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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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He sounds awesome. \n\nGood luck, OP.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.\\n\\nI strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. \\n\\nAlso, yay Grandpa. He sounds awesome. \\n\\nGood luck, OP. \", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.</p>\\n\\n<p>I strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. </p>\\n\\n<p>Also, yay Grandpa. He sounds awesome. </p>\\n\\n<p>Good luck, OP. </p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323151.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323151.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaciy8\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiaciy8\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaciy8/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 9612, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 9612, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\n\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.</p>\\n\\n<p>HOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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You have to deal with a psychopath capable of charisma and knowing how to exploit every weakness that comes with being a feeling human being.... before you see yourself in the father's or aunt's shoes. I thought people like that were stupid or foolish until I dealt with one. Conniving predatory monsters they are.", "role": "TrepanningForAu", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"TrepanningForAu\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_jyutiqb\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You'd be surprised. You have to deal with a psychopath capable of charisma and knowing how to exploit every weakness that comes with being a feeling human being.... before you see yourself in the father's or aunt's shoes. I thought people like that were stupid or foolish until I dealt with one. Conniving predatory monsters they are.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>You'd be surprised. You have to deal with a psychopath capable of charisma and knowing how to exploit every weakness that comes with being a feeling human being.... before you see yourself in the father's or aunt's shoes. I thought people like that were stupid or foolish until I dealt with one. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "She. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiacma1/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 27523, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 27523, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiacma1/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 27523, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 27523, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}]
It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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After I read that story with the guy who\u2019s son raped his mom and drove her to suicide, i realized that even if I was the greatest dad in the world, my son could still be a complete psycho \n \nLink: https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/1jatvd/i_am_not_proud_of_my_son/", "role": "kaveenieweenie", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"kaveenieweenie\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_8kr2578\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This point can not be more true. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.</p>\\n\\n<p>HOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. 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I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552368590.0, "created_utc": 1552368590.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eic14jz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eic14jz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eib2mkc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eic14jz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552368590.0, "created_utc": 1552368590.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eic14jz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eic14jz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eib2mkc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eic14jz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. 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I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. 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It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. 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I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. 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I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Exactly! 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I was a counseling intern once upon a time, but, b/c of my college experience, I made sure I was ready. I read and studied constantly. I watched videos of effective sessions. I kept a pad with questions and responses with me in case I blanked. If I needed help from my supervisor, I got her involved. I talked to the experienced counselors on staff regularly. My point is, you have to be careful with counselors at colleges. You never know what you will have to work with. The same can be said to some extent for licensed counselors. There are good and bad ones. But, at least you can use the internet and connections to find one that is good. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. 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I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiaqm8v\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaqm8v/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 391, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 391, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}]
It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552368590.0, "created_utc": 1552368590.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eic14jz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eic14jz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eib2mkc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eic14jz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552368590.0, "created_utc": 1552368590.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eic14jz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eic14jz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eib2mkc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eic14jz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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He sounds awesome. \n\nGood luck, OP.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.\\n\\nI strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. \\n\\nAlso, yay Grandpa. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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My heart broke reading your original post. While things aren\u2019t on great terms with your immediate family, it truly warms my heart to see that your extended family is going through great lengths to make up for lost time. While your road ahead may be dark, and bumpy, know you have a lot of love surrounding you, here, and with your extended family. \n\nWe are all rooting for you. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. 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If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. 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Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. 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I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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He sounds awesome. \n\nGood luck, OP.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.\\n\\nI strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. \\n\\nAlso, yay Grandpa. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325959.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325959.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiagoqz\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, 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I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Exactly! I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Exactly! I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552326552.0, \"created_utc\": 1552326552.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiahkav\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiahkav\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiah6bd\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiahkav/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 139, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 139, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "I tried to get help on my college campus, and it was all mediocre interns who had no idea what they were doing. They were very disengaged and ineffective. I was a counseling intern once upon a time, but, b/c of my college experience, I made sure I was ready. I read and studied constantly. I watched videos of effective sessions. I kept a pad with questions and responses with me in case I blanked. If I needed help from my supervisor, I got her involved. I talked to the experienced counselors on staff regularly. My point is, you have to be careful with counselors at colleges. You never know what you will have to work with. The same can be said to some extent for licensed counselors. There are good and bad ones. But, at least you can use the internet and connections to find one that is good. The last two I went to were awesome (one was marriage and one was individual.)", "role": "sisterfunkhaus", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"sisterfunkhaus\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_bnjch\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I tried to get help on my college campus, and it was all mediocre interns who had no idea what they were doing. They were very disengaged and ineffective. I was a counseling intern once upon a time, but, b/c of my college experience, I made sure I was ready. I read and studied constantly. I watched videos of effective sessions. I kept a pad with questions and responses with me in case I blanked. If I needed help from my supervisor, I got her involved. I talked to the experienced counselors on staff regularly. My point is, you have to be careful with counselors at colleges. You never know what you will have to work with. The same can be said to some extent for licensed counselors. There are good and bad ones. But, at least you can use the internet and connections to find one that is good. The last two I went to were awesome (one was marriage and one was individual.)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I tried to get help on my college campus, and it was all mediocre interns who had no idea what they were doing. They were very disengaged and ineffective. I was a counseling intern once upon a time, but, b/c of my college experience, I made sure I was ready. I read and studied constantly. I watched videos of effective sessions. I kept a pad with questions and responses with me in case I blanked. If I needed help from my supervisor, I got her involved. I talked to the experienced counselors on staff regularly. My point is, you have to be careful with counselors at colleges. You never know what you will have to work with. The same can be said to some extent for licensed counselors. There are good and bad ones. But, at least you can use the internet and connections to find one that is good. The last two I went to were awesome (one was marriage and one was individual.)</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552328162.0, \"created_utc\": 1552328162.0, \"depth\": 4, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiajyyc\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiajyyc\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiahkav\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiajyyc/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 103, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": false, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 103, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "I am a counseling intern in a college, and I also encourage OP to see one when she is there and to also be aware that (intern or license) not all therapist will be a perfect match for you and not to be afraid to speak up and ask to see someone else. You can even go to the supervisor directly. The intern has to tell you that they report their cases to the supervisor anyway. That being said, there are a lot of fantastic counseling students who work their butts off to do everything they can, so deff don\u2019t write off college counseling. It is free to you because you already pay for it through tuition so you might as well check it out. And guaranteed confidentiality when you are 18. The laws can get a bit murky on confidentiality when you are underage. \n\nI would also look into getting paperwork from your parents so you have it on hand and don\u2019t have to ask them for it down the road, such as your birth certificate and social security card.", "role": "bbkiti", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"bbkiti\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_1rnyiv0p\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I am a counseling intern in a college, and I also encourage OP to see one when she is there and to also be aware that (intern or license) not all therapist will be a perfect match for you and not to be afraid to speak up and ask to see someone else. You can even go to the supervisor directly. The intern has to tell you that they report their cases to the supervisor anyway. That being said, there are a lot of fantastic counseling students who work their butts off to do everything they can, so deff don\\u2019t write off college counseling. It is free to you because you already pay for it through tuition so you might as well check it out. And guaranteed confidentiality when you are 18. The laws can get a bit murky on confidentiality when you are underage. \\n\\nI would also look into getting paperwork from your parents so you have it on hand and don\\u2019t have to ask them for it down the road, such as your birth certificate and social security card. \", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I am a counseling intern in a college, and I also encourage OP to see one when she is there and to also be aware that (intern or license) not all therapist will be a perfect match for you and not to be afraid to speak up and ask to see someone else. You can even go to the supervisor directly. The intern has to tell you that they report their cases to the supervisor anyway. That being said, there are a lot of fantastic counseling students who work their butts off to do everything they can, so deff don\\u2019t write off college counseling. It is free to you because you already pay for it through tuition so you might as well check it out. And guaranteed confidentiality when you are 18. 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552368590.0, "created_utc": 1552368590.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eic14jz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eic14jz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eib2mkc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eic14jz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. 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I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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He sounds awesome. \n\nGood luck, OP.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.\\n\\nI strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. \\n\\nAlso, yay Grandpa. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.</p>\\n\\n<p>HOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325959.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325959.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiagoqz\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiagoqz\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiaciy8\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiagoqz/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 2509, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 2509, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "For therapists doctor-patient confidentiality applies to those under 18 as well (obviously unless your therapist thinks your a danger to yourself or others) they can ASK to tell your parents things, but the patient reserves the right to say no even as a minor. 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No matter how he sleazed, charmed, screamed, threatened etc, noone told him a thing. I personally found his extreme rage entertaining lol.", "role": "MamaBear4485", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"MamaBear4485\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_gwtvo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yep my highly narcissistic exh was beyond furious when the kiddo got old enough where her sessions were between her and her therapist. 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She has narcissistic personality disorder, my childhood was a shitshow because of it", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Honestly it probably saved my life a few times, most of what I talked about in therapy was my bat shit lunatic mother. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiacma1/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 27523, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 27523, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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After I read that story with the guy who\u2019s son raped his mom and drove her to suicide, i realized that even if I was the greatest dad in the world, my son could still be a complete psycho \n \nLink: https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/1jatvd/i_am_not_proud_of_my_son/", "role": "kaveenieweenie", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"kaveenieweenie\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_8kr2578\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This point can not be more true. 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I cant get past \u201cShe killed herself a year later\u201d", "role": "kaveenieweenie", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"kaveenieweenie\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_8kr2578\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Seriously, I struggle to read through it even today. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. 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It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". 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The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325959.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325959.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiagoqz\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, 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I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Exactly! I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Exactly! I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552326552.0, \"created_utc\": 1552326552.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiahkav\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiahkav\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiah6bd\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiahkav/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 139, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 139, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "I tried to get help on my college campus, and it was all mediocre interns who had no idea what they were doing. They were very disengaged and ineffective. I was a counseling intern once upon a time, but, b/c of my college experience, I made sure I was ready. I read and studied constantly. I watched videos of effective sessions. I kept a pad with questions and responses with me in case I blanked. If I needed help from my supervisor, I got her involved. I talked to the experienced counselors on staff regularly. My point is, you have to be careful with counselors at colleges. You never know what you will have to work with. The same can be said to some extent for licensed counselors. There are good and bad ones. But, at least you can use the internet and connections to find one that is good. The last two I went to were awesome (one was marriage and one was individual.)", "role": "sisterfunkhaus", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"sisterfunkhaus\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_bnjch\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I tried to get help on my college campus, and it was all mediocre interns who had no idea what they were doing. They were very disengaged and ineffective. I was a counseling intern once upon a time, but, b/c of my college experience, I made sure I was ready. I read and studied constantly. I watched videos of effective sessions. I kept a pad with questions and responses with me in case I blanked. If I needed help from my supervisor, I got her involved. I talked to the experienced counselors on staff regularly. My point is, you have to be careful with counselors at colleges. You never know what you will have to work with. The same can be said to some extent for licensed counselors. There are good and bad ones. But, at least you can use the internet and connections to find one that is good. The last two I went to were awesome (one was marriage and one was individual.)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I tried to get help on my college campus, and it was all mediocre interns who had no idea what they were doing. They were very disengaged and ineffective. I was a counseling intern once upon a time, but, b/c of my college experience, I made sure I was ready. I read and studied constantly. I watched videos of effective sessions. I kept a pad with questions and responses with me in case I blanked. If I needed help from my supervisor, I got her involved. I talked to the experienced counselors on staff regularly. My point is, you have to be careful with counselors at colleges. You never know what you will have to work with. The same can be said to some extent for licensed counselors. There are good and bad ones. But, at least you can use the internet and connections to find one that is good. The last two I went to were awesome (one was marriage and one was individual.)</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552328162.0, \"created_utc\": 1552328162.0, \"depth\": 4, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiajyyc\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiajyyc\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiahkav\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiajyyc/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 103, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": false, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 103, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Was it a State University? If so, they should have counseling centers staffed with psychiatrists and psychologists - actual doctors.", "role": "sweetrhymepurereason", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"sweetrhymepurereason\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_gmm2z\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Was it a State University? If so, they should have counseling centers staffed with psychiatrists and psychologists - actual doctors.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Was it a State University? If so, they should have counseling centers staffed with psychiatrists and psychologists - actual doctors.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552329316.0, \"created_utc\": 1552329316.0, \"depth\": 5, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eialpwf\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eialpwf\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiajyyc\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eialpwf/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 12, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 12, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}]
It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552368590.0, "created_utc": 1552368590.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eic14jz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eic14jz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eib2mkc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eic14jz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. 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The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325959.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325959.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiagoqz\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, 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I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "role": "AedanTynnan", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"AedanTynnan\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_e5fw7em\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I didn\\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \\n\\nIt didn\\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I didn\\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\\n\\n<p>It didn\\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. 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I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552368590.0, "created_utc": 1552368590.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eic14jz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eic14jz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eib2mkc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eic14jz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. 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If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "She. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552368590.0, "created_utc": 1552368590.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eic14jz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eic14jz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eib2mkc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eic14jz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. 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I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. 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My heart broke reading your original post. While things aren\u2019t on great terms with your immediate family, it truly warms my heart to see that your extended family is going through great lengths to make up for lost time. While your road ahead may be dark, and bumpy, know you have a lot of love surrounding you, here, and with your extended family. \n\nWe are all rooting for you. Go, enjoy your freedoms, and be loved.", "role": "Caktis", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Caktis\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#8f7312\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Certified Proctologist [29]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_1yjiygm3\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This update is a needed one. My heart broke reading your original post. While things aren\\u2019t on great terms with your immediate family, it truly warms my heart to see that your extended family is going through great lengths to make up for lost time. While your road ahead may be dark, and bumpy, know you have a lot of love surrounding you, here, and with your extended family. \\n\\nWe are all rooting for you. Go, enjoy your freedoms, and be loved. \", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>This update is a needed one. My heart broke reading your original post. While things aren\\u2019t on great terms with your immediate family, it truly warms my heart to see that your extended family is going through great lengths to make up for lost time. While your road ahead may be dark, and bumpy, know you have a lot of love surrounding you, here, and with your extended family. </p>\\n\\n<p>We are all rooting for you. 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My family has never been on great terms with my extended family (That's what I was told by my dad, turns out it was a lie. My mom and dad didn't like taking advice from the family so they cut them out.). This past week has been amazing as i'm reconnecting with my family. The love they give me is amazing. And the support i've got from here is really great too :)", "role": "Renegadesrule33", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Renegadesrule33\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_3c816wqd\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I'm surprised as well. My family has never been on great terms with my extended family (That's what I was told by my dad, turns out it was a lie. My mom and dad didn't like taking advice from the family so they cut them out.). This past week has been amazing as i'm reconnecting with my family. The love they give me is amazing. And the support i've got from here is really great too :)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm surprised as well. My family has never been on great terms with my extended family (That's what I was told by my dad, turns out it was a lie. My mom and dad didn't like taking advice from the family so they cut them out.). This past week has been amazing as i'm reconnecting with my family. The love they give me is amazing. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552368590.0, "created_utc": 1552368590.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eic14jz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eic14jz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eib2mkc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eic14jz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325959.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325959.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiagoqz\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiacma1/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 27523, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 27523, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiaqm8v\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaqm8v/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 391, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 391, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "The parental home is not always the best place for disabled people. Residential facilities have 24 hour staffing and multiple support professionals dealing with each person. Way more structured, supervised, and informed than most families can manage. \nAfter 30+ years working in the residential support field, I can say that ALL of the people in my particular program are better served and have better quality of life than they would have at \u201chome\u201d with their parents.", "role": "SharonaZamboni", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"SharonaZamboni\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_60uz4\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"The parental home is not always the best place for disabled people. Residential facilities have 24 hour staffing and multiple support professionals dealing with each person. Way more structured, supervised, and informed than most families can manage. \\nAfter 30+ years working in the residential support field, I can say that ALL of the people in my particular program are better served and have better quality of life than they would have at \\u201chome\\u201d with their parents. \\n\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>The parental home is not always the best place for disabled people. Residential facilities have 24 hour staffing and multiple support professionals dealing with each person. Way more structured, supervised, and informed than most families can manage. \\nAfter 30+ years working in the residential support field, I can say that ALL of the people in my particular program are better served and have better quality of life than they would have at \\u201chome\\u201d with their parents. </p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552344692.0, \"created_utc\": 1552344692.0, \"depth\": 4, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eib8qub\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eib8qub\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiaqm8v\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eib8qub/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 112, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 112, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}]
It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552368590.0, "created_utc": 1552368590.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eic14jz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eic14jz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eib2mkc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eic14jz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiacma1/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 27523, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 27523, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. 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I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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He sounds awesome. \n\nGood luck, OP.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.\\n\\nI strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. \\n\\nAlso, yay Grandpa. He sounds awesome. \\n\\nGood luck, OP. \", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.</p>\\n\\n<p>I strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. </p>\\n\\n<p>Also, yay Grandpa. He sounds awesome. </p>\\n\\n<p>Good luck, OP. </p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323151.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323151.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaciy8\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, 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Also, as other people have said, there will be counselling available at your school as well. That might be an option. \n\nOne thing, though, OP - not all therapists are created equal. It's okay if you think the one you get first isn't right for you. 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One that you feel you can trust.\n\nA good therapist will be in your corner, wanting you to come out of it a better person. A good therapist will not side with you for misplaced blame or bad behaviors-those are the very things they want to help you work through and self improve. 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One that you feel you can trust.\\n\\nA good therapist will be in your corner, wanting you to come out of it a better person. A good therapist will not side with you for misplaced blame or bad behaviors-those are the very things they want to help you work through and self improve. A good therapist is confidential, and outside specific things as a mandatory reporter, won't divulge the contents of your conversations.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yes, find one you can open up to. One that you feel you can trust.</p>\\n\\n<p>A good therapist will be in your corner, wanting you to come out of it a better person. A good therapist will not side with you for misplaced blame or bad behaviors-those are the very things they want to help you work through and self improve. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552368590.0, "created_utc": 1552368590.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eic14jz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eic14jz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eib2mkc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eic14jz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". 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The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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Also, as other people have said, there will be counselling available at your school as well. That might be an option. \n\nOne thing, though, OP - not all therapists are created equal. It's okay if you think the one you get first isn't right for you. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552368590.0, "created_utc": 1552368590.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eic14jz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eic14jz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eib2mkc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eic14jz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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He sounds awesome. \n\nGood luck, OP.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.\\n\\nI strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. \\n\\nAlso, yay Grandpa. He sounds awesome. \\n\\nGood luck, OP. \", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.</p>\\n\\n<p>I strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. </p>\\n\\n<p>Also, yay Grandpa. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.</p>\\n\\n<p>HOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325959.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325959.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiagoqz\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, 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I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Exactly! 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325959.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325959.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiagoqz\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiagoqz\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiaciy8\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiagoqz/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 2509, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 2509, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "For therapists doctor-patient confidentiality applies to those under 18 as well (obviously unless your therapist thinks your a danger to yourself or others) they can ASK to tell your parents things, but the patient reserves the right to say no even as a minor. 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No matter how he sleazed, charmed, screamed, threatened etc, noone told him a thing. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552368590.0, "created_utc": 1552368590.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eic14jz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eic14jz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eib2mkc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eic14jz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. 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I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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He sounds awesome. \n\nGood luck, OP.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.\\n\\nI strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. \\n\\nAlso, yay Grandpa. 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He sounds awesome. </p>\\n\\n<p>Good luck, OP. </p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323151.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323151.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaciy8\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiaciy8\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaciy8/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 9612, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 9612, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "A therapist and a credit report -- given the few comments you've made about things they've said, they seem to think of you and your sister as bargaining chips, wouldn't shock me if they've bought something under your credit.\n\nOP, I'm so glad you started talking and have family who are good to you. Good luck with your fresh start, away from (and I'm being kind because you've got a lot going on) your idiot parents. Please do not accept them back into your life until such a time that they show remorse for how they've handled themselves. If they don't, please keep moving forward without them.", "role": "argetholo", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"argetholo\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_hqugkel\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"A therapist and a credit report -- given the few comments you've made about things they've said, they seem to think of you and your sister as bargaining chips, wouldn't shock me if they've bought something under your credit.\\n\\nOP, I'm so glad you started talking and have family who are good to you. Good luck with your fresh start, away from (and I'm being kind because you've got a lot going on) your idiot parents. Please do not accept them back into your life until such a time that they show remorse for how they've handled themselves. If they don't, please keep moving forward without them.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>A therapist and a credit report -- given the few comments you've made about things they've said, they seem to think of you and your sister as bargaining chips, wouldn't shock me if they've bought something under your credit.</p>\\n\\n<p>OP, I'm so glad you started talking and have family who are good to you. Good luck with your fresh start, away from (and I'm being kind because you've got a lot going on) your idiot parents. Please do not accept them back into your life until such a time that they show remorse for how they've handled themselves. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552368590.0, "created_utc": 1552368590.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eic14jz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eic14jz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eib2mkc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eic14jz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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Good luck with your fresh start, away from (and I'm being kind because you've got a lot going on) your idiot parents. Please do not accept them back into your life until such a time that they show remorse for how they've handled themselves. 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Good luck with your fresh start, away from (and I'm being kind because you've got a lot going on) your idiot parents. Please do not accept them back into your life until such a time that they show remorse for how they've handled themselves. If they don't, please keep moving forward without them.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>A therapist and a credit report -- given the few comments you've made about things they've said, they seem to think of you and your sister as bargaining chips, wouldn't shock me if they've bought something under your credit.</p>\\n\\n<p>OP, I'm so glad you started talking and have family who are good to you. Good luck with your fresh start, away from (and I'm being kind because you've got a lot going on) your idiot parents. Please do not accept them back into your life until such a time that they show remorse for how they've handled themselves. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. 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I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. 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If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. 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It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, 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This is a case of medical neglect. She needs to have a trained caretaker.", "role": "nellapoo", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"nellapoo\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_5e7ek\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Since she is 6 years younger than OP and OP is still in high school, it would be CPS. This is a case of medical neglect. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552368590.0, "created_utc": 1552368590.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eic14jz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eic14jz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eib2mkc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eic14jz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. 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He sounds awesome. \n\nGood luck, OP.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.\\n\\nI strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. \\n\\nAlso, yay Grandpa. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.</p>\\n\\n<p>HOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325959.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325959.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiagoqz\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, 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I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "role": "AedanTynnan", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"AedanTynnan\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_e5fw7em\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I didn\\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. 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And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\\n\\n<p>It didn\\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. 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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AddisonRulz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1vxl5hfl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It worked. I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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He sounds awesome. \n\nGood luck, OP.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.\\n\\nI strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. \\n\\nAlso, yay Grandpa. He sounds awesome. \\n\\nGood luck, OP. \", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.</p>\\n\\n<p>I strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. </p>\\n\\n<p>Also, yay Grandpa. He sounds awesome. </p>\\n\\n<p>Good luck, OP. </p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323151.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323151.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaciy8\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiaciy8\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaciy8/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 9612, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 9612, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\n\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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You have to deal with a psychopath capable of charisma and knowing how to exploit every weakness that comes with being a feeling human being.... before you see yourself in the father's or aunt's shoes. I thought people like that were stupid or foolish until I dealt with one. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. 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If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. 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Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. 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OP is female.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"She. OP is female. \", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>She. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiacma1/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 27523, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 27523, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. 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I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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He sounds awesome. \n\nGood luck, OP.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.\\n\\nI strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. \\n\\nAlso, yay Grandpa. He sounds awesome. \\n\\nGood luck, OP. \", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.</p>\\n\\n<p>I strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. </p>\\n\\n<p>Also, yay Grandpa. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.</p>\\n\\n<p>HOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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This way, they will not have access to any of her medical records and she won\u2019t have to claim their income of her college financial aid papers.", "role": "random_username1567", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"random_username1567\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [4]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2pvgn2pi\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"OP needs to seek emancipation from her parents. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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I cant get past \\u201cShe killed herself a year later\\u201d \", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Seriously, I struggle to read through it even today. I cant get past \\u201cShe killed herself a year later\\u201d </p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332910.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332910.0, \"depth\": 5, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiarbmo\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiarbmo\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiaqz0f\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiarbmo/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 61, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 61, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "To rape your own mother...sober...zero remorse. What a psychopath. Just awful.", "role": "random_username1567", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"random_username1567\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [4]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2pvgn2pi\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"To rape your own mother...sober...zero remorse. What a psychopath. Just awful. \", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>To rape your own mother...sober...zero remorse. What a psychopath. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiacma1/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 27523, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 27523, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. 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My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325959.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325959.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiagoqz\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, 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I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Exactly! I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Exactly! I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552326552.0, \"created_utc\": 1552326552.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiahkav\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiahkav\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiah6bd\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiahkav/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 139, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 139, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "I tried to get help on my college campus, and it was all mediocre interns who had no idea what they were doing. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. 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Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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After I read that story with the guy who\u2019s son raped his mom and drove her to suicide, i realized that even if I was the greatest dad in the world, my son could still be a complete psycho \n \nLink: https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/1jatvd/i_am_not_proud_of_my_son/", "role": "kaveenieweenie", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"kaveenieweenie\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_8kr2578\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This point can not be more true. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. 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If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiaqm8v\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaqm8v/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 391, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 391, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}]
I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. 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My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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He sounds awesome. \n\nGood luck, OP.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.\\n\\nI strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. \\n\\nAlso, yay Grandpa. He sounds awesome. \\n\\nGood luck, OP. \", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.</p>\\n\\n<p>I strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. </p>\\n\\n<p>Also, yay Grandpa. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.</p>\\n\\n<p>HOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325959.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325959.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiagoqz\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiagoqz\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiaciy8\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiagoqz/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 2509, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 2509, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "For therapists doctor-patient confidentiality applies to those under 18 as well (obviously unless your therapist thinks your a danger to yourself or others) they can ASK to tell your parents things, but the patient reserves the right to say no even as a minor. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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My heart broke reading your original post. While things aren\u2019t on great terms with your immediate family, it truly warms my heart to see that your extended family is going through great lengths to make up for lost time. While your road ahead may be dark, and bumpy, know you have a lot of love surrounding you, here, and with your extended family. \n\nWe are all rooting for you. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. 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If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. 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Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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He sounds awesome. \n\nGood luck, OP.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.\\n\\nI strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. \\n\\nAlso, yay Grandpa. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325959.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325959.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiagoqz\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, 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I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Exactly! I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Exactly! I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552326552.0, \"created_utc\": 1552326552.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiahkav\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiahkav\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiah6bd\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiahkav/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 139, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 139, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "I tried to get help on my college campus, and it was all mediocre interns who had no idea what they were doing. They were very disengaged and ineffective. I was a counseling intern once upon a time, but, b/c of my college experience, I made sure I was ready. I read and studied constantly. I watched videos of effective sessions. I kept a pad with questions and responses with me in case I blanked. If I needed help from my supervisor, I got her involved. I talked to the experienced counselors on staff regularly. My point is, you have to be careful with counselors at colleges. You never know what you will have to work with. The same can be said to some extent for licensed counselors. There are good and bad ones. But, at least you can use the internet and connections to find one that is good. The last two I went to were awesome (one was marriage and one was individual.)", "role": "sisterfunkhaus", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"sisterfunkhaus\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_bnjch\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I tried to get help on my college campus, and it was all mediocre interns who had no idea what they were doing. They were very disengaged and ineffective. I was a counseling intern once upon a time, but, b/c of my college experience, I made sure I was ready. I read and studied constantly. I watched videos of effective sessions. I kept a pad with questions and responses with me in case I blanked. If I needed help from my supervisor, I got her involved. I talked to the experienced counselors on staff regularly. My point is, you have to be careful with counselors at colleges. You never know what you will have to work with. The same can be said to some extent for licensed counselors. There are good and bad ones. But, at least you can use the internet and connections to find one that is good. The last two I went to were awesome (one was marriage and one was individual.)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I tried to get help on my college campus, and it was all mediocre interns who had no idea what they were doing. They were very disengaged and ineffective. I was a counseling intern once upon a time, but, b/c of my college experience, I made sure I was ready. I read and studied constantly. I watched videos of effective sessions. I kept a pad with questions and responses with me in case I blanked. If I needed help from my supervisor, I got her involved. I talked to the experienced counselors on staff regularly. My point is, you have to be careful with counselors at colleges. You never know what you will have to work with. The same can be said to some extent for licensed counselors. There are good and bad ones. But, at least you can use the internet and connections to find one that is good. The last two I went to were awesome (one was marriage and one was individual.)</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552328162.0, \"created_utc\": 1552328162.0, \"depth\": 4, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiajyyc\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiajyyc\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiahkav\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiajyyc/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 103, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": false, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 103, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "I am a counseling intern in a college, and I also encourage OP to see one when she is there and to also be aware that (intern or license) not all therapist will be a perfect match for you and not to be afraid to speak up and ask to see someone else. You can even go to the supervisor directly. The intern has to tell you that they report their cases to the supervisor anyway. That being said, there are a lot of fantastic counseling students who work their butts off to do everything they can, so deff don\u2019t write off college counseling. It is free to you because you already pay for it through tuition so you might as well check it out. And guaranteed confidentiality when you are 18. The laws can get a bit murky on confidentiality when you are underage. \n\nI would also look into getting paperwork from your parents so you have it on hand and don\u2019t have to ask them for it down the road, such as your birth certificate and social security card.", "role": "bbkiti", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"bbkiti\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_1rnyiv0p\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I am a counseling intern in a college, and I also encourage OP to see one when she is there and to also be aware that (intern or license) not all therapist will be a perfect match for you and not to be afraid to speak up and ask to see someone else. You can even go to the supervisor directly. The intern has to tell you that they report their cases to the supervisor anyway. That being said, there are a lot of fantastic counseling students who work their butts off to do everything they can, so deff don\\u2019t write off college counseling. It is free to you because you already pay for it through tuition so you might as well check it out. And guaranteed confidentiality when you are 18. The laws can get a bit murky on confidentiality when you are underage. \\n\\nI would also look into getting paperwork from your parents so you have it on hand and don\\u2019t have to ask them for it down the road, such as your birth certificate and social security card. \", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I am a counseling intern in a college, and I also encourage OP to see one when she is there and to also be aware that (intern or license) not all therapist will be a perfect match for you and not to be afraid to speak up and ask to see someone else. You can even go to the supervisor directly. The intern has to tell you that they report their cases to the supervisor anyway. That being said, there are a lot of fantastic counseling students who work their butts off to do everything they can, so deff don\\u2019t write off college counseling. It is free to you because you already pay for it through tuition so you might as well check it out. And guaranteed confidentiality when you are 18. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". 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The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.</p>\\n\\n<p>HOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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No matter how he sleazed, charmed, screamed, threatened etc, noone told him a thing. I personally found his extreme rage entertaining lol.", "role": "MamaBear4485", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"MamaBear4485\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_gwtvo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yep my highly narcissistic exh was beyond furious when the kiddo got old enough where her sessions were between her and her therapist. No matter how he sleazed, charmed, screamed, threatened etc, noone told him a thing. I personally found his extreme rage entertaining lol.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yep my highly narcissistic exh was beyond furious when the kiddo got old enough where her sessions were between her and her therapist. No matter how he sleazed, charmed, screamed, threatened etc, noone told him a thing. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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After I read that story with the guy who\u2019s son raped his mom and drove her to suicide, i realized that even if I was the greatest dad in the world, my son could still be a complete psycho \n \nLink: https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/1jatvd/i_am_not_proud_of_my_son/", "role": "kaveenieweenie", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"kaveenieweenie\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_8kr2578\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This point can not be more true. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. 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My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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He sounds awesome. \n\nGood luck, OP.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.\\n\\nI strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. \\n\\nAlso, yay Grandpa. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325959.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325959.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiagoqz\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, 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I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Exactly! I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Exactly! I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552326552.0, \"created_utc\": 1552326552.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiahkav\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiahkav\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiah6bd\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiahkav/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 139, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 139, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "I tried to get help on my college campus, and it was all mediocre interns who had no idea what they were doing. They were very disengaged and ineffective. I was a counseling intern once upon a time, but, b/c of my college experience, I made sure I was ready. I read and studied constantly. I watched videos of effective sessions. I kept a pad with questions and responses with me in case I blanked. If I needed help from my supervisor, I got her involved. I talked to the experienced counselors on staff regularly. My point is, you have to be careful with counselors at colleges. You never know what you will have to work with. The same can be said to some extent for licensed counselors. There are good and bad ones. But, at least you can use the internet and connections to find one that is good. The last two I went to were awesome (one was marriage and one was individual.)", "role": "sisterfunkhaus", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"sisterfunkhaus\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_bnjch\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I tried to get help on my college campus, and it was all mediocre interns who had no idea what they were doing. 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I was a counseling intern once upon a time, but, b/c of my college experience, I made sure I was ready. I read and studied constantly. I watched videos of effective sessions. I kept a pad with questions and responses with me in case I blanked. If I needed help from my supervisor, I got her involved. I talked to the experienced counselors on staff regularly. My point is, you have to be careful with counselors at colleges. You never know what you will have to work with. The same can be said to some extent for licensed counselors. There are good and bad ones. But, at least you can use the internet and connections to find one that is good. The last two I went to were awesome (one was marriage and one was individual.)</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552328162.0, \"created_utc\": 1552328162.0, \"depth\": 4, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiajyyc\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiajyyc\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiahkav\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiajyyc/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 103, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": false, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 103, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Was it a State University? If so, they should have counseling centers staffed with psychiatrists and psychologists - actual doctors.", "role": "sweetrhymepurereason", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"sweetrhymepurereason\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_gmm2z\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Was it a State University? If so, they should have counseling centers staffed with psychiatrists and psychologists - actual doctors.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Was it a State University? 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325959.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325959.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiagoqz\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, 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I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "She. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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My heart broke reading your original post. While things aren\u2019t on great terms with your immediate family, it truly warms my heart to see that your extended family is going through great lengths to make up for lost time. While your road ahead may be dark, and bumpy, know you have a lot of love surrounding you, here, and with your extended family. \n\nWe are all rooting for you. Go, enjoy your freedoms, and be loved.", "role": "Caktis", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Caktis\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#8f7312\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Certified Proctologist [29]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_1yjiygm3\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This update is a needed one. My heart broke reading your original post. While things aren\\u2019t on great terms with your immediate family, it truly warms my heart to see that your extended family is going through great lengths to make up for lost time. While your road ahead may be dark, and bumpy, know you have a lot of love surrounding you, here, and with your extended family. \\n\\nWe are all rooting for you. Go, enjoy your freedoms, and be loved. \", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>This update is a needed one. My heart broke reading your original post. While things aren\\u2019t on great terms with your immediate family, it truly warms my heart to see that your extended family is going through great lengths to make up for lost time. While your road ahead may be dark, and bumpy, know you have a lot of love surrounding you, here, and with your extended family. </p>\\n\\n<p>We are all rooting for you. Go, enjoy your freedoms, and be loved. </p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323901.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323901.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiadmfq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiadmfq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiadmfq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 4824, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 4824, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "I'm surprised as well. My family has never been on great terms with my extended family (That's what I was told by my dad, turns out it was a lie. My mom and dad didn't like taking advice from the family so they cut them out.). This past week has been amazing as i'm reconnecting with my family. The love they give me is amazing. And the support i've got from here is really great too :)", "role": "Renegadesrule33", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Renegadesrule33\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_3c816wqd\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I'm surprised as well. My family has never been on great terms with my extended family (That's what I was told by my dad, turns out it was a lie. My mom and dad didn't like taking advice from the family so they cut them out.). This past week has been amazing as i'm reconnecting with my family. The love they give me is amazing. And the support i've got from here is really great too :)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm surprised as well. My family has never been on great terms with my extended family (That's what I was told by my dad, turns out it was a lie. My mom and dad didn't like taking advice from the family so they cut them out.). This past week has been amazing as i'm reconnecting with my family. The love they give me is amazing. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325959.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325959.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiagoqz\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiaqm8v\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaqm8v/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 391, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 391, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "The parental home is not always the best place for disabled people. Residential facilities have 24 hour staffing and multiple support professionals dealing with each person. 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiacma1/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 27523, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 27523, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. 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Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336847.0, "created_utc": 1552336847.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaxgzq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaxgzq", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiawcnt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaxgzq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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