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It worked. I’m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can’t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here.	azvko1	AddisonRulz	1,552,368,590	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)", "role": "Renegadesrule33", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Renegadesrule33\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_3c816wqd\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1552322462.0, \"created_utc\": 1552322462.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1552376988.0, \"gilded\": 22, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"azvko1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#ffd635\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"47fdebc0-d3af-11e8-80cb-0e369ce83cd4\", \"link_flair_text\": \"UPDATE\", \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 1970, \"num_crossposts\": 8, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 72778, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"I'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 72778, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.96, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7, \"post_metrics\": {\"sentiment_distribution\": {\"strongly_positive\": 1.0}, \"stance_distribution\": {\"agree\": 0.667, \"strong_agree\": 0.333}, \"emotion_distribution\": {\"admiration\": 0.333, \"caring\": 0.667}, \"content_type_distribution\": {\"assert\": 0.667, \"directive\": 0.333}, \"humor_distribution\": {\"Not Humorous\": 1.0}, \"hostility_distribution\": {\"No Hostility\": 1.0}}}"}, {"content": "Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiacma1/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 27523, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 27523, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I didn’t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. It didn’t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every therapist I’ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he’s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn’t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,335,631	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. 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I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn’t do CBT, she didn’t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I’m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you’re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me “this is why you’re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.” Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. I’m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I’m just thinking back, and I’m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. 😂 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see what I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they’re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn’t have listened.	azvko1	AedanTynnan	1,552,336,847	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Right? They say he was put here to take care of his sister as if he wasn't the one born 6 years prior	azvko1	AntLib	1,552,390,970	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Idr how old the sister is, but CPS or APS or the local equivalent if there is one should be alerted to her condition	azvko1	ArgonGryphon	1,552,331,519	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I didn’t look back at the original one. Either way, all it changes is whether it’s adult or children protective services because she certainly would apply for protection by APS if she were older.	azvko1	ArgonGryphon	1,552,332,585	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Yes! Yes this as well. Therapy will deff help you heal from how your parents treated you.	azvko1	Ariyanwrynn1989	1,552,328,305	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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You deserve a future. You deserve happiness. Take it. Every little bit of it. You have a good heart. Don’t beat yourself up over it or let it break you down.	azvko1	Ava17961	1,552,343,709	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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My god, I have noticed this phenomenon so many times. Thank you for putting it into words like that.	azvko1	BariBahu	1,552,377,735	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Holy fuck. That was hard to read.	azvko1	Bjorn2bwilde24	1,552,332,921	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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This update is a needed one. My heart broke reading your original post. While things aren’t on great terms with your immediate family, it truly warms my heart to see that your extended family is going through great lengths to make up for lost time. While your road ahead may be dark, and bumpy, know you have a lot of love surrounding you, here, and with your extended family. We are all rooting for you. Go, enjoy your freedoms, and be loved.	azvko1	Caktis	1,552,323,901	1	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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You’re an upstanding human, who despite a lot, has grown to be a mature, and level headed member of society. You have my praise. Feel free to reach out if you need to. Always willing to lend an ear. That’s not a half-assed offer either. Good luck to you.	azvko1	Caktis	1,552,328,324	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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While simultaneously robbing the other child of the professional care she needs.	azvko1	ClumsyLavellan	1,552,329,118	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I want to add that he shouldn’t count on free college counseling services. In my experience they’re not really equipped to handle more than the typical college problems like stress and bad breakups. I don’t mean to diminish people with those problems but op has much bigger things to work through than a free service will likely provide. Honestly this is like expecting your campus health center to fix your broken leg, it’s just not what they’re there for.	azvko1	CommanderCuntPunt	1,552,330,891	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. 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Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I came here to say this. I didn't start seeing a therapist until recently, but all my friends who sought mental health care on campus had only bad things to say.	azvko1	Cpt_Catnip	1,552,333,958	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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I just read it for the first time and it seems incrediblyy made up, doesn't read like a real story, his friends have the most intelligent and lucky kids ever all becoming doctors and musicians and actors, if someone raped your sister and she killed herself over it would you take the kid in and defend him when he managed to slash someone's tires and pickpocket you without you realising?	azvko1	Cunting_Fuck	1,552,336,508	7	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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"It is possible to make no mistakes and still lose."	azvko1	Cyrius	1,552,340,218	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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In the meantime, OP can do journaling each day just to get all of her thoughts down	azvko1	Depressaccount	1,552,333,832	7	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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There's like a 3 months wait on mine though.	azvko1	Destring	1,552,333,663	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Yeah, this needs to be just as much as a focus as OP. I'm super happy OP is getting out of that situation and getting the proper help and support she needs! But what about the severely autistic child that is now left with the parents who deemed it okay for her sister to be the caregiver and not a trained professional. And until more information is provided, we'd have to assume isn't getting any help at all. Hopefully all ends well for the both of them (OP and her sister) and the parents get whatever comes to them.	azvko1	DrkGhst87	1,552,339,403	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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Yeah OP's sister is most likely being neglected and is not getting the level care of of that she needs. Sad all around	azvko1	GemIsAHologram	1,552,339,523	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I also want to add that a good therapist will encourage you to find another therapist you connect with if they feel they are not it. And, I really want to hug your grandfather.	azvko1	HeathenSoul	1,552,336,064	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Research also suggests that a child's friends/peers influence them as much as their parents in developing personality and success outcomes.	azvko1	HowardAndMallory	1,552,331,335	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Could have been the spouse changing them.	azvko1	IM_INSIDE_YOUR_HOUSE	1,552,328,559	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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What does OP stand for.?	azvko1	ImaGhostpie	1,552,338,517	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiacma1/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 27523, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 27523, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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You know, I would be okay with that.	azvko1	InvisibleShade	1,552,356,666	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Excellent advice about the credit report; I hadn't thought of that, and it's quite possible for such immoral parents to have done. I recommend CreditKarma; you can see your credit score and everything on there for free. I use it and really like it. And they don't spam me.	azvko1	Jasminefirefly	1,552,338,488	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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Especially since this person never posted again	azvko1	JayQue	1,552,362,391	10	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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>I am NOT proud of my son. [...quoted text...] yeah to say the fucking least..	azvko1	JorjEade	1,552,334,258	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Waiting is a bad move. Once you are comfortable with the notion of therapy, the sooner you can talk with someone, the better.	azvko1	Kabloski	1,552,329,113	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. 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Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I was getting a masculine vibe off of this one too, and I don't normally assume everyone on the internet is male. I'm in enough fandoms to now better	azvko1	Ladyx1980	1,552,357,010	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Why do people think its fake?	azvko1	LearningToDive	1,552,335,790	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiacma1/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 27523, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 27523, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Yeah i doubt someone would make something like this up just for dank internet points	azvko1	LearningToDive	1,552,344,887	9	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Yep my highly narcissistic exh was beyond furious when the kiddo got old enough where her sessions were between her and her therapist. No matter how he sleazed, charmed, screamed, threatened etc, noone told him a thing. I personally found his extreme rage entertaining lol.	azvko1	MamaBear4485	1,552,347,376	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I'm so truly sorry. My ex does too, most likely the most severe form of Malignant NPD/APD. They're emotional serial killers who demonstrate the "dark triad" of narcissism, Machiavellianism and psychopathy. These categories/descriptions are currently being revised but we're here to chat not get our PhDs. The point is that they thrive on power, control, lies, chaos, the suffering of others, unceasing attention and adoration, disregarding of the reasonable boundaries of others... To be a spouse or child of theirs is to be a possession and resource. I hope you are doing better now. Never allow guilt to affect you, the only way to have peace from those nightmares masquerading as humans is as much distance as possible.	azvko1	MamaBear4485	1,552,348,491	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". 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The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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They will only break confidentiality if the patient says they want to harm themselves or someone else. And even then they can only tell the guardian about the admission. Everything else required a request of information signed by the client, and this begins at 14 years of age depending on the state.	azvko1	Mayobreath	1,552,330,600	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.	azvko1	Mrphobics	1,552,325,639	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Oh yeah, oof	azvko1	Mrphobics	1,552,332,665	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP. I strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. Also, yay Grandpa. He sounds awesome. Good luck, OP.	azvko1	NA	1,552,323,151	1	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. 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Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Thirding the therapist. There are going to be a lot of issues that come from this ordeal that you don't see right now. The best way to set yourself up for a successful and healthy life is to nip them in the bud and unpack things with a professional. Good for you for standing up for yourself, and good for your extended family for taking care of you. I'm sorry that you lost your parents through all this, but that wasn't on you. They set themselves up to be lost a long time ago.	azvko1	NA	1,552,325,617	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy. HOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.	azvko1	NA	1,552,325,959	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Yes, a lot of colleges have therapists you can see and you should make it a point to see on after getting on your own.	azvko1	NA	1,552,326,292	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Exactly! I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.	azvko1	NA	1,552,326,552	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Usually they are free too or almost free because your tuition covers it.	azvko1	NA	1,552,326,821	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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Makes you wonder how his kid turned out so shitty.	azvko1	NA	1,552,327,077	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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That's great. Also, as other people have said, there will be counselling available at your school as well. That might be an option. One thing, though, OP - not all therapists are created equal. It's okay if you think the one you get first isn't right for you. Sometimes you have to go to a few before you find one that you can really work with.	azvko1	NA	1,552,328,158	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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For therapists doctor-patient confidentiality applies to those under 18 as well (obviously unless your therapist thinks your a danger to yourself or others) they can ASK to tell your parents things, but the patient reserves the right to say no even as a minor. I went to a few therapists as a kid	azvko1	NA	1,552,328,319	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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On top of that more recent studies have shown that it can be third hand, both the mother and father could have been OK then one of them started a new job and work in close proximity to a shitty person, then the one not even working with the shitty person can start picking up the shitty traits of the shitty person competly by proxy. (Heard it on a podcasts new segment so probably full of shit)	azvko1	NA	1,552,330,496	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Send dad the therapy bills with a note saying "you should get a job that pays well enough to cover the years of emotional abuse, dickbag."	azvko1	NA	1,552,331,286	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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She. OP is female.	azvko1	NA	1,552,332,782	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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And boast later that she liked it 🤮🤮🤮	azvko1	NA	1,552,334,603	8	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you.	azvko1	NA	1,552,336,113	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Bit facetious, but not wrong.	azvko1	NA	1,552,337,363	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiacma1/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 27523, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 27523, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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Yeah, the grandpa sounds really level headed considering he just found his kid and kid-in-law are scumbags.	azvko1	NA	1,552,337,850	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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And his aunt, sending the money to OP now	azvko1	NA	1,552,338,896	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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My public university is staffed by students who all tell me my lifetime of mental health issues are just me being too lazy to want to work hard in college (a competitive school that I got into in the first place???). So I'm jealous to hear most state schools actually care for their students lol.	azvko1	NA	1,552,342,764	7	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Or, birds aren’t real. We all know the truth	azvko1	NA	1,552,344,566	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I don't have nearly the same level of experience and knowledge as you, but I worked in a care home for a few years and that's what I saw, too. It really changed my perspective on them, which wasn't that great when I took the job. I saw several new clients come in and have dramatic positive changes in a very short time. Parents just often aren't equipped for these situations, especially as the kid gets older.	azvko1	NA	1,552,347,201	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Pretty sure people just want it to be fake	azvko1	NA	1,552,347,429	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Honestly it probably saved my life a few times, most of what I talked about in therapy was my bat shit lunatic mother. She has narcissistic personality disorder, my childhood was a shitshow because of it	azvko1	NA	1,552,347,905	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Thank fuck many of those facilities are vastly improved over what they used to be. Even as recently as the late '80s, when my parents involuntarily committed me, the place wanted to keep me because the insurance hadn't run out and they could still get more money. I may have a slight distrust of authority now.	azvko1	NA	1,552,369,369	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I was thinking of this exact story too! There is another very similar podcast episode from Death Sex and Money (a new episode sequel to a recent rebroadcast) about a family with similar experiences. It may seem counterintuitive, but sometimes all parties end up better off with an assistant in-home carer or group home option. If a professional helps with medical and personal care tasks, the family members can focus on having less fraught interactions and enjoying fun activities.	azvko1	NA	1,552,373,277	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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Also at the end of the shift, residential staff can go home and rest, recuperate, whereas parents can't. Even when their child is asleep, they will still be on high alert because they have to be. Years and years with no rest and no time to relax is enough to permanently damage a person mentally, we're not built to cope like that.	azvko1	OwlRememberYou	1,552,390,664	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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He could've been a shitty dad too. I have several friends whose parents were completely awful to them but now that they are out of the house, their parents have mellowed a lot and they have a better relationship with them than they ever did as children.	azvko1	PM_ME_MICHAEL_STIPE	1,552,332,854	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. 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Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Fourthing the therapist. I don't think there's a soul on the planet that wouldn't benefit from some level of therapy at some point in their lives, and this is absolutely one of those cases. Go Gramps!	azvko1	Quincykid	1,552,326,084	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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> And then he said, "And D is for Daddy." [...quoted text...] [God, why.](https://i.imgur.com/LKl3riO.jpg) That tears me up, but it makes me happy to hear that things seemed to go well after putting him in the facility. I can't imagine what a difficult decision it would've had to be for them, but hearing he's well taken care of and happy is heartening.	azvko1	RasputinsButtBeard	1,552,341,377	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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They were robbing two childhoods after all. OPs sister propably isn't feeling well in that situation as well. Children like her NEED professionals to learn some basics the way they can and the basics they can learn about communication, interaction and consequences. It's difficult to teach it and I'm shocked to see that the parents didn't get professionnel nurses after all	azvko1	Ravenmausi	1,552,333,900	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Can not recommend therapy more. There's a culture of shame around talking to a therapist, and there shouldn't be. This life is full of troubles and issues, and none of us should be ashamed to seek help.	azvko1	Rawtashk	1,552,332,385	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. 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Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I had similarly saintly grandparents. Jumped right in and raised 2 little girls when my parents divorced. They should have been doing the retirement thing. And I was a brutal teenager. Yet there they were, always my safe place to fall.	azvko1	RayvenTheWolfe	1,552,330,564	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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My grandpa says he's going to look into some counseling for me when all is said and done.	azvko1	Renegadesrule33	1,552,328,086	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiacma1/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 27523, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 27523, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. 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Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I'm surprised as well. My family has never been on great terms with my extended family (That's what I was told by my dad, turns out it was a lie. My mom and dad didn't like taking advice from the family so they cut them out.). This past week has been amazing as i'm reconnecting with my family. The love they give me is amazing. And the support i've got from here is really great too :)	azvko1	Renegadesrule33	1,552,328,215	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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I disagree to wait. The help gained now out values the risk of the parents prying into the therapist. A good therapist won't divulge, especially if they are aware of the circumstances. And doubly if they are never told about the therapist or who they are to begin with. Grandpa is the guardian and will be presumably the one paying the bills, they shouldn't be too worried. Only thing is to make sure they are not under the parent's healthplan.	azvko1	RepostFromLastMonth	1,552,329,917	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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Yes, find one you can open up to. One that you feel you can trust. A good therapist will be in your corner, wanting you to come out of it a better person. A good therapist will not side with you for misplaced blame or bad behaviors-those are the very things they want to help you work through and self improve. A good therapist is confidential, and outside specific things as a mandatory reporter, won't divulge the contents of your conversations.	azvko1	RepostFromLastMonth	1,552,330,057	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents. Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep. In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..." "Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy." ["Unconditional Love", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)	azvko1	RhynoD	1,552,332,464	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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A good grandpa/grandma is an inmensely good influence in one's. They have all the experience we wish our parents had and the understanding from knowing that, life doesn't necessarily go the way we intend it to.	azvko1	SassiesSoiledPanties	1,552,328,052	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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The parental home is not always the best place for disabled people. Residential facilities have 24 hour staffing and multiple support professionals dealing with each person. Way more structured, supervised, and informed than most families can manage. After 30+ years working in the residential support field, I can say that ALL of the people in my particular program are better served and have better quality of life than they would have at “home” with their parents.	azvko1	SharonaZamboni	1,552,344,692	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I originally thought OP was a male... now have read all OP has posted and still can't find an identifier either way.. but now I'm leaning towards female.. did I miss something?	azvko1	ShoganAye	1,552,350,395	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I only leaned toward female on second read as notice a heart emoji <3 guys dont use it so much... but still.. I remember first reading the original post and thinking I enjoyed not knowing if male or female as it did not really matter.. Now thinking it might have some bearing on the thinking of OPs parents... traditionally girls are given/forced into caretaker roles at a young age in all kinds of situations	azvko1	ShoganAye	1,552,357,883	7	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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On top of that the grandpa only raised one of them could have been an ok person then met the other.	azvko1	SiPhoenix	1,552,328,456	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Fuck man are you trying to make me cry	azvko1	Slagithorn	1,552,340,282	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Might not seem like it, but you should find someone specialized in trauma. Just trust me on this one.	azvko1	SovietStomper	1,552,332,651	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Raise your kids, spoil your grandchildren Spoil your kids, raise your grandchildren	azvko1	StarShooter08	1,552,331,397	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Not sure if you know this, but this story has repeatedly been pointed out as fake. Not sure if it’s fake or not, but take from that what you will.	azvko1	SuicideBonger	1,552,332,897	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I think because these kind of situations are exceedingly rare, and exceedingly easy for people to make up and write about on the Internet. Like it sounds like a creative writing exercise more than anything. Other than that, I can’t remember the other criticisms of it.	azvko1	SuicideBonger	1,552,336,438	7	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". 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The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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Post says 12.	azvko1	Talanic	1,552,332,479	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiacma1/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 27523, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 27523, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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On the other hand, if they hadn't done all that then they would be robbing us reddit users of this great story.	azvko1	TheMauveAvenger	1,552,334,349	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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And OP learned about placing blame on the right people and how difficult that can be.	azvko1	Theappunderground	1,552,341,479	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. 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Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Seconded to the therapist!	azvko1	Tigercatzen	1,552,324,429	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I can't imagine the people who are in similar circumstances but don't have support or help from anyone else. That's a desperate and lonely thought.	azvko1	Top-Cheese	1,552,332,981	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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You'd be surprised. You have to deal with a psychopath capable of charisma and knowing how to exploit every weakness that comes with being a feeling human being.... before you see yourself in the father's or aunt's shoes. I thought people like that were stupid or foolish until I dealt with one. Conniving predatory monsters they are.	azvko1	TrepanningForAu	1,552,343,705	8	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. 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Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I got into a support group for siblings of profoundly autistic children. It was offered by B'nai B'rith, a Jewish social services NGO, on a secular basis (I'm not Jewish). You may be able to find something similar from a local church or a government organization. I'm not going to say it changed my life much, and the fact that parents sat in on it didn't help with being candid, but it did help a little to hear that I wasn't alone. Ultimately we got my sister into permanent state care at ~13 after a series of lawsuits and some helpful local bureaucrats in social services (I'm told they created a category of health status and moved money around to make it happen). This helped immensely to restore some semblance of a parental relationship where they had at least some time to acknowledge me as a human being. So did extended family support. [It is not reasonable to expect the median person to be able to provide care in this situation.](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/a63cl5/my_sister_abandoned_our_autistic_brother_with_me/ebs3b3a/), and it can destroy people. If my parents had been religious or a little bit less stubborn or made a little bit less money, or if I had been born first rather than my sister, I could easily see them taking up some of the same stances that yours did. My parents ended up with (or started out with, and suppressed them in the hardcore caretaker role) some personality disorders that have gotten worse with age - the two phases of therapy since then has been primarily about that fact. I will put this out there about therapy... Distance from parents and having positive role models around you who don't have the same issues helps a lot to establish a baseline for how people are supposed to treat each other, which you can wear like armor to make life with parents more bearable; Talking about your issues helps, but never as much as this distance and these other influences. If you can't establish that distance or participate socially with other people, you just end up in a conversation with your therapist that ends with them politely refraining from saying "Wow. That's fucked up." As far as hating your sister? You have to consider whether your sister is worthy of the hatred, in your head. A puppy that your parents vastly prefer to you, is not really worth your hatred - the resentment is something to harbor for your parents, and the situation that ended up with them having a puppy. Inflicting pain on the puppy doesn't help anything, it's a misfire of an otherwise useful instinctual response you have for how to deal with social situations & people who cause you pain. But this is not a social situation. My sister didn't choose to be a burden, because my sister can't make choices, period, that are more complicated than asking for food or sitting still for 5 minutes. I have never had a conversation with my sister - she has less exhibited intelligence than a pet cat. I don't say this to insult her, but to ask: Is it worthwhile considering her as a person who has agency? She's a human being, certainly, but with so much congenital brain damage she can't fulfill any of the responsibilities or contemplate any of the rights that we endow "persons" with. It doesn't really make sense to hold her accountable for things, because person-hood and social blame and resentment is about the base social expectation of reciprocal conduct, which she is literally incapable of conceiving.	azvko1	Vishnej	1,552,335,649	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Definitely see a therapist. You may feel ok now, but a therapist can only help. And yeah, your Grandfather is a keeper. Find out what his favorite food is and make it/buy it for him.	azvko1	WeimSean	1,552,331,449	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. 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See you space cowboy's :)</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 72778, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.96, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7, \"post_metrics\": {\"sentiment_distribution\": {\"strongly_positive\": 1.0}, \"stance_distribution\": {\"agree\": 0.667, \"strong_agree\": 0.333}, \"emotion_distribution\": {\"admiration\": 0.333, \"caring\": 0.667}, \"content_type_distribution\": {\"assert\": 0.667, \"directive\": 0.333}, \"humor_distribution\": {\"Not Humorous\": 1.0}, \"hostility_distribution\": {\"No Hostility\": 1.0}}}"}, {"content": "Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiacma1/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 27523, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 27523, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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great episode, thanks for sharing!	azvko1	_gemmy_	1,552,349,905	5	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 72778, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.96, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7, \"post_metrics\": {\"sentiment_distribution\": {\"strongly_positive\": 1.0}, \"stance_distribution\": {\"agree\": 0.667, \"strong_agree\": 0.333}, \"emotion_distribution\": {\"admiration\": 0.333, \"caring\": 0.667}, \"content_type_distribution\": {\"assert\": 0.667, \"directive\": 0.333}, \"humor_distribution\": {\"Not Humorous\": 1.0}, \"hostility_distribution\": {\"No Hostility\": 1.0}}}"}, {"content": "Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323212.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323212.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiacma1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiacma1/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 27523, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 27523, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I\u2019m sitting here trying to drink some wine and watch American gods and can\u2019t bring myself to stop reading every sad / heartwarming story here. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It worked. 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Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared. Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more? Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family. I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.	azvko1	_procyon	1,552,330,509	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. 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The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Yeah definitely I agree with this. I work as a behavioral interventionist doing ABA therapy with autistic children and we basically just teach them basic life skills and small things to adjust negative behaviors. Plus sessions run between 3-5 hours so the parent has some free time as well. It’s all covered through insurance. Lots of ways to manage things like this.	azvko1	an3456	1,552,333,914	4	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. 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With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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A therapist and a credit report -- given the few comments you've made about things they've said, they seem to think of you and your sister as bargaining chips, wouldn't shock me if they've bought something under your credit. OP, I'm so glad you started talking and have family who are good to you. Good luck with your fresh start, away from (and I'm being kind because you've got a lot going on) your idiot parents. Please do not accept them back into your life until such a time that they show remorse for how they've handled themselves. If they don't, please keep moving forward without them.	azvko1	argetholo	1,552,328,495	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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I am a counseling intern in a college, and I also encourage OP to see one when she is there and to also be aware that (intern or license) not all therapist will be a perfect match for you and not to be afraid to speak up and ask to see someone else. You can even go to the supervisor directly. The intern has to tell you that they report their cases to the supervisor anyway. That being said, there are a lot of fantastic counseling students who work their butts off to do everything they can, so deff don’t write off college counseling. It is free to you because you already pay for it through tuition so you might as well check it out. And guaranteed confidentiality when you are 18. The laws can get a bit murky on confidentiality when you are underage. I would also look into getting paperwork from your parents so you have it on hand and don’t have to ask them for it down the road, such as your birth certificate and social security card.	azvko1	bbkiti	1,552,328,995	6	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. 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I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Double tripple this sentiment. I went to therapy when I started grad school and honestly I should’ve done it years ago. Not to say that some people’s problems aren’t important, but trauma takes a long ass time to work through. At my school, they give everybody 6 free sessions. But they’ll continue to be free if you really need it. I was seen 29 times for free at school and that only stopped because my therapist went to private practice and I still see her there. You don’t just get over years of trauma in 6 sessions, you know?	azvko1	blue-citrus	1,552,329,126	3	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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Yes, and her parents sound like real dbags.	azvko1	czhunc	1,552,327,485	2	Preview mode - no LLM call made	[{"content": "UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?\n\nI'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\n\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\n\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. 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The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. 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OP's grandfather is a saint.", "role": "darkxxmist01", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"darkxxmist01\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_kn2cu9v\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Wow. 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The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.", "role": "Mrphobics", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Mrphobics\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2cn97oz0\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Too right my guy, the sad thing is is that he should have had to be as kind and good as he was. The parents where disgusting people who robbed someone of the necessary childhood experiences and felt no remorse for it.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325639.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325639.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiag7ex\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiacma1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiag7ex/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 6739, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 6739, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\n\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\n\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\n\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.", "role": "_procyon", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"_procyon\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cbcdc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.\\n\\nAnother angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?\\n\\nIdk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.\\n\\nI just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I feel really bad for OP, it broke my heart when he talked about how all his toys got wrecked and no one cared.</p>\\n\\n<p>Another angle that I'm not seeing being discussed: OP's sister is being robbed too. If the parents were told she needs a caretaker, then she NEEDS a caretaker. Maybe she would be able to make some improvements if she was working with a professional. I get that she's low functioning, but it's possible that she can sense the animosity OP was beginning to feel toward her (which is not his fault). Which could cause her to lash out more?</p>\\n\\n<p>Idk I have a severely autistic cousin (he is verbal and doesn't need 24/7 supervision though) and he has a loving family who is always there for him. I wonder how lost he would be without that support system. OP's parents obviously don't care about their autistic daughter, if they did they wouldn't push her off on a teenage brother who obviously isn't capable of handling that responsibility, or use her to scam their family.</p>\\n\\n<p>I just hope she will be OK. What are the parents going to do with her now that their free babysitter and money are gone? Are they going to pay for a professional caretaker themselves, or just neglect her? OP if you see this, this is NOT a guilt trip, but someone in your family should keep tabs on what's going on with your sister. It sounds like she may be better off in an institution then with parents who obviously can't or aren't willing to give her the care she needs.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552330509.0, \"created_utc\": 1552330509.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiank13\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiank13\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiag7ex\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiank13/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 380, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 380, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\n\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\n\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \n\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\"The letter D!\" And his father responds, \"And D is for...\"\n\n\"Dumptruck.\" And then he said, \"And D is for Daddy.\"\n\n[\"Unconditional Love\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)", "role": "RhynoD", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"RhynoD\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_es0cw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.\\n\\nTheir son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.\\n\\nIn the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. \\n\\nHe also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,\\\"The letter D!\\\" And his father responds, \\\"And D is for...\\\"\\n\\n\\\"Dumptruck.\\\" And then he said, \\\"And D is for Daddy.\\\"\\n\\n[\\\"Unconditional Love\\\", This American Life](https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life)\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>There was a heartbreaking story on NPR yesterday about a family with a low functioning autistic son. Unlike OP's parents they truly loved and cared about their son and because of that they resisted putting him into a care facility. They didn't want to abandon him. They didn't want to feel like they were bad parents.</p>\\n\\n<p>Their son hit and bit and broke everything. For his own safety, and theirs, they had to remove everything except a mattress from his room. For thirteen years, his mother did not have a night of unbroken sleep.</p>\\n\\n<p>In the interview, the father described his feelings when they left their son at the facility. That his son probably couldn't understand how hurt they were, how much he hurt them, and how sorry they were. He only knew that the only people in the world that he ever truly knew were leaving him, alone, in a strange place. </p>\\n\\n<p>He also describes the first home visit after that. How their son walked into a house that had changed so much while he was gone, but he didn't melt down. He was calm and happy. The care facility gives him appropriate activities throughout the day so he's never bored. They take care of him. As his father drove him back to the facility, he played a kind of game, where he says,"The letter D!" And his father responds, "And D is for..."</p>\\n\\n<p>"Dumptruck." And then he said, "And D is for Daddy."</p>\\n\\n<p><a href=\\\"https://www.npr.org/podcasts/381444650/this-american-life\\\">"Unconditional Love", This American Life</a></p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552332464.0, \"created_utc\": 1552332464.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaqm8v\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, 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