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I didn't trust my wife when I found out that she had a new guy friend that she was texting and calling. I investigated him before I found out that he was gay and that there was nothing going on. Now all my wife and I do is fight about trust. | Instead of fighting about trust, is it possible for you and your wife to talk with other about areas which upset each of you?Whenever feelings are hurt, knowing what exactly is problematic and being heard and understood by the partner, goes a long way to building trust.These type of discussions are hard to have, and es... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I don't know what to say. I have never really known who I am. | What exactly is it that you are looking for? Different people define themselves in different ways. For example, one person may define himself by his values and morals while another identifies herself by her personality and characteristics. Still, another person may define himself by his interests and hobbies. Learning ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I am a really shy person. I'm currently in a graduate program which requires lots of presentations, but they always make me feel stressed out and less confident. How can I get more confident? | I can offer you hypnosis for confidence in presentations, via Skype, if you're in Cali. | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I feel that I need to end my present relationship. He lives three hours away and likes the reassurance of having someone to talk to multiple times per day and seeing me once or twice a month. I want someone who is more present and more of a life companion.
Lately, he has had a very busy work schedule and I have only s... | It sounds like you have some insight into the cycle that you describe with your current relationship and at the same time you are still feeling stuck. It also sounds like the distressing feelings that you experience, when you imagine what will happen for you and your current partner, are pretty overwhelming. A competen... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I'm depressed and recently went through a break up. It’s like every guy I like only wants me for sex. I think I'm ugly, and sometimes I just want to die. I have a son, and I got really big when I was pregnant. I have stretch marks on my stomach. | If you are currently feeling as if you want to die, please call 800-273-8255 and talk to someone.One way to work on not always thinking so negatively about yourself is to surround yourself with people who are more positive toward you. Do you have friends or family who are supportive?Can you find one part of you that yo... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
My doctor seems to think I am in danger of having one. I neglected to ask how this was different than an episode. I have been formally diagnosed with bipolar type 1. | I will admit that I'm not specifically familiar with this from my own experience.My best educated guess is that you could have a seizure during which you have some sort of symptoms similar to a hallucination (which is one of the psychotic symptoms) when you hear or see things that aren't really there.In looking briefly... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | Therapy can feel very weird to begin with - think about it, how often do we go and tell a relative stranger our deepest, darkest thoughts in the rest of our life? So I think its reasonable to expect a certain level of nerves as you get used to your therapist and to the whole process of talking about yourself and vulner... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I'm dealing with imposter syndrome in graduate school. I know that by all accounts I am a phenomenal graduate student, and that I am well-published. I am well liked by students and faculty alike. And yet I cannot shake the feeling that I'm going to be found out as a fraud. How can I get over this feeling? | It would be very helpful to identify with you eventual pattern where the imposter syndrome is more or less present. Are there specific situations where you've noticed the feelings of "I'm going to be found out as a fraud" becoming more strong? It seems that shaking this feeling is very important to you. In my opinion, ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
Sometime when small thing happen, like losing a comb, I get furious. I even start throwing things. Do I have a problem? | I don't like the word "problem". It is such a strong word. However I would say that you have an issue that needs to be addressed and controlled before it directed at the wrong person and gets totally out of control. I have found that anger management classes has been helpful for my clients. Try and see if it will h... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I feel like I would be more comfortable as a girl even though I still like girls. I think I'm like a girl stuck in a guy body. I imagine myself as a girl too. I think this more because my friends say that if I was a girl I would be a hot looking one. And I don't care about having boobs or anything. I just feel like the... | Gender is personal thing. There is not just boy and girl. It is ok to be a boy and feel feminine and date women. It is also ok to be a transgendered women and date women. Have fun with it and feel it out. What is right for you? | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
If I tell him I don't like certain things, he does when it pertains to me. He tells me it's not like that. He never has anything to say about me until I tell him something about himself. | It sounds like there are issues with communication between you and your husband. Your perceptions of interactions that you are having don't sound like they match up. It would probably be helpful for you both to work on communicating using "I" statements (I feel----when you---). This is a more effective way of commun... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
Every winter I find myself getting sad because of the weather. How can I fight this? | Sometimes its quite literally the lack of sunshine that can affect our mood - in these cases it can be worth experimenting with a sun lamp, to boost your dose of vitamin D, when the sun isn't naturally out. Also consider, what is it that the change in weather, changes in your life? If for example, when its sunny you ar... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I'm in a relationship with my fiancé and I currently found out that she's been cheating on me with a co-worker. I was very upset none the less. I understand what she did was wrong, but I want to spend the rest of my life with her. So I'm willing to forgive and move on. We have been together for a little over 9 years, a... | I'm sorry for the stress and unhappiness stemming the problem you describe.Trust your instinct that there is more complexity to feeling good about being in a partnership than simply wanting this to happen.In any relationship, the complexities of each person combine. Often people accept when this feels good and are lo... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I'm always listening to my husband, but it feels like he never listens to me. How do I get my husband to listen to me instead of me listening to him all the time? | Have the two of you ever discussed how you feel? I know given the nature of your question that's probably not likely, but I'm going to suggest it any way. He needs to understand that how you feel about this issue equates to not being as happy in the relationship as you could be or he thinks you are. So start there, ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I have so many issues to address. I have a history of sexual abuse, I’m a breast cancer survivor and I am a lifetime insomniac. I have a long history of depression and I’m beginning to have anxiety. I have low self esteem but I’ve been happily married for almost 35 years.
I’ve never had counseling about any of th... | Thank you for sharing your question. I imagine it feels overwhelming and discouraging at times if you feel like there are too many issues to address in a counseling session. I would encourage you to share these concerns with a counselor because a counselor can help you organize the concerns into a list of specific go... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I want a secure relationship with someone that wants to be with me and who will actually put effort into it.
I seem to gravitate toward unavailable men and those that want intimacy and no relationship. I let men dictate and control me because they accuse me of being controlling. I let men emotionally abuse me and I am... | It is a good thing that you have recognized that you have been in some unhealthy relationships and that you are wanting to break this pattern. You seem to have some good insight into the situation.The type of behavior that you are describing is usually rooted in childhood issues with insecure attachment bonds with you... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
After first meeting the client, what is the process that a counselor facilitates? | Each counselor may have a different process, so I'm not the end all authority here. For myself, I review policies and confidentiality concerns with people first and answer any questions they have. Then I'll let them know I'll be writing a lot in this session and I have an assessment form that I like to get completed, ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I have secrets in my mind, and I don't know what to do with them. I don't want to tell my wife and mom because I don't want to hurt them. But I'm not sure how long that I can keep the secret to myself.
What should I do? It's becoming annoying and making me anxious. Help me out | It sounds like keeping the secrets has become a problem for you now. There are several things to consider before you make a decision.- You mentioned that you don't want your wife and mom to know because you don't want to hurt them – why would it hurt them? - Is it necessary for them to know this information?- What are ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I need to get on base to see my doctor. My ID card was in my wallet which was stolen. I’m unable to reach my husband at this time. He is only one who can take me on base in order to get a new ID so I can continue to see doctor. Is there anything I can do? | You should be able to get a replacement ID card either from the Personnel Office on your local base (the actual name of this office will vary depending on which branch of the military it is). You may also be required to go to the Military Police or Security office on base to report the loss of your old ID card. | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school, she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student, always has a 4.0, but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I’m afraid it’s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal. | Sometimes stress helps us become motivated and thrive to do better however, if your daughter is stressing to the point that she is crying and freaking out then that would be concerning. Helping your daughter with relaxation techniques like deep breathing or guided imagery would be a good start. Also, reminding your dau... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | It's more than just normal, it's expected! Quite honestly, there are a very few days where at least one client hasn't cried during therapy throughout the day. -IJP | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I know I need to deal with my depression. But I don't know how and I don't want to tell anyone. How can I deal with depression without telling anyone? | Hello,It is completely understandable that you would not want people to know about your depression. I would first like commend you for realizing that you need to help with your depression by reaching out here. That is a great start, and you've taken the very first courageous step. Depression can feel debilitating and o... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
Maybe this is a stupid question, but I sometimes don't know what's real or not. If feel at times like everyone's lying. How do I know if God is one of those lies? | Thanks for posting. This is a significant issue for many people and can make us feel helpless; among other emotions due to the uncertainty. You said that, at times, you feel like everyone is lying. Ask yourself some of these questions. What is it that makes you feel so strongly that they are lying? Where is the con... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I've had posttraumatic stress disorder for years without my parents ever finding out. I want to overcome it, but it’s so vivid, it’s like it’s happening again. I'm scared and paranoid. I have depression, which I have been struggling with since a young age. | Post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a very complex issue. It is the root cause of many other issues including depression, anxiety and anger to name a few. Re-experiencing the event is a telltale symptom of PTSD. One of the best things you can do for yourself is to find someone who specializes in this area to he... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | This is a great question! I often wonder about what normal really means. Counseling is a personal process where many emotions can be experienced by people. I I do not believe it is just you who cries in therapy. Therapy can bring out many emotions such as laughter, anger, frustration, relief, grief, sadness, and many m... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I start counseling/therapy in a few days (I'm freaking out) but my main fear is that I'll cry and embarrass myself, is it something to worry about? | Lots of people do cry in session, but your therapist won't be uneasy with this. Crying is a natural response and it also releases toxins, so some might say it's necessary! Remember that you can be in charge of what you talk about in your session and if there's something that feels too uncomfortable, just say, "I'm no... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
These "jokes" are made about everything. They seem to have the need to say something "funny" about everything. It's not funny, just awkward. | I agree, it is awkward when people make jokes about subjects which may not be funny at all. And, if a person only jokes, then after laughing and realizing the person has nothing of themselves to offer, this can also be quite tedious.Realize that you are more aware of human interaction having many levels of expression.... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I don't know what's wrong with me. At times I can be really happy, excited, I'll talk fast, and I want to do things. But lately I've been staying up way later and sleeping too much. I don't hang out with friends, I don't really have them. I feel nothing, worthless. I want to do nothing, I have no interest in anything. ... | I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling as if you're in a slump. First of all, nothing is wrong with you. Many people report similar symptoms. Have you ever talked with a physician regarding your symptoms? Two extreme emotions such as feeling extremely happy and then feeling extremely low for a length of time may indica... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
Both of my parents committed suicide together, and I was the one who found them. I suffer from overwhelming depression, which is having an extreme effect on me and my husband’s sex lives. He does not understand at all and is always making me feel so uncomfortable about sex. | Hello, and thank you for your question. First, I want to tell you how sorry I am for the experience you had with your parents. That is a grief and trauma that is certainly hard to imagine. Trauma and grief can affect us in many ways, and certainly deeply personal things like our sex lives. It may be difficult for other... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I keep on begging him to come back. I am so unhappy with him but am so scared of being a single parent to our son. I was abused as a little girl and that has made to be very abusive to men. What should I do... | Major change frightens almost everybody.Don't be so afraid of your fear that you let yourself beg and are willing to accept unhappiness as a standard in your marriage.If you start considering that life can be better than what is current for you now, new possibilities and ideas will start developing in your mind.Conside... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
My brother just broke up with his girlfriend. While they were dating for the past two years, her son spent the weekends with me and my mother. Now she doesn't think her son should have any interaction with us. How should we approach the situation? Is she doing the right thing for her child? | Hi Tampa, I get that this is a loss for all of you; you have bonded with this child as a result of the significant time you have spent with him. He's a lucky boy to have had you all taking care of him. Certainly, it seems that his mother might not be making the best decision for her son; if you are willing to maintain ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
After first meeting the client, what is the process that a counselor facilitates? | A good therapist will discuss what brought you to therapy in the first place and devise a therapy plan with you on some of the things that you may want to work on. The plan is not set in stone as things may arise during your therapy sessions. You also agree on how often and when you would like to meet. | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I have a fear of something and I want to face that fear to overcome it, but I don't know how. What can I do? | Your fear may have deeper roots within your sense of who you are, than you realize. Fears are sometimes irrational so that logic doesn't get rid of them.Think about whether you felt secure and confident as a child. Also, did any major bad events happen to you with other people or situations when you were growing up?... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
My dad makes me feel like shit and like I'm worthless. He calls me names and makes me feel depressed. I want to move out because I swear if I stay here, I'm going to lose it. What can I do? | Are you old enough to move out? Then by all means, what's stopping you?If not, is it possible for you to move in with another family member?If you're a minor, CPS may need to step in. They often do in cases of abuse. Your safety is the number one priority.It's difficult to offer advice without knowing more about your s... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I have so many issues to address. I have a history of sexual abuse, I’m a breast cancer survivor and I am a lifetime insomniac. I have a long history of depression and I’m beginning to have anxiety. I have low self esteem but I’ve been happily married for almost 35 years.
I’ve never had counseling about any of th... | It could be said that you might be the perfect candidate for counseling! No one is beyond hope, and someone brave enough to be honest regarding their struggles, with the intention of reaching out for help is certainly a person a qualified counselor would be happy to assist. You may want to do some research on therapist... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
What makes a healthy marriage last? | This is a fantastic question. In one sentence, I would say the following:Recognize that while you and your partner probably have common interests and areas of commonality, you are separate people, each with different wants, wishes, and desires – if you consider a diagram of two overlapping circles, they may share perha... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
My mother has Alzheimer's and she has become so nasty and mean to everyone and she always asks for unrealistic, silly or meaningless items. I get so frustrated and angry, but then I feel guilty because I know it probably isn’t her fault. How can I cope with feeling like this? | Make sure that you continue to treat your Mom with respect. However, you also need to make sure that you have time away from her so that the stress of caring for her doesn't overwhelm you. Balance is the key! | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
My toddler defies everything I say and doesn’t see me as authoritative, so she says no about everything. I'd like to hear some ways I can work on not needing to feel so much in control all the time. | Trust that you are a good mother and that you love your child.Trust and love are their own authority and come from a different inner place than the urge to be obeyed.Trust and love are effective guidance and usually feel happier and lighter too! | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
Sometime when small thing happen, like losing a comb, I get furious. I even start throwing things. Do I have a problem? | Anyone who asks whether or not they have a problem, usually feels at least partly, that they do have a problem.Your answer to the question is what matters.Since you already understand that your reaction is overstated to the events which trigger them, the reactions you're having are more than likely anger that is leftov... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I just need to know if I'm really crazy or not. | Do an internet research on psychosis symptoms and see if you have several of the symptoms. If you do, seek a medical evaluation from your primary care physician. There are great medications and psychotherapy that can help you live your life to the fullest. There a many people who are diagnosed with psychosis and liv... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I think I'm annoying and bothersome, but my girlfriend says I'm just fine. I don't think so, I think I'm stressing everyone else out | "Where you put your attention is where you will go". I forget who said this first, but it's very powerful. If all you think about and talk about is how annoying you think you might be, that will get annoying. Your intense self reflection is lovely; it will help you monitor yourself so that you're not affecting others n... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
When I'm around people, I sometimes think someone has made a comment to me or asked me to do something. I will be focusing on something else and then randomly think I hear something about me. I never know if it was actually said. | It sounds like you are having difficulty knowing if people are saying things to you, or if you only thought someone was talking to you, and this is anxiety producing. It's understandable that it could be confusing and/or a bit scary to be unsure if people are speaking to you or not. It's hard to say exactly what is goi... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
How does a counselor decide when to end counseling sessions or to terminate working with a client? | Hopefully both the client and counselor would together decide when to terminate counseling sessions. It's really helpful for the client to leave counseling with a solid sense of what he or she has accomplished in counseling, so it can be a good idea to spend some time acknowledging that in the last session or sessions.... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I have an overwhelming desire to watch my wife have sex with another man. I talked to her about it, and she said she will do it for me. The idea excites me to no end, but I don’t want to because it disgusts me. How can I stop wanting it, or should I just give into it and do it? I’ve been struggling for years with this.... | Try to understand your own ambivalence to having your wish fulfilled.Since you and your wife are in a relationship, the sex she will have with another man will affect emotions in both you and your wife.I suggest you and her prepare emotionally before you both go ahead with the sexual arrangement,By anticipating any jea... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I have so many issues to address. I have a history of sexual abuse, I’m a breast cancer survivor and I am a lifetime insomniac. I have a long history of depression and I’m beginning to have anxiety. I have low self esteem but I’ve been happily married for almost 35 years.
I’ve never had counseling about any of th... | There are never "too many issues" to be addressed in therapy. Most people come in with multiple issues they want to address. The wonderful thing about therapy, is that often, as one or more significant issues begin to change and improve- the lead naturally without much effort to improvements in the other areas. (F... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I’m facing severe depression and anxiety and I just feel like I’m going through a lot. This really distracts me and I cant get my mind off the things that are bothering me. How do I overcome this anxierty and depression? | Life can bring us all kinds of struggles. Depression and Anxiety are very common reasons people come into counseling. Both can be debilitating. Sometimes when life struggles and stresses build up anxiety and depression become prominent. Learning tools to ride the waves of life is a core part of counseling. If yo... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I am so terrified of having sex anymore because I have been told over and over that sex is dangerous even though me and my partner used both forms of protection. My partner is not happy about this and simply wants more sex, and honestly, I want to give that to her. | Alot of our choices have to do with what we have been taught and partly our fear of trusting ourselves to do what is right. There is so much more going on within you than you realize. We can help you bring it to the surface. Please contact us when you can and in whatever way you can to discuss what's going on with you. | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I've been having horrible anxiety for the last week. I can't sleep. I get a sense of doom, and it's hard to breathe. I feel like nothing I do makes it better. | Anxiety is usually a sign of a current problem to which familiar emotional patterns of feeling similarly upset, attach themselves.Try to understand more about who you are, what you like, feel uneasy about, especially your deeper emotions of being emotionally harmed or injured by meaningful people.Anxiety is best addres... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I think I'm annoying and bothersome, but my girlfriend says I'm just fine. I don't think so, I think I'm stressing everyone else out | I think you have identified something important here. It's not unusual to experience feelings that don't seem to match up with what your rational mind recognizes. In this case, it sounds like a part of you recognizes that the people around you do not find you "annoying and bothersome." Despite knowing that people like ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
All we do is argue. We never agree on anything. | For how long has the arguing been occurring and does it relate to a specific incident or circumstance in your relationship?Arguing due to temporary stress and feeling lost or uncertain, is different than the two of you rarely agree on what foods to buy at the grocery store.In both temporary or longer term arguing, ask ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I have manic depression and last summer was very very bad. I have recurring nightmares and I avoid anything that will give me a similar feeling as I did that summer. | In general, the answer is no. Depression can not not generally cause PTSD. Your question does make a lot of sense, though. Depression is a common symptom of PTSD. A counselor in your area should be able to help you what's going on - either feelings of depression, PTSD, or both. | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
My dad is always, and I mean always, cussing and screaming at me for no reason at all. He makes me feel stupid. He also compares me to my other siblings in a negative way and demeans me. Is this abuse? | I'm really sorry to hear that you are going through this.It's a little difficult to answer your question because the laws that define child abuse are different from state to state. But usually, things like what you describe your dad is doing are not considered to be child abuse.The more important thing is how you feel ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I'm almost never happy. Half of the time, I don't feel anything. I find it easy to make myself feel nothing. I know I push people away because it’s easier. I just want answers. I'm sick of feeling this way. It’s ruining my relationships with people. | Maybe you have depression.The name of your condition matters much less than the descriptions you wrote of how you feel.Since you've observed how you sometimes interact with people and realize you aren't happy with the result, you've a very solid starting point for reflecting on your deeper wishes in relating to others.... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
People who are parental figures in my life have, in the past, hurt me, and some continue to do so. It makes me feel like I'm not good enough for my husband or the life he provides me. I have had jobs, but I am going through a lot of my past garbage and trying to figure out when it all went wrong. Any time I bring these... | It sounds like you have been thinking about how past hurts have influenced you, and when you try to talk about these hurts with people in your life, you are feeling invalidated. It also sounds like current conflicts are continuing to leave you feeling hurt and devalued. In working with a therapist, you may be able to g... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I have been feeling more and more down for over a month. I have started having trouble sleeping due to panic attacks, but they are almost never triggered by something that I know of. | Answers about our inner lives are most successfully reached from a sense of feeling grounded in oneself.First step is to accept your nervousness and restless sleep. As often as possible, sleep during daytimes in order for your body to catch up on its need for rest.Accept too about feeling down. It is normal to feel d... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I'm scared that I am with this man so I won't be alone. He should be with somebody who deserves him if this is the case, and I don’t want to hurt him. | While not wanting to be alone may not be the best reason to be in a relationship, it is probably more common and normal a reason than you think. Since you seem to care about your friend ("don't want to hurt him"), I imagine there are many other reasons that you are together. I suggest that you talk about this open-he... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
My daughter didn't see her biological father for the last three years. She doesn’t want to see him because she remember really bad things from him such as domestic violence and child abuse. The visitation is with supervision, but she refuses to see him. Is it better to take my daughter to the therapist and try to see h... | Hi Dillon,I'm from Canada, so I don't know the laws in your state. It depends on that a good deal, perhaps. In my opinion, a child should never be forced into a situation where they feel unsafe, even if it is "supervised". If the child is old enough to make a strong statement about not wanting to see a parent, then thi... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist y... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I just lost my grandpa and i'm having a rough time with it. I need some help to deal with the loss, but I don’t think I can pay for counseling. Where Can I get help? | Y'know, to see a man you've loved and care for pass on must make ya' want to cry and weep a bunch, don't it?And, may I say to you that... (as I've long since said)... if you need to mourn, take about a week or so and mourn like your life depended on it. I mean, get to weeping, gnashing, moaning, crying, solemnness, an... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
She has lied about every aspect of her life. She's created three fake relationships. The most recent one is concerning because she has fake photos, phone calls, and text messages, and it’s with a married man with kids. Her lying is becoming dangerous because she could ruin lives. | To be honest, I think more information would be really important here because what you are asking could have a lot of different meanings. Consider making an appointment with a local therapist to discuss what you are going through. | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I don't understand why this is happening. Why do I feel this way? | The first step to answer your question is to reflect on what is going on in your life overall. If you're in the midst of severe stress, whether within your relationship or effort to establish a relationship, upheaval in family dynamics, some type of significant loss like a job or someone with whom you feel closely att... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
My brother has been a heroin addict for years, and he’s now in his mid-30s. He has taken from me my mom and my grandparents. He's sick in the head. Now he moved his girlfriend into the house because they both manipulated us. Today, my mom and my brother went toe-to-toe over his girlfriend not helping around the house a... | I think the best thing for you is to speak with someone on how you can best cope with the situation. It can be challenging living in a household with someone who is currently addicted. It is also important that you realize that you can only work on yourself. Other individuals need to take the same accountability. E... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I was “mentored” by this guy for a few years spiritually. It was okay at times, but other times, it was just weird. I try not to think about it too much, but a lot of manipulation and lying happened, yet no one else really believed me when I told them. It's like he's two different people, and no one else really sees th... | You may intuitively be sensing what many professionals in the social sciences and psychology have already understood.Just Google "psychopaths and leadership" and many articles come up about boardroom politics and that psychopaths are very successful in these roles.Theoretically, is it terrible that corporate leadership... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
How do therapists classify the type of personality their clients have? What characteristics do they look at to decide what type of personality the client has? I've read about this online, but I'd like to understand this from a therapist's point of view. | Not very well :)So, you got the Jungians, and you got the Big Fiver's, and you got every manner of Ivory-Tower Orc in between, loosening the chains on their drooling, snarling Pet Theories...The real truth is, does it matter? If it does, what does it matter?If it's still of keen interest to you, I would presume that G... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I'm planning to have baby, so I have to quit smoking - but it's hard. Sometimes it's not a physical need, it's mental.
I cannot help myself from thinking about smoking. What can I do to get rid of this addiction? | Breaking any habit is no easy feat. Cutting down or cutting out cigarettes is very challenging, and there aren't any one size fits all solutions. Fortunately, there are a lot of tricks and tools that you can use to stop smoking. 1. Many habits that we have are paired habits. If we do one thing, then we will do the ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
What makes a healthy marriage last? | It's surprising how many folks talk too much on the subject;It's the same three things that make all relationships work:HonestyTrustRespect(in that order)Most folks fall down on the first :) (*coughcough* THERAPISTS! Heh heh heh...) | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
Sometimes 3 times a night. | Perhaps more dreaming means that you are making use of your mind to solve problems. I find that change states, while sometimes difficult, are very exciting. They give you opportunity to grow more rapidly. So I say: "congratulations!" ~Mark (www.MarkMorrisLCSW.com and www.LivingYes.org) | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I have bipolar II disorder, I'm addicted to alcohol and weed, and I'm hopeless. I keep drinking even though it's harming myself and others. | Anyone who wants to change their life path, eventually will be successful in this. How to stop abusing alcohol involves a few steps, most of them time consuming, with slow progress and very often with tremendous emotional pain.The basic path is to figure out what motivates you to drink too much and be addicted to weed... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I have a mother who is still running my life even though I'm almost 30 years old. I want to move out and live my own life, but it feels like as long as I do what my mom wants our relationship is okay. It's never okay if I don't do what she wants.
I don't know how to start making my own decisions and not worry about... | ABSOLUTELY. Having someone who's outside the situation and, even more so, with knowledge and experience in human behavior and relationship dynamics such as a counselor can do wonders in helping us feel less alone in frustrating situations like the one you're currently stuck in with your mother. A professional can als... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I never feel like myself. I can’t even think straight anymore. I start stuttering and I can’t remember anything. I always get nervous and usually talk myself down but recently end up fighting with, what feels like, someone else. I don’t know why I feel this way, but I hate it. | Hi Houston, Okay, something's definitely going on, right? My gut is to start with your family physician, because you have some physical symptoms. While it seems anxiety is a likely problem here, your doctor will hopefully know your history and can help you decide if you need some medical tests or some therapy. Without ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.
People keep telling me I have "anxiety" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do? | Anxiety or panic attacks can be very frightening. Here are a few "tools" you can use that will help in the short term: Keeping your mind occupied by listening to books on tape may help; Counting backwards from 100 in 7's; Naming cities that begin with each letter of the alphabet; Keeping some ice or an ice pack in a... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
It has been going on more often lately, but not all the time. It has been starting to affect my driving, among other things. | It's important to make an appointment with a neurologist and ophthalmologist ASAP for evaluation. There are medical conditions that can create this effect. | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I'm always listening to my husband, but it feels like he never listens to me.
How do I get my husband to listen to me instead of me listening to him all the time? | Does your husband want to listen to you?Find this out by asking him the question!This way you know whether the goal you'd like to reach is even possible.Some partners prefer that one person is the rule maker or the only one who is entitled to talk about themselves.If your husband tells you he wants to listen to you, or... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I'm a teenage girl. I don't know if I'm straight, bisexual, or gay. I've been straight all my life, but a sudden rush of questions have come over me, and I don't know anymore. | Being open minded about the type of sexual connection which feels true and real, is a solid starting point.Having questions is a very valuable way of more clearly defining your sexuality.Write one or two of your questions if you'd like a more specific focus to your general search about your sexual preference. | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
My roommate has had a drinking problem for a while. She goes out, gets trashed, and then expects everyone to take care of her. The next morning, she apologizes constantly until she feels validated. She also thinks everyone hates her all the time. If I don't seem anything other than happy, she asks me "Do you hate me? Y... | It does sound like your roommate may have a drinking problem, and the short answer is that you can't do anything about it, only she can. We can't change what other people say, think, or do. We can only change our reactions. It does sound like your roommate may be having a hard time. You can suggest that she enter couns... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I'm 15 and my girlfriend is 14. Am I a pedophile because I'm attracted to her and she's under 18? | You are not a pedophile. You are both under 18 and your age is appropriate for a relationship. There would be a possible problem if she was 10 or younger. Pedophelia, is a whole other problem that you probably should not be worried about. I would be happy to talk with you in more detail about this. | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
He goes out with her to dinner/brunch/movies when we are not together (we live 2 hours apart). | Would you have the same desire to meet this friend if she were a he? If you are concerned that their friendship is a substitute for you when you aren't present, talk to him. It sounds like you are concerned that he is building an emotional intimacy with her and spending time doing the sort of things with her that you'd... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
He isn't violent, but he has anger issues and deep insecurities. He's working on them and has improved. We started counseling, and he participated in one or two individual sessions, but we broke up again shortly thereafter. Now his constant questions and accusations are getting really draining. | Sometimes relationships just do not work. Don't feel that the first, second, or even third relationship is the relationship you are suppose to be in for life. The one that is meant for you will require work but should be be draining and a constant roller coaster of breaking up. It is good you all went to counseling... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
Sometimes, I'm fine and can go out or meet people, but other days, my heart races and words physically cannot come out of my mouth. I've always thought it was normal and I was just nervous, but the other day, it took me almost 30 minutes of sitting in my car to find the courage to enter Target by myself. | Your, sitting in your car for 30 minutes, story sounds so sad and frustrating.Yes, you're describing classic symptoms of anxiety.Anxiety itself is the indirect result of repeatedly being in positions of feeling helpless or frightened.Are you able to recall from your growing up years of feeling insecure?You may not have... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
My girlfriend was abused as a child. Now, if I hug or touch her in any kind of way she says she feels as if she is being abused as a child. What might be going on? | Thank you for your question. I think it's wonderful that you are approaching this with openness and curiosity. The reaction you are describing is extremely common in survivors of abuse. What you said is insightful...when you touch her "she feels as if she is being abused as a child." From your description, I would ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I've had posttraumatic stress disorder for years without my parents ever finding out. I want to overcome it, but it’s so vivid, it’s like it’s happening again. I'm scared and paranoid. I have depression, which I have been struggling with since a young age. | Unfortunately, ptsd is not something that can be cured. Ptsd can be managed through therapy. Mindfulness can assist in redirecting thoughts and gaining further control over paranoia. Therapy is confidential and there are different ways you can obtain treatment. Mental health professional have availability to provide... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I’m trying to make marriage work after a split. Before our split, he lied a lot and broke every promise to me. I don't think he cheated. Last month, I asked what women work with him, so he told me. Yesterday, I found out about a girl that he said he forgot about. Should I be upset? | I would ask you first what made you give him another chance after he repeatedly lied and broke every promise to you? I would imagine if he repeatedly lied to you that it will damage your ability to trust him now. Is he in therapy? Does he recognize that he has a problem and is he trying to repair it? Even if he trul... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | Thank you for your question. It's completely normal and natural to feel nervous before a therapy session. Many people report having felt this way. I can't say enough regarding the amount of courage it takes to reach out and attend a therapy session. For many people, it can take weeks, months, or even years of contempla... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
My friend is abusing her prescription medicine. Even though she told me she didn't have any more pills, I found she has prescriptions for anxiety medications. | Hello! Thank you for your question. I have a worked with many people who have become addicted to benzodiazepines, like Clonazepam. It is a difficult road for people who are trying to become clean. It is also a very difficult road for those who love the person and are trying to be supportive. During those times, it is i... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I stress over everything. If I don't have enough "quality time" with my boyfriend, I start to feel resentment towards him. He has three children, and they are great kids, but I find we don't have much time together. I break down easily and find myself depressed. | Everyone has some level of anxiety - it's what helps us respond to stressors in our lives and clues us into the fact that we need to respond to something going on. However, if you're feeling overwhelmed by racing thoughts, feeling like you spend a lot of energy worrying about something specific or even pretty much anyt... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I'm planning to have baby, so I have to quit smoking - but it's hard. Sometimes it's not a physical need, it's mental.
I cannot help myself from thinking about smoking. What can I do to get rid of this addiction? | It can be challenging to quite anything once we set our mind to it. We often crave the things more that we know we can not or should not have. With that being said I would encourage you to become aware of the chemical dependency part that cigarettes have on your brain and your body. Then make yourself aware of the m... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I was raped by multiple men, and now I can't stand the sight of myself. I wear lingerie to get my self excited enough to have sex with my wife. | I am very sorry to hear about your rapes. Traumatic events, such as rape, can have some lasting effects. Issues with sex drive are one of these effects. Therapy can help to decrease the impact that traumatic events have upon our lives as we process through some of our experiences. EMDR can be a particularly effect... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I found the guy I’m dating on dating websites. He was telling women that they were beautiful. He said it wasn’t him and that the phone was hacked. It has since happened two other times. He says he loves me and I’m the only girl he wants to be with, but I feel he is not telling me the truth. | Tell him what you know and ask why he is lying to you. If he tells you he isn't lying and you have proof that he is, then you can either accept that he denies the truth or not. | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
How does a counselor decide when to end counseling sessions or to terminate working with a client? | There are typically three reasons why therapy is terminated:1) Client has met therapy goals2) Client is not progressing 3) Therapist is not a good fit for clientIn order to properly assess whether therapy is helping and what progress is being made, the therapist needs to have ways of consistently checking in with clien... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
My fiancé and I have almost the best relationship every girl wants, but lately it's changed. I get less attention and little to no intercourse. He works a lot and goes to the gym a lot (he's a football player for an indoor league), but he has no time for me. We live two hours from family, and when I leave home to see f... | Your situation sounds a little painful.Have you brought up any of these topics for discussion with your fiancé?Now is a good time for finding out if and how your future husband is interested and addresses the way you are feeling.Until the two of you open up what bothers you, all you or anyone who talks to you about the... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
My fiancé and I recently had an argument over finances. He gives me the money each month to pay his automobile insurance. He no longer has one of the vehicles on the policy. He realized he was still paying for the coverage and asked why I was allowing him to continue to do that since I was physically paying it for him.... | A few things come to mind. I wonder if your fiancé is still angry about it or if he was angry in that moment and has now worked through it.It sounds like there was also a difference in expectations here. You were just paying the bill with the money he was giving to you and he may have assumed you were reading it. You ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I feel like I'm trying to convince myself that I'm okay when I'm not. I'm always blocking out the bad things and forgetting. I also feel like nobody cares for me and they never will. I feel truly alone. | I can relate! When things are going badly, I feel like my life has
always been and will always be that way. (But I also do this when things are
going well. That is, I forget how good things can turn bad. Personally, to
avoid this emotional roller-coaster, I try and heed the famous advice by author
and feminist Rita Mae... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
It's the way my mom said I was worth nothing, stupid, no point of being in school. I'm "lazy little fat." | Your mom is telling you cruel words.The fact that she is your mother and is not supportive and willing to point out your strengths, is a good reason to not believe what she tells you.Parents are meant to nurture their children, not take them down with words.Kids go to summer schmo for all sorts of reasons. If you were... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I have three children: a biological daughter, a stepdaughter, and a stepson. I found out my stepdaughter overdosed today. My daughter blames me. I told her to stay out of it. I'm scared of all three kids now. They all blame me for their choices they made. All three have drug addictions. I had a stroke in 2013 so I need... | Blaming others is one of our greatest coping mechanisms. It is not just for addiction, and often we blame the ones closest to us. You can not stop them from blaming you, you can stop yourself for taking on the burden. We are all in charge of the choices we make. No one makes us do something other than our self. We... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I don't know how to tell someone how I feel about them. How can I get better at expressing how I feel? |
Let's just start with being real. Expressing
yourself is vulnerable, and being vulnerable is hard. It takes courage and work
to be vulnerable. My guess is that you have been shown in your lifetime that
being vulnerable (ie, expressing yourself) is unsafe. My assumption would be
you have been criticized, or ignore... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I start counseling/therapy in a few days (I'm freaking out) but my main fear is that I'll cry and embarrass myself, is it something to worry about? | Crying is a natural process when you talk about upsetting things especially in therapy when you are opening up and being so vulnerable. I suggest that you consider how you would feel/respond to someone that was confiding to you and they began to cry. If you felt concerned, supportive and empathetic then you know exactl... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I am a teenager, and my brother is a few years older. He has a girlfriend who is always with him. He never hangs out with me anymore. We were really close, and it is making me really sad. | It is always hard when we feel as if we are losing somebody close to us. Feeling sad over these losses are normal. While there may be some things you can do to remedy this situation, it is important that you try and understand that part of life is change. The fact that your brother doesn't spend as much time with you d... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I'm being verbally abused on a daily basis by my parents in front of my child. I feel like I’m trapped and I have no escape. I feel like I have to listen to the horrible things they say and just take all of it.
I need some way of learning how to cope with listening to it especially since I have nowhere else to go. I... | When their verbal abuse starts, tell them you are exiting the conversation because the way they're talking to you is unacceptable.Explain you are willing to hear their point of view only not when it is expressed as abuse.They may not agree with your opinion and also may not want to change.Even if they do not change, yo... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I'm very depressed. How do I find someone to talk to? | Sorry to hear you are feeling that way. Is there a 24-hour helpline where you are that you can call? Here is a website with some numbers to call: https://psychcentral.com/lib/common-hotline-phone-numbers/ You could talk to your family doctor and they could help you find a therapist? You could also use this... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
I've been struggling with it for a test and I'm starting to believe it's something mental. What could it be? | Hello in Jacksonville, It sounds like you are struggling with motivation to either take or study for a test. There could be several different causes. If you were being seen at my practice, I would ask you to describe your self-talk when engaging in these activities, during the different phases ie. in beginning, after... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>> Your Name is Ozey , You are a helpful and joyous mental therapy assistant. Always answer as helpfully and cheerfully as possible, while being safe. Your answers should not include any harmful, unethical, racist, sexist, toxic, dangerous, or illegal content.Please ensure that your responses are sociall... |
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