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7,310,401 | mommit | Hahahaha!!! To be fair, what you see on TV is ridiculous - of course babies always sleep in their cribs right from the start on TV, and even in parenting classes pre-birth it's equally bad. I was NOT prepared for a baby who only contact napped for 9 months (hopefully yours will be better!!). Though honestly, I look b... |
7,310,402 | mommit | Can’t blame them they don’t understand.. my almost 3 year old is still in my bed. I’ve been trying to get him into the idea that he’s going to share a room with his baby sister soon.. kid runs out and goes in my room |
7,310,403 | mommit | Just put him down and let him scream while you meditate |
7,310,404 | mommit | Sleep training isn't recommended until at least 4 months, despite what others have said here. Have you tried waiting until baby is asleep for 20 minutes in your arms and then transferring to the crib? That is when deep sleep happens at this age. Of course this changes around 4 months, when deep sleep takes much longer,... |
7,310,405 | mommit | I’m on my 3rd, he’s 2 months. He doesn’t sleep alone. But neither did my other 2. I think it’s easier for me now because I don’t have the expectation of him being an independent sleeper. He’s the sweetest baby, but putting him down for long isn’t an option. Try to accept that they are the neediest mammals ever and it w... |
7,310,406 | mommit | I was in the same position not even 3 months ago with my daughter (shes 6 months now)! I found that with the sleeping in the car seat, if I put it on top of the dryer after we came inside she’d sleep a bit longer in it! |
7,310,407 | mommit | Child free people are clueless, but there is a point there. We need to prioritize self-care! Seriously. My son is 3.5 and until a few month ago my mental health was a disaster and my marriage was going the same path. True, that the pandemic was a lot to blame too, but still. You really need to find some time for yours... |
7,310,408 | mommit | Why can't your husband do the holding so you can get more self care than 30 min of sleep? |
7,310,409 | mommit | “It’s really not that hard, I mean all you have to do is sleep when the baby sleeps?” My childless friend, not directed at me but still it gave me a laugh. She’s notoriously naive and knows that about herself, we’ll have a good laugh together when she has a bub of her own |
7,310,410 | mommit | It will get better. Mine only contact-napped until 4 months but now (just shy of 6 months) she does every nap in her crib like a big girl! We just had to stubbornly keep trying to put her down and eventually, she made her peace with it. |
7,310,411 | mommit | Like everyone else mentioned, there are yoga classes that you can do with your kid. But the transfer to bed thing could be coming off a warm body onto cold mattress. Some people have had success putting a heating pad on the crib and turning it on for a few minutes, then removing it and putting the baby down. Sorry if ... |
7,310,412 | mommit | Have you tried a baby swing with your little one? I wonder if that motion would also induce some snoozes. |
7,310,413 | mommit | Lol my grandfather said something similar- just decide 1pm is nap time for everyone and there you go Send her a video of some desperate sobbing next time it happens on its own. My baby is 3m adjusted so I feel you, and I’m never going to get through a full day 1 of C25K at this rate |
7,310,414 | mommit | I am in some ways jealous that your baby sleeps on you. My youngest, doesn't like to sleep on me unless she's sick. She HAS to be laying by herself if she wants to sleep. Complete opposite of my 2 other kids. |
7,310,415 | mommit | I used to wrap my baby on me and do a yoga session while he slept like that. It’s not the same but it was still a bit of self care and I really enjoyed it! Or I would bounce him in the bouncer next to me while getting in a session! I know it’s easier said than done. |
7,310,416 | mommit | My sarcasm would destroy such friendship. "Here, darling... Have you ever heard of Dunning-Kruger?", straight-faced. |
7,310,417 | mommit | Baby is 8 months old. Still LOL’ing at my childfree friends who have no clue |
7,310,418 | mommit | Have her come over and she can watch your baby while you do yoga. |
7,310,419 | mommit | You are doing amazing! Babies are really hard work and don’t conform to those rules the parenting classes and books say they will follow. If someone said that to me when my baby was still a cluster feeder at 3 months I would likely have punched them due to lack of sleep and brain ‘no making words good’ for an actual r... |
7,310,420 | mommit | I saw this product. It's a baby brezza pad that goes in the crib. Presumably under the sheets. And vibrates etc. Worth researching and seeing if it is safe and if it would help you. I didn't look too far into it because my babe is a year now and doesn't need it. But I definitely wished I had seen it when she was young... |
7,310,421 | mommit | At 3 months I would hand baby over and do “yoga” aka deep stretches for 10-15 min because my upper back was so sore from holding her all day |
7,310,422 | mommit | HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA |
7,310,423 | mommit | None of my kids ever wanted to sleep and I have a 10-month-old who is still not sleeping. I bought a rocking armchair off Amazon that also has a massage function and can pop up the legs like a lazy boy recliner except it came in a box and you can assemble it so it was a huge and it was very cost-effective. Now in the m... |
7,310,424 | mommit | People without babies don’t understand! At least she isn’t telling you to just set him down and let him cry. |
7,310,425 | mommit | Just sat here with my 7 month old that still only contact naps… |
7,310,426 | mommit | Haha that's where you invited them over, hand them the baby and state you are only following their advice. |
7,310,427 | mommit | Mine exclusively contact napped until 8 months old (he's almost 13 months now). It was impossible to do anything. I was *ecstatic* the first day I got him to nap 45 minutes in the crib (bassinet was such a waste lol). Can't say I have much time for yoga still, but I definitely prefer the independent sleep. He even reac... |
7,310,428 | mommit | Good for you for loling that sort of comment would have made me feel like I was r doing everything I was supposed to in those early days. |
7,310,429 | mommit | I had a friend who often said things like this to me. She didn't have kids. Once she had kids she understood a lot more what it was like, as she had the same issues. |
7,310,430 | mommit | I think of all the stupid things I said to people with kids before I had kids if my own and just cringe |
7,310,431 | mommit | I’ve had to learn that my child free friends mean well but I can’t really lean on them for any real empathy or understanding :/ sometimes it’s lonely but luckily I have a few good mom friends! |
7,310,432 | mommit | My baby is a 100% contact napper too at nearly 7 months. I absolutely love it though. We exclusively bedshare and contact naps and I’ve just leaned into it. It’s a lot better if you can get him to sleep on you while you’re sitting down though. I rock her until she’s out and then I sit down and enjoy tv or work on schoo... |
7,310,433 | mommit | My baby is almost eight months and just now starting to nap in his crib It is a game changer! You will get there eventually, every baby is different! |
7,310,434 | mommit | *laughing in parent of a toddler who is the most un-zen thing I’ve ever been around* |
7,310,435 | mommit | An hour?! I have a 3 month old and sure, I can get him to sleep for an hour. But I also have 3 other kids and I ain’t gonna get yoga for an hour unless I’m okay with my 4 year old climbing on me. I can try to have them do it with me, but I’ll be lucky if I can get 10 minutes. |
7,310,436 | mommit | It’s 2:40pm and my 8 month old is asleep with boob in mouth right now while I do computer work |
7,310,437 | mommit | This won’t last, been through it and it goes by fast, baby will be sleeping before you know and you’ll have the time for yoga-it’s a phase, it’s not forever. Focus on your baby and ignore the noise. You know him better than anyone. When he gets older and you choose to sleep train great of you choose to co-sleep also gr... |
7,310,438 | mommit | DUDE! I hear you! My LO is 11 weeks. She seems fast asleep on my chest after nursing and I transfer her ever so gently and then, BAM! Wide awake! She needs the heartbeat, the smell, the body of her mama. It’s so touching and sweet and also I need a goddamn moment to poop in peace. Or yes, do yoga! We got a mamaroo dona... |
7,310,439 | mommit | Before I had my kid I also thought that you just put a baby in a crib and they just fall asleep lol |
7,310,440 | mommit | just set the baby down! - no mom ever. 1. put baby down. 2. realise baby slept most of its nap in your arms 3. baby wakes up crying because it's now hungry/dirty. 4. ??? 5. pick baby up again |
7,310,441 | mommit | Lol. My daughter is turning 3 yo soon and we regressed back to contact naps. My 1 hour of quiet time to fold laundry or sweep the floor is gone. |
7,310,442 | mommit | Lolllll reminds me of when a then childless friend advised me to just work out for short periods like 15 minutes when my son was a newborn (probably around your child’s age). I was like hahahahahahahahahaha I never even know when I will get 15 seconds to shove food in my mouth! My friend had his own child 6 months late... |
7,310,443 | mommit | I don’t take people that give advice about kids that don’t have kids serious. People don’t realize how self centered they are until they have kids. To think equating owning a dog is a test to see how people would be with kids Lmaooo! Not even close. |
7,310,444 | mommit | I literally 5 minutes ago had a similar conversation with my friend who is childless, does not want children, and never spends time with any children I love her, but seriously stfu |
7,310,445 | mommit | If it makes you feel any better, my baby refused to contact nap at about 5months and she is almost 3 now and I have missed it soooo much. I still don't have an hour for yoga. It is totally normal and reasonable to feel frustrated and overstimulated by having joint custody over your own body your feelings are valid... |
7,310,446 | mommit | This is hard, I’m sorry to hear. My little guy (he’s 4 meow) did that for awhile until my pediatrician legit demanded I let him cry it out. Not saying that’s appropriate here but after like a week of him crying a LOT (where I felt like I was dying) magic happened…. Best of luck. |
7,310,447 | mommit | If baby wakes up shortly after being transferred to crib you could try with heating a water bottle or wheat bag a little so it’s warm and cozy before you put baby in it, might work, might not but worth a try With my firstborn I constantly napped with him and he was the one wanting space baby number two is due in ... |
7,310,448 | mommit | I’m guilty of telling my friend when I was childless that getting your nails done only takes 45 min- go do it! LOL if I knew what I knew now! |
7,310,449 | mommit | ha. i would have probably said some stupid shit like that before i had kids. (cringe!!!) my baby was the same way. contact sleep until 8 months when i finally bit the bullet and sleep trained. it's cliche but enjoy the baby snuggles while you can. i promise you'll find ways to get your self care time again over the com... |
7,310,450 | mommit | I’ve been there. My daughter only napped ON me for the longest time. Eventually I was able to successfully put her down once she dozed off. |
7,310,451 | mommit | Awww I miss having the hopeful spirit of a child free life…. this is like my husband who says “Why can’t you just work on your phone while talking on it in the living room while watching the kids?” |
7,310,452 | mommit | We did contact naps through 5.5 months because he would nap in the crib but only for like 20 minutes at most which wasn’t long enough at that age. I just embraced it and watched a lot of Netflix with headphones in but I’m also lazy |
7,310,453 | mommit | I knew everything about kids, until I had one |
7,310,454 | mommit | I know what she says seems crazy, especially if this is your first kid... but you CAN put them down. I always napped /slept with my first and she formed a dependency on that. I was exhausted. And she learned to depend on someone else to sleep. We did cry it out with my second. Seems horrible... but works. It takes a li... |
7,310,455 | mommit | I was told to let my baby cry in the crib so he would fall asleep . When I went to check on him he had vomited . Never did that again . |
7,310,456 | mommit | Husband needs to watch baby so you can do self care. My husband did shifts with me. Not okay that he gets that time and you don’t. Also, you can sleep train at 4 months which makes things easier. |
7,310,457 | mommit | They make cribs that rock automatically, I haven’t used one but I’ve heard they work: https://www.potterybarnkids.com/products/snoo-smart-sleeper-bassinet/ Probably cheaper options out there too, I didn’t look very hard. |
7,310,458 | mommit | You’re friend is a idiot no offense But I was in pain for 4 weeks after birth Mine was all natural and had no tearing But your friend is dumb to tell you to do yoga after having a baby. |
7,310,459 | mommit | i always get some schadenfreude when people who say stuff like that later have kids |
7,310,460 | mommit | My son is one, he has only gone in his cot to nap maybe the last 2/3 months |
7,310,461 | mommit | This doesn't seem like an equitable situation. You both should be getting to yourself for self care. |
7,310,462 | mommit | I did yoga with mine when she was a newborn. It was really fun bonding with her and getting a good practice in. Mommy and me classes are great if you need a moment out of the house too. The whole class is so supportive and we help each other out. |
7,310,463 | mommit | Yeeeaaaahhhh no. It doesn’t work like that |
7,310,464 | mommit | Baby swing all day - my daughter spent a lot of naps in my second hand mamaroo swing (not the multi movement one, just went back and forth). I would set it up anywhere I could - even in the bathroom lol |
7,310,465 | mommit | Probably a dumb questions from a (hopefully) future mom. Can some babies nap while you are baby wearing, or is that too disruptive for them/for your routine? I suppose it probably depends on the kid. |
7,310,466 | mommit | My daughter only did contact napping until… 18 months!!! I realize that’s pretty extreme. But at some point we just gave up trying to change her, and now it’s just a blip in the past. It goes by so fast even though it feels so slow in the day to day. (And when she was 18 months, she learned to nap in her crib very quic... |
7,310,467 | mommit | My LO just turned six months and he's finally sleeping in his own room in his own crib. He's giving me a full one hour nap and a thirty min nap each day. YOU WILL GET THERE hang in there!!!! So close!!!! |
7,310,468 | mommit | Hello from the other side! Today I set my baby (now 14 month toddler really) for an hour and a half nap in his crib, and I actually did yoga! And many other things! It gets bette, This coming from someone who used to contact nap for many months on end. |
7,310,469 | mommit | The “best moms” are the ones without kids & have no fricken idea how it really is Did she really think you didn’t know that, & that its not possible My 6mo is the ultimate clinger Transferring isnt even an option ill try anymore |
7,310,470 | mommit | I have that kiddo too, 5 months. Still doing contact naps. I’m a SAHM so I thought it’d be easy breezy like my other kiddos were (11yo and 6yo) and I’d be able to clean, do a quick workout, etc… nope lol. For now I’m just soaking it up and trying to enjoy it but damn if it isn’t hard to be “me” sometimes. My husband is... |
7,310,471 | mommit | Lawd.. you can’t fix stupid. |
7,310,472 | mommit | For us swaddling our little one worked well. We also had a swing which worked well so long as we would move him after he fell asleep. The swing allowed me time to do thing for myself. |
7,310,473 | mommit | I was in nap jail for the 1st 6 months of my son's life, it does get easier! Cherish these times because they are over in the blink of an eye! I have a 22 year old son and a 9 month old son I swear by a white noise machine and a swaddle/sleep sack. We used to use the love to dreams now we use the Zippity Zips, wor... |
7,310,474 | mommit | Commiserating in it took 7 months to get my daughter to sleep in a crib and it was solely contact naps before that. She's 10 months and we still have the errant one when she just doesnt want to transfer |
7,310,475 | mommit | It’s funny and annoying at the same time how people with no children and zero experience with babies around try to give you advice or saying how we overreact or do unnecessary things. It’s like… how do you know?!? What make you think you know more than me who is taking care of this baby everyday for the last past month... |
7,310,476 | mommit | Lol I love this. Writing at 120am as my 4 month old just passed out on me nursing as I wait 20+ more minutes to attempt to get him in his crib |
7,310,477 | mommit | Someone around here mentioned that it might be because the crib mattress is cold when you lay her down and that wakes her up. Putting a heating pad down before putting her in the crib could fix that? I know you didn't ask for advice, but it seemed like a revelation to me! |
7,310,478 | mommit | “”.. I suppose I'm supposed to clean when she cleans and cook when she cooks. ” Omg I’m ROFL from this comment |
7,310,479 | mommit | My last two babies spent a lot of time in the ergo even at home. I needed my hands occasionally! |
7,310,480 | mommit | EXACTLY! |
7,310,481 | mommit | Some babies just won't settle with anyone except their favorite person. |
7,310,482 | mommit | Currently in a phase where 2 mo old is just not soothed by dad. It has been tough but I think we're starting to come out on the other side of it but LO def was not having it from dad. Like would get significantly more upset with him vs me. |
7,310,483 | mommit | Did they have a reason they’re harder? Because anything hard about puppies is also hard about babies lol |
7,310,484 | mommit | Id be like, ok lets trade for a few hours.... see how fasr they change their tune lmao. |
7,310,485 | mommit | Puppies are harder because I’ve never loved a puppy as much as I love my baby. It’s easier to do whatever it takes to care for my baby because it feels like less of an inconvenience. My opinion. |
7,310,486 | mommit | I woulda asked them which one you can put in a crate and leave the house alone for awhile with. |
7,310,487 | mommit | Ngl, now having a baby and having had puppies...they're about the same level of hardness just in very different ways and obviously for way shorter period of time on the dog side. I was woken up all hours of the night with yowling and potty breaks, had to baby proof, had many items destroyed, went a little crazy from sl... |
7,310,488 | mommit | Not only is that so wrong but on a fundamental level beyond the logistics of walking a dog versus changing a diaper is the fact that a dog or a cat can learn some tricks but basically they are already the best version of themselves as a cat or dog but tiny humans need a lot of guidance to learn how to be a good human |
7,310,489 | mommit | Impressed that you were quietly laughing and not fuming |
7,310,490 | mommit | Tbh it depends on the puppy I had a particularly hard puppy and that was much harder than my newborn was. Anxiety puppies are everything hard about babies except they can run super fast and have sharp bitey teeth. The puppy grew up and is a lot easier now, so now it's my baby's turn to be the harder one, but I kind... |
7,310,491 | mommit | Yes. My in laws also told us this. They also told all kinds of horror stories about how bad my husband had colic when he was a baby. And when they babysat they didn’t give my son naps at all. So I’m inclined to think that he didn’t have colic, they just never gave my husband a nap when he was a baby and he was massivel... |
7,310,492 | mommit | Does your mom have kids? (Sarcasm obviously). If only this were true, I’d kill for a kid who just fell asleep because they were tired. |
7,310,493 | mommit | Omg the amnesia |
7,310,494 | mommit | My mom also said that I am spoiling my baby by contact napping, but her kids used to sleep very little. And I thought no wonder why. I would do everything I can so that my baby gets enough sleep and is in good mood while awake. MIL also said that my husband was a cranky baby. Good thing that we don’t speak the same la... |
7,310,495 | mommit | Can someone please tell this to my soon to be 2 year old? He's fallen asleep on his own maybe a handful of times his entire life. The cuddles are cherished, though. Albeit exhausting. |
7,310,496 | mommit | My 17 month old who fights sleep for a living would like a word. |
7,310,497 | mommit | The stuff the older generation says to me about raising babies makes me SERIOUSLY wonder how we all survived— |
7,310,498 | mommit | They do??? |
7,310,499 | mommit | My baby is 5 months old. Now if I put him to nap on the bed my husband asks if it’s magic so nice to hear that soon it might get easier to perform “magic” |
7,310,500 | mommit | Same. My 1 year old started crib napping at 6/7 months old and the first two weeks of solid naps without wakeups I was sitting on the couch like Cher from Clueless with Josh just kinda lost. Now I can nap or clean and somewhat fondly remember the first six months of being stuck to my baby like glue lol. |
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