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7,310,501 | mommit | Laugh-crying at 3-year old not sleeping anywhere but touching one of us. |
7,310,502 | mommit | I'm wondering if OP's friend writes baby sleep blogs because her advice sounds exactly like every other "expert" telling you that a 3 month old should be falling asleep independently by now. |
7,310,503 | mommit | That's a great idea! I'll give it a shot tomorrow. :) |
7,310,504 | mommit | Woowwwwwww. I hate MLMs. |
7,310,505 | mommit | I mean…….so some people CAN make it happen even in survival mode, but I wouldn’t call the rest lazy. I would call the former crazy. And I am allowed to call them crazy because I WAS that person who out jogging every night after breastfeeding and then pumping for my newborn. I think I started 3 weeks after having the... |
7,310,506 | mommit | After their advice I brought it up at dinner and my husband said he'll glady watch the baby so I can do that. I think the bigger problem has been that I don't have any energy until later in the day when he's at work. So it wasn't really a complaint on my husband as much as it's me being jealous that he has the energy &... |
7,310,507 | mommit | Lol I actually tried to do some squats while baby-wearing (mostly to keep her asleep while I picked things up... not really for fitness) and screwed up my knees for a few days. You don't think about how much extra work it is to carry them around until your body protests. |
7,310,508 | mommit | But don’t fall asleep holding them! … quickly obliterates all contact napping parents’ minds. |
7,310,509 | mommit | You're totally right, I just don't have any friends with kids yet sooooo. Idk. It's alright, I wasn't upset by her advice, more like amused. |
7,310,510 | mommit | This! |
7,310,511 | mommit | Someone else mentioned trading off! We are going to give it a shot! He usually sleeps in til work on the days he doesn't workout, but I think we can all try waking up so I can get a workout in. (And if the baby stays asleep when I get up, even better!) |
7,310,512 | mommit | Seriously the expectation that baby will just melt into your life and routine is not realistic (for the most part). My son was a "super chill" kid, in other words he didn't have a ton of meltdowns and didn't cry that much. But he also was glued to me. I couldn't leave his sight for even 2 minutes to use the bathroom wi... |
7,310,513 | mommit | Solid advice! Haha |
7,310,514 | mommit | You've heard of the Year of Yes? That is not this year. |
7,310,515 | mommit | Also extend that longer than a year haha. Just hit 12 mths and it's really only gotten worse haha |
7,310,516 | mommit | This!!!!! Send her over here after. |
7,310,517 | mommit | And even if I did have 30 mins in a row, I wouldn't waste it in a fucking workout haha |
7,310,518 | mommit | Aside from all the prehistoric and human screaming - it’s also 2.5 hours long! |
7,310,519 | mommit | I'm glad you've gotten back to it! Definitely trying to remain patient and go with the flow. |
7,310,520 | mommit | Thank you for your solid advice! I'm glad to hear it! :) |
7,310,521 | mommit | Hahah! I slept in my parents room til I was 5, then my baby brother was born and I got kicked out..I snuck into my older sisters room almost every night. I honestly had a pretty bad dependency and was afraid of the dark for years so I'm hoping to avoid that with my little guy! We'll see though. |
7,310,522 | mommit | Hahaha yessss this is what I imagine. Very serene and calm, right? lol |
7,310,523 | mommit | Nice! My washer/dryer is stackable or id totally try that! Haha. Hoping to try transferring to crib to maybe get him used to it. We'll see how that goes. |
7,310,524 | mommit | This is horrifically unsafe You're not supposed to leave them to sleep in the carseat at all outside of the car/ stroller, let alone put it top of stuff. Holy shit... |
7,310,525 | mommit | Mostly because he has to go to work. Getting up earlier is an option, but not necessarily a realistic option for me. Lol |
7,310,526 | mommit | I have a mamaroo I bought used, he likes it but won't fall asleep in it. He last maybe 10 minutes max. I'm tempted to try a more traditional swing, I'm starting to think the mamaroos are a sham lol |
7,310,527 | mommit | I guess the grass is always greener! I'll definitely try to cherish it. |
7,310,528 | mommit | Haha yeah I thought the cluster feeding was over! I had two great nights of sleep recently, (5 hour stretches), but now he's back to waking every 2 hours at night cuz he wants a snack...lol |
7,310,529 | mommit | Oooh, I've never heard of this! I'll look into it! |
7,310,530 | mommit | Yes! Maybe I need to come to terms with the fact that I'll likely only get 15 minutes, but to make the best of it. |
7,310,531 | mommit | Hahaha yep |
7,310,532 | mommit | Hahaha it's always so funny. I have a friend who loves to compare having a baby to her having a kitten. Meanwhile she just went on a week long hiking trip and I'm prettttty sure that cat took care of itself. Lol |
7,310,533 | mommit | Thank you for this. |
7,310,534 | mommit | Oh gosh. Hahaha |
7,310,535 | mommit | Haha! Trying to embrace it for sure! I'm currently pacing around the kitchen with him in the wrap fast asleep because the movement helps him, but maybe once he's in a deep sleep I can chill for a bit. |
7,310,536 | mommit | Bahaha meee too. I was a nanny and really thought I knew my shit...nope. |
7,310,537 | mommit | What age did you start CIO? He's barely 3 months and I've read you can't sleep train til 4..and then the whole 4 month regression hits |
7,310,538 | mommit | Oh no! My nephew did the same to my sister so she quickly gave up on the crib as well. :( Some babies just need the extra attention! A crib is much bigger and lonelier to them than it is to us.. |
7,310,539 | mommit | Yeah I'd love to try a snoo but I already have a brand new crib for him that he won't touch. Also I think he may already be too big for a snoo. The kids 14 lbs already! |
7,310,540 | mommit | Mine naps wonderfully in my Konny wrap! Sometimes for 2-3 hours! It just gets a little exhausting and it's not really hands free. I just bought a more structured carrier and I'm hoping it fits him a little more safely so I can bend and things like that. The wrap is great though, just a little exhausting. |
7,310,541 | mommit | 2:56 a.m. 6 month old has been waking up for the past three hours now. Just boobed him to sleep again. Won't sleep in crib more than 30 minutes at a time. I'm dying. |
7,310,542 | mommit | 3:24 am here and my babe is fast asleep on my chest. |
7,310,543 | mommit | Maybe... But my husband is able to feed her and lay her down just fine. She just wants mommy to hold her all of the time. |
7,310,544 | mommit | I used to wait til baby was asleep and do a transfer to my husband. It failed half the time, but if it did succeed every once in a while I’d get like a 1-2 hour break because he could keep him asleep whereas in the crib he would’ve lasted 10min tops. Lol. Real survival skills. |
7,310,545 | mommit | Well that’s why I’m asking why her husband can’t alternate days. The post doesn’t say that no one else can get her baby to sleep it just says he will only contact nap. |
7,310,546 | mommit | That’s a hard truth right there |
7,310,547 | mommit | Teething might be harder with puppies because babies don’t usually find your shoe collection and tear it up until after they are crawling. |
7,310,548 | mommit | I mean, the only experience they have with any babies or kids is through friends that they occasionally see/visit so keep that in mind haha. The logic was basically that “puppies are harder than babies but toddlers are harder than puppies” because you have to take them out to potty every two hours, you have to train ... |
7,310,549 | mommit | Yeah I was super tempted to just be like “here take him home with you and survive the night. Just the night.” |
7,310,550 | mommit | I can see that. Also if I leave the baby on that floor play mat, he won't wiggle over and eat my shoes. |
7,310,551 | mommit | I agree. When my dog was a baby he had major issues and would literally scream all night long for weeks. Nothing has ever tested my patience like that experience. But it lasted far less time than the hard parts of having a baby. So there was that too. But there was literally one night where the puppy was screaming, it ... |
7,310,552 | mommit | Agreed! And kids will eventually grow up and become great companions. Dogs will be like “babies” forever |
7,310,553 | mommit | Fair. But if you believe animals are an inconvenience, they shouldn't be in the house. Not you specifically. Speaking generally |
7,310,554 | mommit | I know right?? One of them literally had their dog in a crate during this discussion?! But I figured it was one of those things that they would never really get until they do it themselves. But you bet your ass I’m gonna ask them if a puppy is still harder once they have their own kids |
7,310,555 | mommit | I had a baby first (who is now 7) and then we got a puppy. Very similar - had to take the puppy out every 2 hours during the night (kind of like when I needed to nurse every 2 hours through the night), slept on the floor next to her crate (similar to the nights spent next to the crib), etc. The puppy was sleeping throu... |
7,310,556 | mommit | I used to foster litters of puppies (though usually kittens per username) and I remember a coworker telling me her baby was easier. I have my second baby now and I don’t believe it. I guess a 7 week old puppy is kind of like a toddler though with the chaos and maybe biting |
7,310,557 | mommit | Oh I’ve had puppies so I totally get where they were coming from and I can understand why they would feel that way. And maybe it’s true depending on the puppy and the baby. But to me, baby is still harder. And I think I have an easy baby. I never had to rock a puppy to sleep through his nonstop howling/crying/barking... |
7,310,558 | mommit | I've definitely dealt with difficult puppies that were way harder than my babies. I can't whip a titty out to pacify my parents' spoiled ass puppy. But yes, being able to just dip out and put them in a crate is nice |
7,310,559 | mommit | Yeah their logic (8 of them all agreed to this btw) was that “puppies are harder than babies but toddlers are harder than puppies”. I didn’t really have the heart to tell them that they would basically be raising a puppy, except it would take longer and you’d also be recovering from a major medical procedure. Oh and br... |
7,310,560 | mommit | Why would you fume at someone for having a discussion? Are you doing okay? |
7,310,561 | mommit | That’s funny, I heard the same from my MIL. She’s also commented how my daughter sleeps a lot. I’m seriously wondering if my husband just needed to nap! |
7,310,562 | mommit | Hmmm that’s food for thought. Now I’m wondering if I ever had colic. My mum has told me she doesn’t understand why I rock/feed my son to sleep. |
7,310,563 | mommit | They probably just don’t remember what it was like to have a baby, at all. |
7,310,564 | mommit | I wonder if this being overtired all the time was detrimental to the brain development and people whose parents would just not get them to sleep and they eventually fall asleep from being too tired would be smarter etc. |
7,310,565 | mommit | Mine would, in the most inconvenient way possible! Sitting on the floor with the other kids? False asleep while my leg is pinned under me and goes totally numb. Now it's an Olympic event to stand up while holding the baby and put them in their bed. Without knocking down the Lego tower. Took a shower and put on all clea... |
7,310,566 | mommit | Completely agree here. ENJOY the fact that he can’t move much right now. Sit him in a bouncer seat or on a blanket & let him watch you! (And enjoy all the snuggles & smells of your little one. Once they start talking, you will CRAVE the silence. Same for crawling/moving. Seriously.) |
7,310,567 | mommit | Same. Our last batch of messages was me telling her no a few years ago because I can’t take the supplements on the program she offers. But like, if you soooo want to be accountability buddies and friends with me - how did you miss that I JUST had a baby? |
7,310,568 | mommit | That’s a pretty broad brush you’re painting with; there’s nothing wrong with getting back to a workout routine when you can, and there’s nothing wrong with not doing it. Let’s not paint a side as lazy/crazy either way, people do what works for them. |
7,310,569 | mommit | Did you have 2 under 2 also? I think it’s great for those that can! This time around, c section recovery was a lot easier and I was able to walk around my neighborhood a bit a week after surgery. I definitely had to wait the 6 weeks to do anything more strenuous though and don’t want to risk my supply dropping for my o... |
7,310,570 | mommit | I feel this. My kid is almost 3 now so things are a lot calmer, but I remember in those early months it wasn’t always that I didn’t have time or someone to watch the baby, it was that I would rather just sleep when I could. |
7,310,571 | mommit | It's hard to advocate for yourself, but so worth it. Good for you for bringing up getting a break with your husband. A SAHM job isn't a 24/7 job, and it's critical to set expectations early in your new partnership. You deserve a break as well! |
7,310,572 | mommit | I recently heard something that really resonated for me as a mom. A lot of instances where we think we don't have the time for something it's really that we don't have the capacity for it. It takes a lot to align the time with your energy level with young children. |
7,310,573 | mommit | I totally understand that. My husband is constantly trying to find ways to motivate me to work out but I'm just so exhausted i can't even think about it. |
7,310,574 | mommit | Hahahaha! I do have a lot more time now that she’s 1! Naps and nighttime sleep make sooooo much difference |
7,310,575 | mommit | Hopefully it will be! Crossing my fingers for you :) |
7,310,576 | mommit | A proper swing was an absolute lifesaving gamechanger when my kids were tiny. My son would sleep in the swing for hours happily and my daughter didn't nap as often but she loved being in it and I could take it with me so I could watch her while I got some cleaning/exercise/whatever done. A little acrobatics and I figur... |
7,310,577 | mommit | I just stumbled acrossed it yesterday! |
7,310,578 | mommit | 15 minutes is better than no minutes. I also started doing mommy and me yoga with her just before Covid hit but I’m sure those are back now. Now at 2.5 we do yoga together which is really fun but also an intense workout because mom holding a yoga pose = jungle gym |
7,310,579 | mommit | This is also true in a different way in toddlerhood. 1. Sit down for 5 mins with some hot tea. 2. Toddler runs off/needs something 3.Stand up and chase your toddler, who now thinks it's a game. 4. ??? 5. come back now to a cold tea :) |
7,310,580 | mommit | Lmaoooo |
7,310,581 | mommit | Hmmm can't remember now that I'm thinking back... it might have been younger with him cause I would try to sleep with him or rock him to sleep and he would just cry and cry so we finally were like ok, crib it is... he adjusted well |
7,310,582 | mommit | You and I must be in the same time zone! 3:17 right now for me, working on boobing to sleep a 2 month old. |
7,310,583 | mommit | I’ve found my people. My boy is 6 weeks old and I can’t for the life of me get him settled anywhere but my arms for more 30 minutes a few times a day. I’m alone with him 4 days a week. Someone please tell me it gets better! |
7,310,584 | mommit | You are all just amateurs, my baby is 15 months old and still only contact sleeps during the day and wakes every two-three hours at night. What do I win? (Wish I was joking, please send help, haven’t slept through the night in three years |
7,310,585 | mommit | Maybe baby is nursed to sleep and husband can’t do that. Meaning you always end up with a transfer. My baby was like this |
7,310,586 | mommit | Lol what. Also... Puppies don't eat from my boob. |
7,310,587 | mommit | Mine will, but he has less teeth than a puppy so less damage |
7,310,588 | mommit | I believe it’s okay to love an animal completely and also feel inconvenienced by them at times. As long as they are getting the care they need. |
7,310,589 | mommit | I'd actually go fully in the other direction to say that if you aren't inconvenienced by your pet at all, you aren't giving them enough attention. Having to walk/play with my dog when I'm not feeling well is inconvenient, having to get up on the weekends to let her out and feed her on schedule when I'd rather sleep in ... |
7,310,590 | mommit | Probably because it's hard to feel supported in a situation when no one around you has the shared experiences to know what you're going through. If they feel comfortable and confident with the narrative that a puppy is more work than a human baby they probably won't accept a parent telling them otherwise. Sure, you c... |
7,310,591 | mommit | To be honest it seemed incredibly dismissive to me to compare the two but I was probably really underestimating what having a puppy is like as well. However, since you asked, we're in the middle of a pretty full-on sleep regression/teething/developmental explosion/screamy kinda phase so, I am doing okay but probably ... |
7,310,592 | mommit | I think what’s crazy, as someone who had a kid with colic, is you are willing to try anything and everything to get them to just stop. If your kid is crying, and you don’t even consider rocking them, that’s wild. |
7,310,593 | mommit | Given the context of my comment talking about my husband, do you see how your comment could be perceived as kind of insulting? |
7,310,594 | mommit | They can’t just make it easy on us sometimes can they? They’re lucky they’re so cute! |
7,310,595 | mommit | I mean, sure I get your point. I just know that (my guess) 95% of moms with newborns are completely exhausted like I was. Wearing your body out even more because of some anxiety or unrealistic expectation of yourself is probably not a good idea. |
7,310,596 | mommit | Yup, precisely! |
7,310,597 | mommit | This makes SO much sense. The capacity for it just doesn't always line up. Thanks for this explanation. |
7,310,598 | mommit | Yes. And sometimes when you have some downtime you just want to sit & watch tv or play on your phone. Do what makes YOU happy and let’s you recharge. We all deserve it. |
7,310,599 | mommit | Mine just turned one. Still don't have good naps or nighttime sleep haha |
7,310,600 | mommit | It gets better mamas! My LO turned one in June and has really only started sleeping through the night in the past month. Even then he still stirs and wakes up sometimes, like last night. |
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