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7,310,001 | mommit | I hope the officer was nice at least. Ppl need to mind their biz. You could've been waiting for a friend shopping inside |
7,310,002 | mommit | So if you were asleep, too, that'd be a crime? Just curious. |
7,310,003 | mommit | People are morons. Sleeping in your car shouldn’t be a punishable offense esp considering how many homeless families Covid has created |
7,310,004 | mommit | WTF is with people. There have been plenty of times I had some time in between errands and grabbed a 20 min nap in the car. Not illegal. Not hurting anyone. |
7,310,005 | mommit | People are so fucking annoying. I hope the police officer that approached you was a parent because that is such an understandable situation. Your child was safe. You were present. Even if you were asleep, what is the difference between that and taking a nap together at home? |
7,310,006 | mommit | This is exactly why I don’t sleep in the car with my son. I did it once and every time I would start to fall asleep I would get anxiety about someone calling the cops! |
7,310,007 | mommit | I once picked up, take up out food while my infant sat sleep in her car seat, and people got nasty with me. Now I’ll be the first to tell you no you should never leave a sleeping child in a car. Unless you’re literally 10 feet away the entire time. If you have multiple kids, you know it gets complicated and sometimes ... |
7,310,008 | mommit | Just explain the situation. No biggee. Of course if someone didn't know what was going on and are a decent person they would want the situation checked out. You could have been off your tree on drugs and become violent. Be happy that good citizens are noticing. And checking that all is above board is the Police's j... |
7,310,009 | mommit | You can’t do that, it’s technically loitering |
7,310,010 | mommit | Have tapped on someones car before that was pulled over outside our home, engine on, driver head back in the drivers seat for around an hour. Got worried they had ODed but it seems they were just an Uber driver taking a break. With a kid in the car it would up the stakes but yeah, tapping on the glass etc would be my ... |
7,310,011 | mommit | Never wake a sleeping baby! Good for you! I’ve done this SO many times, I’m surprised this hasn’t happened to me! |
7,310,012 | mommit | Are you not allowed to sleep? I’ve thought about doing this a million times… |
7,310,013 | mommit | Someone called the police on me for watching Netflix in my friend’s parking lot in my car while I waited for her to get off work and they said I was “nodding out” and they searched my car for drugs and brought a whole ambulance. They didn’t find anything of course! Crazy shit |
7,310,014 | mommit | People suck. I’d let it roll |
7,310,015 | mommit | Omg I’m literally doing the exact same thing right now. Now I’m afraid someone is calling the cops on me lol |
7,310,016 | mommit | This happened to my husband and I recently. It was Christmas Day and by 4pm we had already driven two hours to our hometown and gone to two family parties. We had an hour gap before the third family event and baby was snoozy so we decided to just pull over and rest. Queue an officer banging on our window not even ten m... |
7,310,017 | mommit | My neighbor almost called the cops because she thought my baby was alone in the car. I was in the backseat. She just didn't see me even though I was waving at her. |
7,310,018 | mommit | Is it not okay to fall asleep ? |
7,310,019 | mommit | This honestly gives me a little hope that people are faster to call if they’re unsure of the situation. My old neighbor has diabetes and one day she was taking her first child and the girl she was babysitting somewhere. Her blood sugar got low as soon as they got where they were going and it must have been sudden. She ... |
7,310,020 | mommit | They didn't think you were sleeping they thought you were nodding out on heroin. Super common sadly, and a random stranger isn't equipped to tell if someone's high or not so I get it. Maybe one of those signs like you put up for your dog? Lol, "We're ok she just fell asleep and I don't want to wake her!" |
7,310,021 | mommit | You both are totally right. This is why I was mainly just embarrassed. Just annoying still because I wasn’t even asleep, just comfortably scrolling my phone. Better safe than sorry though I guess. |
7,310,022 | mommit | Yeah I think this is the likely reason someone called. I’ve seen too many videos of people drugged out or dead in the front seat with babies in the back. It was probably just someone who was genuinely concerned about your daughter. |
7,310,023 | mommit | This person may not have felt safe interacting with a stranger. They may be old, or in charge of a kid, or immunocompromised. They helped in the way they felt comfortable helping and it's unkind to ask for more. |
7,310,024 | mommit | Do you have a source? I rarely hear about that and would be surprised if it's that frequent. Sleep deprivation seems more common! |
7,310,025 | mommit | If it was someone using drugs, tapping on the window and startling them could’ve been more dangerous for the person and possibly the child. Definitely a better option to let a cop handle the situation. |
7,310,026 | mommit | In America, you could get shot for tapping on the wrong window! |
7,310,027 | mommit | Very true. Thank you for the perspective. |
7,310,028 | mommit | Recently, in Spain , a two year old child died because his grandfather who was diabetic died in the car with him. Before dying, He pulled over in an area outside of the town so they couldn’t find the car for 24 hours. Very sad. It is not clear if the grandfather committed suicide or was an accident because of being di... |
7,310,029 | mommit | That’s true, but there were several other steps that this random person could have taken before assuming they’re nodded off in their car with their kid. |
7,310,030 | mommit | She wasn’t worried about anything but OP getting “in trouble” for this. It’s adult tattling. If she was worried about her she’d tap on the window and offer assistance. |
7,310,031 | mommit | My dad called the police for a similar situation for a car parked at the end of our driveway with the lights still on and the woman in the drivers seat was was dead. She had a diabetes bracelet and we lived on the first residential street off an exit ramp to a big interstate highway. We figure she started to feel unwe... |
7,310,032 | mommit | Yeah, I had never really though about that before but now I’m completely paranoid. |
7,310,033 | mommit | I think this is what people are forgetting. If it’s someone drugged out or in a medical emergency, a cop would be the best person to approach the situation, not a random civilian. |
7,310,034 | mommit | Thank you! That’s all I was doing. Next time I will scroll my phone sitting upright. |
7,310,035 | mommit | 10000% People are insane, and in the US it seems like everyone is on edge, ready to flip their lid over anything. OP is obvi just one of us lol, a tired mom trying to enjoy a few minutes of quiet. ….but. you just never know. I would not approach the car. I’ll let someone else check in… even better, they get pa... |
7,310,036 | mommit | Yup. Idk that this is an unpopular opinion. I absolutely agree. Although a bit embarrassing, I would be happy someone was vigilant enough to call it in just in case. |
7,310,037 | mommit | Yes! You never know who you may encounter! I would be nervous to confront anyone even in public. |
7,310,038 | mommit | But it’s not necessarily safe for the person the police are approaching. Please check on people before calling the police. This notion that it’s safer to just call because you’re too uncomfortable to actually check on someone is so misguided. Honk your horn and see if they pop up if nothing else. |
7,310,039 | mommit | It’s illegal to sleep in the car in a lot of cities, including where I live |
7,310,040 | mommit | I imagine the police came as a welfare check and not because it's illegal. |
7,310,041 | mommit | Overdoses, dead people, and unconscious people all look like sleeping people. Nothing wrong with call a welfare check to make sure they are ok. |
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7,310,043 | mommit | Some places, yeah. They make it illegal to sleep in your car so they can get rid of homeless people. Typically the cops just wake you up and tell you to leave. |
7,310,044 | mommit | Agree, and everyone saying “they were just concerned, you never know how people will react etc.” please please please do not call the cops on a POC because they are resting in their car. If you’re in a public parking lot and are truly concerned please just tap on the window. Please. |
7,310,045 | mommit | Lol if you think I’d be mad at someone for tapping on my window imagine how mad I’d be that the called the cops on me for testing for a moment |
7,310,046 | mommit | Thankfully it was a very kind woman officer. When I looked up in complete surprise and talked to her I think she could tell that I wasn’t under the influence or even sleeping and she was understanding. I’m very thankful it was her. She had a male officer waiting in another cop car. |
7,310,047 | mommit | Thank you! It’s so hard to get kids to nap at that age! |
7,310,048 | mommit | I’m a nurse too and used to nap in my driveway after night shift. I was so tired I couldn’t even make it into the house. One morning one of the landscapers in my neighborhood tapped on my window to check on me. I put my window down and said that I was okay, just tired from night shift. So then he yelled out “she’s okay... |
7,310,049 | mommit | Right? This is enlightening for me as a perpetually tired parent. I could def see me like relaxing in the car while my son took a rare nap and potentially also falling asleep. Now I know I should never do that in a parking lot or whatever. I get the concerns about someone being under the influence or having a med emerg... |
7,310,050 | mommit | First thing I did when I had kids is tint my windows. Husband didn’t understand why. I didn’t know at the time the reason but add this to list of them. |
7,310,051 | mommit | They could have walked to the other side of the car to look in and see if ops eyes were open or not lmao |
7,310,052 | mommit | Agreed. I come from a small town and just a couple years ago an acquaintance drove by a car parked on the side of the rode. He simply rolled his window down to ask if the person needed help and the person ended up pulling a gun and shooting him. He luckily was able to get away, however was shot in the back. He's lucky ... |
7,310,053 | mommit | Calling 911 for something like this gets you an ambulance, cops, or both. It depends on how the system operates |
7,310,054 | mommit | The reaching here is very dramatic. OP was on her phone! Edit: Dramatic sanctimommies on this sub who can't even let a mom vent about an understandably frustrating experience?? Shocking. |
7,310,055 | mommit | Thank you. I do see the other side but I wasn’t even asleep, just trying to be cozy! So I’m definitely embarrassed and annoyed. |
7,310,056 | mommit | And there are statistics about how quickly babies can die in a car (a lot of comments mention it being their concern), which happens to be a much shorter time than my local police would take to show up |
7,310,057 | mommit | I so agree with you. In this instance, she wasn't even sleeping, she was on her phone! It's one thing if the child was alone, but this is an entirely different situation and several commenters are totally ignoring that. |
7,310,058 | mommit | Have you accidentally woke up a druggie ever before? Because I’ve had that unfortunate encounter a few times. I did not feel safe any of those times. I understand not wanting to tap on the window. |
7,310,059 | mommit | Ding ding ding, winner There are parents who get high with kids in the car. |
7,310,060 | mommit | Luckily it was a women officer and she was nice. |
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7,310,062 | mommit | If the person thought she was unconscious or dead then the child could have suffocated in the car. It was obviously just a welfare check nobody was going to be arrested for taking a nap. |
7,310,063 | mommit | But what if she was on DrUgS?! Seriously this situation is ridiculous. If I saw a mom ON HER PHONE in her car while her child slept I'd think "good for her!" |
7,310,064 | mommit | Let’s be for real right now. No one would ever think she was loitering. |
7,310,065 | mommit | I feel better it’s not just me! |
7,310,066 | mommit | It could be dangerous if something happened to the child while the parent was asleep. The reason I was annoyed in this case is because I wasn’t even sleeping. Just relaxing scrolling Instagram while my kid napped and next thing I know a cop is at my door. |
7,310,067 | mommit | Someone called me in to the police for matching an amber alert as I was getting into my car at a restaurant. It was a slightly traumatic experience when the police caught up with me, I had my daughter in the car with me. I didn’t match the description (different races, ages and I was way heavier than the woman), and ne... |
7,310,068 | mommit | I am right now in car with my baby, while husband went to the store to fetch something. Was thinking to just nap for few minutes and guess what, saw this post!! No sleep in car!! |
7,310,069 | mommit | I have literally not once seen a video like this, what videos are you watching? And why are people filming it and not helping the baby? |
7,310,070 | mommit | While this is a valid point, in this case OP didn't even have her eyes closed. Before calling the cops, the person couldn't discreetly walk around to see the angle from the other side of the car? I'm not saying I expect the stranger to tap on the window or approach OP's car at all, but at least get a decent look before... |
7,310,071 | mommit | Exactly! I don't think I'd feel safe checking on someone if I thought they had OD'd even if I wasn't with my kids. |
7,310,072 | mommit | This is why there should be another emergency service you can call, other than a bunch of gun-toting high school bullies who might murder someone when they arrive. |
7,310,073 | mommit | You can also get someone else shot for calling the wrong cop... |
7,310,074 | mommit | Without going into too much detail I was once the baby in the car seat. If it weren't for the welfare check by the cops, who knows if I'd be alive today to argue with people over the internet about why I think it was probably a good choice to make the call. Yeah things can go bad if the cops get involved but they can a... |
7,310,075 | mommit | This is how we think my husband’s diabetic uncle died. He pulled over on the interstate at 2am on the way home from work. So sad, and we’re so grateful he was able to not harm anyone while behind the wheel. I feel terribly for the family left behind by this case in Spain. Ugh. |
7,310,076 | mommit | Several? I'm not so sure. Maybe they were elderly, pregnant, disabled, or in any other condition where the possibility of confrontation didn't seem like something they could handle? Maybe it was someone at work and their boss said "don't get mixed up in it, call the cops." Maybe it was another mom with a car full of ki... |
7,310,077 | mommit | That's a pretty big assumption. There are plenty of reasons why a person might not find it safe or appropriate to tap on the window or try to offer assistance. Just because someone called for a welfare check doesn't mean it was for nefarious reasons. Like the medical professional commented below, sometimes it's just do... |
7,310,078 | mommit | Poor woman. It’s such a surreal feeling to find a body. |
7,310,079 | mommit | Someone from high school died this way. He was found in the driver seat with a needle in his arm. There’s no way to know |
7,310,080 | mommit | i completely understand why someone would call for a welfare check, but i also lay all comfy and rest while my kiddo sleeps in the car all the time lol i actually can't believe this hasn't happened to me yet honestly |
7,310,081 | mommit | In my city, there have been an alarming number of shootings due to road rage, disagreements, armed robberies, drugs, etc. Kids have been killed as innocent bystanders in these incidents, I drive by a memorial spot every day on my way home from work. If someone was concerned, I could totally sympathize with them not wa... |
7,310,082 | mommit | I had a similar opinion awhile ago when someone posted an almost identical scenario, except they ran into the store and left their kid in the car with the kids grandma. Nobody saw the grandma and the police came to check. I was ROASTED for defending the person who called the police. |
7,310,083 | mommit | People who are fortunate enough to never have been ill-treated by police don't think of asking the cops to check on someone in trouble as a bad thing. Ideally, and in many countries, cops are supposed to do this kind of stuff and help people. These same people are probably worried that if they honk and the sleeping pe... |
7,310,084 | mommit | That’s really sad |
7,310,085 | mommit | It sounds like this was private property though, so it wouldn’t be illegal unless it was an agent of the shopping plaza calling to have her trespassed. |
7,310,086 | mommit | Gotcha. I’m super sheltered I guess, I live in an area where that is uncommon |
7,310,087 | mommit | My aunt’s father was a traveling doctor. I’m sure his car was very nice when he fell asleep at a rest stop and passed away from a pulmonary embolism. I don’t think they thought you were homeless or a junkie, but if you were experiencing a medical emergency, then wouldn’t you want someone to check on you? They may have ... |
7,310,088 | mommit | Sorry. It is a bit snobbish. Alcohol and drug addiction do not exclusively affect poor people. And that is the main concern when somebody is asleep in their car with a child in the back seat. That was the case with Hope Solo. |
7,310,089 | mommit | Yikes |
7,310,090 | mommit | I’m not seeing why them checking if you were ok is a bad thing? Did you get a ticket? |
7,310,091 | mommit | The person who worried about you may have been disheveled or even homeless. Perhaps they felt you would be disturbed by their concern. |
7,310,092 | mommit | Seriously. I cannot believe the amount of people in here encouraging this or defending the cops caller. Sigh. |
7,310,093 | mommit | Absolutely. Cops killed 178 people during wellness checks from 2019-2021 people [(source without paywall)](https://archive.ph/RxWqm). People shouldn’t be so casual about calling the cops if they have any other options. It gets people killed. |
7,310,094 | mommit | Oh my goodness!! That must have been startling!! I completely understand that feeling of being too tired to even make it home!! It’s so tough ughhg |
7,310,095 | mommit | Absolutely!!! Thanks for posting this!! Learning so much!! |
7,310,096 | mommit | I replied further down to say they couldve pulled their car behind hers and just honked. In this scenario, she literally wouldve sat up and looked around. Hard to pretend to worry about your safety when you're locked in your own car and can easily pull away to call if necessary. People want to be dramatic |
7,310,097 | mommit | Thinking about the dude who got shot and killed cuz he was sleeping in his car and cops did a welfare check https://amp.theguardian.com/us-news/2019/jun/12/willie-mccoy-shooting-vallejo-police-55-shots |
7,310,098 | mommit | Then tap on the window. |
7,310,099 | mommit | Won't somebody think of the children?!?! /s |
7,310,100 | mommit | Cops do and would |
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