplied
by recycling spent proteins, then only about 23 grams of new protein need to be con -
sumed. Make it raw amino acids. Our Natural F o
ods Must Supply Our Needs For Mineral Matter
Mineral matter that the human body uses consists of minerals in an organic context,
that is, in a colloidal form within living substance. Heat quickly destroys the organic context, thus returning mineral matter to an inorganic state. Though super fine in con -
sistency, minerals that were in the organic state become, through the agency of heat or dec omposition of their medium, inorganic the same as they occur in soil, r
ocks, ores, etc. In this form they are not utile by the human body except in certain applications. For example, base minerals will alkalinize the intestinal tract even though they cannot be assimilated. Minerals which the body requires become toxic if appropriated in an inorganic context. This is easily demonstrable. Leukocytosis is recognized as a pathological state. This is a proliferation of white blood cells, the whole of which is often referred to as our im -
mune system. If the components of a cooked or heat-deranged meal are taken, leu -
kocytosis results. If only inorganic minerals are ingested, leukocytosis likewise results. Leukocytosis is a body def ensiv
e act wherein the body unleashes huge armies of white
blood cells to apprehend and carry toxic substances to the nearest exit or put them harmlessly under the rug somewhere. Thus the body must have, according to the RDIs, about 1% of its solid food intake as
minerals. To be usable these minerals must be in an un-deranged organic state. Our Natural Foods Must Supply Our Needs For Fatty AcidsThere was, at one time, proclaimed to be three essential fatty acids, namely arachidonic,
linoleic and linolenic. Today only linoleic is said by nutritional researchers to be essen -
tial. Popularly, linolenic fatty acids are referred to as omega-3 while linoleic fatty acids are referr
ed to as omega-6. Essential means that the body has a need of a component or
components, in this case fatty acids, because it cannot itself synthesize them. Our natu -
ral foods must, of course, contain our needs for essential fatty acids, because the body never found it necessar y t
o develop faculties to produce them or they were so plentiful
in the food the body ceased to produce them and lost its ability to do so as it did with 50
Fruiticulturevitamin C and certain amino acids recognized as essential. Our Natural Vibrant Foods Must Supply Our Needs For VitaminsWhile vitamins comprise such a small portion of our total dietary need that all the RDIs
taken together on an annual basis could be put into a sewing thimble, they are, never -
theless, essential to our well-being. The RDIs for vitamins vary with each vitamin. Here I will not deal with individual vitamins as separate c omponen
ts. At this time only the ob -
servation need be made that our natural foods must adequately contain these vitamins or g ive rise t o them in absor
bable form while in the intestinal tract. Our Natural Foods Must Supply Our Needs For Miscellaneous Nutrients
The above nutrients are said to be macronutrients though, as can be seen, vitamins are
really micronutrients. Other micronutrients which the body may require are auxones (certain plant hormones). The science of nutrition is yet young. Whether or not there are needed nutrients in foods other than the five categories of solids treated above remains open to question. In any event you can be sure our natural foods are replete with all the nutrients we need
in the quantities we require. After all, our virtual abandonment of our natural dietary fare is only a few seconds on the clock if we regard our earthly existence as being 24 hours thus far. And our natural fare is scientifically established as responsible for our high state of development. Our Natural Foods Should Supply Our Water NeedsInasmuch as humans, like many desert creatures, are not designed with the oral equip -
ment to naturally drink


 Mind
Proper Development
The proper development of the mind requires the cul-
tivation of will and character. This depends upon control
of the senses, which means taking in the right impressions,
and control of emotions, which means separating our emo-
tional reactions from what we actually perceive. Develop-
ment of artistic capacities, creative vision, occult faculties,
or yogic practices involving the chakras are additional aids. Unfortunately, we have every method of sensory indul-
gence today through modem technology and the mass
media, but no one is taught how to control the senses. Control of the senses seldom enters into our educational
system. For this reason our psychological imbalances must
increase. We are always active in life. Our life — from the auto-
matic impulses of the body to the voluntary expressions of
the mind — consists of various actions that follow from
the will. Tme will power is not measured by the ability to
get what we want but by our ability to transcend desire. Desire is not the result of our free choice. It is a compul-
sion that comes to us from the external world, a kind of
hypnosis. When we give ourselves over to the objects of
the senses, they impress the mind, which causes us to want
them and to think that our happiness depends upon them. Desire is will that is colored by imagination. It seeks what
is external and therefore not really ours. Tme will power means that we do what we say and
manifest our deeper aspirations in action.40 Without tme
will power, it is not possible to gain peace, creativity, or
spiritual knowledge. The cultivation of will power gives
energy. Various forms of self-discipline, like any voluntary The Outer Mind: The Field of the Senses
control of the sensory or motor organs, help develop the
will. We can begin to discipline our physical functions
through fasting or exercise. We can do the same with the
mind. We can fast our minds from wrong impressions or
we can exercise them by repeating a mantra or practicing
concentration. Character is the ability to control the outer mind and
not be drawn into action by the inertia of external influ-
ences. Our senses, with the many stimuli that they bring
in, ever draw us into action. If we act out of the senses, we
lose ourselves and come under the control of the external
world. We lose our consistency of character and merely
reflect the sensations of the moment. Development of
character requires integrity, which is our ability to be true
to our conscience and not follow the impulses of the sens-
es. It depends upon controlling the mind, which means
becoming detached from pleasure and pain, and from sen-
sory desires like food or sex. The mind is like a lens that opens narrow or wide. When open wide, it notes many things generally, but lit-
tle specifically. When narrow, it notes a few things in
detail, but misses the whole. The mind can be turned
within, which requires removing our attention from the
field of the senses. We can train the mind so that it can
open or close at will, allowing us to focus on any particu-
lar sensory object or close off from all of them. This
requires control of attention. If we do not train our atten-
tion, the mind will follow the urges of the senses accord-
ing to its conditioning. We will be dominated by external
influences, lose our true self and come under the control of
other people. Unfortunately we are not trained how to control our
minds, but to give our attention away to various forms of 124 Ayurveda and the Mind
stimulation and entertainment. This lack of control of the
mind and senses allows our energy to go outward, in which
it becomes dissipated and fragmented, causing physical
and psychological disease. Proper care and usage of the
mind, therefore, is essential for our well-being. 9. Ego and Self:
The Quest For Identity
Who Are We? Who are we? What is the self behind the mind? Senso-
ry impressions rely on our sensory instruments — the eyes,
ears and other sense organs. Similarly, emotions and
thoughts rely upon our mental instrumentality — the
mind. Thought itself is an instrument of knowing. Such
instruments require a subject who operates them, just as a
microscope or telescope depend upon someone who uses
them. The field of thought is a medium through which
our subjectivity works. Behind all three layers of con-
sciousness, intelligence, and mind, there is a sense of self
that determines their action. All thought rests upon the
thought of self. All of our thoughts refer back to our own identity. All
that we do depends upon who we understand ourselves to
be. The key to understanding the mind and how it works
is to know ourselves. However, who we are is much deep-
er than what we think, or what society tells us we are. Just
as most of our potential consciousness is unknown to us, so
most of our potential self-identity, which ultimately
includes the entire universe, is not known to us. This igno-
rance of our true Self is the basis of all our problems in life,
whether psychological or spiritual. As we examine the
mind and how it works, we are led to the deeper issue of
the self and who we are. 126 Ayurveda and the Mind
Ego — the Separate Self
What human problem can we not easily solve if no
one's ego is involved? Ego is the root of all our social and
personal problems. Yet what is the ego and how can we
deal with it? Is egoism an inevitable part of human nature
that cannot be changed, or is there a way to transcend it? Ayurveda tells us that, however deep-seated the ego may
be, it is not our true nature. We can go beyond the ego and
all its sorrow and conflict. Ego is called Ahamkara in Sanskrit, which means the
"I-process." Ego is a process of self-identification in which
we associate our inner being with some outer object or
quality. Through it we determine "I am this" or "this is
mine." Ego creates the self-image or "I-am-the-body-idea"
and results in the sense of separate self. Through it we
become isolated and feel different from the world and crea-
tures around us. Ego is the function of consciousness to
identify itself with an object, through which we feel our-
selves one with a particular body. Only what we have iden-
tified as ourselves or as belonging to us, like our family
and friends, can we feel deeply about and really bring into
our consciousness. Ego is quite different from our true Self (Atman),
which is the pure I am or I-am-that-I-am, the I-in-itself
devoid of objectivity. Our true Self stands above all men-
tal and physical forms and conditions, and is ever
detached, free and aware. The ego arises from the "1-
thought" that stands behind all other thoughts?1 Whatev-
er thought we have, we must first have the thought of I or
self for it to exist. Ego introduces the principle of division,
through which consciousness is fragmented and strife
becomes possible. It keeps the subjective aspect of our
being (self) trapped in some objective form or quality, var- Ego and Self 127
ious bodily sensations or mental states in which there is
change and sorrow. Ego is the primary function of consciousness directed
externally. It brings about the entire outward development
of consciousness through the mind and body, which are all
fragmentations in the field of awareness. Ego affects all the
functions of the mind. Everything we do is based upon the
self and its motivations. Ego pervades all levels of con-
sciousness and all the bodies of the soul, which require a
self-sense for their function. Normally we only know the
physical or waking ego, but subtler levels of our nature
have their respective egos that allow for their various activ-
ities. The ego concept arises from the atomic nature of the
mind. Because we can only focus on one point at a time,
we develop the idea of ourselves as a separate center in time
and space. By its point-like nature, ego creates a narrow
focus or bias, a central blind spot that distorts our vision. Because of this self-sense, all humans have an inherent feel-
ing of pride. We like to think that we or what we identify
with — our religion, country, race, class, or family — is
the best or the only valid one. This process of pride causes
us to look down on others and creates conflict. Ego and the Functions of the Mind
Ego arises from a failure of intelligence (Buddhi). It is
a misjudgment or error in our perceptual process. The
most important function of intelligence is to ascertain the
nature of the self. Self-determination is the most primary
of all determinations. First we must know who we are
before we can know what the world is or what we should
do. Ego arises when we fail to discern our true Self, which
is pure awareness, and mistake it for the body, which is no
more than an object. 128 Ayurveda and the Mind
However, once intelligence makes the mistake of the
ego, the ego distorts intelligence, which then serves to
rationalize


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and the mind field ener gy changes. Gradually I watch that dif ference in
energy af fect the other and enjoy the change within myself. My wife,
Marcelene, is a master at this. I have had the exquisite experience of being in the delivery room with my
wife as she gave birth on many occasions. She knows that she is entering a
space that is dominated by stressful and fearful thoughts so she prepares
herself with her thoughts prior to even entering such a space. She radiates
her thoughts of love, joy, and gratitude for being able to participate in the
mystery of creating and delivering life. She surrenders to the mystery, with
no fear, only a knowing and inner determination to be peaceful during this
wondrous event. Such is her mind-set and consequently her mind field as
well. I am with her and available but I am actually quite useless. She
projects her inner peace, and calm determination to do what “women have
been doing forever,” as she describes it. The presence of her thoughts brings
a sense of calm and peace to the other women in labor, the nurses, and even
the trained delivery personnel. Marcelene is writing her own book on giving birth with full participation in
the sacred mystery through mind field ener gy. She is an incredibly
impressive example of entering the mysterious sacredness of birthing
through mind field ener gy. Marcelene has delivered seven babies without
any drugs, each time creating the kind of ener gy I describe here. Moreover,
she is now a doula, a woman who assists others with their own high ener gy
in delivering their babies in an atmosphere where fear and anxiety arereplaced with a calm, loving feeling of thankfulness for being able to
participate in such a miracle. This mind field exists and you are capable of not only keeping yours
uncontaminated, but of being a force for raising the frequency of others in
your presence. Raising those frequencies is the subject of the next chapter. For now, see if you can accept this idea of a mind field of ener gy composed
of your thoughts and the thoughts of those around you. The closer you
come to being in a dynamic state of grace in your thoughts, and refusing to
be in the fields of those who are projecting lower ener gy thoughts of fear,
stress, evil, anxiety, depression, and the like, the closer you come to being
in God’ s mind field. Here is how Meister Eckhart phrased it. Nature’ s intent is neither food, nor drink,
Nor clothing, nor comfort, nor anything
Else in which God is left out. Whether
You like it or not, whether you know it
Or not, secretly nature seeks, hunts,
Tries to ferret out the track on
Which God may be found. I love this idea, finding the track on which God may be found. This is the
energy field I am asking you to consider. It is devoid of the lower ener gies
that contaminate our lives and saddle us with illusions that we call
problems. Since I opened this chapter with an observation of W illiam Butler Y eats, let
me close with another one of his poetic observations. VACILLATION (IV)

My fiftieth year had come and gone,
I sat, a solitary man,
In a crowded London shop,
An open book and empty cup
On the marble table-top. While on the shop and street I gazed
My body of a sudden blazed;
And twenty minutes more or less
It seemed, so great my happiness,
That I was blessed and could bless. When you refuse to allow your ener gy fields to become contaminated, you
feel blessed, and you know you can bless others as well. That is what a field
of high ener gy truly is, one that exchanges feelings of being  blessed with
giving  blessings. I invite you to spend some time in your thoughts,
imagining having this for yourself. What follows in chapter six are some dynamic principles to internalize for
living in these faster ener gy frequencies. OceanofPDF. com6
RAISING AND
MAINT AINING YOUR
SPIRITUAL ENERGY
But I do not believe that man can perceive his “God-Like” qualities until his field reaches higher
and higher vibrations and attains a greater degree of coherency. No matter how hard we try to receive spiritual guidance, we cannot until our fields are attuned
to that vibrational system. —DR. VALERIE HUNT
Johann W olfgang von Goethe, a creative genius of the early nineteenth
century, made this observation: “If you treat man as he appears to be, you
make him more than he is. But if you treat man as if he already were what
he potentially could be, you make him what he should be. ” His advice is
pertinent in today’ s world and specifically insightful about raising your
spiritual ener gy if you apply this wisdom to the way you treat yourself. First, who do you appear to be. Y our conditioning, your history, and your
senses provide you with a multitude of answers. Y ou appear to be a person
with a body, which has certain obvious limitations. Y ou appear to be of a
particular ethnicity, a certain age, with a background that has led you to this
point in your life. Go and look into a mirror to see what appears to be you. Now go beyond those appearances and look deeply into your eyes and see
yourself as a spiritual being having a human experience. Imagine what you
potentially could be, if you were unrestricted by all those appearances. Beneath or within what you appear to be is the image of magnificence and
unlimited joy that you truly are and that I ask you to consider as you read
about these principles. What you potentially can be is the basis for forming
a spiritual ener gy field. This is the foundation from which spiritual ener gy
arises for the resolution of problems. I enjoy Shakespeare’ s description:
“You are full of heavenly stuf f and bear the inventory of your best graces in
your mind. ”
Just let this idea rest in you: you were made to prosper and you are going to
choose to identify yourself from this potentiality, rather than as you appear
to be to others and to yourself. Recognizing yourself as a child of the most
high, as a divine presence, will facilitate raising and maintaining that
higher, faster spiritual ener gy field. And it is from this new ener gy field that
you will bring the sparks of the divinity that nullify and eradicate those
problems in your life. In the remainder of this chapter I will describe a
series of principles to help you implement this idea. RAISING YOUR ENERGY VIBRA TIONS
The following principles are not of fered in any particular order of
significance. They represent my personal view on how your mind and your
subsequent behavior can move you from the toxic ener gy levels of the
material world into the level of spirit, wherein lies the solution to any and
all problems. All these ideas are presented with the intention of inspiring
you to become conscious of your ability to shift from the lower/slower
energy patterns of the material world to the higher/faster vibrations of the
world of spirit. Practice the Presence of Spirit
Practice awareness of the impossibility of being outside the omnipresent
spirit. Some ways of doing this are to remind yourself when you first
awaken that this is a day that God will be with you at all times. Remind
yourself that everywhere you are is a holy place. Every meal you eat bemindful of what it took for that food to reach your plate. When you make a
phone call, drive in your car, or enter your workplace, begin to have this
God realization. As you practice being mindful of the presence of the divine
invisible spirit you will notice a greater sense of peace, a stronger feeling of
being safe and secure, a knowing that you are healthy and living from an
inner sense of integrity. These feelings result from simply silently
practicing, and I emphasize silently. No preaching and converting others to
think as you do. Simply realize the presence of your source from which you
are never truly separated except in your own mind. Just by being mindful of
the divine presence, you raise your ener gy field vibrations. This is what Dr. Hunt means in the display quote at the beginning of this chapter. You have
to attune to the vibrational ener gy field of God to be able to receive spiritual
guidance. When you find yourself feeling out of sorts, anxious, or afraid, exercise
your mind by inviting the realization of the omnipresence of spirit to be
known, now. Do this in the midst of your fear or anxiety and notice how it
seems to be much less troubling. Some teachers refer to this as practicing
mindfulness. It is a sure way to raise the ener gy field frequencies into
higher realms. Y ou literally provide yourself with a treatment when you
stop to remember and practice the presence of God within and around you. Your Mind Is the Substance of All Matter
Take a look at your hand right now. Would you describe it as intelligent. No, because intelligence is the mind that directs your hand to move to the
right, to grasp, to clutch, to make a fist or wave good-bye. Y our hand
responds to the directives of your mind. Y es, of course, the hand has
intelligence, as does every living cell have a center of intelligence, but that
cell responds to the directives of your mind. Thus your mind is the
substance of the matter that is called your hand. Now


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HC1 and loomg of Pepsin. It should be taken at the beginning of each meal. The capsules usually contain an adult dose. However, I find that children as
young as eight can take this dose without any trouble. To determine the
right dose for your child start from a small pinch of the powder added to
the first spoonfuls of the meal. In two to three days increase to two pinches
and so on. For children from 18 months to 24 months one pinch is usually
enough. For two to three year olds two to three pinches. For four to six year
olds half a capsule is enough. For six and older from half to a full capsule. Children older than 10 and adults may need two capsules at the beginning
of each meal. A lot of parents report great improvement in their child's
stool in just a few days from starting Betaine HC1 with Pepsin. Make sure
that you do not give probiotic to your child together with Betaine HC1 as
the acid is likely to destroy the probiotic bacteria. Give the probiotic first
thing in the morning, between food or after food when the stomach acid is
at its lowest. Apart from supplementing stomach acid there are natural things we can
do to stimulate the body to produce its own stomach acid. Cabbage juice is
one of the strongest stimulants. Having a few spoonfuls of cabbage juice or
a small cabbage salad before the meal will help to digest that meal. Sauerkraut and its juice are even stronger. A small helping of sauerkraut or
a few tablespoons of its juice will prepare the stomach for the arriving food. Having a cup of home-made meat stock with your meal will also help to
increase stomach acidity. With children the easiest thing to do is to give
them a cup of home-made meat stock with a few spoonfuls of sauerkraut
juice or cabbage juice mixed in it. 2. Pancreatic Enzymes
These are the enzymes that people are talking about when they say "diges
tive enzymes". They usually include a mixture of proteases, peptidases,
lipases, amylase, lactase and cellulase, which normally would be breaking
down your food in the small intestine. In a healthy digestive tract most of
these enzymes are produced by the pancreas. If we can restore normal
stomach acidity then this stage in digestion should go without any prob
lem, because the stomach acid would trigger the pancreas to produce its
own enzymes. That is why I consider restoring the stomach acid level far
more important than supplementingparicreatic enzymes. There has been a polemic in autistic circles about supplementing some
peptidases and proteases to replace the diet (meaning the GFCF diet, of
course). The idea was that these enzymes would break down gluten and
casein, so that there would be no need to struggle with implementing the
diet. Not surprisingly this approach did not work for the majority of
people, because enzymes can never replace a diet. The diet, which we
describe in this book is designed to heal the gut and to re-establish normal
gut flora. No enzyme can do that! Generally in my clinical experience I see a lot of improvement from sup
plementing stomach acid. However, I do not see much happening from
supplementing pancreatic enzymes. If the patient feels that they really
help then there is no reason why he or she should not take them, providing
the tablet does not contain fillers or binders which may interfere with the
healing processes in the gut. In my experience the majority of patients do
very well with just supplementing stomach acid, because it will trigger pro
duction of their own pancreatic enzymes through secretin and cholecys
tokinin, as well as triggering bile secretion and many other important
players in the digestive process, making it far more natural. Digestive enzymes do not need to be taken permanently. As the gut
starts healing the person can slowly withdraw the stomach acid supple
mentation and/or pancreatic enzymes, taking them only with heavy meals
or if something not allowed on the diet has been eaten. 5. VITAMIN AND
MINERAL SUPPLEMENTATION
A vitamin is a substance that makes you ill
if you don't eat it. Albert von Szent-Gyorgi (1893-1986)
Hungarian-bom US biochemist
GAPS patients have many nutritional deficiencies, so it is a natural desire
to get rid of them. The question is: how? Is it a matter of simply testing how much magnesium, for example, a
person is missing and then supplementing that amount? Or is it a matter of
taking a supplement "specifically designed" for autism or ADHD or
schizophrenia, using the "one size fits all" approach? Maybe we should just
give megadoses of all the nutrients, which the person is deficient in,
hoping that the body will sort it all out? Many health practitioners turn to testing for nutritional deficiencies. For
every nutrient there are optimal tests, which are considered to give the
most accurate information about that particular nutrient, and there are
less optimal tests, which may be quite misleading. Trying to use the most
optimal test for every nutrient is impractical and can be very expensive. So,
usually one or two tests are performed for all the nutrients at once, which
does not represent the true picture. So, trying to work out a nutritional
supplementation protocol based on these tests is shaky from the start. On top of that, many supplements on the market have a very low
absorption rate, some about 9%, so the amount the patient's body would
actually get can be way below what it says on the bottle. But, of course, the
majority of manufacturers would not tell you on the bottle how low the
absorption rate of their supplement is, even if they knew. So, choosing a
supplement can be quite difficult. Absorption of supplements is a complicated process which, apart from
the quality of the supplement, also depends on the state of the patient's
digestive system. Two different people may absorb different amounts of
nutrients from the same supplement. GAPS digestive system is generally
not in good shape and may not absorb any of those nutrients particularly
well. To complicate the whole matter even further, many nutrients compete
for absorption sites in the gut. So, if we supplement too much calcium, for example, it may impair absorption of other nutrients: magnesium, zinc,
copper, iron, some amino acids and others, creating deficiencies in those
nutrients. Indeed this is a very confusing area of nutrition. The truth is nobody
knows how to prescribe vitamins and minerals because we do not have
enough research or knowledge on this subject. Every nutritionist or medi
cal practitioner has his/her own collection of favourite supplements and
that is what they usually use on most of their patients. lust as with main
stream psychiatry, where drugs are used mostly on a trial-and-error basis,
the same method is used in prescribing vitamin and mineral supplements. Taking vitamin and mineral supplements has become very common not
only because many of us take "health-pills", but because a lot of foods are
fortified with vitamins and minerals to compensate for the loss of those
nutrients in the food processing, not to mention the fact that many foods
are grown using intensive farming techniques, which makes them nutrient
poor from the start. Unfortunately, a lot of these supplemented nutrients
are synthetic. The body has been designed to use natural forms of these
nutrients and often does not recognise the synthetic forms and does not
know what to do with them. There is a growing suspicion that a lot of cases
of kidney stones, for example, are caused by supplementing synthetic
forms of vitamin C, which would represent most vitamin C supplements
available in the shops. There is a highly publicised opinion that in our modem world we cannot
be healthy without taking nutritional supplements, because our diet
cannot provide us with optimal amounts of nutrients. Indeed, if you live on
cereal and toast for breakfast, sandwiches for lunch and a standard dinner
you will not provide your body with optimal amounts of nutrition and you
will have to take supplements. The diet, which is described in this book,
will provide you with concentrated amounts of nutrition in a natural form,
which the body recognises and knows what to do with. luicing will add
more concentrated amounts of vitamins, minerals and other useful sub
stances. A good probiotic on average increases absorption rate of nutrients
from food by 50% or more. On top of that probiotic bacteria are supposed
to be the main source of vitamins B, K, bio tin and many other substances
in the body. Indeed, that is the first group of nutritional deficiencies which
usually disappear when the patient starts taking therapeutic doses of a
strong probiotic. The diet and probiotic will start healing the digestive
system, so the patient will start absorbing the nutrients from the food
properly. Another important point we have to consider when it comes to our GAPS
patients is that their digestive system is inflamed and damaged. A lot of
synthetic supplements, fillers and binders in tablets and capsules will
aggravate and irritate already sensitive GAPS gut lining and interfere with
the healing process. I have seen many patients who put a lot of effort into
implementing the diet, but would not achieve the best results until they
removed most of their supplements. That is why I normally do not recommend any


 they often participate in sports. Professional athletes are likely to have excess adrenaline, as
are people designated as workaholics and type A personalities. These groups generally do not have weight issues. On the other hand, people with excess adrenaline who
are not particularly active—that is, those with creative type
ADHD —may experience increased weight or be constantly
fighting to prevent weight increase. The creative brain requires
much more sugar than a normal brain. If the person is not
eating correctly, the body will continuously put out adrenaline
to raise the sugar level to supply fuel to the brain. As you
might realize by now, the increase in sugar causes an increase
in insulin, which pushes sugar into fat cells, where the sugar is converted into fat. People who put out a lot of adrenaline at night are often
in the unique position of gaining weight even while they are
sleeping. This is in addition to the other characteristics of
elevated nighttime adrenaline, such as tossing and turning,
grinding teeth, restless leg syndrome, and getting up to urinate. ADRENALINE DOMINANCE 48   |

People who put out a lot of adrenaline at night
are often in the unique position of gaining weight
even while they are sleeping. I suspect there is an unrecognized epidemic of ADHD —in
particular, creative type ADHD —in which excess adrenaline
is significantly raising the incidence of obesity in people of
all ages. Addressing these people’s weight issues from the
standpoint of adrenaline could not only improve their weight
but also help them to focus better. Not only does excess adrenaline by itself contribute to
weight gain, it also stimulates the release of cortisol and possibly
also glucagon. So now there are two or three hormones raising
the sugar level, stimulating insulin release, and creating fat. On the other hand, excess adrenaline can also reduce a
person’s appetite. This is often what’s happening with people
who regularly skip breakfast: they release so much adrenaline
during the night that they don’t want to eat in the morning. They can end up essentially living on adrenaline through the persistent cyclical release of sugar and insulin it precipitates. Excess adrenaline can also create a craving to drink alcohol in
order to relax—another potential cause of weight gain. In addition, medications prescribed for medical conditions
caused by excess adrenaline can encourage increased weight. Both the antidepressants given to people with anger issues
or depression and the beta-blockers frequently prescribed for
people with hypertension or palpitations can cause weight
gain. The drugs that type II diabetics are frequently given to raise the insulin level also create fat. |   49 ExCESS  ADRENALINE: THE  BAD
I would be remiss if I did not also mention how our
healthcare system contributes to the current epidemic of
obesity. Even though obesity is now considered a disease,
many doctors still consider it an eating problem and ignore the
possibility that there are underlying metabolic issues. I have seen
countless patients who had gone from doctor to doctor looking
for answers, and were given the same advice by them all: eat less. It is important for the healthcare practitioner to sit down
and talk to the obese patient. The practitioner needs to look
and listen for clues indicating hormones out of balance—excess
adrenaline, insulin, cortisol, or estrogen, or a low-functioning
thyroid. What drugs is the person taking. What are the person’s
eating and drinking habits and activity level. One of my patients—a classic if somewhat extreme case
of creative type ADHD —weighed 420 pounds when he first
came to see me. The amount of adrenaline required to cause
that amount of weight gain also provoked other problems, such
as alcoholism and fibromyalgia. This man’s previous doctors had accused him of eating too much, even though he assured
them he wasn’t. If they had been listening to him, the fact
that he was not a big eater would have been the first clue that he had a hormone problem, not an eating problem. This patient presented as a textbook case of imbalanced
hormones in terms of both his history and his appearance. Not only was his body pouring out insulin, cortisol, and adrenaline, his excess fat was producing a lot of estrogen,
which is a lipogenic (fat-creating) hormone, causing him to put
on fat around his hips, thighs, and buttocks. His high insulin
level put on weight around his middle. I was not surprised to
find that his thyroid level was low-normal, which contributed
to fat deposition everywhere. ADRENALINE DOMINANCE 50   |
After I started treating him with progesterone cream,
a meal plan designed to reduce adrenaline, and thyroid
supplementation, his adrenaline level dropped, his fibromyalgia
disappeared, and he reported feeling better than at any time
in his life. After losing 240 pounds, he got down to a waist
size of 32 inches. He had been suicidal when I first met him,
and at the age of 47 he had never had a single date in his life. After he lost weight and improved his well-being, he started dating, got engaged, and is now happily married. TELOMERES AND AGING
Could reducing excess adrenaline actually increase one’s life
span. It appears to be so. Currently a lot of research is examining
the relationship between the length of telomeres—nucleotide
sequences found on the tips of chromosomes—and aging. The
evidence suggests that people with shortened telomeres may
have a higher incidence of heart attacks and cancer. A biotech pharmaceutical company developed a drug that
could prevent the shortening of telomeres. To avoid the five to
ten years of FDA-required trials costing hundreds of millions
of dollars, the company sold the rights for this substance to
a nutraceutical company. The supplement, called TA-65,
originally sold for $24,000 for a year’s worth. This cost has
now been reduced to $2,400 to $8,000 per year, depending on dosage. Studies have shown that TA-65 increases the enzyme
telomerase, which protects telomeres from getting shorter. It
is most effective on rapidly dividing cells, such as the skin, the
immune system, and the GI tract. The concern, of course, is that cancer cells are also rapidly dividing cells, but as yet this has not been noted as a problem. |   51 ExCESS  ADRENALINE: THE  BAD
The results so far are anecdotal. Moreover, the doctors
who are selling this substance are “anti-aging” specialists, so
most of their clients could be taking bio-identical hormones
as well, which may also be influencing the way the clients
look and feel. Allow me to present an alternative, less expensive approach. It has clearly been demonstrated that stress reduces telomere size, while reducing stress increases telomere size. (This may
be why people dealing with large amounts of stress have a
higher mortality rate. ) Adrenaline is closely associated with stress, and reducing
adrenaline is known to lower stress levels. Exercise is one way
of burning up adrenaline, and exercise has also been shown
to increase telomere length in people who have elevated stress
levels. Meditation, another stress reducer, has similarly been found to increase telomere length. However, why not reduce stress just by lowering excess adrenaline. INSOMNIA
Insomnia refers to trouble falling asleep, trouble staying asleep,
or both. People can have difficulty achieving sound sleep for
a variety of reasons, including physical discomfort, emotional
issues, and financial problems. However, in my view, excess
adrenaline may be insomnia’s number one cause. As we have seen, adrenaline works as both a hormone,
affecting a number of bodily functions, and as a neurotransmitter
in the brain. People with a high level of  adrenaline functioning
as a hormone are generally the ones who have trouble falling
asleep. These are people with typical type ADHD  who as adults
might have type A personalities. The extra energy produced
by excess adrenaline may prevent them from feeling tired. ADRENALINE DOMINANCE 52   |
The approach to helping these people fall asleep is to prevent
the buildup of adrenaline during the day. A regular exercise regimen to burn off excess adrenaline may also be helpful. Those who awaken during the night are often people with
creative type ADHD. These are often the people who complain
that their mind does not shut off at night. From a survival
standpoint, the body always wants to ensure that the brain
has enough fuel to function properly. And the creative brain is
more active than a normal brain and therefore requires more fuel. If, during the night, the body detects that the brain has
used up its fuel, it will release adrenaline to raise the sugar level
and the person will wake up. This release of adrenaline most
often occurs between 2:30 and 3:00 a. m. and can continue
throughout the rest of the night, so the person may keep waking
up intermittently or even not be able to fall back to sleep. If, during the night, the body detects that the brain
has used up its fuel, it will release adrenaline to
raise the sugar level and the person will wake up. The release of adrenaline around 2:30 a.<|eot_id|><|begin_of_text|>
Q: What is the most common mental illness in the United States?,
A: Anxiety disorder.
Q: What is the association between anxiety and depression?,
A: People who are depressed are nearly nine times more likely to develop an anxiety disorder.
Q: What is the primary symptom of ir


fection, unity, and at-oneness with ourselves. In their relationship with
us, they will feel joined; they will identify with us; they will understand at a
deep level; and they will feel in communion with us. As a consequence,
they will seek our presence, because in it they feel complete, recognized,
and contented. They will experience an increased awareness of their ownreal Self. They will feel higher in our presence or when they think of us. Their response back to us will be that of love and gratitude for the blessing
of our presence. In such a relationship, goals are automatically and
ef fortlessly accomplished. Because we are not holding negativity, there is
nothing we wish to hide from the other person, and this openness allows the
other person to drop all defenses. Nothing is hidden out of guilt or fear, and
there is a very conscious psychic connectedness. It is on this level that so-called telepathic phenomena occur with
regularity. When we are in total harmony with another person, there is no
desire on our part to withhold or guard any thoughts or feelings. Because
the other person responds similarly, there is an ef fortless knowing of what is
crossing the other person’ s mind and what their passing feeling states may
be. There is a total acceptance of our own humanness and that of the other. If we are really in tune with others, we for give them when we see a passing
jealousy or reactivity. W e realize it is only natural. And we know that they,
in return, are aware of our passing resentment. Y et, they are overlooking it;
they accept our humanness, and they understand the situation. They know
us so well that they recognize the likelihood of a passing resentment in
certain situations, but they know, also, that we are going to let it go. The
people with whom we share a relationship of loving acceptance are okay
with our humanness and their own. No matter the surface emotions, we
remain aware of the shared alignment to love, acceptance, and harmony
with each other and the world. This level of communication actually can be reached with anyone. It
does not have to be someone with whom we are intimately associated. V ery
often we experience it first with our friends with whom there is less at stake
than intimate family members. Another situation where it often occurs in
the course of an average life is with an ex-lover. W ith this person to whom
we have revealed so much—now that there is no longer anything romantic
at stake—a friendship might develop in which it is no longer necessary to
hide anything. There can be truly open communication, honesty, and
integrity. W e see this not infrequently in couples that have separated or
divorced. Once the turmoil has settled down, they get along easily and may
even remain the best of friends for many years. Ef fect of Positive FeelingsIt is obvious that higher states of consciousness have a profound ef fect on
our relationships, because one of the laws of consciousness is like goes to
like. Our inner states are actually radiated to others. W e can positively af fect
others even when we are not physically with them. Feelings are ener gy and
all ener gy gives of f a vibration. W e are like sending and receiving stations. The less negativity we are holding, the more aware we can be of what
others are really holding about us. The more we love, the more we find
ourselves surrounded by love. The replacement of a negative feeling by a
higher one accounts for the many miracles one can experience in the course
of life. These become more frequent as one continues to surrender. As we surrender, life becomes more and more ef fortless. There is a
constant increase in happiness and pleasure, which requires less and less
from the outer world to be experienced. There is a diminution of needs and
expectations of others. W e stop looking “out there” for what we now
experience as coming from within ourselves. W e let go of the illusion that
others are the source of our happiness. Instead of looking to get from others,
we now look to give. Others now seek to be with us, instead of avoiding us. In Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Car ol, Scrooge experienced the pleasure
of giving instead of looking to get from others. The joy of that
transformation is available to us all. Carl Jung wrote of the phenomenon called “synchronicity,” which
might also have been called “simultaneity,” to explain the occurrence of
events that, to the intellect, appear unrelated. As we surrender more and
more, this type of experience becomes commonplace. An illustration of this
phenomenon is the following experience related by a business executive
who had been practicing the letting go technique for about a year. I was President of a small corporation with about fifty employees. W e had built up a promising young man to head one of the
divisions of the company. It turned out, however, that this man was
very immature. Instead of responding with gratitude and
cooperation for all that was done for him, he reacted by becoming
grandiose, demanding, and somewhat paranoid. He declared that
he was going to bar ge into the next Board of Directors meeting and
cause a big upset with his wild accusations and demands. Although
all of his accusations could have been easily refuted, the whole
af fair sounded like a dreadful experience to live through. For days,he appeared just plain hateful with his threats. The day of the
Board meeting, which was to be at 1 P.M., I was driving along the
parkway thinking angry thoughts about him. Suddenly I let it all
go; I surrendered on him totally. I started to see the frightened
child in him, and I started to send him love. All of my anxiety
disappeared, and I felt a sympathetic love for him. I looked at my
watch and it was 12:30 P.M. When I got to the of fice, my secretary
said that this man had walked into the of fice and stated that he was
calling of f the whole thing; he had changed his mind at the last
minute. I asked her what time he had walked into the of fice. She
said she had made particular note of the time, as the Board meeting
was soon to take place. She looked at her watch when he had made
his announcement about his change of heart. The time was exactly
12:32 P.M. Letting Go of Expectations
When we put pressure on other people in order to get what we want, they
automatically resist, because we are trying to pressure them. The harder we
push, the harder they resist. Even though, out of fear, they may actually
concede to our demands, there is not an inner acceptance and, later on, we
will lose what we have gained. This resistance is in all of us. W e can be
aware of it as it operates unconsciously, and we evade that awareness by
making excuses and plausible explanations. As mentioned in an earlier chapter, in his book, W inning Thr ough
Intimidation, Robert Ringer called it the “boy/girl theory.” (Boy meets girl. As soon as she realizes he wants her, she becomes hard to get. So then if
boy decides to withdraw, she now wants him, and he in return acts aloof.) When we refer to this phenomenon to explain sales resistance, one way
around it is to take the view that our responsibility is to make an ef fort, but
not try to determine the result. Another way is to surrender the feelings we
have about what we want from the other person, and let go of the pressures
we are putting on them in the form of expectation and desire. They, then,
have the psychic space to become agreeable or even to initiate the desired
result on their own, the result we had wished for in the first place. An example of this dynamic is a man who was working with the letting
go technique in the midst of a divorce. He and his wife got into a heated
ar gument over something he wanted. She just kept saying “No” to hisrequest. So in the middle of it, he surrendered on the object that he wanted. It was now okay with him if she didn’ t give it to him, and it was okay if she
did. The instant he let go of it in his mind, she suddenly turned to him and
of fered, not only to give it to him, but to have it packed and shipped as well. This illustrates a very simple but decidedly elegant and active way of
clarifying relationships. First, look at how you are secretly feeling about a
person in a given situation. Presume that the other person is aware of those
thoughts and feelings. Then, put yourself in their place and see how you
would react. Y ou will see that their behavior is probably just what you
would have done in their place. The goal is to let go of all those feelings
until you can go up to a positive thinking-feeling space about the matter. Once in a positive space, now see how you would react as the other person
who was aware of these new feelings. The likelihood is that their behavior
will change just as you would expect. There may be a time delay; but, if
you keep watching, the change will likely take place. Even if it doesn’ t, you
will no longer be upset about the situation. Sometimes the “payof f” refuses
to show up, but we can say, “This is one that the universe owed me in due
time


 hav e the money yo u need to live a full life. Y ou are not
meant to be suf fering from a lack of money, because suf fe ring addsnegativity to the world. The beauty of life is that whe n you put love first, all
the money you need to live a full life comes to you. Points of Power

• It’ s the attractive  force of love that moves all the money i ll the world, and
whoever is giving love by feeling good is a magnet for money. • Y ou can tell how you feel about money, because if you don't have all you
need, then you don 't feel good about money. • Love is the attra cting force that brings money, and love is also the power
that makes money stick! • Wh en you pay  your bills, find a way, any way, to make yourself feel good. Imagine your bills are checks y ou're receiving. Or use gratitude and give
thanks to the company who sent you the bill. • When some money comes into your hands, no matter how small it is, be
grateful! Remember, gratitude is the great multiplier. • Feel lov e when you pay for any thing instead of feeling bad be cause you
have less money. The dif ference between the two is the dif ference between
having plenty of money, and struggling with money for the rest of your life. • Use physical money as your cue to remember to feel good about plenty of
money. Imagine the front of each bill as the positive side, which represents
plenty o f money. Each time you  handle money, deliberately flip the bill so
the front is facing you. • If ou f eel real ly good about success, no matter whose success it is, you
stick success to you! • Give in equal v allie to the money you receive through profits or your
salary. If you g ive more value than the money you're rece iving, your
business and career will take of f.• Money is only a  tool for you to experience the things you love in life. The
attractive force of love has unlimited ways for you to receive what you
want, and only one of those ways involves money. • Imagine being with w hat you love, doing w hat you love, and having the
things y ou love,  because you will feel for more love than you  will If you
only think about money. • The beauty of life is that when you put love first, all the money you need
to live a full life comes to you. The Power And Relationships

"Extend to each person, no mat ter how trivial the contact, all the car e and
kindness and understanding and love that you can muster, and do it with no
 thought of any r ewar d. Y our life will never be the same again. “ (Og
Mandino 1923-1996)

Giving love is t he law that applies to everything in your life. And giving
love is the law of relationships. The force of love doesn't care whether you
know someone or not, whether a person is a friend or foe, a loved one or a
complete stranger. The force of love doesn't care if you're encountering a
work co lleague, boss, parent, child, student, or a person servi ng you in a
store. W ith ever y single person you come into contact with, you are either
giving love or you're not. And what you give is what you will receive. Relationships ar e your biggest channel to give love, an d so you can change
your ent ire life just through the love you give in your relations hips. At the
same time though, relationships  can be your biggest downfall, because they
are often your biggest excuse for not giving love! What Y ou Give to Others, Y ou Give
to Y ourself

The most enlightened beings throughout history told us to love others. Y ou
were not told to love others just so that you would be a nice person. Y ou
were being given the secret to life! Y ou were being given the law of
attraction' When  you love others, you will have an amazing life. When you
love others, you will receive the life you deserve. "The entir e law is summed up in  a single command. Love your neighbor as
yourself" (St Paul in Galatians 5:14)

Give love to others through kind ness, encouragement, support, gratitude, or
any goo d feelin g, and it comes back to you and multiplies itself, bringing
love to every other area of your life, including your health, money,
happiness, and career. Give negativity to others, throu gh criticism, anger, impatience,  or any bad
feeling, and you will receive that negativity back - guaranteed! And as the
negativity come s back, it multip lies itself, attracting more negativity, which
af fects the rest of your life. It's Not About the Other Person
Y ou can tell in your relationships right now what you've been giving. If a
current relation ship is great, it means you are giving mor e love andgratitude than negativity If a cu rrent relationship is dif ficult or c hallenging,
it means you are inadvertently giving more negativity than love. Some pe ople think a relationship is either good or bad because of the other
person, but life doesn't happen that way. Y ou can't say to th e force of love,
"I will give love onl y when the other perso n gives it to me!" Y ou can't
receive anything in life unless you give it first! Whatever you give, you
receive, so it's not about  the other person at all: it's all abou t you! It's all
about what you are giving and what you are feeling. Y ou can change any relationship right now by looking for the things you
love, ap preciate, and are grateful for in that pers on. When you make a
deliberate ef fort to look for the things you love more than you notice
negative things,  a miracle will take place. It will appear to you as though
something incre dible has happened to the other person. But it's the force of
love that is incr edible, because it dissolves negativity, includin g negativity
in relationships. All you have to do is ha rness the force of love by l ooking
for the things you love in the person, and everything will change in the
relationship! I kn ow of hundreds of relation ships that have been restored through the
power of love, but one particula r story of a woman who used love's power
to re store her cr umbling marriag e s tands out from the others, b ecause this
woman had lost all love for he r husband. In fact, she couldn't bear to be
near him. Her hus band complai ned every day. He was sick all t he time. He
was depressed and angry, and verbally abusive to her and  their four
children. When the woman learned about the power of giving love, she decided right
away to  feel happie r despite th e problems in he r marriage. Immediately
the atmosphere in their home became lighter, and the woman's relationships
with he r children got better. She then went through her photo albums,
looking at the photos of her husband when they first married. She took
some of the photos and put them on her desk to look at them every day, and
by her doing this, something amazing happened. She felt the love she had
first felt for her husband, and as she felt the love return, her feelings of love
began to increase dramatically inside her. She reached a point where she
loved her husband more than sh e ever had in her life. Her love  became sogreat that her husband's depression and anger disappeared, and his health
began to return. This woman went from  wanting to be as far away as
possible from he r husban d to a marriage  where they want to be with ea ch
other as much as poss ible. Love Means Fr eedom

Now her e is the tricky bit with giving love in relationships, and it's the one
thing tha t has prevented many from receiving the life they deserve. It's only
tricky b ecause people have misunderstood what it means to give love to
others. T o be very clear about what it means to give love to others, you need
to understand what it means not to give love to others. T rying t o change another person is not giving love! Thinking you know
what is best for another person is not giving lovel Thinking you are right
and another person is wrong is not giving love! Criticizing, blaming,
complaining, nagging, or finding fault with another person is not giving
love! "Hate is not con quer ed by hate. Hate is conquer ed by love. This is a law
eternal." (Buddha 563-483 BC)

I want to share a  story I received that demonstrates the care we m ust take in
our rela tionships. A man's wife had left him and had taken th eir children
with her. The man was devasta ted, he blamed his wife, and he refused to
accept her decision. He cont inued to contact her, determined to do
everything he could to change her mind. He may have thought he was
acting out of love for his wife and family, b ut his actions were not loving. He blam ed his wife for their m arriage