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0	NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a "defect" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.	ocx94s	0biterdicta	1,625,316,270	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "0biterdicta", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#cd7a00", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "7b2737aa-f3f7-11e8-b8a0-0e56fc8ee910", "author_flair_text": "Judge, Jury, and Excretioner [383]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4kmo12", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a \"defect\" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a "defect" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316270.0, "created_utc": 1625316270.0, "depth": 0, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3wyf27", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyf27", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyf27/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "WinterBee1", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1i9zoiu", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly! As a mother myself I cannot fathom how any mother would let someone treat their child like that, even if it is family. That would have bought them a one way ticket right out my front door. If your kid can't count on you to protect them, who can they count on? NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly! As a mother myself I cannot fathom how any mother would let someone treat their child like that, even if it is family. That would have bought them a one way ticket right out my front door. If your kid can't count on you to protect them, who can they count on? NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321212.0, "created_utc": 1625321212.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6gdo", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6gdo", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyf27", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6gdo/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NakedAndALaid", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [27]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4n7xgbq1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "As a parent I know I can't stop the world from saying bad things about my children. It breaks my heart but to a certain extent you have to allow it to happen so they learn how to overcome it without being destroyed. \n\nBut the idea of not only giving that person a home but defending them then attacking the character of the only person on their side is appalling me. Mom gets no slack cut from me on this one. She should be ashamed of herself. Good on OP.\n\nNTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>As a parent I know I can't stop the world from saying bad things about my children. It breaks my heart but to a certain extent you have to allow it to happen so they learn how to overcome it without being destroyed. </p>\n\n<p>But the idea of not only giving that person a home but defending them then <em>attacking</em> the character of the only person on their side is appalling me. Mom gets no slack cut from me on this one. She should be ashamed of herself. Good on OP.</p>\n\n<p>NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324503.0, "created_utc": 1625324503.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xchim", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xchim", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6gdo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xchim/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Sourpatchtaby", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mjocrbs", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I have someone living with me, a very close friend. And he said my 3 year old was \"Damion\" and \"defective\" because he was running around like a mad man playing. I very quickly got upset and told him not to ever call my son anything but his name ever again or he'd be living under a bridge.\n\nYou're right, as a parent you can't stop people from saying hurtful things, you can't protect them from everything, but I can protect him in his own home, and make sure the people around him who \"care\" aren't filling his head with garbage like that. Being a parent is tough but I couldn't imagine not sticking up for my own kids.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I have someone living with me, a very close friend. And he said my 3 year old was "Damion" and "defective" because he was running around like a mad man playing. I very quickly got upset and told him not to ever call my son anything but his name ever again or he'd be living under a bridge.</p>\n\n<p>You're right, as a parent you can't stop people from saying hurtful things, you can't protect them from everything, but I can protect him in his own home, and make sure the people around him who "care" aren't filling his head with garbage like that. Being a parent is tough but I couldn't imagine not sticking up for my own kids.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327761.0, "created_utc": 1625327761.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xinhj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xinhj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xchim", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xinhj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NakedAndALaid", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [27]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4n7xgbq1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Especially in their own home! I'd hate if my children didn't want to be at the place I have made for them. I know I won't be perfect but at least I want them to know this is a safe place.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Especially in their own home! I'd hate if my children didn't want to be at the place I have made for them. I know I won't be perfect but at least I want them to know this is a safe place.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328602.0, "created_utc": 1625328602.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xka1w", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xka1w", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xinhj", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xka1w/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Sourpatchtaby", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mjocrbs", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "That's all you can do as a parent. Try and be better than our parents were, try and better than we were yesterday, and understand you're learning to be a parent like they're learning to be a child.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>That's all you can do as a parent. Try and be better than our parents were, try and better than we were yesterday, and understand you're learning to be a parent like they're learning to be a child.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329044.0, "created_utc": 1625329044.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xl4hz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xl4hz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xka1w", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xl4hz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 27, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 27, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 245, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 245, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Intoxicatedpunch", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4dkd5tdv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I can't understand that. I lived with a friend of mine and his wife for a few months and they have 2 young boys. I helped watch them, feed them, clean up there messes etc. Were they crazy and ran around and screamed? Of course they did they are toddlers.\n\nI would never call a kid defective while I'm staying in that person's home! Thats insanity\n\nI did use to refer to the youngest as \"a little freaking gremlin\" but in a loving way", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I can't understand that. I lived with a friend of mine and his wife for a few months and they have 2 young boys. I helped watch them, feed them, clean up there messes etc. Were they crazy and ran around and screamed? Of course they did they are toddlers.</p>\n\n<p>I would never call a kid defective while I'm staying in that person's home! Thats insanity</p>\n\n<p>I did use to refer to the youngest as "a little freaking gremlin" but in a loving way</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625343144.0, "created_utc": 1625343144.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yc79s", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yc79s", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xinhj", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yc79s/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Sourpatchtaby", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mjocrbs", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "See that I understand, I call him a little crazy monster. But I never understand how people could talk shit (for lack of a better word) to a child of any age. Toddlers a crazy and loud and just insane. You gotta know that going into living with someone lol", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>See that I understand, I call him a little crazy monster. But I never understand how people could talk shit (for lack of a better word) to a child of any age. Toddlers a crazy and loud and just insane. You gotta know that going into living with someone lol</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625345962.0, "created_utc": 1625345962.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yhhn4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yhhn4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3yc79s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yhhn4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 773, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 773, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1648, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1648, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MarquisEXB", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_59ws6", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly I can understand why the wife would act that way. (Not that I agree condone it.)\n\nMy guess is the wife comes from an abusive (mentally) family where she doesn't value her own worth. It's likely the family is misogynistic, where women are to put their needs aside for the men. This would make a lot of sense given how she's devaluing her own daughter.\n\nFamily upbringing band bonds can really mess with a person, and that's clearly what's happening here.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly I can understand why the wife would act that way. (Not that I agree condone it.)</p>\n\n<p>My guess is the wife comes from an abusive (mentally) family where she doesn't value her own worth. It's likely the family is misogynistic, where women are to put their needs aside for the men. This would make a lot of sense given how she's devaluing her own daughter.</p>\n\n<p>Family upbringing band bonds can really mess with a person, and that's clearly what's happening here.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325739.0, "created_utc": 1625325739.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xetkj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xetkj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6gdo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xetkj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 148, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 148, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "IPetdogs4U", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3b3aac4u", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If my spouse said this to my daughter or enabled someone who did, I\u2019d be packing our bags already. Thanks goodness there\u2019s one healthy adult in this scenario because that will make a world of difference to Zoey\u2019s mental health later in life.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If my spouse said this to my daughter or enabled someone who did, I\u2019d be packing our bags already. Thanks goodness there\u2019s one healthy adult in this scenario because that will make a world of difference to Zoey\u2019s mental health later in life.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329613.0, "created_utc": 1625329613.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xm7lu", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xm7lu", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6gdo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xm7lu/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "As a mother if someone stole from my daughter then had the audacity to blame her for having the thing in the first place, my boot would be up their ass kicking them out of my home faster than you can say \"NTA.\"", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>As a mother if someone stole from my daughter then had the audacity to blame her for having the thing in the first place, my boot would be up their ass kicking them out of my home faster than you can say "NTA."</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332229.0, "created_utc": 1625332229.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xrcdn", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xrcdn", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6gdo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xrcdn/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "brit-girl-lost", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2icqoi4p", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Plenty of parents sadly that will take the side of so called family over their own kids. One of the reasons my kids dad is now ex-husband", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Plenty of parents sadly that will take the side of so called family over their own kids. One of the reasons my kids dad is now ex-husband</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328351.0, "created_utc": 1625328351.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xjsrz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xjsrz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6gdo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xjsrz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ksarahsarah27", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2kbx4z62", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! I asked my dad to stick up for me one time at this business that I knew was taking advantage of me (I was young at the time). My dad was to busy to be bothered. And I ended up feeling humiliated and stupid. I\u2019ve never forgotten that. \ud83d\ude1eAfter that I never counted on him for anything and never asked him for help again with stuff like that. \n\nYou know who has ALWAYS stood up for me? My boss. Yup she\u2019s a strong independent divorced woman and she\u2019s always been there for me. She\u2019s become like my second mother to me. Pretty sad if you can\u2019t count on your own parents to protect you when you\u2019re not an adult and have no power against adults. So yes, OP please continue to stand up for her and for what\u2019s right. She may not remember this incident later but she will remember it if it ends up being a horrible experience. This is a simple situation of - would you like it done to you? (someone one using your stuff without asking and abusing it). I basically grew up thinking you can\u2019t count on any man to stand up for you. Positive side is I\u2019ve never been disappointed after that because my expectations are zero.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! I asked my dad to stick up for me one time at this business that I knew was taking advantage of me (I was young at the time). My dad was to busy to be bothered. And I ended up feeling humiliated and stupid. I\u2019ve never forgotten that. \ud83d\ude1eAfter that I never counted on him for anything and never asked him for help again with stuff like that. </p>\n\n<p>You know who has ALWAYS stood up for me? My boss. Yup she\u2019s a strong independent divorced woman and she\u2019s always been there for me. She\u2019s become like my second mother to me. Pretty sad if you can\u2019t count on your own parents to protect you when you\u2019re not an adult and have no power against adults. So yes, OP please continue to stand up for her and for what\u2019s right. She may not remember this incident later but she will remember it if it ends up being a horrible experience. This is a simple situation of - would you like it done to you? (someone one using your stuff without asking and abusing it). I basically grew up thinking you can\u2019t count on any man to stand up for you. Positive side is I\u2019ve never been disappointed after that because my expectations are zero.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334836.0, "created_utc": 1625334836.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xwe9g", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xwe9g", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6gdo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xwe9g/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5036, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5036, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "attanai", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_103291", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. OP has one job, and that's to protect his daughter. Everyone else in this situation is an adult or has someone else protecting them. If she doesn't feel dafe in her own home, OP has a right and responsibility to get her out of that situation. I wouldn't go straight for divorce, here, but it would be a wake up call for everyone involved if OP and his daughter moved out of the house for a little while. He can change rent if money is an issue, but either way, his first priority needs to be getting her out of that situation.\n\nOf course, the ideal would be getting the brother to move out, but it sounds like that's not the real issue anymore - this fight will continue long after the brother is gone. It's about trust, now. OP can't trust his wife to keep his daughter safe, and that's not going to change if the brother and his kids are no longer a threat. There will be other threats.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. OP has one job, and that's to protect his daughter. Everyone else in this situation is an adult or has someone else protecting them. If she doesn't feel dafe in her own home, OP has a right and responsibility to get her out of that situation. I wouldn't go straight for divorce, here, but it would be a wake up call for everyone involved if OP and his daughter moved out of the house for a little while. He can change rent if money is an issue, but either way, his first priority needs to be getting her out of that situation.</p>\n\n<p>Of course, the ideal would be getting the brother to move out, but it sounds like that's not the real issue anymore - this fight will continue long after the brother is gone. It's about trust, now. OP can't trust his wife to keep his daughter safe, and that's not going to change if the brother and his kids are no longer a threat. There will be other threats.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322377.0, "created_utc": 1625322377.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x8l2j", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8l2j", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyf27", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8l2j/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 446, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 446, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NoRedRocketToys", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4w48c9sq", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Quite frankly, as far as makeup goes, Mac isn't even close to the most expensive. It's actually a really great brand for someone who's in their teens and looking to move past drug store brands. My first higher brand makeup kit was from Mac that my mom got me when I was like 13/14.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Quite frankly, as far as makeup goes, Mac isn't even close to the most expensive. It's actually a really great brand for someone who's in their teens and looking to move past drug store brands. My first higher brand makeup kit was from Mac that my mom got me when I was like 13/14.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323521.0, "created_utc": 1625323521.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xao10", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xao10", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyf27", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xao10/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TallandTempestuous", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_a5cptav0", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Not even just that, but the expensive brands are so much more gentle on skin. As someone with overly sensitive skin, I can only use expensive brands or I risk an allergic reaction, so I really see the value in splurging.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Not even just that, but the expensive brands are so much more gentle on skin. As someone with overly sensitive skin, I can only use expensive brands or I risk an allergic reaction, so I really see the value in splurging.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326896.0, "created_utc": 1625326896.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xh04k", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xh04k", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xao10", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xh04k/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "gottabekittensme", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_z5mou", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yep! As someone who had eczema flare-ups on my eyelids, expensive makeup brands were the only ones who didn't give me the same flare-ups.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yep! As someone who had eczema flare-ups on my eyelids, expensive makeup brands were the only ones who didn't give me the same flare-ups.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333075.0, "created_utc": 1625333075.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xszn2", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xszn2", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xh04k", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xszn2/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "merchillio", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3wtev", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I never experienced eczema, but my son is prone to it (mostly elbows and back of the knees). I winced at ready \u201ceczema flare-ups on my eyelids).", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I never experienced eczema, but my son is prone to it (mostly elbows and back of the knees). I winced at ready \u201ceczema flare-ups on my eyelids).</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338490.0, "created_utc": 1625338490.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y3b8q", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y3b8q", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xszn2", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y3b8q/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 171, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 171, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "adventure_pup", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_18lili65", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It was my first non-drugstore brand and I remember saving up for it too. I literally still remember, clear as day, buying it with my own money for the first time. It was a life lesson bigger than just makeup tbh. I think Zoey\u2019s reaction is completely justified.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It was my first non-drugstore brand and I remember saving up for it too. I literally still remember, clear as day, buying it with my own money for the first time. It was a life lesson bigger than just makeup tbh. I think Zoey\u2019s reaction is completely justified.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329009.0, "created_utc": 1625329009.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xl255", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xl255", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xao10", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xl255/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "theSandwichSister", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_12k70q", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I was a grown woman when I cried over my makeup palette being ruined by my toddler. Zoey showed restraint IMO.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I was a grown woman when I cried over my makeup palette being ruined by my toddler. Zoey showed restraint IMO.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338983.0, "created_utc": 1625338983.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y49kn", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y49kn", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xl255", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y49kn/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "XenosTrashBrigade", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_a0t9dpzd", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yes. It's kind of a milestone and the cousins ruined it.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yes. It's kind of a milestone and the cousins ruined it.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625335447.0, "created_utc": 1625335447.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xxjsp", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xxjsp", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xl255", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xxjsp/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 37, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 37, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Thin-White-Duke", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_90hlu", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Kids these days are doing some really cool, artistic looks that I'd only previously seen in drag or higher fashion. MAC palettes are a great starting point for those wanting to get into makeup artistry. MAC was initially founded to make makeup for professionals.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Kids these days are doing some really cool, artistic looks that I'd only previously seen in drag or higher fashion. MAC palettes are a great starting point for those wanting to get into makeup artistry. MAC was initially founded to make makeup for professionals.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332292.0, "created_utc": 1625332292.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xrgtt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xrgtt", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xao10", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xrgtt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 401, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 401, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Inside-Ostrich2888", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8u3oyv9v", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It totally baffles me how some families allow certain types of behaviour amongst themselves. How OP's wife tolerates her brother talking about her daughter like that or talking to her husband like that in HIS house! \n\nOP is offering a huge favour and service to this BIL, something other close family don't seem willing to do and yet he has the audacity to talk that way about him or his daughter...I don't understand sooo many people anymore, entitled assholes is a basic description for them. \n\nA child's room in their parent's house is THEIR safe space, it should be sacred and a place they know they can create their own boundaries, having a parent shit on that for the sake of her brother's feelings is depressing, this girl will grow to know mommy doesn't have her back or care about her feelings...at least Daddy (OP) has some common sense in this regard, fair play to that guy.\n\nEdit: spelling correction", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It totally baffles me how some families allow certain types of behaviour amongst themselves. How OP's wife tolerates her brother talking about her daughter like that or talking to her husband like that in HIS house! </p>\n\n<p>OP is offering a huge favour and service to this BIL, something other close family don't seem willing to do and yet he has the audacity to talk that way about him or his daughter...I don't understand sooo many people anymore, entitled assholes is a basic description for them. </p>\n\n<p>A child's room in their parent's house is THEIR safe space, it should be sacred and a place they know they can create their own boundaries, having a parent shit on that for the sake of her brother's feelings is depressing, this girl will grow to know mommy doesn't have her back or care about her feelings...at least Daddy (OP) has some common sense in this regard, fair play to that guy.</p>\n\n<p>Edit: spelling correction</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322949.0, "created_utc": 1625322949.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625326761.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x9mqz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x9mqz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyf27", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x9mqz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 205, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 205, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "lagomorphlover", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [10]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_7h6t5g70", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah I would see red with this comment! It's defective to steal- stealing falls under deviance.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah I would see red with this comment! It's defective to steal- stealing falls under deviance.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322737.0, "created_utc": 1625322737.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x98pt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x98pt", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyf27", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x98pt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CuntyAnne_Conway", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_dm8xwda", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Same. That's when I would probably go nuclear after that comment.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Same. That's when I would probably go nuclear after that comment.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326537.0, "created_utc": 1625326537.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xgbk0", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xgbk0", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x98pt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xgbk0/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ProjectKurtz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_wfw5z", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yep. That's the comment that afterwards your guests are no longer welcome guests and should be treated like a gang of thieves and lowlifes, cause that's exactly what they are.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yep. That's the comment that afterwards your guests are no longer welcome guests and should be treated like a gang of thieves and lowlifes, cause that's exactly what they are.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329927.0, "created_utc": 1625329927.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xmt1j", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xmt1j", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xgbk0", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xmt1j/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 100, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 100, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "EducationalTangelo6", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5rorfd2m", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Agreed. OP's wife needs to reconsider her priorities, fast. If I were in OP's position, I would kick Sammy & the daughters out (and have a long talk with the wife), or failing that, move out with Zoey. \n\nShe needs to be somewhere she feels safe, protected, and not like she's going to be shunned or have her privacy violated at any moment.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Agreed. OP's wife needs to reconsider her priorities, fast. If I were in OP's position, I would kick Sammy & the daughters out (and have a long talk with the wife), or failing that, move out with Zoey. </p>\n\n<p>She needs to be somewhere she feels safe, protected, and not like she's going to be shunned or have her privacy violated at any moment.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323307.0, "created_utc": 1625323307.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xaaaj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xaaaj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyf27", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xaaaj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 66, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 66, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "When I read that my first thought was divorce with 50%+ custody", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>When I read that my first thought was divorce with 50%+ custody</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323898.0, "created_utc": 1625323898.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xbd8k", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xbd8k", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyf27", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xbd8k/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17055, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17055, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" } ]	1	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
1	Is he now outsourcing or asking for a 'friend'? 😂	ocx94s	750more	1,625,346,835	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "750more", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_455ba43u", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Is he now outsourcing or asking for a 'friend'? \ud83d\ude02", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Is he now outsourcing or asking for a 'friend'? \ud83d\ude02</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625346835.0, "created_utc": 1625346835.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yj3ms", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yj3ms", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xppa5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yj3ms/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 43, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 43, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316785.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316785.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wz5w4\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 19659, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 19659, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Featherymorons" }, { "content": "Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"huskergirl-86\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_yeajq\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625320641.0, \"created_utc\": 1625320641.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x5flo\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x5flo\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5flo/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 11921, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 11921, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "huskergirl-86" }, { "content": "Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625321542.0, \"created_utc\": 1625321542.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x71t5\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": 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2	>instead of staying with mom where they grew up. [...quoted text...] Kinda wonder why they aren't staying there... Maybe Mom had rules against some of their shenanigans.	ocx94s	84unicorn	1,625,330,390	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "84unicorn", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_aolpn5tx", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": ">instead of staying with mom where they grew up.\n\nKinda wonder why they aren't staying there... Maybe Mom had rules against some of their shenanigans.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>instead of staying with mom where they grew up.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>Kinda wonder why they aren't staying there... 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. 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Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x48ia\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 5196, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 5196, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. \n\n18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. \n\nDo the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? \n\nI hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying \"this needs to be dealt with\", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. \n\nThe biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. \n\nAnd silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. Isn't wrong and b. Is protecting herself is exactly what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"walkonbi0207\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_6iw82vhf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. \\n\\n18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. \\n\\nDo the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? \\n\\nI hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying \\\"this needs to be dealt with\\\", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn\\u2019t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. \\n\\nThe biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. \\n\\nAnd silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. Isn't wrong and b. Is protecting herself is exactly what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. 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No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn\\u2019t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. </p>\\n\\n<p>The biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. </p>\\n\\n<p>And silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. <em>Isn't wrong</em> and b. <em>Is protecting herself</em> is <em>exactly</em> what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625321374.0, \"created_utc\": 1625321374.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x6qtq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x6qtq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3x48ia\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6qtq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 449, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 449, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "walkonbi0207" } ]	4	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
3	Agreed. When I read about the color blending ruining the make up, I was like... that had to have been pretty destructive, beyond just normal wear and tear that comes with application. It sounds like the cousins a maliciously ruining things and getting away with it. I hope OP is able to get this to stop.	ocx94s	84unicorn	1,625,330,535	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "84unicorn", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_aolpn5tx", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Agreed. When I read about the color blending ruining the make up, I was like... that had to have been pretty destructive, beyond just normal wear and tear that comes with application. It sounds like the cousins a maliciously ruining things and getting away with it. I hope OP is able to get this to stop.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Agreed. When I read about the color blending ruining the make up, I was like... that had to have been pretty destructive, beyond just normal wear and tear that comes with application. It sounds like the cousins a maliciously ruining things and getting away with it. I hope OP is able to get this to stop.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330535.0, "created_utc": 1625330535.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xnzav", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xnzav", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x7kvi", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xnzav/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 23, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 23, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x48ia\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 5196, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 5196, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA! You are in the right! Also 60$ makeup is VERY different from 15$ makeup from Walmart. Not even compatible quality. She’s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things safe. Also, they aren’t borrowing, they are outright stealing. To borrow, you have to ask for permission! Don’t back down. Someone needs to be on your daughters side. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. 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Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. 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5	Back in college, my roommate and I were exchanging pranks as part of an underlying feud. He was bringing a girl over that night, so I took a pair of his boxer briefs out of his dresser, and smeared a healthy amount of that natural peanut butter (with the oil and nut chunks) on the ass part, and left it visible on his bedroom floor. They went into his room and a few seconds later the girl walked out quickly. Turns out they walked in on our cat licking the peanut butter out of it and it totally grossed both of them out. I did not expect this but it made it more hilarious, looking back. My roommate was pretty upset. For him to believe it was peanut butter, I had to willingly take a whiff out of the “stain” with no disgust on my face, then he hesitantly tested it out. We agreed no more pranks after that, apparently he really liked that girl.	ocx94s	AG-freeflyer	1,625,335,161	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AG-freeflyer", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d386pmog", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Back in college, my roommate and I were exchanging pranks as part of an underlying feud. He was bringing a girl over that night, so I took a pair of his boxer briefs out of his dresser, and smeared a healthy amount of that natural peanut butter (with the oil and nut chunks) on the ass part, and left it visible on his bedroom floor. \n\nThey went into his room and a few seconds later the girl walked out quickly. Turns out they walked in on our cat licking the peanut butter out of it and it totally grossed both of them out. I did not expect this but it made it more hilarious, looking back.\n\nMy roommate was pretty upset. For him to believe it was peanut butter, I had to willingly take a whiff out of the \u201cstain\u201d with no disgust on my face, then he hesitantly tested it out. We agreed no more pranks after that, apparently he really liked that girl.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Back in college, my roommate and I were exchanging pranks as part of an underlying feud. He was bringing a girl over that night, so I took a pair of his boxer briefs out of his dresser, and smeared a healthy amount of that natural peanut butter (with the oil and nut chunks) on the ass part, and left it visible on his bedroom floor. </p>\n\n<p>They went into his room and a few seconds later the girl walked out quickly. Turns out they walked in on our cat licking the peanut butter out of it and it totally grossed both of them out. I did not expect this but it made it more hilarious, looking back.</p>\n\n<p>My roommate was pretty upset. For him to believe it was peanut butter, I had to willingly take a whiff out of the \u201cstain\u201d with no disgust on my face, then he hesitantly tested it out. We agreed no more pranks after that, apparently he really liked that girl.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625335161.0, "created_utc": 1625335161.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 2, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xx0ca", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xx0ca", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xbjmo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xx0ca/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "xX_WarHeart_Xx", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_gdy6t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I\u2019m fucking DYING. My wife is pissed that I wouldn\u2019t stop laughing for five minutes.\n\nThis prank will be paying dividends for decades.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I\u2019m fucking DYING. My wife is pissed that I wouldn\u2019t stop laughing for five minutes.</p>\n\n<p>This prank will be paying dividends for decades.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625348228.0, "created_utc": 1625348228.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ylnun", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ylnun", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xx0ca", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ylnun/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 708, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 708, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ThaneOfCawdorrr", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1pa78gi4", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": true, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly, if she was a keeper, she would have found it as hilarious as we do", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly, if she was a keeper, she would have found it as hilarious as we do</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625348558.0, "created_utc": 1625348558.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ym9eh", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ym9eh", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xx0ca", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ym9eh/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 247, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 247, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1913, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1913, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. 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Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"huskergirl-86\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_yeajq\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625320641.0, \"created_utc\": 1625320641.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x5flo\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x5flo\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5flo/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 11921, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 11921, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "huskergirl-86" }, { "content": "Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625321542.0, \"created_utc\": 1625321542.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x71t5\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": 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6	I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.	ocx94s	A_Magical_Potato	1,625,328,594	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "A_Magical_Potato", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_hrsoa", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328594.0, "created_utc": 1625328594.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xk9hd", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xk9hd", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xa0ow", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xk9hd/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Tortoiseshell007", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_35p9kog", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625341363.0, "created_utc": 1625341363.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y8sc4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y8sc4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xk9hd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y8sc4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 43, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 43, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LuckOfTheDevil", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9v5r8m4s", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339917.0, "created_utc": 1625339917.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y61dz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y61dz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xk9hd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y61dz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 41, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 41, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 273, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 273, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"V-838\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_3f9eum54\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. 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7	There’s a German proverb: if it looks like shit, smells like shit and tastes like shit then it probably is shit	ocx94s	Accomplished-Mess982	1,625,335,168	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Accomplished-Mess982", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d18ggxgf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "There\u2019s a German proverb: if it looks like shit, smells like shit and tastes like shit then it probably is shit", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>There\u2019s a German proverb: if it looks like shit, smells like shit and tastes like shit then it probably is shit</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625335168.0, "created_utc": 1625335168.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xx0ta", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xx0ta", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xbjmo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xx0ta/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "mmotte89", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8os59", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Do you not have ducks down there in Germany?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Do you not have ducks down there in Germany?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338801.0, "created_utc": 1625338801.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y3x33", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y3x33", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xx0ta", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y3x33/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 38, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 38, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 23, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 23, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. 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Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"huskergirl-86\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_yeajq\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625320641.0, \"created_utc\": 1625320641.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x5flo\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x5flo\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5flo/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 11921, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 11921, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "huskergirl-86" }, { "content": "Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625321542.0, \"created_utc\": 1625321542.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x71t5\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": 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8	NTA Sammy sounds like he is spoiling his daughters and justifying their actions by blaming the victim (Zoey). Kicking them out may be a good idea at this point.	ocx94s	AceofSpadesYT	1,625,316,154	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AceofSpadesYT", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_96z1sg80", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA\n\nSammy sounds like he is spoiling his daughters and justifying their actions by blaming the victim (Zoey). Kicking them out may be a good idea at this point.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA</p>\n\n<p>Sammy sounds like he is spoiling his daughters and justifying their actions by blaming the victim (Zoey). Kicking them out may be a good idea at this point.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316154.0, "created_utc": 1625316154.0, "depth": 0, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3wy90s", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wy90s", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wy90s/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "mikailranjit", "author_cakeday": true, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_brrdzoh", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Not even spoiling his daughters. Spoiling means Sammy would buy them shit, it\u2019s probs the opposite he\u2019s instead telling them to take shit that don\u2019t belong to them and that he\u2019s not wanting to buy for them and is blaming the victim instead of buying his daughter their own shit. Free loading would be a better word!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Not even spoiling his daughters. Spoiling means Sammy would buy them shit, it\u2019s probs the opposite he\u2019s instead telling them to take shit that don\u2019t belong to them and that he\u2019s not wanting to buy for them and is blaming the victim instead of buying his daughter their own shit. Free loading would be a better word!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320463.0, "created_utc": 1625320463.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x54dj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x54dj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wy90s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x54dj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OutcomeInteresting25", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_7l7wakdd", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And then just not buying OPs daughter a new fucking pallet after him, himself, suggested she just \u201cbuy a new one at Walmart\u201d. Like okay give me the money then big boy???", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And then just not buying OPs daughter a new fucking pallet after him, himself, suggested she just \u201cbuy a new one at Walmart\u201d. Like okay give me the money then big boy???</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325080.0, "created_utc": 1625325080.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xdkhg", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xdkhg", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x54dj", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xdkhg/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 38, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", 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"r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 23, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Frahal", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_uztvqwl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I think the term would be choosing beggar.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I think the term would be choosing beggar.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" } ]	1	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
9	My mother always told me never to share makeup. I remember walking in on my roommate using my expensive Aveda palette to do one of her friend's makeup. I almost died. I could never use it again, and some of those colors were discontinued.	ocx94s	AffectionateAd5373	1,625,328,099	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AffectionateAd5373", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3z6rlg7i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My mother always told me never to share makeup. I remember walking in on my roommate using my expensive Aveda palette to do one of her friend's makeup. I almost died. I could never use it again, and some of those colors were discontinued.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My mother always told me never to share makeup. I remember walking in on my roommate using my expensive Aveda palette to do one of her friend's makeup. I almost died. I could never use it again, and some of those colors were discontinued.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328099.0, "created_utc": 1625328099.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xjawp", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xjawp", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xgk2o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xjawp/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "doughnutmakemelaugh", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_cwzuj1sz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If it's just powder, you can disinfect it with rubbing alcohol. That's what makeup artists do.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If it's just powder, you can disinfect it with rubbing alcohol. That's what makeup artists do.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331530.0, "created_utc": 1625331530.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xpylx", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xpylx", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xjawp", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xpylx/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AffectionateAd5373", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3z6rlg7i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I work in the industry, so I'm aware. But it's so ingrained (and I have OCD, which doesn't help) that I literally had to throw them all out. And seriously, if the alcohol thing really worked no one would get an infection from the testers.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I work in the industry, so I'm aware. But it's so ingrained (and I have OCD, which doesn't help) that I literally had to throw them all out. And seriously, if the alcohol thing really worked no one would get an infection from the testers.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331695.0, "created_utc": 1625331695.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xqahh", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xqahh", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xpylx", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xqahh/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "doughnutmakemelaugh", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_cwzuj1sz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Tell you a secret.\n\nWhole lot of testers out there not being cleaned at all.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Tell you a secret.</p>\n\n<p>Whole lot of testers out there not being cleaned at all.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334076.0, "created_utc": 1625334076.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xuy1i", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xuy1i", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xqahh", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xuy1i/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AffectionateAd5373", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3z6rlg7i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "True. But surface sanitizing with alcohol is never going to kill everything. \n\nWhen I was doing makeup professionally, I used to scrape a bit of the shadow or whatever onto a clean surface, and use that. I never put the brush into the container from the skin.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>True. But surface sanitizing with alcohol is never going to kill everything. </p>\n\n<p>When I was doing makeup professionally, I used to scrape a bit of the shadow or whatever onto a clean surface, and use that. I never put the brush into the container from the skin.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334245.0, "created_utc": 1625334245.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xva3p", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xva3p", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xuy1i", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xva3p/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "That's my fav thing about the pandemic, no one at sephora or ulta trying to get me to try the 'testers' on my skin", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>That's my fav thing about the pandemic, no one at sephora or ulta trying to get me to try the 'testers' on my skin</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339951.0, "created_utc": 1625339951.0, "depth": 9, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y63n9", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y63n9", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xva3p", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y63n9/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 31, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 31, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 135, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 135, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "JadeGrapes", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [6]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_33j9ftyp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Agreed... testers that are open to the aisle are chocked full of plague and leprosy until proven otherwise.\n\nTIL some people are testing them on their FACE. I always do the back of the hand. If literally never occurred to me someone put it on their eyes.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Agreed... testers that are open to the aisle are chocked full of plague and leprosy until proven otherwise.</p>\n\n<p>TIL some people are testing them on their FACE. I always do the back of the hand. If literally never occurred to me someone put it on their eyes.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625345300.0, "created_utc": 1625345300.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yg8zi", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yg8zi", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xuy1i", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yg8zi/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 18, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 18, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 229, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 229, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "terraformthesoul", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ferog5t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Plus, I find the formula is never quite the same after it. Cheapo makeup, whatever. But when I\u2019m buying expensive makeup because of their very specific formulas, warping it with alcohol means it\u2019s essentially a junk palette now.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Plus, I find the formula is never quite the same after it. Cheapo makeup, whatever. But when I\u2019m buying expensive makeup <em>because</em> of their very specific formulas, warping it with alcohol means it\u2019s essentially a junk palette now.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333907.0, "created_utc": 1625333907.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xum8f", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xum8f", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xqahh", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xum8f/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AffectionateAd5373", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3z6rlg7i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yep. I've always found it makes a film over the top, and then you wind up having to scrape half the pan out to get past it.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yep. I've always found it makes a film over the top, and then you wind up having to scrape half the pan out to get past it.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334084.0, "created_utc": 1625334084.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xuyl6", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xuyl6", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xum8f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xuyl6/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 41, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 41, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 144, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 144, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 219, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 219, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 196, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 196, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 523, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 523, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. 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It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"SubstantialDrawing7\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_5bt2qq3t\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \\\"defective\\\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\\n\\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\\n\\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625324620.0, \"created_utc\": 1625324620.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3xcp6c\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, 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10	I'd tell the wife she can leave with her brother, frankly.	ocx94s	AffectionateAd5373	1,625,328,235	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AffectionateAd5373", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3z6rlg7i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I'd tell the wife she can leave with her brother, frankly.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I'd tell the wife she can leave with her brother, frankly.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328235.0, "created_utc": 1625328235.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xjkgm", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xjkgm", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xjkgm/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 179, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 179, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316785.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316785.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wz5w4\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 19659, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 19659, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Featherymorons" }, { "content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"SubstantialDrawing7\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_5bt2qq3t\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \\\"defective\\\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\\n\\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\\n\\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625324620.0, \"created_utc\": 1625324620.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3xcp6c\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3xcp6c\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 1597, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 1597, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "SubstantialDrawing7" }, { "content": "Honestly those two girls were taking extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school laptop?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the adult twins and say they were stealing from his minor daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"TheoryAddict\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#8f7312\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Certified Proctologist [21]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2mk5ykci\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Honestly those two girls were taking extremely expensive stuff to begin eith (a school laptop?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\\n\\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\\n\\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\\n\\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \\n\\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \\n\\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \\n\\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the adult twins and say they were stealing from his minor daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \\n\\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\\n\\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\\n\\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\\n\\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\\n\\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\\n\\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\\n\\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\\n\\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625327079.0, \"created_utc\": 1625327079.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3xhcpe\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3xhcpe\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3xcp6c\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 1154, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 1154, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "TheoryAddict" } ]	5	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
11	I work in the industry, so I'm aware. But it's so ingrained (and I have OCD, which doesn't help) that I literally had to throw them all out. And seriously, if the alcohol thing really worked no one would get an infection from the testers.	ocx94s	AffectionateAd5373	1,625,331,695	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AffectionateAd5373", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3z6rlg7i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I work in the industry, so I'm aware. But it's so ingrained (and I have OCD, which doesn't help) that I literally had to throw them all out. And seriously, if the alcohol thing really worked no one would get an infection from the testers.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I work in the industry, so I'm aware. But it's so ingrained (and I have OCD, which doesn't help) that I literally had to throw them all out. And seriously, if the alcohol thing really worked no one would get an infection from the testers.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331695.0, "created_utc": 1625331695.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xqahh", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xqahh", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xpylx", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xqahh/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "doughnutmakemelaugh", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_cwzuj1sz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Tell you a secret.\n\nWhole lot of testers out there not being cleaned at all.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Tell you a secret.</p>\n\n<p>Whole lot of testers out there not being cleaned at all.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334076.0, "created_utc": 1625334076.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xuy1i", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xuy1i", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xqahh", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xuy1i/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AffectionateAd5373", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3z6rlg7i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "True. But surface sanitizing with alcohol is never going to kill everything. \n\nWhen I was doing makeup professionally, I used to scrape a bit of the shadow or whatever onto a clean surface, and use that. I never put the brush into the container from the skin.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>True. But surface sanitizing with alcohol is never going to kill everything. </p>\n\n<p>When I was doing makeup professionally, I used to scrape a bit of the shadow or whatever onto a clean surface, and use that. I never put the brush into the container from the skin.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334245.0, "created_utc": 1625334245.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xva3p", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xva3p", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xuy1i", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xva3p/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "That's my fav thing about the pandemic, no one at sephora or ulta trying to get me to try the 'testers' on my skin", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>That's my fav thing about the pandemic, no one at sephora or ulta trying to get me to try the 'testers' on my skin</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339951.0, "created_utc": 1625339951.0, "depth": 9, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y63n9", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y63n9", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xva3p", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y63n9/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 31, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 31, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 135, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 135, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "JadeGrapes", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [6]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_33j9ftyp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Agreed... testers that are open to the aisle are chocked full of plague and leprosy until proven otherwise.\n\nTIL some people are testing them on their FACE. I always do the back of the hand. If literally never occurred to me someone put it on their eyes.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Agreed... testers that are open to the aisle are chocked full of plague and leprosy until proven otherwise.</p>\n\n<p>TIL some people are testing them on their FACE. I always do the back of the hand. If literally never occurred to me someone put it on their eyes.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625345300.0, "created_utc": 1625345300.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yg8zi", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yg8zi", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xuy1i", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yg8zi/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 18, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 18, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 229, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 229, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "terraformthesoul", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ferog5t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Plus, I find the formula is never quite the same after it. Cheapo makeup, whatever. But when I\u2019m buying expensive makeup because of their very specific formulas, warping it with alcohol means it\u2019s essentially a junk palette now.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Plus, I find the formula is never quite the same after it. Cheapo makeup, whatever. But when I\u2019m buying expensive makeup <em>because</em> of their very specific formulas, warping it with alcohol means it\u2019s essentially a junk palette now.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333907.0, "created_utc": 1625333907.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xum8f", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xum8f", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xqahh", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xum8f/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AffectionateAd5373", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3z6rlg7i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yep. I've always found it makes a film over the top, and then you wind up having to scrape half the pan out to get past it.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yep. I've always found it makes a film over the top, and then you wind up having to scrape half the pan out to get past it.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334084.0, "created_utc": 1625334084.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xuyl6", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xuyl6", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xum8f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xuyl6/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 41, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 41, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 144, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 144, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 219, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 219, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316785.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316785.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wz5w4\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 19659, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 19659, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Featherymorons" }, { "content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"SubstantialDrawing7\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_5bt2qq3t\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \\\"defective\\\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\\n\\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\\n\\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625324620.0, \"created_utc\": 1625324620.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3xcp6c\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, 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12	Yep. I've always found it makes a film over the top, and then you wind up having to scrape half the pan out to get past it.	ocx94s	AffectionateAd5373	1,625,334,084	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AffectionateAd5373", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3z6rlg7i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yep. I've always found it makes a film over the top, and then you wind up having to scrape half the pan out to get past it.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yep. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316785.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316785.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wz5w4\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 19659, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 19659, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Featherymorons" }, { "content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"SubstantialDrawing7\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_5bt2qq3t\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \\\"defective\\\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\\n\\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\\n\\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625324620.0, \"created_utc\": 1625324620.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3xcp6c\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, 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I remember walking in on my roommate using my expensive Aveda palette to do one of her friend's makeup. I almost died. I could never use it again, and some of those colors were discontinued.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"AffectionateAd5373\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_3z6rlg7i\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"My mother always told me never to share makeup. 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That's what makeup artists do.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"doughnutmakemelaugh\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_cwzuj1sz\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"If it's just powder, you can disinfect it with rubbing alcohol. That's what makeup artists do.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>If it's just powder, you can disinfect it with rubbing alcohol. 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But it's so ingrained (and I have OCD, which doesn't help) that I literally had to throw them all out. And seriously, if the alcohol thing really worked no one would get an infection from the testers.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"AffectionateAd5373\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_3z6rlg7i\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I work in the industry, so I'm aware. 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13	True. But surface sanitizing with alcohol is never going to kill everything. When I was doing makeup professionally, I used to scrape a bit of the shadow or whatever onto a clean surface, and use that. I never put the brush into the container from the skin.	ocx94s	AffectionateAd5373	1,625,334,245	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AffectionateAd5373", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3z6rlg7i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "True. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316785.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316785.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wz5w4\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 19659, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 19659, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Featherymorons" }, { "content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"SubstantialDrawing7\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_5bt2qq3t\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \\\"defective\\\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\\n\\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\\n\\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625324620.0, \"created_utc\": 1625324620.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3xcp6c\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, 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14	Why is your wife valuing the comfort of her nieces over that of her own daughter? And that comment her brother made about your daughter having a defect... What in the holy fuck of a thing to say to someone who housed you after going homeless??	ocx94s	Ahblahright	1,625,321,748	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Ahblahright", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_kui0o", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Why is your wife valuing the comfort of her nieces over that of her own daughter? 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x48ia\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 5196, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 5196, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" } ]	3	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
15	Yeah part of the problem is someone not understanding a quality but expensive product is worth it	ocx94s	AlanFromRochester	1,625,344,499	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AlanFromRochester", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_mzfy3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah part of the problem is someone not understanding a quality but expensive product is worth it", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah part of the problem is someone not understanding a quality but expensive product is worth it</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625344499.0, "created_utc": 1625344499.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yer1x", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yer1x", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x7kvi", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yer1x/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x48ia\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 5196, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 5196, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA! You are in the right! Also 60$ makeup is VERY different from 15$ makeup from Walmart. Not even compatible quality. She’s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things safe. Also, they aren’t borrowing, they are outright stealing. To borrow, you have to ask for permission! Don’t back down. Someone needs to be on your daughters side. 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She\\u2019s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things safe. Also, they aren\\u2019t borrowing, they are outright stealing. To borrow, you have to ask for permission! Don\\u2019t back down. Someone needs to be on your daughters side. Please don\\u2019t let her down.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA! You are in the right! Also 60$ makeup is VERY different from 15$ makeup from Walmart. Not even compatible quality. She\\u2019s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things safe. Also, they aren\\u2019t borrowing, they are outright stealing. To borrow, you have to ask for permission! Don\\u2019t back down. Someone needs to be on your daughters side. 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16	Right. Taking something that doesn’t belong to you without the owners permission is being a thief	ocx94s	Annual-Contract-115	1,625,333,748	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Annual-Contract-115", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ab8c0e", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "fe8bfb56-f967-11e8-aad8-0e2a3f932fc0", "author_flair_text": "Colo-rectal Surgeon [31]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bzw282r3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Right. Taking something that doesn\u2019t belong to you without the owners permission is being a thief", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Right. Taking something that doesn\u2019t belong to you without the owners permission is being a thief</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333748.0, "created_utc": 1625333748.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xub4j", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xub4j", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xub4j/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316785.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316785.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wz5w4\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 19659, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 19659, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Featherymorons" }, { "content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"SubstantialDrawing7\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_5bt2qq3t\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \\\"defective\\\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\\n\\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\\n\\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625324620.0, \"created_utc\": 1625324620.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3xcp6c\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3xcp6c\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 1597, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 1597, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "SubstantialDrawing7" }, { "content": "Honestly those two girls were taking extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school laptop?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the adult twins and say they were stealing from his minor daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"TheoryAddict\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#8f7312\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Certified Proctologist [21]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2mk5ykci\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Honestly those two girls were taking extremely expensive stuff to begin eith (a school laptop?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\\n\\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\\n\\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\\n\\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \\n\\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \\n\\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \\n\\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the adult twins and say they were stealing from his minor daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \\n\\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\\n\\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\\n\\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\\n\\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\\n\\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\\n\\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\\n\\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\\n\\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. 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17	the way the OP described how the colors were ruined i can take a pretty good guess it was probably a face or lip palette (most likely cream) because eyeshadow would be an easy fix. if it is cream (which is probably is) there’s no fixing those colors once you mix them in the palette. EDIT: i’m pretty positive it’s a lip palette or some sort of cream pro palette from MAC. either way VERY expensive and high quality product that i wouldn’t even touch with the decent makeup skills i have as an adult.	ocx94s	AromaticPersimmon0	1,625,326,801	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AromaticPersimmon0", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6k353sdv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "the way the OP described how the colors were ruined i can take a pretty good guess it was probably a face or lip palette (most likely cream) because eyeshadow would be an easy fix. if it is cream (which is probably is) there\u2019s no fixing those colors once you mix them in the palette.\n\nEDIT: i\u2019m pretty positive it\u2019s a lip palette or some sort of cream pro palette from MAC. either way VERY expensive and high quality product that i wouldn\u2019t even touch with the decent makeup skills i have as an adult.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>the way the OP described how the colors were ruined i can take a pretty good guess it was probably a face or lip palette (most likely cream) because eyeshadow would be an easy fix. if it is cream (which is probably is) there\u2019s no fixing those colors once you mix them in the palette.</p>\n\n<p>EDIT: i\u2019m pretty positive it\u2019s a lip palette or some sort of cream pro palette from MAC. either way VERY expensive and high quality product that i wouldn\u2019t even touch with the decent makeup skills i have as an adult.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326801.0, "created_utc": 1625326801.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625330421.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xgtnu", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xgtnu", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x4nxv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xgtnu/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Absolutely. I LOVE makeup and Mac isn't cheap. Mixing colors in the palette pans doesn't even make sense unless you're a two year old who got into mommy's stuff or a total amateur. At 18, that was definitely some mean girl shit.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely. I LOVE makeup and Mac isn't cheap. Mixing colors in the palette pans doesn't even make sense unless you're a two year old who got into mommy's stuff or a total amateur. At 18, that was definitely some mean girl shit.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332133.0, "created_utc": 1625332133.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xr5sn", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xr5sn", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xgtnu", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xr5sn/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 155, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 155, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "amyhenderson_", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_7ni0ll7", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Good point - I see palette and think eyeshadow, but yeah \u2026 I even own more than one non-eye palette, I just assumed! lol Still gross using anyone\u2019s makeup without sanitizing it which I doubt the cousins did - I may share a powder blush or powder highlighter with my sister or a friend (with their own clean brushes), but even cream face products or any lip products are not shareable IMO. Or Zoey may not know how to fix a powder product that got messed up - if it is powder, maybe some YouTube videos could help her fix it? Or it\u2019s just ruined in her eyes even if it is fixable because she saved up and bought something nice for herself and her cousins thoughtlessly gunked it up.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Good point - I see palette and think eyeshadow, but yeah \u2026 I even own more than one non-eye palette, I just assumed! lol Still gross using anyone\u2019s makeup without sanitizing it which I doubt the cousins did - I may share a powder blush or powder highlighter with my sister or a friend (with their own clean brushes), but even cream face products or any lip products are not shareable IMO. Or Zoey may not know how to fix a powder product that got messed up - if it is powder, maybe some YouTube videos could help her fix it? Or it\u2019s just ruined in her eyes even if it is fixable because she saved up and bought something nice for herself and her cousins thoughtlessly gunked it up.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327970.0, "created_utc": 1625327970.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xj1wm", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xj1wm", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xgtnu", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xj1wm/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": 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"awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I\u2019m pretty sure it\u2019s literally [this.](https://www.maccosmetics.com/product/21085/60269/products/makeup/pro-products/all-pro/pro-palette-paintstick-x-12)", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I\u2019m pretty sure it\u2019s literally <a href=\"https://www.maccosmetics.com/product/21085/60269/products/makeup/pro-products/all-pro/pro-palette-paintstick-x-12\">this.</a></p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332387.0, "created_utc": 1625332387.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xrnks", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA\n\nYour daughter doesn’t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \n\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"amyhenderson_\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7ni0ll7\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA\\n\\nYour daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \\n\\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA</p>\\n\\n<p>Your daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. </p>\\n\\n<p>Good for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316126.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316126.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wy7le\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wy7le\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wy7le/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 8672, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 8672, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "amyhenderson_" }, { "content": "They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey’s BED screams of malice.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Splatterfilm\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_mld4z\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey\\u2019s BED screams of malice.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey\\u2019s BED screams of malice.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319858.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319858.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x4214\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x4214\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wy7le\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x4214/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 5202, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 5202, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Splatterfilm" }, { "content": "Oh, 100% agreed. Plus, it’s disgusting - do NOT share eye makeup with other people! Gah! Bet they are also using the same brushes, not cleaning them - gross. It’s not just about taking something Zoey saved up for and destroying it, they could have given Zooey an eye infection.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"amyhenderson_\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7ni0ll7\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Oh, 100% agreed. Plus, it\\u2019s disgusting - do NOT share eye makeup with other people! Gah! Bet they are also using the same brushes, not cleaning them - gross. It\\u2019s not just about taking something Zoey saved up for and destroying it, they could have given Zooey an eye infection.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Oh, 100% agreed. Plus, it\\u2019s disgusting - do NOT share eye makeup with other people! Gah! Bet they are also using the same brushes, not cleaning them - gross. It\\u2019s not just about taking something Zoey saved up for and destroying it, they could have given Zooey an eye infection.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625320200.0, \"created_utc\": 1625320200.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x4nxv\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x4nxv\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3x4214\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x4nxv/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 2453, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 2453, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "amyhenderson_" } ]	4	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
18	Or take the wife on her word and do treat them like his daughters. Set a standard for them and discipline them when they break the rules. See how quickly they become "not your daughters, you're overstepping". How would OP treat one of his adult kids if they repeatedly stole from his other kids? Throw them out, perhaps? Or start charging them rent (and increase it to pay for damages and stolen items)? No treats or privileges in the house until they improve their behavior? Loads of fun stuff you could do.	ocx94s	Arthemax	1,625,337,289	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Arthemax", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_448hv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Or take the wife on her word and do treat them like his daughters. Set a standard for them and discipline them when they break the rules. See how quickly they become \"not your daughters, you're overstepping\". \nHow would OP treat one of his adult kids if they repeatedly stole from his other kids? Throw them out, perhaps? Or start charging them rent (and increase it to pay for damages and stolen items)? No treats or privileges in the house until they improve their behavior? Loads of fun stuff you could do.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Or take the wife on her word and do treat them like his daughters. Set a standard for them and discipline them when they break the rules. See how quickly they become "not your daughters, you're overstepping".<br/>\nHow would OP treat one of his adult kids if they repeatedly stole from his other kids? Throw them out, perhaps? Or start charging them rent (and increase it to pay for damages and stolen items)? No treats or privileges in the house until they improve their behavior? Loads of fun stuff you could do.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625337289.0, "created_utc": 1625337289.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y1001", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y1001", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyctp", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y1001/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. And why the heck are you supposed to treat them like daughters? They have their dad with them.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Confusion-Advanced\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#57411c\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Enthusiast [7]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7c86uivm\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. And why the heck are you supposed to treat them like daughters? They have their dad with them.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. And why the heck are you supposed to treat them like daughters? They have their dad with them.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316227.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316227.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyctp\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyctp\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyctp/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 568, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 568, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Confusion-Advanced" } ]	2	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
19	Yeah, the mom is thinking her relationship with OP and kid is solid so she’s worried about what the family will think. Guess what lady, it’s on rocky ground. And she needs to get on the same page as her husband and child before she’s worrying about not being the nicest person ever. Hell having someone who will be strong is probably why this pushover married OP. My grandma told me when my grandpa kicked her mom his MIL out of their house one night was when she knew she had chosen the right man.	ocx94s	AssistanceMedical951	1,625,339,216	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AssistanceMedical951", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bsrvoank", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah, the mom is thinking her relationship with OP and kid is solid so she\u2019s worried about what the family will think. Guess what lady, it\u2019s on rocky ground. And she needs to get on the same page as her husband and child before she\u2019s worrying about not being the nicest person ever. Hell having someone who will be strong is probably why this pushover married OP. \nMy grandma told me when my grandpa kicked her mom his MIL out of their house one night was when she knew she had chosen the right man.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah, the mom is thinking her relationship with OP and kid is solid so she\u2019s worried about what the family will think. Guess what lady, it\u2019s on rocky ground. And she needs to get on the same page as her husband and child before she\u2019s worrying about not being the nicest person ever. Hell having someone who will be strong is probably why this pushover married OP. \nMy grandma told me when my grandpa kicked her mom his MIL out of their house one night was when she knew she had chosen the right man.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339216.0, "created_utc": 1625339216.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y4ptr", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y4ptr", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y4ptr/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. 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It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"SubstantialDrawing7\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_5bt2qq3t\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \\\"defective\\\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\\n\\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\\n\\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625324620.0, \"created_utc\": 1625324620.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3xcp6c\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3xcp6c\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 1597, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 1597, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "SubstantialDrawing7" }, { "content": "Honestly those two girls were taking extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school laptop?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the adult twins and say they were stealing from his minor daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"TheoryAddict\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#8f7312\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Certified Proctologist [21]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2mk5ykci\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Honestly those two girls were taking extremely expensive stuff to begin eith (a school laptop?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\\n\\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\\n\\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\\n\\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \\n\\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \\n\\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \\n\\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the adult twins and say they were stealing from his minor daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \\n\\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\\n\\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\\n\\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\\n\\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\\n\\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\\n\\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\\n\\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\\n\\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. 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20	How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too!	ocx94s	Auroraburst	1,625,320,739	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Auroraburst", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ab8c0e", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "fe8bfb56-f967-11e8-aad8-0e2a3f932fc0", "author_flair_text": "Colo-rectal Surgeon [31]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_730i00yc", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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21	Whoops i missed that bit!	ocx94s	Auroraburst	1,625,321,354	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Auroraburst", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ab8c0e", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "fe8bfb56-f967-11e8-aad8-0e2a3f932fc0", "author_flair_text": "Colo-rectal Surgeon [31]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_730i00yc", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Whoops i missed that bit!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Whoops i missed that bit!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321354.0, "created_utc": 1625321354.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6piw", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6piw", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6b09", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6piw/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "littlegreenapples", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ld39bb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I figured, it just made me giggle a lot!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I figured, it just made me giggle a lot!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321775.0, "created_utc": 1625321775.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x7gzw", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x7gzw", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6piw", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x7gzw/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 18, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 18, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 24, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 24, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x48ia\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 5196, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 5196, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too!", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Auroraburst\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#ab8c0e\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"fe8bfb56-f967-11e8-aad8-0e2a3f932fc0\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Colo-rectal Surgeon [31]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_730i00yc\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too!\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. 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22	You forget 3: Their own family refused to take them in. I'm guessing there's a good reason for that.	ocx94s	Benny-The-Bender	1,625,338,616	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Benny-The-Bender", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5eufewkq", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You forget 3: Their own family refused to take them in. \n\nI'm guessing there's a good reason for that.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You forget 3: Their own family refused to take them in. </p>\n\n<p>I'm guessing there's a good reason for that.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338616.0, "created_utc": 1625338616.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y3k2x", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y3k2x", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xb5gc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y3k2x/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA\n\nYour daughter doesn’t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \n\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"amyhenderson_\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7ni0ll7\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA\\n\\nYour daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \\n\\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA</p>\\n\\n<p>Your daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. </p>\\n\\n<p>Good for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316126.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316126.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wy7le\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wy7le\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wy7le/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 8672, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 8672, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "amyhenderson_" }, { "content": "They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey’s BED screams of malice.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Splatterfilm\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_mld4z\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey\\u2019s BED screams of malice.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. 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23	My mother would have drawn and quartered us had we taken our siblings things without permission. I frequently left my journal all over the house after writing in it. My mom would pick it up and put it back in my room. She was and is vigilant about privacy. And now we are the same way with our kids.	ocx94s	BlackberryNo3478	1,625,333,589	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "BlackberryNo3478", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_762erdi3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My mother would have drawn and quartered us had we taken our siblings things without permission. I frequently left my journal all over the house after writing in it. My mom would pick it up and put it back in my room. She was and is vigilant about privacy. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. 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I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. 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I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. 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24	When my sister was in high school and used to borrow my dad's flannel shirts without asking, and sneak them out of the house in her backpack so no one would know. My dad finally had enough, put on one of her baby Ts, and went to her school, walked into her class, and demanded his shirt back.	ocx94s	BoozeIsTherapyRight	1,625,331,909	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "BoozeIsTherapyRight", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_99nk3e9q", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "When my sister was in high school and used to borrow my dad's flannel shirts without asking, and sneak them out of the house in her backpack so no one would know. \n\nMy dad finally had enough, put on one of her baby Ts, and went to her school, walked into her class, and demanded his shirt back.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>When my sister was in high school and used to borrow my dad's flannel shirts without asking, and sneak them out of the house in her backpack so no one would know. </p>\n\n<p>My dad finally had enough, put on one of her baby Ts, and went to her school, walked into her class, and demanded his shirt back.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331909.0, "created_utc": 1625331909.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xqpxq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xqpxq", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xqpxq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 8, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 8, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. 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I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. 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25	Spoiling can also mean not discouraging bad behavior	ocx94s	BotiaDario	1,625,329,874	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "BotiaDario", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_178n3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Spoiling can also mean not discouraging bad behavior", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Spoiling can also mean not discouraging bad behavior</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329874.0, "created_utc": 1625329874.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xmpf5", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xmpf5", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x54dj", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xmpf5/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA\n\nSammy sounds like he is spoiling his daughters and justifying their actions by blaming the victim (Zoey). Kicking them out may be a good idea at this point.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"AceofSpadesYT\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_96z1sg80\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA\\n\\nSammy sounds like he is spoiling his daughters and justifying their actions by blaming the victim (Zoey). Kicking them out may be a good idea at this point.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy sounds like he is spoiling his daughters and justifying their actions by blaming the victim (Zoey). Kicking them out may be a good idea at this point.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316154.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316154.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wy90s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wy90s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wy90s/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 682, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 682, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "AceofSpadesYT" }, { "content": "Not even spoiling his daughters. Spoiling means Sammy would buy them shit, it’s probs the opposite he’s instead telling them to take shit that don’t belong to them and that he’s not wanting to buy for them and is blaming the victim instead of buying his daughter their own shit. Free loading would be a better word!", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"mikailranjit\", \"author_cakeday\": true, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_brrdzoh\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Not even spoiling his daughters. Spoiling means Sammy would buy them shit, it\\u2019s probs the opposite he\\u2019s instead telling them to take shit that don\\u2019t belong to them and that he\\u2019s not wanting to buy for them and is blaming the victim instead of buying his daughter their own shit. Free loading would be a better word!\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Not even spoiling his daughters. Spoiling means Sammy would buy them shit, it\\u2019s probs the opposite he\\u2019s instead telling them to take shit that don\\u2019t belong to them and that he\\u2019s not wanting to buy for them and is blaming the victim instead of buying his daughter their own shit. 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26	I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself	ocx94s	BretTheShitmanFart69	1,625,339,853	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "BretTheShitmanFart69", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4dk4zcg3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339853.0, "created_utc": 1625339853.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y5x0n", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y5x0n", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y5x0n/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Thegrumbliestpuppy", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e1p71", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It's already too late, if they've gotten any mail it'd take months to force them out using the law. Luckily most people don't know that, and would just leave if OP/wife insisted.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It's already too late, if they've gotten any mail it'd take months to force them out using the law. Luckily most people don't know that, and would just leave if OP/wife insisted.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625347913.0, "created_utc": 1625347913.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yl337", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yl337", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3y5x0n", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yl337/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. 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OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. 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27	Doing what's right is often the hardest thing. Keep at it. Also, it may have been said elsewhere but sharing makeup, especially eye make up is a big no no. It can lead to infections or warts so that should be shut down immediately even between the sisters.	ocx94s	Bun_Bunz	1,625,320,542	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Bun_Bunz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2n9mybaj", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Doing what's right is often the hardest thing. Keep at it. \n\nAlso, it may have been said elsewhere but sharing makeup, especially eye make up is a big no no. It can lead to infections or warts so that should be shut down immediately even between the sisters.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Doing what's right is often the hardest thing. Keep at it. </p>\n\n<p>Also, it may have been said elsewhere but sharing makeup, especially eye make up is a big no no. It can lead to infections or warts so that should be shut down immediately even between the sisters.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320542.0, "created_utc": 1625320542.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x59f4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x59f4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x59f4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "neverclearone", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_plqu1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly! Styes, pink eye and many more things are transferred between users of make up, also hair brushes with lice and such. It is not healthy. This is important and I agree that you should mention to your wife that her behavior is questionable not being on your daughters side. \n\n I would just have a talk with BIL and remind him he is in your home as a guest and he should be appreciative or you are going to have to part ways, Being disrespectful to you and your daughter by making a hostile environment in your own home is horrible behavior of grown adults. I would let him know and your wife that this is a deal breaker and if things don't change they will have to move out immediately, while reminding them it IS A TEMPORARY situation and they should be more concerned with working on getting their own place. Two 18 yr olds and an adult should all be working and able to afford an apartment of their own.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly! Styes, pink eye and many more things are transferred between users of make up, also hair brushes with lice and such. It is not healthy. This is important and I agree that you should mention to your wife that her behavior is questionable not being on your daughters side. </p>\n\n<p>I would just have a talk with BIL and remind him he is in your home as a guest and he should be appreciative or you are going to have to part ways, Being disrespectful to you and your daughter by making a hostile environment in your own home is horrible behavior of grown adults. I would let him know and your wife that this is a deal breaker and if things don't change they will have to move out immediately, while reminding them it IS A TEMPORARY situation and they should be more concerned with working on getting their own place. Two 18 yr olds and an adult should all be working and able to afford an apartment of their own.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325212.0, "created_utc": 1625325212.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xdtin", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xdtin", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x59f4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xdtin/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 70, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 70, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 224, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 224, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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28	This comment is disgustingly awesome. I love it.	ocx94s	CJsopinion	1,625,325,259	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CJsopinion", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_25c9qedo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This comment is disgustingly awesome. I love it.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This comment is disgustingly awesome. I love it.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325259.0, "created_utc": 1625325259.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xdwmw", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xdwmw", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xbjmo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xdwmw/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Muffin_Pillager", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_kkkew", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "So is the username...\"u/madmaxturbator\" is a fucking gloriously terrifying username. Conjurs images of maniacal post apocalyptic masturbation with sand and rubbing alcohol. I approve.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>So is the username..."<a href=\"/u/madmaxturbator\">u/madmaxturbator</a>" is a fucking gloriously terrifying username. Conjurs images of maniacal post apocalyptic masturbation with sand and rubbing alcohol. I approve.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625345452.0, "created_utc": 1625345452.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ygjct", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ygjct", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdwmw", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ygjct/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 318, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 318, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "rudbek-of-rudbek", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8yw08zr", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Not disgusting. Just delicious and awesome", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Not disgusting. Just delicious and awesome</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338891.0, "created_utc": 1625338891.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y43as", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y43as", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdwmw", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y43as/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 34, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 34, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2180, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2180, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316785.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316785.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wz5w4\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 19659, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 19659, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Featherymorons" }, { "content": "Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"huskergirl-86\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_yeajq\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625320641.0, \"created_utc\": 1625320641.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x5flo\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x5flo\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5flo/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 11921, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 11921, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "huskergirl-86" }, { "content": "Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Lol, return underwear with stains? 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29	> It is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife. [...quoted text...] But but but but but faaaaamily! My sibling is more important! ... ... 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Very self absorbed of your wife.\n\nBut but but but but faaaaamily! My sibling is more important!\n\n... \n... \n\nUgh, I need a shower after writing that.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>It is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>But but but but but faaaaamily! My sibling is more important!</p>\n\n<p>...<br/>\n... </p>\n\n<p>Ugh, I need a shower after writing that.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325328.0, "created_utc": 1625325328.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xe1ax", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xe1ax", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8aag", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xe1ax/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x48ia\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 5196, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 5196, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": ">I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's how to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\n[...quoted text...]\n\nuh yeah Zoey isn't wrong to do that, she's just learnt the only lesson there is to learn from how her cousins are stealing from her and her mother and uncle are ok with that.\n\nIt is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife.\n\nSo yeah NTA for you and the silent treatment from her cousins and uncle doesn't sound like much of a punishment for Zoey. Sure beats them constantly stealing from her.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Dreams-in-the-Rain\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_3yq3yl4r\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \">I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's how to keep them safe, do I blame her? 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But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.</p>\\n</blockquote>\\n\\n<p>uh yeah Zoey isn't wrong to do that, she's just learnt the only lesson there is to learn from how her cousins are stealing from her and her mother and uncle are ok with that.</p>\\n\\n<p>It is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife.</p>\\n\\n<p>So yeah NTA for you and the silent treatment from her cousins and uncle doesn't sound like much of a punishment for Zoey. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. 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It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"SubstantialDrawing7\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_5bt2qq3t\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \\\"defective\\\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\\n\\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\\n\\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625324620.0, \"created_utc\": 1625324620.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3xcp6c\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3xcp6c\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 1597, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 1597, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "SubstantialDrawing7" } ]	4	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
31	Don’t underestimate how grotesque people can be. When I was 18 I lived with 4 other girls…. The one girl (22f) used to take my underwear, wear them, and then put them back in my room in my dirty clothes (she didn’t like to do laundry and would run out). Needless to say when I discovered this, I started locking my door every time I left. NTA OP- teenagers typically want privacy anyways. Please continue sticking up for your daughter & hopefully your wife comes to her senses since it sounds like she’s being a real ass right now. Your daughter will remember forever that dad has got her back, no matter what!	ocx94s	CatsRuleHoomansDrool	1,625,347,733	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CatsRuleHoomansDrool", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5f1zmc5x", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": true, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Don\u2019t underestimate how grotesque people can be. When I was 18 I lived with 4 other girls\u2026. The one girl (22f) used to take my underwear, wear them, and then put them back in my room in my dirty clothes (she didn\u2019t like to do laundry and would run out). Needless to say when I discovered this, I started locking my door every time I left. \n\nNTA OP- teenagers typically want privacy anyways. Please continue sticking up for your daughter & hopefully your wife comes to her senses since it sounds like she\u2019s being a real ass right now. Your daughter will remember forever that dad has got her back, no matter what!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Don\u2019t underestimate how grotesque people can be. When I was 18 I lived with 4 other girls\u2026. The one girl (22f) used to take my underwear, wear them, and then put them back in my room in my dirty clothes (she didn\u2019t like to do laundry and would run out). Needless to say when I discovered this, I started locking my door every time I left. </p>\n\n<p>NTA OP- teenagers typically want privacy anyways. Please continue sticking up for your daughter & hopefully your wife comes to her senses since it sounds like she\u2019s being a real ass right now. Your daughter will remember forever that dad has got her back, no matter what!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625347733.0, "created_utc": 1625347733.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ykrc5", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ykrc5", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x71t5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ykrc5/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316785.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316785.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wz5w4\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 19659, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 19659, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Featherymorons" }, { "content": "Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"huskergirl-86\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_yeajq\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. 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Man, I'd never mess with you.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Lol, return underwear with stains? 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32	And stay with them	ocx94s	CeelaChathArrna	1,625,323,510	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CeelaChathArrna", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1zzeofsa", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And stay with them", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And stay with them</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323510.0, "created_utc": 1625323510.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xanb1", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xanb1", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xanb1/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"V-838\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_3f9eum54\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625321440.0, \"created_utc\": 1625321440.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x6v41\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x6v41\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3x501c\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 3421, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 3421, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "V-838" } ]	5	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
33	"she can drive them there" She can stay there, too. Zoey's room wouldn't be the only one with a new lock.	ocx94s	ChariotKoura	1,625,328,293	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ChariotKoura", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9jqfk8ta", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "\"she can drive them there\"\n\nShe can stay there, too. Zoey's room wouldn't be the only one with a new lock.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>"she can drive them there"</p>\n\n<p>She can stay there, too. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. 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Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"V-838\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_3f9eum54\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. 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34	I assume he means an external lock with a key, so she can lock it when she isn't there to keep the scavengers out. She almost certainly had a bed/bath door handle which only locks from the inside.	ocx94s	ChronoMonkeyX	1,625,329,608	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ChronoMonkeyX", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_23wo6j", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I assume he means an external lock with a key, so she can lock it when she isn't there to keep the scavengers out. She almost certainly had a bed/bath door handle which only locks from the inside.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I assume he means an external lock with a key, so she can lock it when she isn't there to keep the scavengers out. She almost certainly had a bed/bath door handle which only locks from the inside.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329608.0, "created_utc": 1625329608.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xm78i", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xm78i", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x346u", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xm78i/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LettuceBeGrateful", "author_cakeday": true, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_27729nce", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "While this is likely true, my sisters and I grew up in a house where most doors didn't have locks, and we weren't allowed to lock the ones that did. While sometimes the crazy appears out of nowhere, I wouldn't be surprised if the wife's lack of understanding for boundaries had already wormed its way into the family dynamic somehow.\n\nPurely speculation, of course.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>While this is likely true, my sisters and I grew up in a house where most doors didn't have locks, and we weren't allowed to lock the ones that did. While sometimes the crazy appears out of nowhere, I wouldn't be surprised if the wife's lack of understanding for boundaries had already wormed its way into the family dynamic somehow.</p>\n\n<p>Purely speculation, of course.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625337645.0, "created_utc": 1625337645.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y1opj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y1opj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xm78i", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y1opj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Icy-Entertainment239", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bjqqp8sk", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "OMG we weren't allowed to close our bedroom doors. They had to be open if we were in there. My sicko parents wanted to see us 24/7. If they were outside and we were in our rooms, we had to have our curtains open so they could see what we were doing. Same thing with the bathroom. We could close the door to shower, but once we were out of the shower and getting ready, the door had to be open.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>OMG we weren't allowed to close our bedroom doors. They had to be open if we were in there. My sicko parents wanted to see us 24/7. If they were outside and we were in our rooms, we had to have our curtains open so they could see what we were doing. Same thing with the bathroom. We could close the door to shower, but once we were out of the shower and getting ready, the door had to be open.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625340486.0, "created_utc": 1625340486.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y742b", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y742b", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3y1opj", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y742b/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "We weren't supposed to lock our doors from the inside unless we felt we needed temporary privacy from our sisters or family. So for changing clothes, separation during orafter fights, or if our aisters crossed the line a did not respect us if we said no to them coming in when they asked or knocked.. But not for just playing or sleeping.\n\nThis was because my parents were concerned about possible medical emergencies or fires. I felt it was an acceptable compromise it gave us the agency we needed to draw boundaries while still allowing for general trust and safety.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>We weren't supposed to lock our doors from the inside unless we felt we needed temporary privacy from our sisters or family. So for changing clothes, separation during orafter fights, or if our aisters crossed the line a did not respect us if we said no to them coming in when they asked or knocked.. But not for just playing or sleeping.</p>\n\n<p>This was because my parents were concerned about possible medical emergencies or fires. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA - But you should keep the lock on her door after they leave anyway! Teenagers deserve the right to privacy and security and it sounds like your wife doesn't fully understand that. As long as Zoey is responsible with how she keeps her electronics tidy (fire hazard), doesn't do drugs, and doesn't have any dangerous mental health issues, she deserves that lock.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"yaypal\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [12]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_h4txu\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA - But you should keep the lock on her door after they leave anyway! Teenagers deserve the right to privacy and security and it sounds like your wife doesn't fully understand that. As long as Zoey is responsible with how she keeps her electronics tidy (fire hazard), doesn't do drugs, and doesn't have any dangerous mental health issues, she deserves that lock.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA - But you should keep the lock on her door after they leave anyway! Teenagers deserve the right to privacy and security and it sounds like your wife doesn't fully understand that. As long as Zoey is responsible with how she keeps her electronics tidy (fire hazard), doesn't do drugs, and doesn't have any dangerous mental health issues, she deserves that lock.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319315.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319315.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x346u\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x346u\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x346u/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 274, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 274, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "yaypal" } ]	2	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
35	MAC has a generous return/exchange policy for their items from what I heard. I hope OP takes advantage of this and helps his daughter replace her damaged items with a fresh new palette.	ocx94s	CircadianChai	1,625,331,403	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CircadianChai", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2jq8v1mx", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "MAC has a generous return/exchange policy for their items from what I heard. \n\nI hope OP takes advantage of this and helps his daughter replace her damaged items with a fresh new palette.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>MAC has a generous return/exchange policy for their items from what I heard. </p>\n\n<p>I hope OP takes advantage of this and helps his daughter replace her damaged items with a fresh new palette.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331403.0, "created_utc": 1625331403.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xppqt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xppqt", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x4nxv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xppqt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA\n\nYour daughter doesn’t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \n\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"amyhenderson_\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7ni0ll7\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA\\n\\nYour daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \\n\\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA</p>\\n\\n<p>Your daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. </p>\\n\\n<p>Good for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316126.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316126.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wy7le\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wy7le\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wy7le/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 8672, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 8672, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "amyhenderson_" }, { "content": "They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey’s BED screams of malice.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Splatterfilm\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_mld4z\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey\\u2019s BED screams of malice.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey\\u2019s BED screams of malice.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319858.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319858.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x4214\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x4214\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wy7le\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x4214/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 5202, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 5202, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Splatterfilm" }, { "content": "Oh, 100% agreed. Plus, it’s disgusting - do NOT share eye makeup with other people! Gah! Bet they are also using the same brushes, not cleaning them - gross. It’s not just about taking something Zoey saved up for and destroying it, they could have given Zooey an eye infection.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"amyhenderson_\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7ni0ll7\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Oh, 100% agreed. Plus, it\\u2019s disgusting - do NOT share eye makeup with other people! Gah! Bet they are also using the same brushes, not cleaning them - gross. It\\u2019s not just about taking something Zoey saved up for and destroying it, they could have given Zooey an eye infection.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Oh, 100% agreed. Plus, it\\u2019s disgusting - do NOT share eye makeup with other people! Gah! Bet they are also using the same brushes, not cleaning them - gross. It\\u2019s not just about taking something Zoey saved up for and destroying it, they could have given Zooey an eye infection.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625320200.0, \"created_utc\": 1625320200.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x4nxv\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x4nxv\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3x4214\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x4nxv/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 2453, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 2453, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "amyhenderson_" } ]	4	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
36	And the wife can go with them.	ocx94s	ClothDiaperAddicts	1,625,321,279	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ClothDiaperAddicts", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#c7a509", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "d5e9f50c-a710-11e9-895a-0ec19882c37a", "author_flair_text": "Pooperintendant [64]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bypah", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And the wife can go with them.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And the wife can go with them.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321279.0, "created_utc": 1625321279.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6kq5", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6kq5", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x58tz", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6kq5/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "rhet17", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1qo7jnu0", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Right? I seriously question why a person would side with their brother & his kids over their own child and husband. Something more is likely going on here for the wife to have more allegiance with her nieces than her own kid.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Right? I seriously question why a person would side with their brother & his kids over their own child and husband. Something more is likely going on here for the wife to have more allegiance with her nieces than her own kid.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325233.0, "created_utc": 1625325233.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xduwa", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xduwa", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6kq5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xduwa/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MrsMurphysCow", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5hgzjqeb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "What's going on is that now wife has \"permission\" to be as abusive as she likes. She's probably always leaned towards abuse, but with her brother there she has the support she needs to do whatever she wants to. And she wants to be abusive.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>What's going on is that now wife has "permission" to be as abusive as she likes. She's probably always leaned towards abuse, but with her brother there she has the support she needs to do whatever she wants to. And she wants to be abusive.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327704.0, "created_utc": 1625327704.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xije0", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xije0", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xduwa", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xije0/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LMR0509", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_38r2e3m7", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "More likely this was what was accepted in her childhood home and she is now facing dealing with it again and she is trying to be the fixer and keep the angry person pacified. She knows her husband and daughter are not going to hurt her but it's pretty obvious how her brother and his children behave. OP mentions her placing a lot of importance on privacy but being uncomfortable with the lock on her daughter's door. I think the mother is caught between a healthier adult life and a more abusive childhood and having her brother there is causing her to revert to old habits. I think the brother is likely far more abusive than OP is aware.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>More likely this was what was accepted in her childhood home and she is now facing dealing with it again and she is trying to be the fixer and keep the angry person pacified. She knows her husband and daughter are not going to hurt her but it's pretty obvious how her brother and his children behave. OP mentions her placing a lot of importance on privacy but being uncomfortable with the lock on her daughter's door. I think the mother is caught between a healthier adult life and a more abusive childhood and having her brother there is causing her to revert to old habits. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"madpeachiepie\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_6e1aumcp\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. 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40	NTA! You are in the right! Also 60$ makeup is VERY different from 15$ makeup from Walmart. Not even compatible quality. She’s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things safe. Also, they aren’t borrowing, they are outright stealing. To borrow, you have to ask for permission! Don’t back down. Someone needs to be on your daughters side. Please don’t let her down.	ocx94s	Contrariwisey	1,625,321,833	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Contrariwisey", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_aaru7yir", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA! You are in the right! Also 60$ makeup is VERY different from 15$ makeup from Walmart. Not even compatible quality. She\u2019s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things safe. Also, they aren\u2019t borrowing, they are outright stealing. To borrow, you have to ask for permission! Don\u2019t back down. Someone needs to be on your daughters side. Please don\u2019t let her down.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA! You are in the right! Also 60$ makeup is VERY different from 15$ makeup from Walmart. Not even compatible quality. She\u2019s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things safe. Also, they aren\u2019t borrowing, they are outright stealing. To borrow, you have to ask for permission! Don\u2019t back down. Someone needs to be on your daughters side. Please don\u2019t let her down.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321833.0, "created_utc": 1625321833.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x7kvi", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x7kvi", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x7kvi/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "84unicorn", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_aolpn5tx", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Agreed. When I read about the color blending ruining the make up, I was like... that had to have been pretty destructive, beyond just normal wear and tear that comes with application. It sounds like the cousins a maliciously ruining things and getting away with it. I hope OP is able to get this to stop.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Agreed. When I read about the color blending ruining the make up, I was like... that had to have been pretty destructive, beyond just normal wear and tear that comes with application. It sounds like the cousins a maliciously ruining things and getting away with it. I hope OP is able to get this to stop.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330535.0, "created_utc": 1625330535.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xnzav", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xnzav", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x7kvi", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xnzav/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 23, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 23, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AlanFromRochester", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_mzfy3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah part of the problem is someone not understanding a quality but expensive product is worth it", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah part of the problem is someone not understanding a quality but expensive product is worth it</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625344499.0, "created_utc": 1625344499.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yer1x", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yer1x", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x7kvi", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yer1x/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 122, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 122, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x48ia\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 5196, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 5196, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" } ]	3	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x48ia\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 5196, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 5196, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"LobotomyxGirl\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4rd7t\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625320614.0, \"created_utc\": 1625320614.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625322491.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x5dzn\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x5dzn\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3x48ia\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5dzn/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 499, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 499, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "LobotomyxGirl" } ]	4	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
42	Good point!! I don’t share my makeup with anyone due to this.	ocx94s	Contrariwisey	1,625,321,964	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Contrariwisey", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_aaru7yir", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Good point!! I don\u2019t share my makeup with anyone due to this.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Good point!! 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. 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Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x48ia\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 5196, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 5196, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. 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43	I hadn’t thought of that. Wow! I can totally see this now. And they are 18! Adults who should and probably do know better!	ocx94s	Contrariwisey	1,625,322,098	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Contrariwisey", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_aaru7yir", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I hadn\u2019t thought of that. Wow! I can totally see this now. And they are 18! Adults who should and probably do know better!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I hadn\u2019t thought of that. Wow! I can totally see this now. And they are 18! Adults who should and probably do know better!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322098.0, "created_utc": 1625322098.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x82if", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x82if", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x4214", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x82if/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 103, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 103, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA\n\nYour daughter doesn’t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \n\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"amyhenderson_\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7ni0ll7\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA\\n\\nYour daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \\n\\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA</p>\\n\\n<p>Your daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. </p>\\n\\n<p>Good for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316126.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316126.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wy7le\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wy7le\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wy7le/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 8672, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 8672, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "amyhenderson_" }, { "content": "They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey’s BED screams of malice.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Splatterfilm\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_mld4z\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. 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44	That's why I though, too -- took BIL 10 months to achieve first results on his path to ruin marriage #2.	ocx94s	CountVonTroll	1,625,339,493	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CountVonTroll", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3xhz9", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "That's why I though, too -- took BIL 10 months to achieve first results on his path to ruin marriage #2.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>That's why I though, too -- took BIL 10 months to achieve first results on his path to ruin marriage #2.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339493.0, "created_utc": 1625339493.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y58cp", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y58cp", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xb7uv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y58cp/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Dadbotany", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5rro1qn1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Oooh very true. This could 100% end their marriage. Its a very serious issue and it seems like its simmering right now. Whatever next step OP takes is a risk. If his wife stays on her brothers side, thats it, marriage over. No parent who cares about their child should back down against abusers.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Oooh very true. This could 100% end their marriage. Its a very serious issue and it seems like its simmering right now. Whatever next step OP takes is a risk. If his wife stays on her brothers side, thats it, marriage over. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"LobotomyxGirl\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4rd7t\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. 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45	And re: $15 set from Walmart: She wanted to have this particular set, she set herself a goal, and she saved up for it. This wasn't just a makeup set to her, but something she had been looking forward to getting and that she had made sacrifices for. She must have been really happy when she brought it home, not because of the makeup, but because she had achieved something. To save up for something bigger you're dreaming of is a really important experience, for learning how to manage your finances specifically and also in general. 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She must have been really happy when she brought it home, not because of the makeup, but because she had <em>achieved</em> something.<br/>\nTo save up for something bigger you're dreaming of is a really important experience, for learning how to manage your finances specifically and also in general. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x48ia\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 5196, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 5196, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. So it's also a healthrisk to share make-up as well as the plain rudeness of taking stuff without permission.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"vimse85\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_5kd0thrw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. So it's also a healthrisk to share make-up as well as the plain rudeness of taking stuff without permission.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. So it's also a healthrisk to share make-up as well as the plain rudeness of taking stuff without permission.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625320632.0, \"created_utc\": 1625320632.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x5f0j\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x5f0j\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3x48ia\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5f0j/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 154, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 154, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "vimse85" } ]	4	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
46	This is some seriously toxic nasty behaviour. Lack of respect for boundaries is something that we learn from parents - your wife as well as BIL both have issues here. I imagine neither of them were allowed boundaries as teenagers and children, hence the issues now. You on the other hand, have boundaries and understand the need. I have no suggestions as to how you move forward with this, but you are definitely NTA, and your wife’s behaviour towards her own daughter is appealing. Zoey needs solid reassurance from you that she is entitled to boundaries and that she has done nothing wrong.	ocx94s	Crafty_Birdie	1,625,323,286	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Crafty_Birdie", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_17a9lq", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This is some seriously toxic nasty behaviour.\n\nLack of respect for boundaries is something that we learn from parents - your wife as well as BIL both have issues here. I imagine neither of them were allowed boundaries as teenagers and children, hence the issues now. You on the other hand, have boundaries and understand the need. I have no suggestions as to how you move forward with this, but you are definitely NTA, and your wife\u2019s behaviour towards her own daughter is appealing.\n\nZoey needs solid reassurance from you that she is entitled to boundaries and that she has done nothing wrong.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This is some seriously toxic nasty behaviour.</p>\n\n<p>Lack of respect for boundaries is something that we learn from parents - your wife as well as BIL both have issues here. I imagine neither of them were allowed boundaries as teenagers and children, hence the issues now. You on the other hand, have boundaries and understand the need. I have no suggestions as to how you move forward with this, but you are definitely NTA, and your wife\u2019s behaviour towards her own daughter is appealing.</p>\n\n<p>Zoey needs solid reassurance from you that she is entitled to boundaries and that she has done nothing wrong.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323286.0, "created_utc": 1625323286.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xa8yb", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xa8yb", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xa8yb/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x48ia\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 5196, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 5196, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" } ]	3	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
47	Same. That's when I would probably go nuclear after that comment.	ocx94s	CuntyAnne_Conway	1,625,326,537	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CuntyAnne_Conway", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_dm8xwda", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Same. That's when I would probably go nuclear after that comment.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Same. That's when I would probably go nuclear after that comment.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326537.0, "created_utc": 1625326537.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xgbk0", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xgbk0", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x98pt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xgbk0/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ProjectKurtz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_wfw5z", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yep. That's the comment that afterwards your guests are no longer welcome guests and should be treated like a gang of thieves and lowlifes, cause that's exactly what they are.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yep. That's the comment that afterwards your guests are no longer welcome guests and should be treated like a gang of thieves and lowlifes, cause that's exactly what they are.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329927.0, "created_utc": 1625329927.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xmt1j", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xmt1j", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xgbk0", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xmt1j/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a \"defect\" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"0biterdicta\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#cd7a00\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"7b2737aa-f3f7-11e8-b8a0-0e56fc8ee910\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Judge, Jury, and Excretioner [383]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4kmo12\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a \\\"defect\\\" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a "defect" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316270.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316270.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyf27\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyf27\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyf27/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 17055, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 17055, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "0biterdicta" }, { "content": "Yeah I would see red with this comment! It's defective to steal- stealing falls under deviance.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"lagomorphlover\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [10]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7h6t5g70\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yeah I would see red with this comment! It's defective to steal- stealing falls under deviance.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yeah I would see red with this comment! It's defective to steal- stealing falls under deviance.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625322737.0, \"created_utc\": 1625322737.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x98pt\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x98pt\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyf27\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x98pt/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 100, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 100, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "lagomorphlover" } ]	3	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
48	Oooh very true. This could 100% end their marriage. Its a very serious issue and it seems like its simmering right now. Whatever next step OP takes is a risk. If his wife stays on her brothers side, thats it, marriage over. No parent who cares about their child should back down against abusers.	ocx94s	Dadbotany	1,625,342,300	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Dadbotany", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5rro1qn1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Oooh very true. This could 100% end their marriage. Its a very serious issue and it seems like its simmering right now. Whatever next step OP takes is a risk. If his wife stays on her brothers side, thats it, marriage over. No parent who cares about their child should back down against abusers.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Oooh very true. This could 100% end their marriage. Its a very serious issue and it seems like its simmering right now. Whatever next step OP takes is a risk. If his wife stays on her brothers side, thats it, marriage over. No parent who cares about their child should back down against abusers.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625342300.0, "created_utc": 1625342300.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yaktk", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yaktk", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3y58cp", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yaktk/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 20, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 20, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. 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When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"LobotomyxGirl\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4rd7t\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. 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49	and heck if she buys a new one for Zoey she might as well just keep the one she used, and then she won't have a reason to go using someone else's makeup again, and no makeup will be wasted. She shouldn't have used it to begin with but either way Sloan's getting more than a good compromise here, she'll essentially have paid $60 and gotten a $60 makeup set so should have no reason to complain. But definitely needs to apologize and stay out of her stuff.	ocx94s	Dangerous_Wishbone	1,625,332,426	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Dangerous_Wishbone", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_14h5evhz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "and heck if she buys a new one for Zoey she might as well just keep the one she used, and then she won't have a reason to go using someone else's makeup again, and no makeup will be wasted. She shouldn't have used it to begin with but either way Sloan's getting more than a good compromise here, she'll essentially have paid $60 and gotten a $60 makeup set so should have no reason to complain. But definitely needs to apologize and stay out of her stuff.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>and heck if she buys a new one for Zoey she might as well just keep the one she used, and then she won't have a reason to go using someone else's makeup again, and no makeup will be wasted. She shouldn't have used it to begin with but either way Sloan's getting more than a good compromise here, she'll essentially have paid $60 and gotten a $60 makeup set so should have no reason to complain. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. 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That goes on my face, I don’t want someone else also using it on theirs. So gross. Plus if the colors were mixed she was definitely double dipping. I think cousins owe her at least a new makeup pallet. NTA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"JaxandMia\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_1nhnzbuw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Plus sharing makeup is so unsanitary. 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50	Kick them the fuck out, this is unreal.	ocx94s	DownrightNeighborly	1,625,328,437	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "DownrightNeighborly", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_t7a6b", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Kick them the fuck out, this is unreal.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Kick them the fuck out, this is unreal.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328437.0, "created_utc": 1625328437.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xjyqf", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xjyqf", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wykp4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xjyqf/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah lmao, this guy is getting walked all over by a dude who is mooching off him??\n\nKick out the mooch and the cousins, if they can't play nice and respect that someone else is letting them live in their home and they have to respect the rules then the answer is: kick them out", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah lmao, this guy is getting walked all over by a dude who is mooching off him??</p>\n\n<p>Kick out the mooch and the cousins, if they can't play nice and respect that someone else is letting them live in their home and they have to respect the rules then the answer is: kick them out</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333691.0, "created_utc": 1625333691.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xu6z8", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xu6z8", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xjyqf", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xu6z8/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 21, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 21, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 29, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 29, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. \nNormal behaviour is asking to borrow stuff and respecting a persons decision if they say no.\nYou don't walk into other people's rooms without permission, 'borrowing' without asking is Stealing. \n\nAnd good on you for standing by your daughter. She needs her privacy and also needs a sense of ownership, her belongings are hers and those girls don't respect that.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"MillieHillie\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [12]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4hn5gdg8\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. \\nNormal behaviour is asking to borrow stuff and respecting a persons decision if they say no.\\nYou don't walk into other people's rooms without permission, 'borrowing' without asking is Stealing. \\n\\nAnd good on you for standing by your daughter. She needs her privacy and also needs a sense of ownership, her belongings are hers and those girls don't respect that.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. \\nNormal behaviour is asking to borrow stuff and respecting a persons decision if they say no.\\nYou don't walk into other people's rooms without permission, 'borrowing' without asking is Stealing. </p>\\n\\n<p>And good on you for standing by your daughter. She needs her privacy and also needs a sense of ownership, her belongings are hers and those girls don't respect that.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316376.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316376.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wykp4\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wykp4\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wykp4/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 721, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 721, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "MillieHillie" } ]	2	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
51	>I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's how to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that. [...quoted text...] uh yeah Zoey isn't wrong to do that, she's just learnt the only lesson there is to learn from how her cousins are stealing from her and her mother and uncle are ok with that. It is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife. So yeah NTA for you and the silent treatment from her cousins and uncle doesn't sound like much of a punishment for Zoey. Sure beats them constantly stealing from her.	ocx94s	Dreams-in-the-Rain	1,625,322,213	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Dreams-in-the-Rain", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3yq3yl4r", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": ">I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's how to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\n\nuh yeah Zoey isn't wrong to do that, she's just learnt the only lesson there is to learn from how her cousins are stealing from her and her mother and uncle are ok with that.\n\nIt is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife.\n\nSo yeah NTA for you and the silent treatment from her cousins and uncle doesn't sound like much of a punishment for Zoey. Sure beats them constantly stealing from her.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's how to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>uh yeah Zoey isn't wrong to do that, she's just learnt the only lesson there is to learn from how her cousins are stealing from her and her mother and uncle are ok with that.</p>\n\n<p>It is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife.</p>\n\n<p>So yeah NTA for you and the silent treatment from her cousins and uncle doesn't sound like much of a punishment for Zoey. Sure beats them constantly stealing from her.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322213.0, "created_utc": 1625322213.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x8aag", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8aag", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8aag/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Caddan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [2]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_dcjpw", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "> It is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife.\n\nBut but but but but faaaaamily! My sibling is more important!\n\n... \n... \n\nUgh, I need a shower after writing that.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>It is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>But but but but but faaaaamily! My sibling is more important!</p>\n\n<p>...<br/>\n... </p>\n\n<p>Ugh, I need a shower after writing that.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325328.0, "created_utc": 1625325328.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xe1ax", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xe1ax", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8aag", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xe1ax/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 79, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 79, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA\n\nYour daughter doesn’t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \n\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"amyhenderson_\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7ni0ll7\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA\\n\\nYour daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \\n\\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA</p>\\n\\n<p>Your daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. </p>\\n\\n<p>Good for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316126.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316126.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wy7le\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wy7le\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wy7le/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 8672, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 8672, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "amyhenderson_" }, { "content": "They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey’s BED screams of malice.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Splatterfilm\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_mld4z\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey\\u2019s BED screams of malice.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey\\u2019s BED screams of malice.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319858.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319858.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x4214\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, 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54	Not to mention he is putting a roof over their heads, which is more than their own dad is doing.	ocx94s	EatFishKatie	1,625,338,992	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "EatFishKatie", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_t9h1xok", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Not to mention he is putting a roof over their heads, which is more than their own dad is doing.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Not to mention he is putting a roof over their heads, which is more than their own dad is doing.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338992.0, "created_utc": 1625338992.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y4a7i", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y4a7i", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x9css", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y4a7i/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 16, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 16, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. And why the heck are you supposed to treat them like daughters? They have their dad with them.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Confusion-Advanced\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#57411c\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Enthusiast [7]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7c86uivm\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. And why the heck are you supposed to treat them like daughters? 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55	Agreed. OP's wife needs to reconsider her priorities, fast. If I were in OP's position, I would kick Sammy & the daughters out (and have a long talk with the wife), or failing that, move out with Zoey. She needs to be somewhere she feels safe, protected, and not like she's going to be shunned or have her privacy violated at any moment.	ocx94s	EducationalTangelo6	1,625,323,307	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "EducationalTangelo6", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5rorfd2m", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Agreed. OP's wife needs to reconsider her priorities, fast. If I were in OP's position, I would kick Sammy & the daughters out (and have a long talk with the wife), or failing that, move out with Zoey. \n\nShe needs to be somewhere she feels safe, protected, and not like she's going to be shunned or have her privacy violated at any moment.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Agreed. OP's wife needs to reconsider her priorities, fast. If I were in OP's position, I would kick Sammy & the daughters out (and have a long talk with the wife), or failing that, move out with Zoey. </p>\n\n<p>She needs to be somewhere she feels safe, protected, and not like she's going to be shunned or have her privacy violated at any moment.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323307.0, "created_utc": 1625323307.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xaaaj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xaaaj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyf27", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xaaaj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 66, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 66, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a \"defect\" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"0biterdicta\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#cd7a00\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"7b2737aa-f3f7-11e8-b8a0-0e56fc8ee910\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Judge, Jury, and Excretioner [383]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4kmo12\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. 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56	Seeing as they are 1: 18 and 2: living with their homeless father after the divorce, I'm betting their own mother has decided she wants nothing further to do with them.	ocx94s	Effective_Put_7604	1,625,323,783	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Effective_Put_7604", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_k4573je", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Seeing as they are 1: 18 and 2: living with their homeless father after the divorce, I'm betting their own mother has decided she wants nothing further to do with them.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Seeing as they are 1: 18 and 2: living with their homeless father after the divorce, I'm betting their own mother has decided she wants nothing further to do with them.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323783.0, "created_utc": 1625323783.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xb5gc", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xb5gc", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x4xz2", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xb5gc/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Frahal", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_uztvqwl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And honestly, with how the BIL and the 2 18 year olds act, I don't blame her in the least.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And honestly, with how the BIL and the 2 18 year olds act, I don't blame her in the least.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": 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Can i marry you please?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>"Three amigos to kick rocks". Can i marry you please?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331445.0, "created_utc": 1625331445.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xpsk3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xpsk3", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xo3gj", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xpsk3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 16, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 16, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 104, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 104, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 225, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 225, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Benny-The-Bender", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5eufewkq", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You forget 3: Their own family refused to take them in. \n\nI'm guessing there's a good reason for that.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You forget 3: Their own family refused to take them in. </p>\n\n<p>I'm guessing there's a good reason for that.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338616.0, "created_utc": 1625338616.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y3k2x", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y3k2x", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xb5gc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y3k2x/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 681, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 681, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA\n\nYour daughter doesn’t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \n\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"amyhenderson_\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7ni0ll7\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA\\n\\nYour daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \\n\\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA</p>\\n\\n<p>Your daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. </p>\\n\\n<p>Good for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316126.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316126.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wy7le\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wy7le\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wy7le/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 8672, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 8672, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "amyhenderson_" }, { "content": "They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey’s BED screams of malice.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Splatterfilm\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_mld4z\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey\\u2019s BED screams of malice.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey\\u2019s BED screams of malice.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319858.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319858.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x4214\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, 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57	They had previously stolen a school laptop, according to the post. I would consider that far, far worse. Presumably, it got returned.	ocx94s	Effective_Put_7604	1,625,323,956	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Effective_Put_7604", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_k4573je", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "They had previously stolen a school laptop, according to the post. I would consider that far, far worse. Presumably, it got returned.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>They had previously stolen a school laptop, according to the post. I would consider that far, far worse. Presumably, it got returned.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323956.0, "created_utc": 1625323956.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xbh3i", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xbh3i", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyl0e", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xbh3i/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LaLa_Land543", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_7wkj5yr1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t see that part at the time of my post. My judgment goes doubly, then. OP is not on the wrong.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t see that part at the time of my post. My judgment goes doubly, then. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "You did the right thing with the lock. You opened your home to these people and they are disrespecting you and your child. I’m sorry your wife is not on your side, but your first obligation is to protect your daughter and your home, valuables and all. It was a $60 makeup kit this time, next time it will be worse. \n\nThe cousins are not your daughters and you don’t owe any of them the right to take, use, and destroy any of your family’s belongings. Hopefully they will take the hint and leave as soon as possible. But you did nothing wrong and I hope eventually your wife will understand that. \n\nNTA.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"LaLa_Land543\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7wkj5yr1\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You did the right thing with the lock. You opened your home to these people and they are disrespecting you and your child. I\\u2019m sorry your wife is not on your side, but your first obligation is to protect your daughter and your home, valuables and all. It was a $60 makeup kit this time, next time it will be worse. \\n\\nThe cousins are not your daughters and you don\\u2019t owe any of them the right to take, use, and destroy any of your family\\u2019s belongings. Hopefully they will take the hint and leave as soon as possible. But you did nothing wrong and I hope eventually your wife will understand that. \\n\\nNTA.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>You did the right thing with the lock. You opened your home to these people and they are disrespecting you and your child. I\\u2019m sorry your wife is not on your side, but your first obligation is to protect your daughter and your home, valuables and all. It was a $60 makeup kit this time, next time it will be worse. </p>\\n\\n<p>The cousins are not your daughters and you don\\u2019t owe any of them the right to take, use, and destroy any of your family\\u2019s belongings. Hopefully they will take the hint and leave as soon as possible. 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58	Either Mom insisted on too many rules for their taste, or -- since they are 18 and no longer legally her responsibility -- she decided to be done with the little thieves. That is honestly the ONLY reasons I can think of why they would opt to live with their homeless father and be homeless themselves.	ocx94s	Effective_Put_7604	1,625,325,080	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Effective_Put_7604", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_k4573je", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Either Mom insisted on too many rules for their taste, or -- since they are 18 and no longer legally her responsibility -- she decided to be done with the little thieves.\n\n\n\nThat is honestly the ONLY reasons I can think of why they would opt to live with their homeless father and be homeless themselves.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Either Mom insisted on too many rules for their taste, or -- since they are 18 and no longer legally her responsibility -- she decided to be done with the little thieves.</p>\n\n<p></p>\n\n<p>That is honestly the ONLY reasons I can think of why they would opt to live with their homeless father and be homeless themselves.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325080.0, "created_utc": 1625325080.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xdkf8", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xdkf8", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8guv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xdkf8/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Foreign_Astronaut", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [4]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1llbeu07", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Oh, no!! I missed that they're 18. I thought they were 12 or 13, because that's how they act. They are straight-up bullying their younger cousin! I'd kick em out, too, if I were their mom.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Oh, no!! I missed that they're 18. I thought they were 12 or 13, because that's how they act. They are straight-up bullying their younger cousin! I'd kick em out, too, if I were their mom.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326397.0, "created_utc": 1625326397.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xg1yf", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xg1yf", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdkf8", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xg1yf/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 150, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 150, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I agree- and here\u2019s another reason- he lets them have whatever they want, even if it\u2019s not theirs. So why wouldn\u2019t they go with him? They pretty much have carte blanche to do what they want. So if they stick with him they get more stuff.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I agree- and here\u2019s another reason- he lets them have whatever they want, even if it\u2019s not theirs. So why wouldn\u2019t they go with him? They pretty much have carte blanche to do what they want. So if they stick with him they get more stuff.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326881.0, "created_utc": 1625326881.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xgz4s", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xgz4s", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdkf8", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xgz4s/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Effective_Put_7604", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_k4573je", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Hard to have stuff when you're homeless and couch surfing.\n\n\n\nWhich is why they're stealing from their cousin.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Hard to have stuff when you're homeless and couch surfing.</p>\n\n<p></p>\n\n<p>Which is why they're stealing from their cousin.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327049.0, "created_utc": 1625327049.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xhaop", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhaop", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xgz4s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhaop/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly what I mean! They are acting like they have been deprived for a long time and have arrived at an Oasis. And don\u2019t care who they hurt.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly what I mean! They are acting like they have been deprived for a long time and have arrived at an Oasis. And don\u2019t care who they hurt.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330764.0, "created_utc": 1625330764.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xofu8", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xofu8", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhaop", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xofu8/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 20, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 20, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 31, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 31, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 222, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 222, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, 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Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Special-Parsnip9057\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#57411c\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Enthusiast [9]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_6yuw2o8c\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. 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59	Hard to have stuff when you're homeless and couch surfing. Which is why they're stealing from their cousin.	ocx94s	Effective_Put_7604	1,625,327,049	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Effective_Put_7604", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_k4573je", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Hard to have stuff when you're homeless and couch surfing.\n\n\n\nWhich is why they're stealing from their cousin.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Hard to have stuff when you're homeless and couch surfing.</p>\n\n<p></p>\n\n<p>Which is why they're stealing from their cousin.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327049.0, "created_utc": 1625327049.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xhaop", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhaop", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xgz4s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhaop/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly what I mean! They are acting like they have been deprived for a long time and have arrived at an Oasis. And don\u2019t care who they hurt.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly what I mean! They are acting like they have been deprived for a long time and have arrived at an Oasis. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. 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Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, 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Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Special-Parsnip9057\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#57411c\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Enthusiast [9]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_6yuw2o8c\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625322313.0, \"created_utc\": 1625322313.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x8guv\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, 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So why wouldn’t they go with him? They pretty much have carte blanche to do what they want. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. 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I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. 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I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. 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I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. 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My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? "She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!"</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Can't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) 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61	My guess is that either the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want, or mom said no way because she is tired of their crap & is no longer legally obligated to house them anymore	ocx94s	EndlessWanderer316	1,625,326,236	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "EndlessWanderer316", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3wbx9tru", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My guess is that either the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want, or mom said no way because she is tired of their crap & is no longer legally obligated to house them anymore", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My guess is that either the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want, or mom said no way because she is tired of their crap & is no longer legally obligated to house them anymore</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326236.0, "created_utc": 1625326236.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xfr07", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xfr07", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x93e9", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xfr07/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Matriarch2020", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8ybflij0", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Or she just wants her make-up to herself.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Or she just wants her make-up to herself.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334524.0, "created_utc": 1625334524.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xvt60", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xvt60", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xfr07", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xvt60/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "EndlessWanderer316", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3wbx9tru", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Lol that too. OP should tell them to \u201cborrow\u201d wife\u2019s makeup since she feels so strongly about making these leeches happy", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Lol that too. OP should tell them to \u201cborrow\u201d wife\u2019s makeup since she feels so strongly about making these leeches happy</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625342490.0, "created_utc": 1625342490.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yay4s", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yay4s", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xvt60", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yay4s/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 77, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 77, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ridandelous", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_k4ju9sr", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This sounds familiar; my mom's friend got divorced bc her hubby was sleeping around and she got the house and custody of the kids. Well. Eventually, with weekends at dad's, they realized they could get away with a lot of bullshit. They eventually, one at a time, decided they wanted to run away to daddy's. Well, kids go there and realize that mac and cheese isn't a meal and the \"fun\" parent just didn't give a shit at all, not just about what they weren't supposed to be doing. He didn't care about them at all. And when he had them full time, he started to get temperamental with them and get frustrated easily because, let's face it, kids are a lot of work and he was still honeymooning with his new girl, who wants kids to ruin that??? They realized they hadn't had a proper meal in months and they weren't wanted or loved by daddy, so they realized their fuck up and went home. Eventually, I hope the twins realize they should've stayed with the \"more strict\" parent, because then maybe they could become decent adults.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This sounds familiar; my mom's friend got divorced bc her hubby was sleeping around and she got the house and custody of the kids. Well. Eventually, with weekends at dad's, they realized they could get away with a lot of bullshit. They eventually, one at a time, decided they wanted to run away to daddy's. Well, kids go there and realize that mac and cheese isn't a meal and the "fun" parent just didn't give a shit at all, not just about what they weren't supposed to be doing. He didn't care about them at all. And when he had them full time, he started to get temperamental with them and get frustrated easily because, let's face it, kids are a lot of work and he was still honeymooning with his new girl, who wants kids to ruin that??? They realized they hadn't had a proper meal in months and they weren't wanted or loved by daddy, so they realized their fuck up and went home. Eventually, I hope the twins realize they should've stayed with the "more strict" parent, because then maybe they could become decent adults.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625337457.0, "created_utc": 1625337457.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y1biu", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y1biu", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xfr07", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y1biu/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 24, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 24, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "shingdao", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8u0ku", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": ">...the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want...\n\nAnd very likely the same reason brother chose sister to move in with.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>...the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want...</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>And very likely the same reason brother chose sister to move in with.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625341263.0, "created_utc": 1625341263.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y8lm7", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y8lm7", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xfr07", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y8lm7/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 182, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 182, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. 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Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Special-Parsnip9057\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#57411c\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Enthusiast [9]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_6yuw2o8c\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625322313.0, \"created_utc\": 1625322313.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x8guv\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x8guv\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3x501c\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 787, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 787, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Special-Parsnip9057" }, { "content": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"loveisrespectS2\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_8cnm4vfp\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. 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62	Lol that too. OP should tell them to “borrow” wife’s makeup since she feels so strongly about making these leeches happy	ocx94s	EndlessWanderer316	1,625,342,490	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "EndlessWanderer316", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3wbx9tru", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Lol that too. OP should tell them to \u201cborrow\u201d wife\u2019s makeup since she feels so strongly about making these leeches happy", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Lol that too. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. 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Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Special-Parsnip9057\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#57411c\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Enthusiast [9]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_6yuw2o8c\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. 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63	Exactly and the mother seem to be okay with someone calling her daughter defective I would have kicked out everyone and anyone who called my daughter that	ocx94s	Fanartist_Kitty	1,625,344,027	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Fanartist_Kitty", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_87jvhaua", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly and the mother seem to be okay with someone calling her daughter defective I would have kicked out everyone and anyone who called my daughter that", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly and the mother seem to be okay with someone calling her daughter defective I would have kicked out everyone and anyone who called my daughter that</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625344027.0, "created_utc": 1625344027.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ydv5c", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ydv5c", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ydv5c/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316785.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316785.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wz5w4\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 19659, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 19659, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Featherymorons" }, { "content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"SubstantialDrawing7\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_5bt2qq3t\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \\\"defective\\\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\\n\\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\\n\\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625324620.0, \"created_utc\": 1625324620.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3xcp6c\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3xcp6c\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 1597, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 1597, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "SubstantialDrawing7" } ]	4	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
64	I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.	ocx94s	Featherymorons	1,625,316,785	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\u2019s what girls do, isn\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\u2019s what girls do, isn\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8u0f", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8u0f/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "leo_douche_bags", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_qtgru", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "A home without privacy and security is not a home at all.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>A home without privacy and security is not a home at all.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325119.0, "created_utc": 1625325119.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xdn4o", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xdn4o", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8u0f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xdn4o/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Smolfrend", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5m71g9rq", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332066.0, "created_utc": 1625332066.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xr17w", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xr17w", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdn4o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xr17w/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I third this (is that a thing?).\n\nSame situation/background. \nMom was a fucking disaster and allowed friends and their kids to use our home as their own.\n\nSeriously fucks kids up when there's no sense of safety/security or sense of ownership.\n\nAs much as I hate to say it, OP seriously needs to get these people out of the house immediately. If someone can't respect your space, privacy or property, they absolutely should not be in your house.\n\nNTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I third this (is that a thing?).</p>\n\n<p>Same situation/background. \nMom was a fucking disaster and allowed friends and their kids to use our home as their own.</p>\n\n<p>Seriously fucks kids up when there's no sense of safety/security or sense of ownership.</p>\n\n<p>As much as I hate to say it, OP seriously needs to get these people out of the house immediately. If someone can't respect your space, privacy or property, they absolutely should not be in your house.</p>\n\n<p>NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625343985.0, "created_utc": 1625343985.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ydsb5", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ydsb5", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xr17w", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ydsb5/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 29, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 29, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TickleMonster528", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_464xj4ro", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "So true, it definitely puts a kink in a teens emotional growth. My parents took my door of the hinges when I was like 15 and it only made me angrier, which lead to me being even more rebellious, it wasn\u2019t a good mix haha.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>So true, it definitely puts a kink in a teens emotional growth. My parents took my door of the hinges when I was like 15 and it only made me angrier, which lead to me being even more rebellious, it wasn\u2019t a good mix haha.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334275.0, "created_utc": 1625334275.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xvc4j", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xvc4j", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xr17w", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xvc4j/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Phadeful", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9qp1hdv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Seriously can\u2019t understand how people fail to see an issue with doing things like that. I slept in the living room for all of my teens and my early 20s. Lack of privacy in your own home really really messes you up mentally. To this day my mother doesn\u2019t understand why I don\u2019t want her to EVER enter my room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Seriously can\u2019t understand how people fail to see an issue with doing things like that. I slept in the living room for all of my teens and my early 20s. Lack of privacy in your own home really really messes you up mentally. To this day my mother doesn\u2019t understand why I don\u2019t want her to EVER enter my room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625344941.0, "created_utc": 1625344941.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yfkt4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yfkt4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xvc4j", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yfkt4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 31, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 31, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "JadeGrapes", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [6]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_33j9ftyp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I have no idea why people think this is a good idea", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I have no idea why people think this is a good idea</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625344810.0, "created_utc": 1625344810.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yfc1c", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yfc1c", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xvc4j", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yfc1c/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 43, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 43, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LettuceBeGrateful", "author_cakeday": true, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_27729nce", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Same. Hope you're doing better now.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Same. Hope you're doing better now.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625337881.0, "created_utc": 1625337881.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y24y3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y24y3", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xr17w", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y24y3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Smolfrend", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5m71g9rq", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Thanks, I am. Many miles away, live alone and much healthier. Hope you are too!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Thanks, I am. Many miles away, live alone and much healthier. Hope you are too!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625337940.0, "created_utc": 1625337940.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y28xo", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y28xo", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3y24y3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y28xo/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 502, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 502, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2227, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2227, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Prickly-Flower", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5wfm151w", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? \"She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!\"\n\n\n\nCan't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? "She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!"</p>\n\n<p></p>\n\n<p>Can't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326434.0, "created_utc": 1625326434.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625428729.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xg4gg", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xg4gg", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8u0f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xg4gg/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "saralt", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_hnym5", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Something tells me you're not close with your mom.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Something tells me you're not close with your mom.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327430.0, "created_utc": 1625327430.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xi0nd", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xi0nd", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xg4gg", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xi0nd/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 731, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 731, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "IPetdogs4U", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3b3aac4u", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Holy shit. Your mom is not worth knowing. I hope you are NC or LC.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Holy shit. Your mom is not worth knowing. I hope you are NC or LC.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328756.0, "created_utc": 1625328756.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xkkm6", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xkkm6", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xg4gg", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xkkm6/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 212, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 212, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Vividienne", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_o3un0", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "JFC this made me audibly gasp. Holy fuck, some people. I hope you're ok.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>JFC this made me audibly gasp. Holy fuck, some people. I hope you're ok.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329930.0, "created_utc": 1625329930.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xmt86", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xmt86", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xg4gg", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xmt86/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 22, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 22, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ridandelous", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_k4ju9sr", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "May I suggest r/raisedbynarcissists", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>May I suggest <a href=\"/r/raisedbynarcissists\">r/raisedbynarcissists</a></p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, 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null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "EikoKurai", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_72857x7p", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "That happens to me too", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>That happens to me too</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329648.0, "created_utc": 1625329648.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xma1o", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xma1o", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xg4gg", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xma1o/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 8, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 8, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1049, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1049, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "chesterfielders", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yzyca20", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I work with teenagers, and absolutely hate it when parents tell the kids to work it out. All that means is that the least responsible, most bullying kid will win, at least not without parental intervention.\n\nI remember one case where the daughter was getting detentions for being late to school because her brother would not get to the car in time to get to school. I told her to take off without him, but her mother said she couldn't do that, so of course, she had more detentions.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I work with teenagers, and absolutely hate it when parents tell the kids to work it out. All that means is that the least responsible, most bullying kid will win, at least not without parental intervention.</p>\n\n<p>I remember one case where the daughter was getting detentions for being late to school because her brother would not get to the car in time to get to school. I told her to take off without him, but her mother said she couldn't do that, so of course, she had more detentions.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333306.0, "created_utc": 1625333306.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xtg18", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xtg18", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8u0f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xtg18/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 21, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 21, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MaggiePie184", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_cx9vq94q", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I feel especially bad for Zoey who has been invaded by her cousins. How horrible to coming home and never knowing what is missing! OP did the right thing for his daughter. BIL is teaching his adult daughters it\u2019s ok to \u201cborrow\u201d. Mom is TA for not protecting her daughter and for shaming her husband. Time for BIL et al to move out.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I feel especially bad for Zoey who has been invaded by her cousins. How horrible to coming home and never knowing what is missing! OP did the right thing for his daughter. BIL is teaching his adult daughters it\u2019s ok to \u201cborrow\u201d. Mom is TA for not protecting her daughter and for shaming her husband. Time for BIL et al to move out.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625336159.0, "created_utc": 1625336159.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xyveh", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xyveh", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8u0f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xyveh/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "BlackberryNo3478", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_762erdi3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My mother would have drawn and quartered us had we taken our siblings things without permission. I frequently left my journal all over the house after writing in it. My mom would pick it up and put it back in my room. She was and is vigilant about privacy. And now we are the same way with our kids.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My mother would have drawn and quartered us had we taken our siblings things without permission. I frequently left my journal all over the house after writing in it. My mom would pick it up and put it back in my room. She was and is vigilant about privacy. And now we are the same way with our kids.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333589.0, "created_utc": 1625333589.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xtzrx", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xtzrx", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8u0f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xtzrx/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "impostershop", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [26]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_38wrsown", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And there is a 2 year age difference, which at this age, is a huge gap.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And there is a 2 year age difference, which at this age, is a huge gap.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326480.0, "created_utc": 1625326480.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xg7mi", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xg7mi", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8u0f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xg7mi/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Ridara", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2by8yytp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And as OP's kid isn't a legal adult, she is 100% dependent on her parents to stick up for her. If she were an adult roommate whose name was on the lease, she could call the cops and have these theives removed from her home, no questions asked", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And as OP's kid isn't a legal adult, she is 100% dependent on her parents to stick up for her. If she were an adult roommate whose name was on the lease, she could call the cops and have these theives removed from her home, no questions asked</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329055.0, "created_utc": 1625329055.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xl59g", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xl59g", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xg7mi", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xl59g/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 22, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 22, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 22, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 22, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MrsArmitage", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1it6kdve", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My brother robbed me blind when I was a teen; he broke into the locked box I put my first ever wages in to and stole them, and I was distraught. I bought a fitted a lock myself, when what I really wanted was for my Parents to sort him out. This kind of thieving led to bigger thieving later on.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My brother robbed me blind when I was a teen; he broke into the locked box I put my first ever wages in to and stole them, and I was distraught. I bought a fitted a lock myself, when what I really wanted was for my Parents to sort him out. This kind of thieving led to bigger thieving later on.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334772.0, "created_utc": 1625334772.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xw9v9", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xw9v9", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8u0f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xw9v9/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LuckOfTheDevil", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9v5r8m4s", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I remember one of my cousins (17f at the time) sitting down with my aunt (who was pulling this \"work it out yourselves\" nonsense) and her sister (20f) and stating very calmly \"I have asked Sister politely on multiple occasions to stop using my things without permission. I have now asked you to intervene. You aren't doing anything. The problem continues. You have now told me to work it out. At this point, this is your tacit approval for me to beat the brakes off of her, which is what WILL be happening if she touches my stuff again. You can warn her and put a stop to this, but I do not want to hear it if she comes crying about it, because I will do it. Further touching of my stuff is not an option. You have been warned.\" My aunt tried to get all huffy and say that wasn't appropriate but my cousin was just not having it. At some point she said \"Control your brat, or I will.\" It got super ugly. I (26 at the time) remember being mystified that all my aunt had to do was a relatively small amount of basic parenting (I myself had kids at the time and so I wasn't ignorant of the ways of such things) but she'd rather fight over whether it was appropriate for her daughter to be mad her brat sister was appropriating her shit. Sometimes, honestly, people like this really only DO understand harsh payback style justice. My cousins did eventually get into a nasty fight. The older tried to press charges on the younger. The cops laughed and left.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I remember one of my cousins (17f at the time) sitting down with my aunt (who was pulling this "work it out yourselves" nonsense) and her sister (20f) and stating very calmly "I have asked Sister politely on multiple occasions to stop using my things without permission. I have now asked you to intervene. You aren't doing anything. The problem continues. You have now told me to work it out. At this point, this is your tacit approval for me to beat the brakes off of her, which is what WILL be happening if she touches my stuff again. You can warn her and put a stop to this, but I do not want to hear it if she comes crying about it, because I will do it. Further touching of my stuff is not an option. You have been warned." My aunt tried to get all huffy and say that wasn't appropriate but my cousin was just not having it. At some point she said "Control your brat, or I will." It got super ugly. I (26 at the time) remember being mystified that all my aunt had to do was a relatively small amount of basic parenting (I myself had kids at the time and so I wasn't ignorant of the ways of such things) but she'd rather fight over whether it was appropriate for her daughter to be mad her brat sister was appropriating her shit. Sometimes, honestly, people like this really only DO understand harsh payback style justice. My cousins did eventually get into a nasty fight. The older tried to press charges on the younger. The cops laughed and left.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339344.0, "created_utc": 1625339344.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y4ydm", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y4ydm", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8u0f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y4ydm/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "robot65536", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_s1nh175", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Work it out yourselves? Do they expect you to put a bucket of water over the door home-alone style?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Work it out yourselves? Do they expect you to put a bucket of water over the door home-alone style?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334495.0, "created_utc": 1625334495.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xvr7b", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xvr7b", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8u0f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xvr7b/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 6, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 6, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2979, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking extremely expensive stuff to begin eith (a school laptop?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the adult twins and say they were stealing from his minor daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "timotheusd313", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1yc399f", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default \u201cno\u201d", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default \u201cno\u201d</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328413.0, "created_utc": 1625328413.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xjx3o", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xjx3o", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xjx3o/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "threecolorable", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3okaw4a6", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS\u2014the lock gives her a way to enforce her boundaries!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS\u2014the lock gives her a way to enforce her boundaries!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330798.0, "created_utc": 1625330798.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xoicj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xoicj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xjx3o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xoicj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 301, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 301, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. Teaching your daughter boundaries and teaching her how to enforce them is essential. She needs to know that it is OK to set appropriate boundaries. You do NOT want her to become a people pleaser and believe that her own needs are not important. Thats what she will take away from this if your wife continues enforcing her own people pleasing towards her brother and his kids on your daughter.\n\nI find it rich that the guy who has moved himself and his adult daughters into your house gets to have an opinion on anything. Because he shouldn't. He's not a house guest. He's a mooch as are his daughters. Financial problems happen, but when they happen and people bail the person out, it should be met with a \"thank you! how can I help make this work so we are as little of an imposition as possible?\" As to his daughters... it sounds like the apples do not fall far from the tree. His entitlement is astounding and the entitlement he is teaching and enforcing in his daughters is astounding.\n\nThe only way you wbta is if you allowed these people to continue running rough shod over your family. I think its time for you to sit him and your wife down and ask him what his plan is for finding a place of his own and how he plans to afford it. Then give a time frame for when he has to leave. He absolutely should NOT be living there without a plan. Given that literally every place is hiring right now, he should be working to get back on his feet, even if it is not in his industry and even if it is a step down. Likewise, the 18 year olds should be doing the same. They need to get summer jobs so they have spending money to buy their own stuff.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. Teaching your daughter boundaries and teaching her how to enforce them is essential. She needs to know that it is OK to set appropriate boundaries. You do NOT want her to become a people pleaser and believe that her own needs are not important. Thats what she will take away from this if your wife continues enforcing her own people pleasing towards her brother and his kids on your daughter.</p>\n\n<p>I find it rich that the guy who has moved himself and his adult daughters into your house gets to have an opinion on anything. Because he shouldn't. He's not a house guest. He's a mooch as are his daughters. Financial problems happen, but when they happen and people bail the person out, it should be met with a "thank you! how can I help make this work so we are as little of an imposition as possible?" As to his daughters... it sounds like the apples do not fall far from the tree. His entitlement is astounding and the entitlement he is teaching and enforcing in his daughters is astounding.</p>\n\n<p>The only way you wbta is if you allowed these people to continue running rough shod over your family. I think its time for you to sit him and your wife down and ask him what his plan is for finding a place of his own and how he plans to afford it. Then give a time frame for when he has to leave. He absolutely should NOT be living there without a plan. Given that literally every place is hiring right now, he should be working to get back on his feet, even if it is not in his industry and even if it is a step down. Likewise, the 18 year olds should be doing the same. They need to get summer jobs so they have spending money to buy their own stuff.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625341721.0, "created_utc": 1625341721.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y9gpx", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y9gpx", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xjx3o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y9gpx/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 41, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 41, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Hi_Supercute", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4i53t3g5", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This^^^^\n\nMaybe bringing this up with the wife will help her understand you\u2019re trying to allow her to set healthy boundaries", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This<sup><sup><sup>^</sup></sup></sup></p>\n\n<p>Maybe bringing this up with the wife will help her understand you\u2019re trying to allow her to set healthy boundaries</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334255.0, "created_utc": 1625334255.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xvaqh", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xvaqh", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xjx3o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xvaqh/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 34, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 34, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "RuthlessKittyKat", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4sku4eax", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It's a huge key to self-esteem!!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It's a huge key to self-esteem!!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339959.0, "created_utc": 1625339959.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y649i", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y649i", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xjx3o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y649i/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "YEP. She\u2019s more than welcome to open the door when she consents to visitors in her space! The lock itself does not prevent bonding/closeness. It just prevents this particular boundary violation. \n\nAs an adult, I have a lock on my front door. It is not a sign that I am anti-social or selfish. I can open my door to let in guests whenever I like, and I often do. But my home is MY space, and nobody enters without my explicit permission. That\u2019s what her bedroom should be to her.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>YEP. She\u2019s more than welcome to open the door when she consents to visitors in her space! The lock itself does not prevent bonding/closeness. It just prevents this particular boundary violation. </p>\n\n<p>As an adult, I have a lock on my front door. It is not a sign that I am anti-social or selfish. I can open my door to let in guests whenever I like, and I often do. But my home is MY space, and nobody enters without my explicit permission. That\u2019s what her bedroom should be to her.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625347080.0, "created_utc": 1625347080.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yjjtd", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yjjtd", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xjx3o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yjjtd/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 853, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 853, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "drwhogirl_97", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5hwnm7pz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "One thing I will say is that if brother in law and his daughters treat everyone that way then I do think we\u2019ve found the reason nobody else wanted to take them in", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>One thing I will say is that if brother in law and his daughters treat everyone that way then I do think we\u2019ve found the reason nobody else wanted to take them in</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328578.0, "created_utc": 1625328578.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xk8az", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xk8az", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xk8az/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "PadmaLakshmisAbs", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_b8dugre6", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Ding ding ding. What a surprise, no one else wanted entitled assholes to move into their house and live rent free.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Ding ding ding. What a surprise, no one else wanted entitled assholes to move into their house and live rent free.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334084.0, "created_utc": 1625334084.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xuyle", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xuyle", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xk8az", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xuyle/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 247, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 247, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "also the reason why the BIL divorced him, that usually raises another red flag.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>also the reason why the BIL divorced him, that usually raises another red flag.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334659.0, "created_utc": 1625334659.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xw2dd", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xw2dd", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xk8az", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xw2dd/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 620, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 620, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MissLadyLlamaDrama", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4djvf5g4", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "The wife seems like one of those people who will do anything and everything to appease her toxic relatives. One of those \"but they're faaaaaaamily\" people.\n\nShe needs to realize that her family now is the family she chose when she got married and decided to raise a child. THAT is her family. And she is risking her relationship with them in order to let her brother take advantage of her obsession with pleasing this loser brother, for no other reason than sharing DNA with him.\n\nThe rest of the family didn't take them in. Which kind of tells me that either they know his family are a bunch of thieves, or OPs wife has become the go-to for brushing everyone's problems on to because they know she doesn't have the spine to tell them 'no'. Either way, the wife needs to get her shit together and start defending her daughter. Otherwise she might just find that the only one by her side at the end of this is her shitty brother and his thief daughters.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>The wife seems like one of those people who will do anything and everything to appease her toxic relatives. One of those "but they're faaaaaaamily" people.</p>\n\n<p>She needs to realize that her family now is the family she chose when she got married and decided to raise a child. THAT is her family. And she is risking her relationship with them in order to let her brother take advantage of her obsession with pleasing this loser brother, for no other reason than sharing DNA with him.</p>\n\n<p>The rest of the family didn't take them in. Which kind of tells me that either they know his family are a bunch of thieves, or OPs wife has become the go-to for brushing everyone's problems on to because they know she doesn't have the spine to tell them 'no'. Either way, the wife needs to get her shit together and start defending her daughter. Otherwise she might just find that the only one by her side at the end of this is her shitty brother and his thief daughters.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330423.0, "created_utc": 1625330423.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xnrjx", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xnrjx", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xnrjx/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Self_Reddicating", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3e96wieb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "They'll be by her side, right until she doesn't have anything for them to mooch off of. After that, she's competition in their familial mooching game, so they'll cut her loose in order to get first mooching rights on other family members.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>They'll be by her side, right until she doesn't have anything for them to mooch off of. After that, she's competition in their familial mooching game, so they'll cut her loose in order to get first mooching rights on other family members.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331205.0, "created_utc": 1625331205.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xpbtd", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xpbtd", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xnrjx", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xpbtd/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MissLadyLlamaDrama", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4djvf5g4", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You are so right. She needs to stop defending her loser brother asap. If she keeps him around, she is screwed. \n\n\nBUT, if she kicks them out, one of two things is going to happen:\n\n1. Her family will swoop in and accuse her of leaving her brother and his kids homeless. In which case, she knows that the whole \"family value\" thing is bull shit. Otherwise they would respect her choice to defend her family, OR, at the very least, take it upon themselves to offer to accommodate the brother and his kids themselves. If they don't, then she can use that to realize that she is putting out way more effort than anyone else, and that the \"family\" crap is just an excuse they use to unload their bull shit onto her, so they don't have to deal with it themselves. or....\n2. They will understand and realize why they kicked these people out of their home, and respect their decision to do so. In which case, the only people who are gonna be upset are the brother and his daughters, and that's their own fault for disrespecting the people who are LETTING THEM LIVE IN THEIR HOME FOR FREE. So who gives a crap if they're upset?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You are so right. She needs to stop defending her loser brother asap. If she keeps him around, she is screwed. </p>\n\n<p>BUT, if she kicks them out, one of two things is going to happen:</p>\n\n<ol>\n<li>Her family will swoop in and accuse her of leaving her brother and his kids homeless. In which case, she knows that the whole "family value" thing is bull shit. Otherwise they would respect her choice to defend her family, OR, at the very least, take it upon themselves to offer to accommodate the brother and his kids themselves. If they don't, then she can use that to realize that she is putting out way more effort than anyone else, and that the "family" crap is just an excuse they use to unload their bull shit onto her, so they don't have to deal with it themselves. or....</li>\n<li>They will understand and realize why they kicked these people out of their home, and respect their decision to do so. In which case, the only people who are gonna be upset are the brother and his daughters, and that's their own fault for disrespecting the people who are LETTING THEM LIVE IN THEIR HOME FOR FREE. So who gives a crap if they're upset?</li>\n</ol>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333582.0, "created_utc": 1625333582.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xtzd9", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xtzd9", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xpbtd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xtzd9/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 25, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 25, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 169, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 169, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheMostBrokenBoy", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_tdweja4", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I have a feeling wife probably had to \"just get over\" a lot while she was younger, and that's why she doesnt see how harmful her diminishing and discounting of her daughter's feelings is.\n\nJust because you turned out \"ok\" after having dealt with bullshit doesnt mean you should feel justified passing down a bullshit legacy to your kids. It means you need to actually be better.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I have a feeling wife probably had to "just get over" a lot while she was younger, and that's why she doesnt see how harmful her diminishing and discounting of her daughter's feelings is.</p>\n\n<p>Just because you turned out "ok" after having dealt with bullshit doesnt mean you should feel justified passing down a bullshit legacy to your kids. It means you need to actually be better.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625335622.0, "created_utc": 1625335622.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xxvsc", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xxvsc", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xnrjx", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xxvsc/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 419, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 419, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AffectionateAd5373", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3z6rlg7i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I'd tell the wife she can leave with her brother, frankly.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I'd tell the wife she can leave with her brother, frankly.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328235.0, "created_utc": 1625328235.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xjkgm", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xjkgm", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xjkgm/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 179, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 179, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "whiskeysour123", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_44knplxm", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Sammy and his kids are lucky the new lock he bought wasn\u2019t for the front door. It is time for the three of them to find a new place to live.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Sammy and his kids are lucky the new lock he bought wasn\u2019t for the front door. It is time for the three of them to find a new place to live.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333201.0, "created_utc": 1625333201.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xt8pv", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xt8pv", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xt8pv/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 32, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 32, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Annual-Contract-115", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ab8c0e", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "fe8bfb56-f967-11e8-aad8-0e2a3f932fc0", "author_flair_text": "Colo-rectal Surgeon [31]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bzw282r3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Right. Taking something that doesn\u2019t belong to you without the owners permission is being a thief", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Right. Taking something that doesn\u2019t belong to you without the owners permission is being a thief</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333748.0, "created_utc": 1625333748.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xub4j", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xub4j", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xub4j/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AssistanceMedical951", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bsrvoank", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah, the mom is thinking her relationship with OP and kid is solid so she\u2019s worried about what the family will think. Guess what lady, it\u2019s on rocky ground. And she needs to get on the same page as her husband and child before she\u2019s worrying about not being the nicest person ever. Hell having someone who will be strong is probably why this pushover married OP. \nMy grandma told me when my grandpa kicked her mom his MIL out of their house one night was when she knew she had chosen the right man.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah, the mom is thinking her relationship with OP and kid is solid so she\u2019s worried about what the family will think. Guess what lady, it\u2019s on rocky ground. And she needs to get on the same page as her husband and child before she\u2019s worrying about not being the nicest person ever. Hell having someone who will be strong is probably why this pushover married OP. \nMy grandma told me when my grandpa kicked her mom his MIL out of their house one night was when she knew she had chosen the right man.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339216.0, "created_utc": 1625339216.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y4ptr", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y4ptr", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y4ptr/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MrsMayhem17", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bmc8ozx3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Whether the girls gave the stuff they were taking back is not the issue and it really doesn\u2019t make it any worse if they didn\u2019t. The point being that taking something from someone else and using it, even if you give it back, is still stealing. If you go into a store and open a lipstick and use it then put it back, it\u2019s stealing. I don\u2019t understand how the brother doesn\u2019t understand that his girls really are thieves just from using her stuff. \n\nTo the contrary, I think the makeup thing is actually worse than them using other items of hers. It\u2019s an expensive item that she saved up to buy for herself. They took it, used it, and made a mess of it by mixing shit up. The value of something isn\u2019t necessarily tied to its price. \n\nThe worst part of all of this is the lack of respect and basic decency to ask to use her stuff, especially after it was known that she was upset by it. In my house nobody uses my stuff without asking. Not even my boys or husband. Same goes for the other way around.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Whether the girls gave the stuff they were taking back is not the issue and it really doesn\u2019t make it any worse if they didn\u2019t. The point being that taking something from someone else and using it, even if you give it back, is still stealing. If you go into a store and open a lipstick and use it then put it back, it\u2019s stealing. I don\u2019t understand how the brother doesn\u2019t understand that his girls really are thieves just from using her stuff. </p>\n\n<p>To the contrary, I think the makeup thing is actually worse than them using other items of hers. It\u2019s an expensive item that she saved up to buy for herself. They took it, used it, and made a mess of it by mixing shit up. The value of something isn\u2019t necessarily tied to its price. </p>\n\n<p>The worst part of all of this is the lack of respect and basic decency to ask to use her stuff, especially after it was known that she was upset by it. In my house nobody uses my stuff without asking. Not even my boys or husband. Same goes for the other way around.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625342669.0, "created_utc": 1625342669.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ybaip", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ybaip", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ybaip/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "makeups is pretty expensive, as it can add up over time, especially your not buying the cheap stuff.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>makeups is pretty expensive, as it can add up over time, especially your not buying the cheap stuff.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334608.0, "created_utc": 1625334608.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xvyuw", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xvyuw", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xvyuw/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "chris-joy", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2tllq67o", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. Would that not also make the BILs child defective, by his standards?! \ud83d\ude02", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. Would that not also make the BILs child defective, by his standards?! \ud83d\ude02</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327546.0, "created_utc": 1625327546.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xi8ov", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xi8ov", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xi8ov/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "mr_friend_computer", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_14ijjw", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "They are adults and can have adult consequences applied to theft and harassment.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>They are adults and can have adult consequences applied to theft and harassment.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625335083.0, "created_utc": 1625335083.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xwuyl", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xwuyl", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xi8ov", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xwuyl/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 37, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 37, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "HeatherReadsReddit", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [19]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_7xznmngm", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly! Why is Zoey defective for using the makeup, but his brats aren\u2019t? \n\nOP thank you for standing up for Zoey. As you know, they are stealing - not borrowing - and your daughter needs to feel safe in her own home. Please try to make BIL and the cousins leave ASAP. \n\nOr you and Zoey find somewhere else to be, leaving all of the thieves on their own.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly! Why is Zoey defective for using the makeup, but his brats aren\u2019t? </p>\n\n<p>OP thank you for standing up for Zoey. As you know, they are stealing - not borrowing - and your daughter needs to feel safe in her own home. Please try to make BIL and the cousins leave ASAP. </p>\n\n<p>Or you and Zoey find somewhere else to be, leaving all of the thieves on their own.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625341809.0, "created_utc": 1625341809.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y9mti", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y9mti", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xi8ov", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y9mti/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "The BIL was trying to make the argument that the minor was messed up for trying to look like a grown up via makeup, but not his grown-up daughters for stealing said makeup from a minor. Go figure.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>The BIL was <em>trying</em> to make the argument that the minor was messed up for trying to look like a grown up via makeup, but <em>not</em> his grown-up daughters for stealing said makeup from a minor. Go figure.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625344275.0, "created_utc": 1625344275.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yeby6", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yeby6", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3y9mti", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yeby6/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 35, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 35, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 30, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 30, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MrsMayhem17", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bmc8ozx3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah that part is disgusting. I am horrified the wife is ok with him talking about her daughter like this.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah that part is disgusting. I am horrified the wife is ok with him talking about her daughter like this.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625342855.0, "created_utc": 1625342855.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ybnen", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ybnen", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xi8ov", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ybnen/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 23, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 23, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Defectiver, even, as they are thieves to boot.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Defectiver, even, as they are thieves to boot.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625337279.0, "created_utc": 1625337279.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y0zau", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y0zau", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xi8ov", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y0zau/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 534, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 534, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MissLadyLlamaDrama", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4djvf5g4", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Also, what the hell is Sammy's problem that he can even try to pretend that what his daughters are doing is \"borrowing\". Borrowing implies that they asked permission from Zoey before using her stuff. He knows damn good and well that's not what his kids are doing.\n\nSammy is a shit brother, uncle, AND father. My god. The divorce thing seems significantly less surprising now, knowing that this is how he actually behaves as a grown ass adult.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Also, what the hell is Sammy's problem that he can even try to pretend that what his daughters are doing is "borrowing". Borrowing implies that they asked permission from Zoey before using her stuff. He knows damn good and well that's not what his kids are doing.</p>\n\n<p>Sammy is a shit brother, uncle, AND father. My god. The divorce thing seems significantly less surprising now, knowing that this is how he actually behaves as a grown ass adult.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329455.0, "created_utc": 1625329455.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xlwq8", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xlwq8", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xlwq8/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NaeBean", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ett9abk", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No, \"borrowing\" implies that the item in question is being returned, presumably in the same condition in which it was loaned. In this case, we're talking about makeup, a consumable. Not only are Sammy's daughters sneaking into Zoey's bedroom to take (not borrow!) her stuff without permission, but they are consuming and ruining something that Zoey saved up to purchase. You are NTA for supporting your daughter's right to not have her possessions stolen and ruined under the guise of \"borrowing.\"", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No, "borrowing" implies that the item in question is being returned, presumably in the same condition in which it was loaned. In this case, we're talking about makeup, a consumable. Not only are Sammy's daughters sneaking into Zoey's bedroom to take (not borrow!) her stuff without permission, but they are consuming and ruining something that Zoey saved up to purchase. You are NTA for supporting your daughter's right to not have her possessions stolen and ruined under the guise of "borrowing."</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625342985.0, "created_utc": 1625342985.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ybw37", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ybw37", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xlwq8", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ybw37/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 304, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 304, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Profreadsalot", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oe80o7w", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Plus, sharing makeup is a disgusting and unsanitary practice, at the best of times, and we\u2019re in the middle of a pandemic.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Plus, sharing makeup is a disgusting and unsanitary practice, at the best of times, and we\u2019re in the middle of a pandemic.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326659.0, "created_utc": 1625326659.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xgk2o", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xgk2o", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xgk2o/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AffectionateAd5373", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3z6rlg7i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My mother always told me never to share makeup. I remember walking in on my roommate using my expensive Aveda palette to do one of her friend's makeup. I almost died. I could never use it again, and some of those colors were discontinued.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My mother always told me never to share makeup. I remember walking in on my roommate using my expensive Aveda palette to do one of her friend's makeup. I almost died. I could never use it again, and some of those colors were discontinued.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328099.0, "created_utc": 1625328099.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xjawp", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xjawp", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xgk2o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xjawp/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "doughnutmakemelaugh", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_cwzuj1sz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If it's just powder, you can disinfect it with rubbing alcohol. That's what makeup artists do.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If it's just powder, you can disinfect it with rubbing alcohol. That's what makeup artists do.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331530.0, "created_utc": 1625331530.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xpylx", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xpylx", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xjawp", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xpylx/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AffectionateAd5373", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3z6rlg7i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I work in the industry, so I'm aware. But it's so ingrained (and I have OCD, which doesn't help) that I literally had to throw them all out. And seriously, if the alcohol thing really worked no one would get an infection from the testers.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I work in the industry, so I'm aware. But it's so ingrained (and I have OCD, which doesn't help) that I literally had to throw them all out. And seriously, if the alcohol thing really worked no one would get an infection from the testers.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331695.0, "created_utc": 1625331695.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xqahh", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xqahh", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xpylx", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xqahh/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "doughnutmakemelaugh", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_cwzuj1sz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Tell you a secret.\n\nWhole lot of testers out there not being cleaned at all.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Tell you a secret.</p>\n\n<p>Whole lot of testers out there not being cleaned at all.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334076.0, "created_utc": 1625334076.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xuy1i", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xuy1i", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xqahh", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xuy1i/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AffectionateAd5373", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3z6rlg7i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "True. But surface sanitizing with alcohol is never going to kill everything. \n\nWhen I was doing makeup professionally, I used to scrape a bit of the shadow or whatever onto a clean surface, and use that. I never put the brush into the container from the skin.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>True. But surface sanitizing with alcohol is never going to kill everything. </p>\n\n<p>When I was doing makeup professionally, I used to scrape a bit of the shadow or whatever onto a clean surface, and use that. I never put the brush into the container from the skin.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334245.0, "created_utc": 1625334245.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xva3p", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xva3p", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xuy1i", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xva3p/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "That's my fav thing about the pandemic, no one at sephora or ulta trying to get me to try the 'testers' on my skin", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>That's my fav thing about the pandemic, no one at sephora or ulta trying to get me to try the 'testers' on my skin</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339951.0, "created_utc": 1625339951.0, "depth": 9, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y63n9", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y63n9", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xva3p", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y63n9/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 31, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 31, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 135, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 135, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "JadeGrapes", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [6]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_33j9ftyp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Agreed... testers that are open to the aisle are chocked full of plague and leprosy until proven otherwise.\n\nTIL some people are testing them on their FACE. I always do the back of the hand. If literally never occurred to me someone put it on their eyes.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Agreed... testers that are open to the aisle are chocked full of plague and leprosy until proven otherwise.</p>\n\n<p>TIL some people are testing them on their FACE. I always do the back of the hand. If literally never occurred to me someone put it on their eyes.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625345300.0, "created_utc": 1625345300.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yg8zi", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yg8zi", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xuy1i", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yg8zi/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 18, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 18, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 229, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 229, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "terraformthesoul", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ferog5t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Plus, I find the formula is never quite the same after it. Cheapo makeup, whatever. But when I\u2019m buying expensive makeup because of their very specific formulas, warping it with alcohol means it\u2019s essentially a junk palette now.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Plus, I find the formula is never quite the same after it. Cheapo makeup, whatever. But when I\u2019m buying expensive makeup <em>because</em> of their very specific formulas, warping it with alcohol means it\u2019s essentially a junk palette now.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333907.0, "created_utc": 1625333907.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xum8f", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xum8f", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xqahh", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xum8f/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AffectionateAd5373", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3z6rlg7i", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yep. I've always found it makes a film over the top, and then you wind up having to scrape half the pan out to get past it.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yep. I've always found it makes a film over the top, and then you wind up having to scrape half the pan out to get past it.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334084.0, "created_utc": 1625334084.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xuyl6", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xuyl6", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xum8f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xuyl6/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 41, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 41, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 144, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 144, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 219, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 219, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 196, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 196, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 523, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 523, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1121, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1121, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "al_m1101", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_16uu2y6f", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah OP should also demand the father replace that $60 makeup pallet. And not some shitty Wal-Mart one either. Ooh that would incense me.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah OP should also <em>demand</em> the father replace that $60 makeup pallet. And not some shitty Wal-Mart one either. Ooh that would incense me.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331460.0, "created_utc": 1625331460.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xptms", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xptms", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xptms/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Definitely. I don't personally have a preference between brands like Wal-Mart and Ulta, but I am a strong believer in repaying somebody with the fair equivalent of what they spent. I have accompanied my friends to Ulta and Sephora more than enough times to know how much this stuff costs, and giving them a cheaper brand wouldn't be right.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Definitely. I don't personally have a preference between brands like Wal-Mart and Ulta, but I am a strong believer in repaying somebody with the fair equivalent of what they spent. I have accompanied my friends to Ulta and Sephora more than enough times to know how much this stuff costs, and giving them a cheaper brand wouldn't be right.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334497.0, "created_utc": 1625334497.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xvrcc", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xvrcc", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xptms", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xvrcc/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 23, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 23, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 91, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 91, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheCrankyRunner", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8osoa9tv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. OP is definitely NTA. Quite frankly, as soon as that worthless BIL opened his mouth to insist his daughters \"aren't thieves,\" I would have let him know that taking items from someone without their knowledge or consent constitutes theft, and those who engage in theft are, in fact, thieves. \n\nOP needs to throw them all out of the house yesterday, his AH wife included. The sheer lack of respect she has for the well being of her own child is shocking and completely unacceptable.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. OP is definitely NTA. Quite frankly, as soon as that worthless BIL opened his mouth to insist his daughters "aren't thieves," I would have let him know that taking items from someone without their knowledge or consent constitutes theft, and those who engage in theft are, in fact, thieves. </p>\n\n<p>OP needs to throw them all out of the house yesterday, his AH wife included. The sheer lack of respect she has for the well being of her own child is shocking and completely unacceptable.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327837.0, "created_utc": 1625327837.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xisqf", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xisqf", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xisqf/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 268, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 268, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TallBobcat", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ya9l4", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "\u201cDefect\u201d is where I would have thrown him out of the house.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>\u201cDefect\u201d is where I would have thrown him out of the house.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625340794.0, "created_utc": 1625340794.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y7p30", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y7p30", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y7p30/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Also Sammy opining that she should wear cheap ass Wal Mart makeup. Don't get me wrong there are wonderful, inexpensive products at Wal-Mart but nothing there will give you the beautiful finish like MAC, and other pricy brands, will give you on eye colors. \nAnd when did Sammy become this financial wizard. I mean, he's the one who is homeless.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Also Sammy opining that she should wear cheap ass Wal Mart makeup. Don't get me wrong there are wonderful, inexpensive products at Wal-Mart but nothing there will give you the beautiful finish like MAC, and other pricy brands, will give you on eye colors. \nAnd when did Sammy become this financial wizard. I mean, he's the one who is homeless.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625344012.0, "created_utc": 1625344012.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ydu48", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ydu48", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ydu48/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Fanartist_Kitty", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_87jvhaua", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly and the mother seem to be okay with someone calling her daughter defective I would have kicked out everyone and anyone who called my daughter that", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly and the mother seem to be okay with someone calling her daughter defective I would have kicked out everyone and anyone who called my daughter that</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625344027.0, "created_utc": 1625344027.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ydv5c", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ydv5c", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ydv5c/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CalculatedPerversion", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5ihjk", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I'm sensing some religious, clutching of pearls mentality here with the BIL.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I'm sensing some religious, clutching of pearls mentality here with the BIL.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328499.0, "created_utc": 1625328499.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xk2z2", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xk2z2", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xk2z2/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "gorramfrakker", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_seaou", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": true, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah the defective comment should have been met with Sammy\u2019s bag being packed for him. For someone to speak that way of OPs daughter while living with OP is grounds for a boot in the ass out the door.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah the defective comment should have been met with Sammy\u2019s bag being packed for him. For someone to speak that way of OPs daughter while living with OP is grounds for a boot in the ass out the door.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625335507.0, "created_utc": 1625335507.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xxnvh", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xxnvh", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xxnvh/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 21, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 21, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "zeenzee", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3ptbu7e7", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "His kids are stealing and ruining other people's property.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>His kids are stealing and ruining other people's property.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332130.0, "created_utc": 1625332130.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xr5ma", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xr5ma", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xr5ma/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "RuthlessKittyKat", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4sku4eax", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I would have kicked them out of the house for this insane comment.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would have kicked them out of the house for this insane comment.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339881.0, "created_utc": 1625339881.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y5yx7", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y5yx7", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y5yx7/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 8, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 8, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "JaxandMia", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1nhnzbuw", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Plus sharing makeup is so unsanitary. That goes on my face, I don\u2019t want someone else also using it on theirs. So gross. Plus if the colors were mixed she was definitely double dipping. I think cousins owe her at least a new makeup pallet. NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Plus sharing makeup is so unsanitary. That goes on my face, I don\u2019t want someone else also using it on theirs. So gross. Plus if the colors were mixed she was definitely double dipping. I think cousins owe her at least a new makeup pallet. NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326375.0, "created_utc": 1625326375.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xg0hw", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xg0hw", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xg0hw/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Dangerous_Wishbone", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_14h5evhz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "and heck if she buys a new one for Zoey she might as well just keep the one she used, and then she won't have a reason to go using someone else's makeup again, and no makeup will be wasted. She shouldn't have used it to begin with but either way Sloan's getting more than a good compromise here, she'll essentially have paid $60 and gotten a $60 makeup set so should have no reason to complain. But definitely needs to apologize and stay out of her stuff.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>and heck if she buys a new one for Zoey she might as well just keep the one she used, and then she won't have a reason to go using someone else's makeup again, and no makeup will be wasted. She shouldn't have used it to begin with but either way Sloan's getting more than a good compromise here, she'll essentially have paid $60 and gotten a $60 makeup set so should have no reason to complain. But definitely needs to apologize and stay out of her stuff.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332426.0, "created_utc": 1625332426.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625345500.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xrq8z", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xrq8z", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xg0hw", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xrq8z/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 20, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 20, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Full_Key7756", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c6alkdzg", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I wonder what would happen if darling twins went dipping into AH mother's makeup instead....and whoops! ...someone forgot to tell the twin property liberators that AH mom had a world class case of pinkeye or herpes....", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I wonder what would happen if darling twins went dipping into AH mother's makeup instead....and whoops! ...someone forgot to tell the twin property liberators that AH mom had a world class case of pinkeye or herpes....</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338747.0, "created_utc": 1625338747.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y3t6b", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y3t6b", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xg0hw", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y3t6b/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 267, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 267, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "huskergirl-86", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_yeajq", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320641.0, "created_utc": 1625320641.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x5flo", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5flo", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5flo/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321542.0, "created_utc": 1625321542.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x71t5", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x71t5", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5flo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x71t5/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "madmaxturbator", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_pg60o", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": true, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "But it\u2019s just Nutella!\n\nSo next time you find an underwear with stains, just lick it.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>But it\u2019s just Nutella!</p>\n\n<p>So next time you find an underwear with stains, just lick it.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323994.0, "created_utc": 1625323994.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xbjmo", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xbjmo", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x71t5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xbjmo/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AG-freeflyer", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d386pmog", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Back in college, my roommate and I were exchanging pranks as part of an underlying feud. He was bringing a girl over that night, so I took a pair of his boxer briefs out of his dresser, and smeared a healthy amount of that natural peanut butter (with the oil and nut chunks) on the ass part, and left it visible on his bedroom floor. \n\nThey went into his room and a few seconds later the girl walked out quickly. Turns out they walked in on our cat licking the peanut butter out of it and it totally grossed both of them out. I did not expect this but it made it more hilarious, looking back.\n\nMy roommate was pretty upset. For him to believe it was peanut butter, I had to willingly take a whiff out of the \u201cstain\u201d with no disgust on my face, then he hesitantly tested it out. We agreed no more pranks after that, apparently he really liked that girl.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Back in college, my roommate and I were exchanging pranks as part of an underlying feud. He was bringing a girl over that night, so I took a pair of his boxer briefs out of his dresser, and smeared a healthy amount of that natural peanut butter (with the oil and nut chunks) on the ass part, and left it visible on his bedroom floor. </p>\n\n<p>They went into his room and a few seconds later the girl walked out quickly. Turns out they walked in on our cat licking the peanut butter out of it and it totally grossed both of them out. I did not expect this but it made it more hilarious, looking back.</p>\n\n<p>My roommate was pretty upset. For him to believe it was peanut butter, I had to willingly take a whiff out of the \u201cstain\u201d with no disgust on my face, then he hesitantly tested it out. We agreed no more pranks after that, apparently he really liked that girl.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625335161.0, "created_utc": 1625335161.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 2, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xx0ca", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xx0ca", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xbjmo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xx0ca/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "xX_WarHeart_Xx", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_gdy6t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I\u2019m fucking DYING. My wife is pissed that I wouldn\u2019t stop laughing for five minutes.\n\nThis prank will be paying dividends for decades.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I\u2019m fucking DYING. 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"author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My grandad would do this with gingerbread biscuits that apparently look convincingly like shit if you wet them and smear them on a wall - someone would say \"my god is that shit on the wall?\" then he'd wipe some on his finger, taste it and go \"yep that's shit alright\". Made one guy vomit on the spot apparently.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My grandad would do this with gingerbread biscuits that apparently look convincingly like shit if you wet them and smear them on a wall - someone would say "my god is that shit on the wall?" then he'd wipe some on his finger, taste it and go "yep that's shit alright". 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false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1932, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CJsopinion", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_25c9qedo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This comment is disgustingly awesome. I love it.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This comment is disgustingly awesome. I love it.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325259.0, "created_utc": 1625325259.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xdwmw", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xdwmw", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xbjmo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xdwmw/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Muffin_Pillager", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_kkkew", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "So is the username...\"u/madmaxturbator\" is a fucking gloriously terrifying username. Conjurs images of maniacal post apocalyptic masturbation with sand and rubbing alcohol. I approve.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>So is the username..."<a href=\"/u/madmaxturbator\">u/madmaxturbator</a>" is a fucking gloriously terrifying username. Conjurs images of maniacal post apocalyptic masturbation with sand and rubbing alcohol. I approve.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625345452.0, "created_utc": 1625345452.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ygjct", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ygjct", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdwmw", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ygjct/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 318, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 318, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "rudbek-of-rudbek", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8yw08zr", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Not disgusting. Just delicious and awesome", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Not disgusting. Just delicious and awesome</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338891.0, "created_utc": 1625338891.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y43as", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y43as", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdwmw", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y43as/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 34, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", 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"mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xx0ta", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xbjmo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xx0ta/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "mmotte89", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8os59", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Do you not have ducks down there in Germany?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Do you not have ducks down there in Germany?</p>\n</div>", 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"author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Thank you for making me spit out my soda all over my phone. OMG, that's evil.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Thank you for making me spit out my soda all over my phone. OMG, that's <em>evil</em>.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334306.0, "created_utc": 1625334306.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xve98", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xve98", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xbjmo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xve98/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "r/cursedcomments", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p><a href=\"/r/cursedcomments\">r/cursedcomments</a></p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334667.0, "created_utc": 1625334667.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xw2xe", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xw2xe", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xbjmo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xw2xe/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "FluffilyChipmunk", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6l219asl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I just want to thank you for help me with my diet. After reading this, I would eat nutella.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I just want to thank you for help me with my diet. After reading this, I would eat nutella.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333784.0, "created_utc": 1625333784.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xudnn", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xudnn", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xbjmo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xudnn/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 8, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 8, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 4699, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 4699, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CatsRuleHoomansDrool", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5f1zmc5x", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": true, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Don\u2019t underestimate how grotesque people can be. When I was 18 I lived with 4 other girls\u2026. The one girl (22f) used to take my underwear, wear them, and then put them back in my room in my dirty clothes (she didn\u2019t like to do laundry and would run out). Needless to say when I discovered this, I started locking my door every time I left. \n\nNTA OP- teenagers typically want privacy anyways. Please continue sticking up for your daughter & hopefully your wife comes to her senses since it sounds like she\u2019s being a real ass right now. Your daughter will remember forever that dad has got her back, no matter what!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Don\u2019t underestimate how grotesque people can be. When I was 18 I lived with 4 other girls\u2026. The one girl (22f) used to take my underwear, wear them, and then put them back in my room in my dirty clothes (she didn\u2019t like to do laundry and would run out). Needless to say when I discovered this, I started locking my door every time I left. </p>\n\n<p>NTA OP- teenagers typically want privacy anyways. Please continue sticking up for your daughter & hopefully your wife comes to her senses since it sounds like she\u2019s being a real ass right now. Your daughter will remember forever that dad has got her back, no matter what!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625347733.0, "created_utc": 1625347733.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ykrc5", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ykrc5", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x71t5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ykrc5/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Nightstone42", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_cckl2", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Tea stains cloth a lovely shade of yellowissh brown", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Tea stains cloth a lovely shade of yellowissh brown</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327424.0, "created_utc": 1625327424.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xi092", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xi092", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x71t5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xi092/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 6325, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 6325, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "UDontKnowMe__206", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4n08yb7g", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Ah see I\u2019d agree with you here, but they are excusing this behavior because they are \u201cteenage girls\u201d and this is \u201cwhat teenage girls do.\u201d They would say it\u2019s not the same thing if OP did it or gave them his wife\u2019s make up. \n\n\nIdk why but they make up kit makes me irrationally angry. I hope someone replaces that for her. Also, when the BIL said it\u2019s \u201cjust like the $15 kit from Walmart\u201d why doesn\u2019t he get a couple of those for his girls? And if they have them, ask him why he\u2019s okay with them taking hers if they are the same thing?\n\nNTA. Keep the lock on the door.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Ah see I\u2019d agree with you here, but they are excusing this behavior because they are \u201cteenage girls\u201d and this is \u201cwhat teenage girls do.\u201d They would say it\u2019s not the same thing if OP did it or gave them his wife\u2019s make up. </p>\n\n<p>Idk why but they make up kit makes me irrationally angry. I hope someone replaces that for her. Also, when the BIL said it\u2019s \u201cjust like the $15 kit from Walmart\u201d why doesn\u2019t he get a couple of those for his girls? And if they have them, ask him why he\u2019s okay with them taking hers if they are the same thing?</p>\n\n<p>NTA. Keep the lock on the door.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327009.0, "created_utc": 1625327009.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xh7x1", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xh7x1", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5flo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xh7x1/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11921, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11921, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Ok-Bad-14", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_cv8yo0uz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly this! \n\nOp is def NTA. \n\nThe twins are rude as hell. Sammy trying to justify and push blame onto Zoey is unforgivable. \n\nHe should be teaching his twins to respect others belonging instead of shifting blame. \n\nZoey should have the right to feel safe and protected in her own HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly this! </p>\n\n<p>Op is def NTA. </p>\n\n<p>The twins are rude as hell. Sammy trying to justify and push blame onto Zoey is unforgivable. </p>\n\n<p>He should be teaching his twins to respect others belonging instead of shifting blame. </p>\n\n<p>Zoey should have the right to feel safe and protected in her own HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327164.0, "created_utc": 1625327164.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xhiho", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhiho", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhiho/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "drouoa", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_14e689", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Also sharing makeup is unhygienic. Bacteria city. So they basically ruined Zoe\u2019s makeup, not borrowed. The mom should understand this and want to prevent her daughter from waking up with a face full of cold sores or styes.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Also sharing makeup is unhygienic. Bacteria city. So they basically ruined Zoe\u2019s makeup, not borrowed. The mom should understand this and want to prevent her daughter from waking up with a face full of cold sores or styes.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329934.0, "created_utc": 1625329934.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xmtio", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xmtio", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xmtio/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "pipestream", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_17efaw", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "100%\nUsing another person's things without permission is not borrowing - it's stealing.\n\nOP, NTA. I'd be furious.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>100%\nUsing another person's things without permission is not borrowing - it's stealing.</p>\n\n<p>OP, NTA. I'd be furious.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329137.0, "created_utc": 1625329137.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xlats", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xlats", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xlats/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "meservyjon", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_h6wog", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "OP should lend his daughter his wife's makeup, then when your nieces steal it and return it in horrible shape, give it back to your wife with the expectation that using other people's things, and ruining it is perfectly fine. That will open up the discussion as to why is it not ok for her own belongings when it's happening to her daughter. It doesn't matter if it's $15 dollars or $120 dollars, touching other people's things without permission is stealing. \n\n\nBut, I feel this on a spiritual level. So I'm gonna rant about it.\nThis is a serious discussion about boundaries. If a person, especially a young woman, cannot feel comfortable setting boundaries at home, how the hell are they gonna grow up feeling comfortable setting boundaries with others when they are in hard pressed situations when they are older?\nI get that some people have relationships that will allow them to take their friends things comfortably, but if everyone involved is not comfortable, then it is stealing, and returning it in bad shape is vandalism. The uncle telling OP he shouldn't be allowing his own daughter to buy makeup WITH HER OWN MONEY, he is crossing a boundary. She is your daughter and teaching your daughter to save up and buy nice things is a great way for her to take pride in her hard work. Allowing other people to step in and destroy the things she earned teaches a lesson that says her hard work doesn't matter. The uncle should either pay for the makeup his daughters ruined, or have a serious discussion with his daughters about respecting boundaries. And OP's wife is completely supporting this behaviour of theft and vandalism. She should be the one to pay for it with her own makeup and her own laptop and her own belongings. If you don't set boundaries at home, then that teaches a lesson that says boundaries do not matter. I believe it's important to not only set the expectation that taking, and ruining other people's belongings is wrong, but to do it in a way that sets an example to your daughter that it is important for her to stand up for herself, and that she needs to take pride in owning the things she worked so hard for.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>OP should lend his daughter his wife's makeup, then when your nieces steal it and return it in horrible shape, give it back to your wife with the expectation that using other people's things, and ruining it is perfectly fine. That will open up the discussion as to why is it not ok for her own belongings when it's happening to her daughter. It doesn't matter if it's $15 dollars or $120 dollars, touching other people's things without permission is stealing. </p>\n\n<p>But, I feel this on a spiritual level. So I'm gonna rant about it.\nThis is a serious discussion about boundaries. If a person, especially a young woman, cannot feel comfortable setting boundaries at home, how the hell are they gonna grow up feeling comfortable setting boundaries with others when they are in hard pressed situations when they are older?\nI get that some people have relationships that will allow them to take their friends things comfortably, but if everyone involved is not comfortable, then it is stealing, and returning it in bad shape is vandalism. The uncle telling OP he shouldn't be allowing his own daughter to buy makeup WITH HER OWN MONEY, he is crossing a boundary. She is your daughter and teaching your daughter to save up and buy nice things is a great way for her to take pride in her hard work. Allowing other people to step in and destroy the things she earned teaches a lesson that says her hard work doesn't matter. The uncle should either pay for the makeup his daughters ruined, or have a serious discussion with his daughters about respecting boundaries. And OP's wife is completely supporting this behaviour of theft and vandalism. She should be the one to pay for it with her own makeup and her own laptop and her own belongings. If you don't set boundaries at home, then that teaches a lesson that says boundaries do not matter. I believe it's important to not only set the expectation that taking, and ruining other people's belongings is wrong, but to do it in a way that sets an example to your daughter that it is important for her to stand up for herself, and that she needs to take pride in owning the things she worked so hard for.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625340840.0, "created_utc": 1625340840.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y7s7g", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y7s7g", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y7s7g/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "BoozeIsTherapyRight", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_99nk3e9q", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "When my sister was in high school and used to borrow my dad's flannel shirts without asking, and sneak them out of the house in her backpack so no one would know. \n\nMy dad finally had enough, put on one of her baby Ts, and went to her school, walked into her class, and demanded his shirt back.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>When my sister was in high school and used to borrow my dad's flannel shirts without asking, and sneak them out of the house in her backpack so no one would know. </p>\n\n<p>My dad finally had enough, put on one of her baby Ts, and went to her school, walked into her class, and demanded his shirt back.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331909.0, "created_utc": 1625331909.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xqpxq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xqpxq", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xqpxq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 8, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 8, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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65	I just want to thank you for help me with my diet. After reading this, I would eat nutella.	ocx94s	FluffilyChipmunk	1,625,333,784	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "FluffilyChipmunk", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6l219asl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I just want to thank you for help me with my diet. After reading this, I would eat nutella.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I just want to thank you for help me with my diet. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. 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Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. 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Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625320641.0, \"created_utc\": 1625320641.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x5flo\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x5flo\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5flo/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 11921, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 11921, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "huskergirl-86" }, { "content": "Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Lol, return underwear with stains? 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66	Oh, no!! I missed that they're 18. I thought they were 12 or 13, because that's how they act. They are straight-up bullying their younger cousin! I'd kick em out, too, if I were their mom.	ocx94s	Foreign_Astronaut	1,625,326,397	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Foreign_Astronaut", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [4]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1llbeu07", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Oh, no!! I missed that they're 18. I thought they were 12 or 13, because that's how they act. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Special-Parsnip9057\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#57411c\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Enthusiast [9]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_6yuw2o8c\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625322313.0, \"created_utc\": 1625322313.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x8guv\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, 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67	And honestly, with how the BIL and the 2 18 year olds act, I don't blame her in the least.	ocx94s	Frahal	1,625,327,165	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Frahal", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_uztvqwl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And honestly, with how the BIL and the 2 18 year olds act, I don't blame her in the least.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And honestly, with how the BIL and the 2 18 year olds act, I don't blame her in the least.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, 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"<div class=\"md\"><p>Actually, it's 4 amigos, since OP's wife seems so intent on siding with her brother.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331200.0, "created_utc": 1625331200.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xpben", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xpben", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xo3gj", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xpben/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 38, "score_hidden": false, 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Can i marry you please?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>"Three amigos to kick rocks". Can i marry you please?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331445.0, "created_utc": 1625331445.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xpsk3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xpsk3", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xo3gj", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xpsk3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 16, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 16, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 104, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 104, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 225, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 225, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. 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You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \n\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"amyhenderson_\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7ni0ll7\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA\\n\\nYour daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. 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You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. </p>\\n\\n<p>Good for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316126.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316126.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wy7le\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wy7le\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wy7le/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 8672, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 8672, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "amyhenderson_" }, { "content": "They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. 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68	I think the term would be choosing beggar.	ocx94s	Frahal	1,625,327,655	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Frahal", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_uztvqwl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I think the term would be choosing beggar.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I think the term would be choosing beggar.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327655.0, "created_utc": 1625327655.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xig01", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xig01", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x54dj", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xig01/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "mikailranjit", "author_cakeday": true, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_brrdzoh", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Let\u2019s just agree to call Sammy what he is\u2026 a waste of oxygen\ud83d\ude0c", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Let\u2019s just agree to call Sammy what he is\u2026 a waste of oxygen\ud83d\ude0c</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329543.0, "created_utc": 1625329543.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xm2rq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xm2rq", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xig01", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xm2rq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA\n\nSammy sounds like he is spoiling his daughters and justifying their actions by blaming the victim (Zoey). Kicking them out may be a good idea at this point.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"AceofSpadesYT\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_96z1sg80\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA\\n\\nSammy sounds like he is spoiling his daughters and justifying their actions by blaming the victim (Zoey). Kicking them out may be a good idea at this point.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy sounds like he is spoiling his daughters and justifying their actions by blaming the victim (Zoey). Kicking them out may be a good idea at this point.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316154.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316154.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wy90s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wy90s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wy90s/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 682, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 682, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "AceofSpadesYT" }, { "content": "Not even spoiling his daughters. Spoiling means Sammy would buy them shit, it’s probs the opposite he’s instead telling them to take shit that don’t belong to them and that he’s not wanting to buy for them and is blaming the victim instead of buying his daughter their own shit. Free loading would be a better word!", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"mikailranjit\", \"author_cakeday\": true, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_brrdzoh\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Not even spoiling his daughters. Spoiling means Sammy would buy them shit, it\\u2019s probs the opposite he\\u2019s instead telling them to take shit that don\\u2019t belong to them and that he\\u2019s not wanting to buy for them and is blaming the victim instead of buying his daughter their own shit. Free loading would be a better word!\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Not even spoiling his daughters. Spoiling means Sammy would buy them shit, it\\u2019s probs the opposite he\\u2019s instead telling them to take shit that don\\u2019t belong to them and that he\\u2019s not wanting to buy for them and is blaming the victim instead of buying his daughter their own shit. Free loading would be a better word!</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625320463.0, \"created_utc\": 1625320463.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x54dj\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x54dj\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wy90s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x54dj/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 238, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 238, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "mikailranjit" } ]	3	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
69	Actually, it's 4 amigos, since OP's wife seems so intent on siding with her brother.	ocx94s	Frahal	1,625,331,200	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Frahal", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_uztvqwl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Actually, it's 4 amigos, since OP's wife seems so intent on siding with her brother.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Actually, it's 4 amigos, since OP's wife seems so intent on siding with her brother.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331200.0, "created_utc": 1625331200.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xpben", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xpben", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xo3gj", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xpben/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 38, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 38, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA\n\nYour daughter doesn’t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \n\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"amyhenderson_\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7ni0ll7\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA\\n\\nYour daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \\n\\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA</p>\\n\\n<p>Your daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. </p>\\n\\n<p>Good for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316126.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316126.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wy7le\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wy7le\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wy7le/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 8672, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 8672, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "amyhenderson_" }, { "content": "They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey’s BED screams of malice.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Splatterfilm\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_mld4z\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey\\u2019s BED screams of malice.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey\\u2019s BED screams of malice.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319858.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319858.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x4214\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, 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70	Your wife and BIL are absolutely in the wrong here. There is something to be said about kids of a similar age borrowing things from each other. However, a key part of borrowing another person's belongings is asking that person for permission and if it is okay to use their things. At no point in this post did I see that the cousins were doing that. They were just taking her stuff to use as their own. That isn't borrowing anymore. That is stealing. It doesn't matter if they return it later, if they did not have permission from the owner, it is theft.	ocx94s	Frejian	1,625,321,254	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Frejian", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5tzfv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Your wife and BIL are absolutely in the wrong here. There is something to be said about kids of a similar age borrowing things from each other. However, a key part of borrowing another person's belongings is asking that person for permission and if it is okay to use their things. At no point in this post did I see that the cousins were doing that. They were just taking her stuff to use as their own. That isn't borrowing anymore. That is stealing. It doesn't matter if they return it later, if they did not have permission from the owner, it is theft.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Your wife and BIL are absolutely in the wrong here. There is something to be said about kids of a similar age borrowing things from each other. However, a key part of borrowing another person's belongings is asking that person for permission and if it is okay to use their things. At no point in this post did I see that the cousins were doing that. They were just taking her stuff to use as their own. That isn't borrowing anymore. That is stealing. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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71	I wonder what would happen if darling twins went dipping into AH mother's makeup instead....and whoops! ...someone forgot to tell the twin property liberators that AH mom had a world class case of pinkeye or herpes....	ocx94s	Full_Key7756	1,625,338,747	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Full_Key7756", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c6alkdzg", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I wonder what would happen if darling twins went dipping into AH mother's makeup instead....and whoops! ...someone forgot to tell the twin property liberators that AH mom had a world class case of pinkeye or herpes....", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I wonder what would happen if darling twins went dipping into AH mother's makeup instead....and whoops! ...someone forgot to tell the twin property liberators that AH mom had a world class case of pinkeye or herpes....</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338747.0, "created_utc": 1625338747.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y3t6b", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y3t6b", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xg0hw", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y3t6b/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. 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That goes on my face, I don’t want someone else also using it on theirs. So gross. Plus if the colors were mixed she was definitely double dipping. I think cousins owe her at least a new makeup pallet. NTA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"JaxandMia\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_1nhnzbuw\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Plus sharing makeup is so unsanitary. 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72	Not the OP, but that 100% had to be a factor in it, and probably a pretty large factor. Probably was a similar situation to what the posters situation is. One of their parents was a childhood friend of the guy and didn’t want to kick them out. Eventually they got given the ultimatum of them or me.	ocx94s	Galkura	1,625,337,405	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Galkura", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bb4tc", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Not the OP, but that 100% had to be a factor in it, and probably a pretty large factor. \n\nProbably was a similar situation to what the posters situation is. One of their parents was a childhood friend of the guy and didn\u2019t want to kick them out. Eventually they got given the ultimatum of them or me.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Not the OP, but that 100% had to be a factor in it, and probably a pretty large factor. </p>\n\n<p>Probably was a similar situation to what the posters situation is. One of their parents was a childhood friend of the guy and didn\u2019t want to kick them out. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. As someone who had a “family friend” move into our house “temporarily” when I was in middle school. You did the right thing. The “family friend” who moved in with us, was only supposed to be there temporarily, until he got himself an apartment. Lived with us for 4 years. He only moved out because my parents eventually separated and divorced, while he was still living with us. So for the last 4 years that my family, was a family, we had some guy, who my sister and I didnt even like, live in our home. \n\nDo yourself and your family a favour and give a timeline that they have to move out by or you will be taken advantage of and it might ruin your marriage.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"EW_David346\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [2]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_5b3qzmb2\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. As someone who had a \\u201cfamily friend\\u201d move into our house \\u201ctemporarily\\u201d when I was in middle school. You did the right thing. The \\u201cfamily friend\\u201d who moved in with us, was only supposed to be there temporarily, until he got himself an apartment. Lived with us for 4 years. He only moved out because my parents eventually separated and divorced, while he was still living with us. So for the last 4 years that my family, was a family, we had some guy, who my sister and I didnt even like, live in our home. \\n\\nDo yourself and your family a favour and give a timeline that they have to move out by or you will be taken advantage of and it might ruin your marriage.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. As someone who had a \\u201cfamily friend\\u201d move into our house \\u201ctemporarily\\u201d when I was in middle school. You did the right thing. The \\u201cfamily friend\\u201d who moved in with us, was only supposed to be there temporarily, until he got himself an apartment. Lived with us for 4 years. He only moved out because my parents eventually separated and divorced, while he was still living with us. So for the last 4 years that my family, was a family, we had some guy, who my sister and I didnt even like, live in our home. </p>\\n\\n<p>Do yourself and your family a favour and give a timeline that they have to move out by or you will be taken advantage of and it might ruin your marriage.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625317265.0, \"created_utc\": 1625317265.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wzvhq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wzvhq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wzvhq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 494, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 494, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "EW_David346" }, { "content": "Have you ever talked to either of your parents about that experience? 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Do you think his presence was a factor in the disintegration of your parents' marriage?\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Have you ever talked to either of your parents about that experience? Do you think his presence was a factor in the disintegration of your parents' marriage?</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625323106.0, \"created_utc\": 1625323106.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x9x7u\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x9x7u\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wzvhq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x9x7u/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 142, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 142, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "kol_al" } ]	3	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
73	It honestly screams "I'm not her real mother, I married into this." Even though from what I've read that isn't the case. It's that disgusting behavior that just unacceptable. His wife clearly has some power dynamic with her brother in which she can't think rationally. If a father is specifically buying a lock for his daughter just to make her feel safe in her own home... boy-o.	ocx94s	GenuineSounds	1,625,335,975	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "GenuineSounds", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4qpvs", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It honestly screams \"I'm not her real mother, I married into this.\" Even though from what I've read that isn't the case. It's that disgusting behavior that just unacceptable. His wife clearly has some power dynamic with her brother in which she can't think rationally. If a father is specifically buying a lock for his daughter just to make her feel safe in her own home... boy-o.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It honestly screams "I'm not her real mother, I married into this." Even though from what I've read that isn't the case. It's that disgusting behavior that just unacceptable. His wife clearly has some power dynamic with her brother in which she can't think rationally. If a father is specifically buying a lock for his daughter just to make her feel safe in her own home... boy-o.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625335975.0, "created_utc": 1625335975.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xyj9b", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xyj9b", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xbiip", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xyj9b/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "medicatedhippie420", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4wki6jhv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Wife legitimately sounds delusional for how family relationships should work.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Wife legitimately sounds delusional for how family relationships should work.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625344162.0, "created_utc": 1625344162.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ye48m", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ye48m", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xyj9b", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ye48m/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 40, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 40, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA, but wow, I'm shocked that your wife cares more about appearances and her brother/nieces than her own daughter. Giving her own child the silent treatment? That's just insane to me. And don't think your daughter hasn't noticed that her mother isn't on her side. That's gotta hurt. 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74	This whole situation makes me sick. u/OnlyInQuebec9 has way more patience than I ever could. I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some reason(s). I personally would not only have a firm discussion with the BIL, but I would with his daughters as well. You DO NOT steal shit from anybody in this household without first asking permission to use it. PERIOD. Then present them with an ultimatum. If that makes them upset, good, facing repercussions for inexcusable actions is part of growing up and seeing as how they are now adults, they're falling behind as a result of poor parenting. As harsh as that may sound, OP would actually be doing them a favor, because this sort of unfettered lack of respect for other people and their property won't just come to an end when they finally move out. It'll likely manifest itself in situations where people won't be so kind or forgiving of them—possibly even legal altercations. It sounds like your BIL is setting himself up for a rough future and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. I will say with utmost certainty (unless for some reason you're omitting crucial details) that you are absolutely NTA and should stand your ground. You are in the right here.	ocx94s	GoodWorms	1,625,331,087	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "GoodWorms", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_iw3n128", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This whole situation makes me sick. u/OnlyInQuebec9 has way more patience than I ever could. I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some reason(s).\n\nI personally would not only have a firm discussion with the BIL, but I would with his daughters as well. You DO NOT steal shit from anybody in this household without first asking permission to use it. PERIOD. Then present them with an ultimatum. If that makes them upset, good, facing repercussions for inexcusable actions is part of growing up and seeing as how they are now adults, they're falling behind as a result of poor parenting.\n\nAs harsh as that may sound, OP would actually be doing them a favor, because this sort of unfettered lack of respect for other people and their property won't just come to an end when they finally move out. It'll likely manifest itself in situations where people won't be so kind or forgiving of them\u2014possibly even legal altercations.\n\nIt sounds like your BIL is setting himself up for a rough future and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.\n\nI will say with utmost certainty (unless for some reason you're omitting crucial details) that you are absolutely NTA and should stand your ground. You are in the right here.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This whole situation makes me sick. <a href=\"/u/OnlyInQuebec9\">u/OnlyInQuebec9</a> has way more patience than I ever could. I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some reason(s).</p>\n\n<p>I personally would not only have a firm discussion with the BIL, but I would with his daughters as well. You DO NOT steal shit from anybody in this household without first asking permission to use it. PERIOD. Then present them with an ultimatum. If that makes them upset, good, facing repercussions for inexcusable actions is part of growing up and seeing as how they are now adults, they're falling behind as a result of poor parenting.</p>\n\n<p>As harsh as that may sound, OP would actually be doing them a favor, because this sort of unfettered lack of respect for other people and their property won't just come to an end when they finally move out. It'll likely manifest itself in situations where people won't be so kind or forgiving of them\u2014possibly even legal altercations.</p>\n\n<p>It sounds like your BIL is setting himself up for a rough future and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.</p>\n\n<p>I will say with utmost certainty (unless for some reason you're omitting crucial details) that you are absolutely NTA and should stand your ground. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"V-838\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_3f9eum54\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. 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75	Thank you for the prank that I am going to pull on my husband now.	ocx94s	GothDerp	1,625,332,613	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "GothDerp", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_7jeomey7", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Thank you for the prank that I am going to pull on my husband now.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Thank you for the prank that I am going to pull on my husband now.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332613.0, "created_utc": 1625332613.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xs35q", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xs35q", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xbjmo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xs35q/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. 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Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"huskergirl-86\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_yeajq\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625320641.0, \"created_utc\": 1625320641.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x5flo\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x5flo\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5flo/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 11921, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 11921, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "huskergirl-86" }, { "content": "Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Lol, return underwear with stains? 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76	Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA	ocx94s	HRHArgyll	1,625,323,158	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "HRHArgyll", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5n6vdgpn", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get\u2019em out. NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get\u2019em out. 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He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328594.0, "created_utc": 1625328594.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xk9hd", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xk9hd", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xa0ow", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xk9hd/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Tortoiseshell007", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_35p9kog", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625341363.0, "created_utc": 1625341363.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y8sc4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y8sc4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xk9hd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y8sc4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 43, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 43, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LuckOfTheDevil", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9v5r8m4s", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339917.0, "created_utc": 1625339917.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y61dz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y61dz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xk9hd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y61dz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 41, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 41, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 273, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 273, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "woodwitchofthewest", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2zf82lmj", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And if OP's wife pitches a fit, she can go with them.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And if OP's wife pitches a fit, she can go with them.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331807.0, "created_utc": 1625331807.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xqiee", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xqiee", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xa0ow", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xqiee/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 49, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 49, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 200, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 200, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"V-838\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_3f9eum54\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625321440.0, \"created_utc\": 1625321440.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x6v41\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x6v41\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3x501c\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 3421, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 3421, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "V-838" } ]	5	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
77	His wife is upset because he put a lock on his daughter's room. How do you think she will react if he kicks her brother out? If he even can, his wife most likely has the same claim to their house as he does, and they're already living here. What happens if you tell them to move out and they just say no? Police isn't going to do shit in most place, at best you'd need to go through the eviction process, and that's even if he's allowed to do that because, again, probably not only his house.	ocx94s	Happy-Zone-8495	1,625,336,293	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Happy-Zone-8495", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bv8ritxs", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "His wife is upset because he put a lock on his daughter's room. How do you think she will react if he kicks her brother out? \n\nIf he even can, his wife most likely has the same claim to their house as he does, and they're already living here. What happens if you tell them to move out and they just say no? Police isn't going to do shit in most place, at best you'd need to go through the eviction process, and that's even if he's allowed to do that because, again, probably not only his house.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>His wife is upset because he put a lock on his daughter's room. How do you think she will react if he kicks her brother out? </p>\n\n<p>If he even can, his wife most likely has the same claim to their house as he does, and they're already living here. What happens if you tell them to move out and they just say no? Police isn't going to do shit in most place, at best you'd need to go through the eviction process, and that's even if he's allowed to do that because, again, probably not only his house.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625336293.0, "created_utc": 1625336293.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xz4cy", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xz4cy", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz8wa", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xz4cy/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "\"I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do\"\n\nI think you need to think ahead with this situation. You are your daughter are already uncomfortable in your own home. Your wife is upset. You need to do what is right for your immediate family before it puts even more strain on your relationship.\n\nI think you need to get them to leave before it gets worse. It doesnt take much imagination to see how it could.\n\nHow uncomfortable do you have to be in your own home before something snaps? This is not a tenable situation. You have a right to feel safe /comfortable in your own home and anyone that militates against that is playing a dangerous game.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Stoat__King\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#eeb800\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"edf63c82-a710-11e9-959b-0eb47b028ff2\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Craptain [191]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_89j1kycq\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"\\\"I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do\\\"\\n\\nI think you need to think ahead with this situation. 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78	Exactly! Why is Zoey defective for using the makeup, but his brats aren’t? OP thank you for standing up for Zoey. As you know, they are stealing - not borrowing - and your daughter needs to feel safe in her own home. Please try to make BIL and the cousins leave ASAP. Or you and Zoey find somewhere else to be, leaving all of the thieves on their own.	ocx94s	HeatherReadsReddit	1,625,341,809	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "HeatherReadsReddit", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [19]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_7xznmngm", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly! Why is Zoey defective for using the makeup, but his brats aren\u2019t? \n\nOP thank you for standing up for Zoey. As you know, they are stealing - not borrowing - and your daughter needs to feel safe in her own home. Please try to make BIL and the cousins leave ASAP. \n\nOr you and Zoey find somewhere else to be, leaving all of the thieves on their own.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly! Why is Zoey defective for using the makeup, but his brats aren\u2019t? </p>\n\n<p>OP thank you for standing up for Zoey. As you know, they are stealing - not borrowing - and your daughter needs to feel safe in her own home. Please try to make BIL and the cousins leave ASAP. </p>\n\n<p>Or you and Zoey find somewhere else to be, leaving all of the thieves on their own.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625341809.0, "created_utc": 1625341809.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y9mti", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y9mti", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xi8ov", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y9mti/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "The BIL was trying to make the argument that the minor was messed up for trying to look like a grown up via makeup, but not his grown-up daughters for stealing said makeup from a minor. Go figure.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>The BIL was <em>trying</em> to make the argument that the minor was messed up for trying to look like a grown up via makeup, but <em>not</em> his grown-up daughters for stealing said makeup from a minor. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316785.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316785.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wz5w4\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 19659, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 19659, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Featherymorons" }, { "content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"SubstantialDrawing7\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_5bt2qq3t\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \\\"defective\\\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\\n\\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\\n\\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625324620.0, \"created_utc\": 1625324620.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3xcp6c\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3xcp6c\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 1597, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 1597, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "SubstantialDrawing7" }, { "content": "He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. Would that not also make the BILs child defective, by his standards?! 😂", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"chris-joy\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2tllq67o\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. 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79	This^^^^ Maybe bringing this up with the wife will help her understand you’re trying to allow her to set healthy boundaries	ocx94s	Hi_Supercute	1,625,334,255	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Hi_Supercute", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4i53t3g5", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This^^^^\n\nMaybe bringing this up with the wife will help her understand you\u2019re trying to allow her to set healthy boundaries", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This<sup><sup><sup>^</sup></sup></sup></p>\n\n<p>Maybe bringing this up with the wife will help her understand you\u2019re trying to allow her to set healthy boundaries</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334255.0, "created_utc": 1625334255.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xvaqh", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xvaqh", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xjx3o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xvaqh/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 34, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 34, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316785.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316785.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 1, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wz5w4\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 19659, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 19659, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Featherymorons" }, { "content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"SubstantialDrawing7\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_5bt2qq3t\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \\\"defective\\\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\\n\\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\\n\\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625324620.0, \"created_utc\": 1625324620.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3xcp6c\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3xcp6c\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 1597, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 1597, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "SubstantialDrawing7" }, { "content": "Honestly those two girls were taking extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school laptop?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the adult twins and say they were stealing from his minor daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"TheoryAddict\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#8f7312\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Certified Proctologist [21]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2mk5ykci\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Honestly those two girls were taking extremely expensive stuff to begin eith (a school laptop?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\\n\\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\\n\\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\\n\\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \\n\\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \\n\\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \\n\\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the adult twins and say they were stealing from his minor daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \\n\\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\\n\\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\\n\\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\\n\\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\\n\\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\\n\\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\\n\\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\\n\\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. 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80	Well even the dad at this point, these are the kinds of things that plant seeds of resentment. It starts small and they you can’t shake it unless it’s addressed. I hope they smooth things out for everyone’s sake	ocx94s	Hi_Supercute	1,625,334,512	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Hi_Supercute", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4i53t3g5", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Well even the dad at this point, these are the kinds of things that plant seeds of resentment. It starts small and they you can\u2019t shake it unless it\u2019s addressed. I hope they smooth things out for everyone\u2019s sake", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Well even the dad at this point, these are the kinds of things that plant seeds of resentment. It starts small and they you can\u2019t shake it unless it\u2019s addressed. I hope they smooth things out for everyone\u2019s sake</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334512.0, "created_utc": 1625334512.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xvsc6", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xvsc6", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xbiip", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xvsc6/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Steiny31", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_g13ce1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah.. personally to me this would be a potential deal breaker. I would have to calm myself down, and then have a very open and honest (and private) conversation with my wife about the situation.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah.. personally to me this would be a potential deal breaker. I would have to calm myself down, and then have a very open and honest (and private) conversation with my wife about the situation.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625345070.0, "created_utc": 1625345070.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yftio", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yftio", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xvsc6", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yftio/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA, but wow, I'm shocked that your wife cares more about appearances and her brother/nieces than her own daughter. Giving her own child the silent treatment? That's just insane to me. And don't think your daughter hasn't noticed that her mother isn't on her side. That's gotta hurt. 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81	Here's something else to consider: depending location and other variables, it may not be just that easy, and OP may have to legally evict BIL if things get contentious. This is a nightmare waiting to happen.	ocx94s	HoodieGalore	1,625,333,081	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "HoodieGalore", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d03cv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Here's something else to consider: depending location and other variables, it may not be just that easy, and OP may have to legally evict BIL if things get contentious. This is a nightmare waiting to happen.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Here's something else to consider: depending location and other variables, it may not be just that easy, and OP may have to legally evict BIL if things get contentious. This is a nightmare waiting to happen.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333081.0, "created_utc": 1625333081.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xt01v", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xt01v", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xt01v/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, 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84	Tell your enabling wife and BiL that borrowing stuff requires asking permission first. Simply walking in and taking is theft. Then walk in to their room and permanently borrow the $60 to buy your daughter a replacement set of makeup. Give the ruined set to the cousins.	ocx94s	ICWhatsNUrP	1,625,321,259	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ICWhatsNUrP", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#e3be04", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "e899ca7e-a710-11e9-8365-0e193c0f4a16", "author_flair_text": "Professor Emeritass [96]", "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e9qln5g", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Tell your enabling wife and BiL that borrowing stuff requires asking permission first. Simply walking in and taking is theft. Then walk in to their room and permanently borrow the $60 to buy your daughter a replacement set of makeup. Give the ruined set to the cousins.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Tell your enabling wife and BiL that borrowing stuff requires asking permission first. Simply walking in and taking is theft. Then walk in to their room and permanently borrow the $60 to buy your daughter a replacement set of makeup. Give the ruined set to the cousins.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321259.0, "created_utc": 1625321259.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6jfm", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6jfm", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6jfm/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "littlegingerfae", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1hwudea8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Throw the ruined palette in the TRASH. The cousins should NOT profit off of their theft!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Throw the ruined palette in the TRASH. The cousins should NOT profit off of their theft!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327567.0, "created_utc": 1625327567.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xia2y", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xia2y", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6jfm", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xia2y/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "cbcfan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4yvpz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "They don't want it. They used her makeup as a power move.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>They don't want it. They used her makeup as a power move.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338620.0, "created_utc": 1625338620.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y3kat", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y3kat", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xia2y", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y3kat/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 177, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 177, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x48ia\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 5196, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 5196, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" } ]	3	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
85	Holy shit. Your mom is not worth knowing. I hope you are NC or LC.	ocx94s	IPetdogs4U	1,625,328,756	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "IPetdogs4U", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3b3aac4u", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Holy shit. Your mom is not worth knowing. I hope you are NC or LC.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Holy shit. Your mom is not worth knowing. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. 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I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Pillow_President\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_c01n43d8\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625322515.0, \"created_utc\": 1625322515.0, \"depth\": 2, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x8u0f\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x8u0f\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wz5w4\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8u0f/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 2979, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 2979, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Pillow_President" }, { "content": "My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? \"She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!\"\n\n\n\nCan't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Prickly-Flower\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_5wfm151w\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). 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My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? "She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!"</p>\\n\\n<p></p>\\n\\n<p>Can't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) 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86	I am also looking at this and wondering if OP is codependent. His wife sounds toxic. I came to the realization of how messed up my childhood was when I started to think about the shit that happened to me happening to my daughter and I was like, “no fucking way.” It was an eye opener for me to think that I never would tolerate those things being done to my child when they were just my “normal.” This can be the beginning of a painful process that leads to better mental health and happiness. OP sticking up for his daughter here is most excellent and a start in the right direction.	ocx94s	IPetdogs4U	1,625,329,195	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "IPetdogs4U", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3b3aac4u", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I am also looking at this and wondering if OP is codependent. His wife sounds toxic. I came to the realization of how messed up my childhood was when I started to think about the shit that happened to me happening to my daughter and I was like, \u201cno fucking way.\u201d It was an eye opener for me to think that I never would tolerate those things being done to my child when they were just my \u201cnormal.\u201d This can be the beginning of a painful process that leads to better mental health and happiness. OP sticking up for his daughter here is most excellent and a start in the right direction.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I am also looking at this and wondering if OP is codependent. His wife sounds toxic. I came to the realization of how messed up my childhood was when I started to think about the shit that happened to me happening to my daughter and I was like, \u201cno fucking way.\u201d It was an eye opener for me to think that I never would tolerate those things being done to my child when they were just my \u201cnormal.\u201d This can be the beginning of a painful process that leads to better mental health and happiness. OP sticking up for his daughter here is most excellent and a start in the right direction.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329195.0, "created_utc": 1625329195.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xlex3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xlex3", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xgpt3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xlex3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Self_Reddicating", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3e96wieb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I was about to disagree with you, until I realized that this dude is posting here wondering if he screwed up. Either he's in a shit storm and needs some positive reinforcement to give him the strength to continue doing what's right ... or, he's codependent and genuinely can't tell if he should be taking this or not. I can honestly say that if this happened in my house, then the wife and I would have had it out well before it got to this point, so I feel like you're on to something with this codependency crap. I could grin and bear shitty situations with he best if them, but when my kids are being hurt and harmed, repeatedly, and their mom is enabling and participating in it? Fuck all that. Fuck all that right the fuck off.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I was about to disagree with you, until I realized that this dude is posting here wondering if he screwed up. Either he's in a shit storm and needs some positive reinforcement to give him the strength to continue doing what's right ... or, he's codependent and genuinely can't tell if he should be taking this or not. I can honestly say that if this happened in my house, then the wife and I would have had it out well before it got to this point, so I feel like you're on to something with this codependency crap. I could grin and bear shitty situations with he best if them, but when my kids are being hurt and harmed, repeatedly, and their mom is enabling and participating in it? Fuck all that. Fuck all that right the fuck off.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332261.0, "created_utc": 1625332261.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xrel4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xrel4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xlex3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xrel4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 35, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 35, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 40, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 40, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"anm313\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#57411c\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Enthusiast [7]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_g62le\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. 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87	If my spouse said this to my daughter or enabled someone who did, I’d be packing our bags already. Thanks goodness there’s one healthy adult in this scenario because that will make a world of difference to Zoey’s mental health later in life.	ocx94s	IPetdogs4U	1,625,329,613	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "IPetdogs4U", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3b3aac4u", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If my spouse said this to my daughter or enabled someone who did, I\u2019d be packing our bags already. Thanks goodness there\u2019s one healthy adult in this scenario because that will make a world of difference to Zoey\u2019s mental health later in life.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If my spouse said this to my daughter or enabled someone who did, I\u2019d be packing our bags already. Thanks goodness there\u2019s one healthy adult in this scenario because that will make a world of difference to Zoey\u2019s mental health later in life.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329613.0, "created_utc": 1625329613.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xm7lu", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xm7lu", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6gdo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xm7lu/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a \"defect\" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"0biterdicta\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#cd7a00\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"7b2737aa-f3f7-11e8-b8a0-0e56fc8ee910\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Judge, Jury, and Excretioner [383]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4kmo12\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a \\\"defect\\\" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a "defect" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316270.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316270.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyf27\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyf27\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyf27/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 17055, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 17055, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "0biterdicta" }, { "content": "Exactly! As a mother myself I cannot fathom how any mother would let someone treat their child like that, even if it is family. That would have bought them a one way ticket right out my front door. If your kid can't count on you to protect them, who can they count on? NTA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"WinterBee1\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_1i9zoiu\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Exactly! As a mother myself I cannot fathom how any mother would let someone treat their child like that, even if it is family. That would have bought them a one way ticket right out my front door. If your kid can't count on you to protect them, who can they count on? NTA\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Exactly! As a mother myself I cannot fathom how any mother would let someone treat their child like that, even if it is family. That would have bought them a one way ticket right out my front door. If your kid can't count on you to protect them, who can they count on? 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89	It totally baffles me how some families allow certain types of behaviour amongst themselves. How OP's wife tolerates her brother talking about her daughter like that or talking to her husband like that in HIS house! OP is offering a huge favour and service to this BIL, something other close family don't seem willing to do and yet he has the audacity to talk that way about him or his daughter...I don't understand sooo many people anymore, entitled assholes is a basic description for them. A child's room in their parent's house is THEIR safe space, it should be sacred and a place they know they can create their own boundaries, having a parent shit on that for the sake of her brother's feelings is depressing, this girl will grow to know mommy doesn't have her back or care about her feelings...at least Daddy (OP) has some common sense in this regard, fair play to that guy. Edit: spelling correction	ocx94s	Inside-Ostrich2888	1,625,322,949	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Inside-Ostrich2888", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8u3oyv9v", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It totally baffles me how some families allow certain types of behaviour amongst themselves. How OP's wife tolerates her brother talking about her daughter like that or talking to her husband like that in HIS house! \n\nOP is offering a huge favour and service to this BIL, something other close family don't seem willing to do and yet he has the audacity to talk that way about him or his daughter...I don't understand sooo many people anymore, entitled assholes is a basic description for them. \n\nA child's room in their parent's house is THEIR safe space, it should be sacred and a place they know they can create their own boundaries, having a parent shit on that for the sake of her brother's feelings is depressing, this girl will grow to know mommy doesn't have her back or care about her feelings...at least Daddy (OP) has some common sense in this regard, fair play to that guy.\n\nEdit: spelling correction", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It totally baffles me how some families allow certain types of behaviour amongst themselves. How OP's wife tolerates her brother talking about her daughter like that or talking to her husband like that in HIS house! </p>\n\n<p>OP is offering a huge favour and service to this BIL, something other close family don't seem willing to do and yet he has the audacity to talk that way about him or his daughter...I don't understand sooo many people anymore, entitled assholes is a basic description for them. </p>\n\n<p>A child's room in their parent's house is THEIR safe space, it should be sacred and a place they know they can create their own boundaries, having a parent shit on that for the sake of her brother's feelings is depressing, this girl will grow to know mommy doesn't have her back or care about her feelings...at least Daddy (OP) has some common sense in this regard, fair play to that guy.</p>\n\n<p>Edit: spelling correction</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322949.0, "created_utc": 1625322949.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625326761.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x9mqz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x9mqz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyf27", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x9mqz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 205, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 205, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a \"defect\" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"0biterdicta\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#cd7a00\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"7b2737aa-f3f7-11e8-b8a0-0e56fc8ee910\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Judge, Jury, and Excretioner [383]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4kmo12\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a \\\"defect\\\" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a "defect" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316270.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316270.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyf27\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyf27\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyf27/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 17055, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 17055, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "0biterdicta" } ]	2	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
90	I can't understand that. I lived with a friend of mine and his wife for a few months and they have 2 young boys. I helped watch them, feed them, clean up there messes etc. Were they crazy and ran around and screamed? Of course they did they are toddlers. I would never call a kid defective while I'm staying in that person's home! Thats insanity I did use to refer to the youngest as "a little freaking gremlin" but in a loving way	ocx94s	Intoxicatedpunch	1,625,343,144	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Intoxicatedpunch", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4dkd5tdv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I can't understand that. I lived with a friend of mine and his wife for a few months and they have 2 young boys. I helped watch them, feed them, clean up there messes etc. Were they crazy and ran around and screamed? Of course they did they are toddlers.\n\nI would never call a kid defective while I'm staying in that person's home! Thats insanity\n\nI did use to refer to the youngest as \"a little freaking gremlin\" but in a loving way", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I can't understand that. I lived with a friend of mine and his wife for a few months and they have 2 young boys. I helped watch them, feed them, clean up there messes etc. Were they crazy and ran around and screamed? Of course they did they are toddlers.</p>\n\n<p>I would never call a kid defective while I'm staying in that person's home! Thats insanity</p>\n\n<p>I did use to refer to the youngest as "a little freaking gremlin" but in a loving way</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625343144.0, "created_utc": 1625343144.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yc79s", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yc79s", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xinhj", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yc79s/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Sourpatchtaby", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mjocrbs", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "See that I understand, I call him a little crazy monster. But I never understand how people could talk shit (for lack of a better word) to a child of any age. Toddlers a crazy and loud and just insane. You gotta know that going into living with someone lol", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>See that I understand, I call him a little crazy monster. But I never understand how people could talk shit (for lack of a better word) to a child of any age. Toddlers a crazy and loud and just insane. You gotta know that going into living with someone lol</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625345962.0, "created_utc": 1625345962.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yhhn4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yhhn4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3yc79s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yhhn4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a \"defect\" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"0biterdicta\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#cd7a00\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"7b2737aa-f3f7-11e8-b8a0-0e56fc8ee910\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Judge, Jury, and Excretioner [383]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4kmo12\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a \\\"defect\\\" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a "defect" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316270.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316270.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyf27\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyf27\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyf27/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 17055, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 17055, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "0biterdicta" }, { "content": "Exactly! As a mother myself I cannot fathom how any mother would let someone treat their child like that, even if it is family. That would have bought them a one way ticket right out my front door. If your kid can't count on you to protect them, who can they count on? 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If your kid can't count on you to protect them, who can they count on? NTA\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Exactly! As a mother myself I cannot fathom how any mother would let someone treat their child like that, even if it is family. That would have bought them a one way ticket right out my front door. If your kid can't count on you to protect them, who can they count on? NTA</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625321212.0, \"created_utc\": 1625321212.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x6gdo\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x6gdo\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyf27\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6gdo/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 5036, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 5036, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "WinterBee1" }, { "content": "As a parent I know I can't stop the world from saying bad things about my children. It breaks my heart but to a certain extent you have to allow it to happen so they learn how to overcome it without being destroyed. \n\nBut the idea of not only giving that person a home but defending them then attacking the character of the only person on their side is appalling me. Mom gets no slack cut from me on this one. She should be ashamed of herself. Good on OP.\n\nNTA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NakedAndALaid\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#8f7312\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Certified Proctologist [27]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4n7xgbq1\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"As a parent I know I can't stop the world from saying bad things about my children. It breaks my heart but to a certain extent you have to allow it to happen so they learn how to overcome it without being destroyed. \\n\\nBut the idea of not only giving that person a home but defending them then attacking the character of the only person on their side is appalling me. Mom gets no slack cut from me on this one. She should be ashamed of herself. Good on OP.\\n\\nNTA\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>As a parent I know I can't stop the world from saying bad things about my children. It breaks my heart but to a certain extent you have to allow it to happen so they learn how to overcome it without being destroyed. </p>\\n\\n<p>But the idea of not only giving that person a home but defending them then <em>attacking</em> the character of the only person on their side is appalling me. Mom gets no slack cut from me on this one. She should be ashamed of herself. 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And he said my 3 year old was \"Damion\" and \"defective\" because he was running around like a mad man playing. I very quickly got upset and told him not to ever call my son anything but his name ever again or he'd be living under a bridge.\n\nYou're right, as a parent you can't stop people from saying hurtful things, you can't protect them from everything, but I can protect him in his own home, and make sure the people around him who \"care\" aren't filling his head with garbage like that. Being a parent is tough but I couldn't imagine not sticking up for my own kids.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Sourpatchtaby\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_2mjocrbs\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I have someone living with me, a very close friend. And he said my 3 year old was \\\"Damion\\\" and \\\"defective\\\" because he was running around like a mad man playing. I very quickly got upset and told him not to ever call my son anything but his name ever again or he'd be living under a bridge.\\n\\nYou're right, as a parent you can't stop people from saying hurtful things, you can't protect them from everything, but I can protect him in his own home, and make sure the people around him who \\\"care\\\" aren't filling his head with garbage like that. Being a parent is tough but I couldn't imagine not sticking up for my own kids.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I have someone living with me, a very close friend. And he said my 3 year old was "Damion" and "defective" because he was running around like a mad man playing. I very quickly got upset and told him not to ever call my son anything but his name ever again or he'd be living under a bridge.</p>\\n\\n<p>You're right, as a parent you can't stop people from saying hurtful things, you can't protect them from everything, but I can protect him in his own home, and make sure the people around him who "care" aren't filling his head with garbage like that. Being a parent is tough but I couldn't imagine not sticking up for my own kids.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625327761.0, \"created_utc\": 1625327761.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3xinhj\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3xinhj\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3xchim\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xinhj/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 773, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 773, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "Sourpatchtaby" } ]	5	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
91	I have no idea why people think this is a good idea	ocx94s	JadeGrapes	1,625,344,810	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "JadeGrapes", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [6]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_33j9ftyp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I have no idea why people think this is a good idea", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I have no idea why people think this is a good idea</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625344810.0, "created_utc": 1625344810.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yfc1c", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yfc1c", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xvc4j", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yfc1c/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. 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I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Pillow_President\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_c01n43d8\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. 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Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Smolfrend\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_5m71g9rq\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. 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My parents took my door of the hinges when I was like 15 and it only made me angrier, which lead to me being even more rebellious, it wasn’t a good mix haha.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"TickleMonster528\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_464xj4ro\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"So true, it definitely puts a kink in a teens emotional growth. My parents took my door of the hinges when I was like 15 and it only made me angrier, which lead to me being even more rebellious, it wasn\\u2019t a good mix haha.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>So true, it definitely puts a kink in a teens emotional growth. 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92	Agreed... testers that are open to the aisle are chocked full of plague and leprosy until proven otherwise. TIL some people are testing them on their FACE. I always do the back of the hand. If literally never occurred to me someone put it on their eyes.	ocx94s	JadeGrapes	1,625,345,300	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "JadeGrapes", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [6]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_33j9ftyp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Agreed... testers that are open to the aisle are chocked full of plague and leprosy until proven otherwise.\n\nTIL some people are testing them on their FACE. I always do the back of the hand. If literally never occurred to me someone put it on their eyes.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Agreed... testers that are open to the aisle are chocked full of plague and leprosy until proven otherwise.</p>\n\n<p>TIL some people are testing them on their FACE. I always do the back of the hand. If literally never occurred to me someone put it on their eyes.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625345300.0, "created_utc": 1625345300.0, "depth": 8, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yg8zi", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yg8zi", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xuy1i", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yg8zi/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 18, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 18, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. 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It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. 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It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \\\"defective\\\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\\n\\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in hll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\\n\\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. 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93	Plus sharing makeup is so unsanitary. That goes on my face, I don’t want someone else also using it on theirs. So gross. Plus if the colors were mixed she was definitely double dipping. I think cousins owe her at least a new makeup pallet. NTA	ocx94s	JaxandMia	1,625,326,375	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "JaxandMia", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1nhnzbuw", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Plus sharing makeup is so unsanitary. That goes on my face, I don\u2019t want someone else also using it on theirs. So gross. Plus if the colors were mixed she was definitely double dipping. I think cousins owe her at least a new makeup pallet. NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Plus sharing makeup is so unsanitary. That goes on my face, I don\u2019t want someone else also using it on theirs. So gross. Plus if the colors were mixed she was definitely double dipping. I think cousins owe her at least a new makeup pallet. 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She shouldn't have used it to begin with but either way Sloan's getting more than a good compromise here, she'll essentially have paid $60 and gotten a $60 makeup set so should have no reason to complain. But definitely needs to apologize and stay out of her stuff.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>and heck if she buys a new one for Zoey she might as well just keep the one she used, and then she won't have a reason to go using someone else's makeup again, and no makeup will be wasted. She shouldn't have used it to begin with but either way Sloan's getting more than a good compromise here, she'll essentially have paid $60 and gotten a $60 makeup set so should have no reason to complain. But definitely needs to apologize and stay out of her stuff.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332426.0, "created_utc": 1625332426.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625345500.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xrq8z", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xrq8z", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xg0hw", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xrq8z/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 20, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 20, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Full_Key7756", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c6alkdzg", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I wonder what would happen if darling twins went dipping into AH mother's makeup instead....and whoops! ...someone forgot to tell the twin property liberators that AH mom had a world class case of pinkeye or herpes....", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I wonder what would happen if darling twins went dipping into AH mother's makeup instead....and whoops! ...someone forgot to tell the twin property liberators that AH mom had a world class case of pinkeye or herpes....</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338747.0, "created_utc": 1625338747.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y3t6b", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y3t6b", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xg0hw", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y3t6b/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 267, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 267, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Featherymorons\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#735a17\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Aficionado [16]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_4oqinkad\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. Not.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I\\u2019m disgusted that her own mother isn\\u2019t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it\\u2019s what girls do, isn\\u2019t it? They love to borrow and use each other\\u2019s stuff. Without asking. 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94	These girls are 18? And are pissed that they can’t steal from their minor cousin anymore. I’d ask them not so kindly to gtfo your house if they cannot muster even the minimum of respect for your home and belongings	ocx94s	Jazzyfizzles18	1,625,321,729	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Jazzyfizzles18", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_cm7thl4s", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "These girls are 18? And are pissed that they can\u2019t steal from their minor cousin anymore. \nI\u2019d ask them not so kindly to gtfo your house if they cannot muster even the minimum of respect for your home and belongings", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>These girls are 18? And are pissed that they can\u2019t steal from their minor cousin anymore. \nI\u2019d ask them not so kindly to gtfo your house if they cannot muster even the minimum of respect for your home and belongings</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321729.0, "created_utc": 1625321729.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x7dyn", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x7dyn", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x7dyn/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625319958.0, \"created_utc\": 1625319958.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1625325018.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3x48ia\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": true, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3x48ia\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 5196, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 5196, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" } ]	3	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
95	It sounds like it’s time for your in-laws to find a new place to live. They are causing massive disruption to your family and refuse to not act like spoiled brats.	ocx94s	Jeb764	1,625,321,431	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Jeb764", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3szph1w1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It sounds like it\u2019s time for your in-laws to find a new place to live. They are causing massive disruption to your family and refuse to not act like spoiled brats.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It sounds like it\u2019s time for your in-laws to find a new place to live. They are causing massive disruption to your family and refuse to not act like spoiled brats.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321431.0, "created_utc": 1625321431.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6uip", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6uip", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6uip/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 47, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 47, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. 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Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. 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96	Seriously I was just thinking that this sounds like low key bullying. Just enough bullying that the “adults” don’t notice. The fact that your wife is going along with it it awful.	ocx94s	Jeb764	1,625,322,963	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Jeb764", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3szph1w1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Seriously I was just thinking that this sounds like low key bullying. Just enough bullying that the \u201cadults\u201d don\u2019t notice. The fact that your wife is going along with it it awful.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Seriously I was just thinking that this sounds like low key bullying. Just enough bullying that the \u201cadults\u201d don\u2019t notice. The fact that your wife is going along with it it awful.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322963.0, "created_utc": 1625322963.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x9nn1", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x9nn1", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x4214", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x9nn1/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Splatterfilm", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_mld4z", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Nothing low key about it.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Nothing low key about it.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324113.0, "created_utc": 1625324113.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xbrgx", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xbrgx", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x9nn1", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xbrgx/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 188, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 188, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ccmitch84", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3066wvn4", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Her brother probably bullied her her whole life & she just rolls over and takes it. The twin apples probably didn't fall far from the tree.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Her brother probably bullied her her whole life & she just rolls over and takes it. The twin apples probably didn't fall far from the tree.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328025.0, "created_utc": 1625328025.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xj5pe", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xj5pe", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x9nn1", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xj5pe/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 24, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 24, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If the adults don't notice, it's because they willfully don't want to or are completely stupid. I'm going with the former.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If the adults don't notice, it's because they willfully don't want to or are completely stupid. I'm going with the former.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625344525.0, "created_utc": 1625344525.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yessx", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yessx", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x9nn1", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yessx/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 8, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 8, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 388, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 388, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA\n\nYour daughter doesn’t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \n\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"amyhenderson_\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7ni0ll7\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA\\n\\nYour daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \\n\\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA</p>\\n\\n<p>Your daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. </p>\\n\\n<p>Good for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316126.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316126.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wy7le\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wy7le\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wy7le/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 8672, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 8672, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "amyhenderson_" }, { "content": "They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey’s BED screams of malice.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Splatterfilm\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_mld4z\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. Mixing and destroying a new palette and leaving it on Zoey\\u2019s BED screams of malice.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>They are 18; this is 100% vindictive. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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99	NTA - please for the love of god Keep the lock and keep standing with you daughter	ocx94s	JudgeJed100	1,625,316,904	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "JudgeJed100", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#e3be04", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "e899ca7e-a710-11e9-8365-0e193c0f4a16", "author_flair_text": "Professor Emeritass [83]", "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_7uubthnd", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA - please for the love of god\n\nKeep the lock and keep standing with you daughter", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA - please for the love of god</p>\n\n<p>Keep the lock and keep standing with you daughter</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316904.0, "created_utc": 1625316904.0, "depth": 0, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3wzc47", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wzc47", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wzc47/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 154, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 154, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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100	I don't get how anyone could be upset about someone having a lock for their own room. The only reason to be upset is if they are stealing or taking advantage of her in some way, nothing about that is right.	ocx94s	JuicyJay	1,625,333,967	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "JuicyJay", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4udu2", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I don't get how anyone could be upset about someone having a lock for their own room. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA\n\nYour daughter doesn’t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \n\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"amyhenderson_\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7ni0ll7\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA\\n\\nYour daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. \\n\\nGood for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA</p>\\n\\n<p>Your daughter doesn\\u2019t feel like she has any privacy or respect in her own home and you gave her a lock to give her back her privacy. You tried talking to your wife, your BiL and your nieces and that got you nowhere - if your daughter has to accept 3 additional adults living in her home, they need to accept her very reasonable boundaries of not taking and ruining her things. </p>\\n\\n<p>Good for you showing your daughter you respect and support her.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316126.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316126.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wy7le\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wy7le\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wy7le/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 8672, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 8672, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "amyhenderson_" } ]	2	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
101	I’d be telling Sammy and the entitled twins that if they don’t like the house rules, they are more than welcome to go somewhere else. Oh that’s right, no one else will take them. I’d also let your wife know she’s welcome to go with them if she doesn’t stop being a hypocritical cow	ocx94s	KatLikeTendencies	1,625,321,346	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "KatLikeTendencies", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_hc913", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I\u2019d be telling Sammy and the entitled twins that if they don\u2019t like the house rules, they are more than welcome to go somewhere else. Oh that\u2019s right, no one else will take them. \n\n\nI\u2019d also let your wife know she\u2019s welcome to go with them if she doesn\u2019t stop being a hypocritical cow", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I\u2019d be telling Sammy and the entitled twins that if they don\u2019t like the house rules, they are more than welcome to go somewhere else. Oh that\u2019s right, no one else will take them. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019d also let your wife know she\u2019s welcome to go with them if she doesn\u2019t stop being a hypocritical cow</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321346.0, "created_utc": 1625321346.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6ozm", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6ozm", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6ozm/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "jinxrn1975", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8p9q66sy", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Omg, I was looking for this comment. I'd tell them to get out and take OP's wife with them. She's a huge part of the problem.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Omg, I was looking for this comment. I'd tell them to get out and take OP's wife with them. She's a huge part of the problem.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323922.0, "created_utc": 1625323922.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xbexp", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xbexp", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6ozm", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xbexp/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 36, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 36, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 117, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 117, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. 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Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. 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102	NTA. Good for you for standing up for your daughter. The lock should stay. There would be no need for it except that the girls are thieves. The adult girls should pay your daughter back for the makeup. She saved for it. They stole it. Time for the rest of the family to take a turn at helping BIL out.	ocx94s	Knitsanity	1,625,316,474	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Knitsanity", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ab8c0e", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "fe8bfb56-f967-11e8-aad8-0e2a3f932fc0", "author_flair_text": "Colo-rectal Surgeon [49]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9rzh9zta", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA.\n\nGood for you for standing up for your daughter. The lock should stay. There would be no need for it except that the girls are thieves.\n\nThe adult girls should pay your daughter back for the makeup. She saved for it. They stole it. \n\n\nTime for the rest of the family to take a turn at helping BIL out.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA.</p>\n\n<p>Good for you for standing up for your daughter. The lock should stay. There would be no need for it except that the girls are thieves.</p>\n\n<p>The adult girls should pay your daughter back for the makeup. She saved for it. They stole it. </p>\n\n<p>Time for the rest of the family to take a turn at helping BIL out.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316474.0, "created_utc": 1625316474.0, "depth": 0, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3wypsr", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wypsr", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wypsr/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "VeryStickyPastry", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [14]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4ros1uu", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "100% demand repayment for the makeup.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>100% demand repayment for the makeup.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320839.0, "created_utc": 1625320839.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x5rtg", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5rtg", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wypsr", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5rtg/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Ridara", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2by8yytp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No wal-mart shit either. I've never worn makeup a day in my life and even I can tell you there's a difference between MAC and drugstore brands.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No wal-mart shit either. I've never worn makeup a day in my life and even I can tell you there's a difference between MAC and drugstore brands.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330068.0, "created_utc": 1625330068.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xn2o3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xn2o3", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5rtg", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xn2o3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "VeryStickyPastry", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [14]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4ros1uu", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yes. Replace the exact same palette they destroyed.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yes. Replace the exact same palette they destroyed.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330270.0, "created_utc": 1625330270.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xngq5", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xngq5", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xn2o3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xngq5/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 28, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 28, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 44, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 44, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 239, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 239, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "btchassbarkinassbtch", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_a17ev06w", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Time for BIL and his two adult kids to get a damn job", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Time for BIL and his two adult kids to get a damn job</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331736.0, "created_utc": 1625331736.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xqdbs", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xqdbs", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wypsr", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xqdbs/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 594, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 594, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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103	NTA at all for putting a lock on the door. Something is seriously wrong with the cousins and those excusing them from taking your daughter's things. I have two sisters. We were teenagers at the same time for a few years. None of us 'borrowed' something from another without asking. It would never even occur to us and is not normal teenage girl behavior.	ocx94s	Kris82868	1,625,316,245	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Kris82868", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#dd9900", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "91f5b732-f8a6-11e8-9be0-0e9cbded19c2", "author_flair_text": "Commander in Cheeks [227]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2r2kqbsx", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA at all for putting a lock on the door. Something is seriously wrong with the cousins and those excusing them from taking your daughter's things. I have two sisters. We were teenagers at the same time for a few years. None of us 'borrowed' something from another without asking. It would never even occur to us and is not normal teenage girl behavior.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA at all for putting a lock on the door. Something is seriously wrong with the cousins and those excusing them from taking your daughter's things. I have two sisters. We were teenagers at the same time for a few years. None of us 'borrowed' something from another without asking. It would never even occur to us and is not normal teenage girl behavior.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316245.0, "created_utc": 1625316245.0, "depth": 0, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625319607.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3wydsn", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wydsn", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wydsn/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 61, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 61, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" } ]	1	No persona (persona_history_length=0)
104	More likely this was what was accepted in her childhood home and she is now facing dealing with it again and she is trying to be the fixer and keep the angry person pacified. She knows her husband and daughter are not going to hurt her but it's pretty obvious how her brother and his children behave. OP mentions her placing a lot of importance on privacy but being uncomfortable with the lock on her daughter's door. I think the mother is caught between a healthier adult life and a more abusive childhood and having her brother there is causing her to revert to old habits. I think the brother is likely far more abusive than OP is aware.	ocx94s	LMR0509	1,625,343,212	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LMR0509", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_38r2e3m7", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "More likely this was what was accepted in her childhood home and she is now facing dealing with it again and she is trying to be the fixer and keep the angry person pacified. She knows her husband and daughter are not going to hurt her but it's pretty obvious how her brother and his children behave. OP mentions her placing a lot of importance on privacy but being uncomfortable with the lock on her daughter's door. I think the mother is caught between a healthier adult life and a more abusive childhood and having her brother there is causing her to revert to old habits. I think the brother is likely far more abusive than OP is aware.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>More likely this was what was accepted in her childhood home and she is now facing dealing with it again and she is trying to be the fixer and keep the angry person pacified. She knows her husband and daughter are not going to hurt her but it's pretty obvious how her brother and his children behave. OP mentions her placing a lot of importance on privacy but being uncomfortable with the lock on her daughter's door. I think the mother is caught between a healthier adult life and a more abusive childhood and having her brother there is causing her to revert to old habits. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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105	You did the right thing with the lock. You opened your home to these people and they are disrespecting you and your child. I’m sorry your wife is not on your side, but your first obligation is to protect your daughter and your home, valuables and all. It was a $60 makeup kit this time, next time it will be worse. The cousins are not your daughters and you don’t owe any of them the right to take, use, and destroy any of your family’s belongings. Hopefully they will take the hint and leave as soon as possible. But you did nothing wrong and I hope eventually your wife will understand that. NTA.	ocx94s	LaLa_Land543	1,625,316,382	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LaLa_Land543", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_7wkj5yr1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You did the right thing with the lock. You opened your home to these people and they are disrespecting you and your child. I\u2019m sorry your wife is not on your side, but your first obligation is to protect your daughter and your home, valuables and all. It was a $60 makeup kit this time, next time it will be worse. \n\nThe cousins are not your daughters and you don\u2019t owe any of them the right to take, use, and destroy any of your family\u2019s belongings. Hopefully they will take the hint and leave as soon as possible. But you did nothing wrong and I hope eventually your wife will understand that. \n\nNTA.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You did the right thing with the lock. You opened your home to these people and they are disrespecting you and your child. I\u2019m sorry your wife is not on your side, but your first obligation is to protect your daughter and your home, valuables and all. It was a $60 makeup kit this time, next time it will be worse. </p>\n\n<p>The cousins are not your daughters and you don\u2019t owe any of them the right to take, use, and destroy any of your family\u2019s belongings. Hopefully they will take the hint and leave as soon as possible. But you did nothing wrong and I hope eventually your wife will understand that. </p>\n\n<p>NTA.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316382.0, "created_utc": 1625316382.0, "depth": 0, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3wyl0e", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyl0e", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyl0e/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Effective_Put_7604", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_k4573je", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "They had previously stolen a school laptop, according to the post. I would consider that far, far worse. Presumably, it got returned.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>They had previously stolen a school laptop, according to the post. I would consider that far, far worse. Presumably, it got returned.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323956.0, "created_utc": 1625323956.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xbh3i", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xbh3i", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyl0e", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xbh3i/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LaLa_Land543", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_7wkj5yr1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t see that part at the time of my post. My judgment goes doubly, then. OP is not on the wrong.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t see that part at the time of my post. My judgment goes doubly, then. OP is not on the wrong.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324992.0, "created_utc": 1625324992.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xdegr", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xdegr", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xbh3i", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xdegr/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 30, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 30, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 293, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 293, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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106	I didn’t see that part at the time of my post. My judgment goes doubly, then. OP is not on the wrong.	ocx94s	LaLa_Land543	1,625,324,992	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LaLa_Land543", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_7wkj5yr1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t see that part at the time of my post. My judgment goes doubly, then. OP is not on the wrong.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t see that part at the time of my post. My judgment goes doubly, then. OP is not on the wrong.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324992.0, "created_utc": 1625324992.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xdegr", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xdegr", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xbh3i", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xdegr/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "You did the right thing with the lock. You opened your home to these people and they are disrespecting you and your child. I’m sorry your wife is not on your side, but your first obligation is to protect your daughter and your home, valuables and all. It was a $60 makeup kit this time, next time it will be worse. \n\nThe cousins are not your daughters and you don’t owe any of them the right to take, use, and destroy any of your family’s belongings. Hopefully they will take the hint and leave as soon as possible. But you did nothing wrong and I hope eventually your wife will understand that. \n\nNTA.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"LaLa_Land543\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [1]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_7wkj5yr1\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You did the right thing with the lock. You opened your home to these people and they are disrespecting you and your child. I\\u2019m sorry your wife is not on your side, but your first obligation is to protect your daughter and your home, valuables and all. It was a $60 makeup kit this time, next time it will be worse. \\n\\nThe cousins are not your daughters and you don\\u2019t owe any of them the right to take, use, and destroy any of your family\\u2019s belongings. Hopefully they will take the hint and leave as soon as possible. But you did nothing wrong and I hope eventually your wife will understand that. \\n\\nNTA.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>You did the right thing with the lock. You opened your home to these people and they are disrespecting you and your child. I\\u2019m sorry your wife is not on your side, but your first obligation is to protect your daughter and your home, valuables and all. It was a $60 makeup kit this time, next time it will be worse. </p>\\n\\n<p>The cousins are not your daughters and you don\\u2019t owe any of them the right to take, use, and destroy any of your family\\u2019s belongings. Hopefully they will take the hint and leave as soon as possible. But you did nothing wrong and I hope eventually your wife will understand that. </p>\\n\\n<p>NTA.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316382.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316382.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyl0e\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyl0e\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyl0e/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 293, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 293, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "LaLa_Land543" }, { "content": "They had previously stolen a school laptop, according to the post. I would consider that far, far worse. Presumably, it got returned.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Effective_Put_7604\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#57411c\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Enthusiast [7]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_k4573je\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"They had previously stolen a school laptop, according to the post. I would consider that far, far worse. Presumably, it got returned.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>They had previously stolen a school laptop, according to the post. I would consider that far, far worse. 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107	It sounds like she's cut from the same cloth as her brother and his brats.	ocx94s	LadyReika	1,625,325,076	{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LadyReika", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [2]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_f26f50", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It sounds like she's cut from the same cloth as her brother and his brats.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It sounds like she's cut from the same cloth as her brother and his brats.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325076.0, "created_utc": 1625325076.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xdk6m", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xdk6m", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x9aq7", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xdk6m/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I know. I\u2019m hoping that this is simply a matter of falling into old habits from childhood and that she can be reasoned with if she thinks she is being abusive.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I know. I\u2019m hoping that this is simply a matter of falling into old habits from childhood and that she can be reasoned with if she thinks she is being abusive.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326715.0, "created_utc": 1625326715.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xgnxe", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xgnxe", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdk6m", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xgnxe/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 68, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 68, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "drongo_congo", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c4e6z9fh", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This is the kind of thing that starts to end a marriage. Op is going to start to see the little things his wife does that bug him are not changeable because her whole side of the family is like this. Some things you can\u2019t unsee bro.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This is the kind of thing that starts to end a marriage. Op is going to start to see the little things his wife does that bug him are not changeable because her whole side of the family is like this. Some things you can\u2019t unsee bro.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332919.0, "created_utc": 1625332919.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xsoph", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xsoph", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdk6m", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xsoph/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 31, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 31, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MrsMayhem17", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bmc8ozx3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It really is amazing that OPs daughter turned out so well with a mother like this. Hopefully this is some kind of mental break on her part and she hasn\u2019t always been this abusive towards her own daughter.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It really is amazing that OPs daughter turned out so well with a mother like this. Hopefully this is some kind of mental break on her part and she hasn\u2019t always been this abusive towards her own daughter.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625343656.0, "created_utc": 1625343656.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yd5ts", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yd5ts", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdk6m", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yd5ts/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 197, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 197, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"reaction": 1.0}}}	[ { "content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1625315782.0, \"created_utc\": 1625315782.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 3, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"ocx94s\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": true, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 5237, \"num_crossposts\": 10, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 81020, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\\n\\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \\n\\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \\\"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\\\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \\\"defect\\\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\\n\\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \\\"spending time\\\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\\n\\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\\n\\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\\n\\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\\n\\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->\", \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": false, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": 24050251, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": \"top\", \"thread_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"thumbnail\": \"\", \"title\": \"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\", \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 81020, \"upvote_ratio\": 0.92, \"url\": \"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/\", \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": false, \"wls\": 7}", "role": "OnlyInQuebec9" }, { "content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"riblz11\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_m1enf\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\\n\\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\\n\\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1625316287.0, \"created_utc\": 1625316287.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 4, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"h3wyfzq\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_h3wyfzq\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_ocx94s\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 65566, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 65566, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}", "role": "riblz11" }, { "content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"OnlyInQuebec9\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_d32xujeo\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. 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Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"Special-Parsnip9057\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#57411c\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Asshole Enthusiast [9]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_6yuw2o8c\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. 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He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"loveisrespectS2\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": null, \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": null, \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_8cnm4vfp\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. 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