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I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.
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He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. 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Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625341363.0, "created_utc": 1625341363.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y8sc4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y8sc4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xk9hd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y8sc4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 43, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 43, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LuckOfTheDevil", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9v5r8m4s", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.",
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"content": "Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA",
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I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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She can stay there, too. Zoey's room wouldn't be the only one with a new lock.
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.",
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This whole situation makes me sick. u/OnlyInQuebec9 has way more patience than I ever could. I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some reason(s).
I personally would not only have a firm discussion with the BIL, but I would with his daughters as well. You DO NOT steal shit from anybody in this household without first asking permission to use it. PERIOD. Then present them with an ultimatum. If that makes them upset, good, facing repercussions for inexcusable actions is part of growing up and seeing as how they are now adults, they're falling behind as a result of poor parenting.
As harsh as that may sound, OP would actually be doing them a favor, because this sort of unfettered lack of respect for other people and their property won't just come to an end when they finally move out. It'll likely manifest itself in situations where people won't be so kind or forgiving of them—possibly even legal altercations.
It sounds like your BIL is setting himself up for a rough future and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.
I will say with utmost certainty (unless for some reason you're omitting crucial details) that you are absolutely NTA and should stand your ground. You are in the right here.
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I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some reason(s).\n\nI personally would not only have a firm discussion with the BIL, but I would with his daughters as well. You DO NOT steal shit from anybody in this household without first asking permission to use it. PERIOD. Then present them with an ultimatum. If that makes them upset, good, facing repercussions for inexcusable actions is part of growing up and seeing as how they are now adults, they're falling behind as a result of poor parenting.\n\nAs harsh as that may sound, OP would actually be doing them a favor, because this sort of unfettered lack of respect for other people and their property won't just come to an end when they finally move out. It'll likely manifest itself in situations where people won't be so kind or forgiving of them\u2014possibly even legal altercations.\n\nIt sounds like your BIL is setting himself up for a rough future and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.\n\nI will say with utmost certainty (unless for some reason you're omitting crucial details) that you are absolutely NTA and should stand your ground. You are in the right here.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This whole situation makes me sick. <a href=\"/u/OnlyInQuebec9\">u/OnlyInQuebec9</a> has way more patience than I ever could. I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some reason(s).</p>\n\n<p>I personally would not only have a firm discussion with the BIL, but I would with his daughters as well. You DO NOT steal shit from anybody in this household without first asking permission to use it. PERIOD. Then present them with an ultimatum. If that makes them upset, good, facing repercussions for inexcusable actions is part of growing up and seeing as how they are now adults, they're falling behind as a result of poor parenting.</p>\n\n<p>As harsh as that may sound, OP would actually be doing them a favor, because this sort of unfettered lack of respect for other people and their property won't just come to an end when they finally move out. It'll likely manifest itself in situations where people won't be so kind or forgiving of them\u2014possibly even legal altercations.</p>\n\n<p>It sounds like your BIL is setting himself up for a rough future and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.</p>\n\n<p>I will say with utmost certainty (unless for some reason you're omitting crucial details) that you are absolutely NTA and should stand your ground. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.",
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Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA
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He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328594.0, "created_utc": 1625328594.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xk9hd", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xk9hd", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xa0ow", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xk9hd/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Tortoiseshell007", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_35p9kog", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625341363.0, "created_utc": 1625341363.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y8sc4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y8sc4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xk9hd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y8sc4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 43, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 43, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LuckOfTheDevil", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9v5r8m4s", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339917.0, "created_utc": 1625339917.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y61dz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y61dz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xk9hd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y61dz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 41, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 41, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 273, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 273, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "woodwitchofthewest", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2zf82lmj", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And if OP's wife pitches a fit, she can go with them.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And if OP's wife pitches a fit, she can go with them.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331807.0, "created_utc": 1625331807.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xqiee", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xqiee", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xa0ow", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xqiee/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 49, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 49, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 200, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 200, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {"sentiment": "", "stance": "", "emotion": "", "content_type": "", "humor": "", "hostility": ""}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"": 1.0}}}
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.",
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Actually, if the wife has a problem with it she should move out with them. She is just as abusive as they are, and to her own daughter at that!
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.",
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You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.
Now her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.
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I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_submitter": true, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, "created_utc": 1625320392.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x501c", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x501c", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x501c/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "giantbrownguy", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ab8c0e", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "fe8bfb56-f967-11e8-aad8-0e2a3f932fc0", "author_flair_text": "Colo-rectal Surgeon [49]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5e601kif", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "u/OnlyInQuebec9 you need to tell your wife this!!! They are bullying her, they were bullying her to begin with and they (and your wife) are now gaslighting her. Your daughter has a right to feel safe in her own home and your wife is contributing to taking that away from her. NTA.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p><a href=\"/u/OnlyInQuebec9\">u/OnlyInQuebec9</a> you need to tell your wife this!!! They are bullying her, they were bullying her to begin with and they (and your wife) are now gaslighting her. Your daughter has a right to feel safe in her own home and your wife is contributing to taking that away from her. 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OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there\n\nThis is it. They are extremely disrespectful and hugely entitled to think they can waltz into OP's house and do whatever the hell they want?! Instead of being grateful for a shelter over their heads. Bil and daughters are all adults - they can all be kicked out for pulling this shit.\n\nAnd the wife?? Yikes. I have no advice there, she sounds like she'll eventually end up in r/justnomil.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>This is it. They are extremely disrespectful and hugely entitled to think they can waltz into OP's house and do whatever the hell they want?! Instead of being grateful for a shelter over their heads. Bil and daughters are all adults - they can all be kicked out for pulling this shit.</p>\n\n<p>And the wife?? Yikes. I have no advice there, she sounds like she'll eventually end up in <a href=\"/r/justnomil\">r/justnomil</a>.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323039.0, "created_utc": 1625323039.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x9spa", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x9spa", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x9spa/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "RogueDIL", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_10bv57", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "She\u2019s already in the r/JustNoSO camp.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>She\u2019s already in the <a href=\"/r/JustNoSO\">r/JustNoSO</a> camp.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324788.0, "created_utc": 1625324788.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xd0t7", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xd0t7", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x9spa", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xd0t7/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 292, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 292, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 885, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 885, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "HRHArgyll", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5n6vdgpn", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get\u2019em out. NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get\u2019em out. NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323158.0, "created_utc": 1625323158.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xa0ow", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xa0ow", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xa0ow/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "A_Magical_Potato", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_hrsoa", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328594.0, "created_utc": 1625328594.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xk9hd", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xk9hd", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xa0ow", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xk9hd/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Tortoiseshell007", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_35p9kog", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625341363.0, "created_utc": 1625341363.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y8sc4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y8sc4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xk9hd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y8sc4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 43, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 43, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LuckOfTheDevil", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9v5r8m4s", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339917.0, "created_utc": 1625339917.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y61dz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y61dz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xk9hd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y61dz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 41, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 41, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 273, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 273, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "woodwitchofthewest", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2zf82lmj", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And if OP's wife pitches a fit, she can go with them.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And if OP's wife pitches a fit, she can go with them.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331807.0, "created_utc": 1625331807.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xqiee", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xqiee", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xa0ow", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xqiee/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 49, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 49, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 200, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 200, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CobaltEchos", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1mkws6mf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Tell Zoey that not only does she have you, but the whole internet supports her!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Tell Zoey that not only does she have you, but the whole internet supports her!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330823.0, "created_utc": 1625330823.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xok3t", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xok3t", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xok3t/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 116, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 116, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "GoodWorms", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_iw3n128", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This whole situation makes me sick. u/OnlyInQuebec9 has way more patience than I ever could. I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some reason(s).\n\nI personally would not only have a firm discussion with the BIL, but I would with his daughters as well. You DO NOT steal shit from anybody in this household without first asking permission to use it. PERIOD. Then present them with an ultimatum. If that makes them upset, good, facing repercussions for inexcusable actions is part of growing up and seeing as how they are now adults, they're falling behind as a result of poor parenting.\n\nAs harsh as that may sound, OP would actually be doing them a favor, because this sort of unfettered lack of respect for other people and their property won't just come to an end when they finally move out. It'll likely manifest itself in situations where people won't be so kind or forgiving of them\u2014possibly even legal altercations.\n\nIt sounds like your BIL is setting himself up for a rough future and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.\n\nI will say with utmost certainty (unless for some reason you're omitting crucial details) that you are absolutely NTA and should stand your ground. You are in the right here.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This whole situation makes me sick. <a href=\"/u/OnlyInQuebec9\">u/OnlyInQuebec9</a> has way more patience than I ever could. I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some reason(s).</p>\n\n<p>I personally would not only have a firm discussion with the BIL, but I would with his daughters as well. You DO NOT steal shit from anybody in this household without first asking permission to use it. PERIOD. Then present them with an ultimatum. If that makes them upset, good, facing repercussions for inexcusable actions is part of growing up and seeing as how they are now adults, they're falling behind as a result of poor parenting.</p>\n\n<p>As harsh as that may sound, OP would actually be doing them a favor, because this sort of unfettered lack of respect for other people and their property won't just come to an end when they finally move out. It'll likely manifest itself in situations where people won't be so kind or forgiving of them\u2014possibly even legal altercations.</p>\n\n<p>It sounds like your BIL is setting himself up for a rough future and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.</p>\n\n<p>I will say with utmost certainty (unless for some reason you're omitting crucial details) that you are absolutely NTA and should stand your ground. You are in the right here.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331087.0, "created_utc": 1625331087.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625396446.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xp38q", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xp38q", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xp38q/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 47, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 47, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MrsMurphysCow", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5hgzjqeb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "\"...if your wife has a problem with that - she can drive them there.\"\n\nActually, if the wife has a problem with it she should move out with them. She is just as abusive as they are, and to her own daughter at that!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>"...if your wife has a problem with that - she can drive them there."</p>\n\n<p>Actually, if the wife has a problem with it she should move out with them. She is just as abusive as they are, and to her own daughter at that!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327428.0, "created_utc": 1625327428.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xi0i6", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xi0i6", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xi0i6/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 44, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 44, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "dogGirl666", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_igvqw", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "> Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home.\n\nThey are definitely DARVO-ing. Deny, Attack, Reverse,Victim, Offender. Typical abuser tactics. NTA btw", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>They are definitely DARVO-ing. Deny, Attack, Reverse,Victim, Offender. Typical abuser tactics. NTA btw</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625336117.0, "created_utc": 1625336117.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xyskr", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xyskr", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xyskr/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 20, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 20, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "BretTheShitmanFart69", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4dk4zcg3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339853.0, "created_utc": 1625339853.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y5x0n", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y5x0n", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y5x0n/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Thegrumbliestpuppy", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e1p71", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It's already too late, if they've gotten any mail it'd take months to force them out using the law. Luckily most people don't know that, and would just leave if OP/wife insisted.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It's already too late, if they've gotten any mail it'd take months to force them out using the law. Luckily most people don't know that, and would just leave if OP/wife insisted.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625347913.0, "created_utc": 1625347913.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yl337", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yl337", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3y5x0n", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yl337/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ChariotKoura", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9jqfk8ta", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "\"she can drive them there\"\n\nShe can stay there, too. Zoey's room wouldn't be the only one with a new lock.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>"she can drive them there"</p>\n\n<p>She can stay there, too. Zoey's room wouldn't be the only one with a new lock.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328293.0, "created_utc": 1625328293.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xjom1", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xjom1", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xjom1/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 21, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 21, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "WashedUpRiver", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4d75imnp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "OP should also round everyone up and warn them that Sammy's gone if he finds that lock tampered with at all. It might be a long shot, but I wouldn't trust the other adults in this situation given how opposed they were to the lock and it would probably be a good idea to get out in front of them and draw a line before anyone makes an attempt to go behind someone's back. Call me cynical, see a lot of irrational and misguided people in these stories, just throwing a play out.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>OP should also round everyone up and warn them that Sammy's gone if he finds that lock tampered with at all. It might be a long shot, but I wouldn't trust the other adults in this situation given how opposed they were to the lock and it would probably be a good idea to get out in front of them and draw a line before anyone makes an attempt to go behind someone's back. Call me cynical, see a lot of irrational and misguided people in these stories, just throwing a play out.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334898.0, "created_utc": 1625334898.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625335146.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xwigj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xwigj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xwigj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 21, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 21, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CeelaChathArrna", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1zzeofsa", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And stay with them", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And stay with them</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323510.0, "created_utc": 1625323510.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xanb1", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xanb1", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xanb1/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "bimmy2shoes", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5gbtgy5b", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I would take Sammy aside, personally, and tell him your intentions. You are NOT going to live in a hostile home, you are also NOT calling his daughters thieves and judging their character.\n\n\"I'm not going to tolerate you undermining me in front of my family. I get you're going through tough times right now and I am trying to be accommodating, but this is interfering with how I'm raising my child.\"\n\nLay out your expectations and stress that the development of your child supercedes everything else.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would take Sammy aside, personally, and tell him your intentions. You are NOT going to live in a hostile home, you are also NOT calling his daughters thieves and judging their character.</p>\n\n<p>"I'm not going to tolerate you undermining me in front of my family. I get you're going through tough times right now and I am trying to be accommodating, but this is interfering with how I'm raising my child."</p>\n\n<p>Lay out your expectations and stress that the development of your child supercedes everything else.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338583.0, "created_utc": 1625338583.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y3hrf", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y3hrf", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y3hrf/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8guv", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322655.0, "created_utc": 1625322655.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x93e9", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x93e9", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8guv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x93e9/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "EndlessWanderer316", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3wbx9tru", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My guess is that either the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want, or mom said no way because she is tired of their crap & is no longer legally obligated to house them anymore", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My guess is that either the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want, or mom said no way because she is tired of their crap & is no longer legally obligated to house them anymore</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326236.0, "created_utc": 1625326236.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xfr07", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xfr07", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x93e9", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xfr07/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Matriarch2020", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8ybflij0", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Or she just wants her make-up to herself.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Or she just wants her make-up to herself.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334524.0, "created_utc": 1625334524.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xvt60", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xvt60", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xfr07", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xvt60/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "EndlessWanderer316", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3wbx9tru", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Lol that too. OP should tell them to \u201cborrow\u201d wife\u2019s makeup since she feels so strongly about making these leeches happy", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Lol that too. OP should tell them to \u201cborrow\u201d wife\u2019s makeup since she feels so strongly about making these leeches happy</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625342490.0, "created_utc": 1625342490.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yay4s", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yay4s", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xvt60", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yay4s/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 77, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 77, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ridandelous", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_k4ju9sr", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This sounds familiar; my mom's friend got divorced bc her hubby was sleeping around and she got the house and custody of the kids. Well. Eventually, with weekends at dad's, they realized they could get away with a lot of bullshit. They eventually, one at a time, decided they wanted to run away to daddy's. Well, kids go there and realize that mac and cheese isn't a meal and the \"fun\" parent just didn't give a shit at all, not just about what they weren't supposed to be doing. He didn't care about them at all. And when he had them full time, he started to get temperamental with them and get frustrated easily because, let's face it, kids are a lot of work and he was still honeymooning with his new girl, who wants kids to ruin that??? They realized they hadn't had a proper meal in months and they weren't wanted or loved by daddy, so they realized their fuck up and went home. Eventually, I hope the twins realize they should've stayed with the \"more strict\" parent, because then maybe they could become decent adults.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This sounds familiar; my mom's friend got divorced bc her hubby was sleeping around and she got the house and custody of the kids. Well. Eventually, with weekends at dad's, they realized they could get away with a lot of bullshit. They eventually, one at a time, decided they wanted to run away to daddy's. Well, kids go there and realize that mac and cheese isn't a meal and the "fun" parent just didn't give a shit at all, not just about what they weren't supposed to be doing. He didn't care about them at all. And when he had them full time, he started to get temperamental with them and get frustrated easily because, let's face it, kids are a lot of work and he was still honeymooning with his new girl, who wants kids to ruin that??? They realized they hadn't had a proper meal in months and they weren't wanted or loved by daddy, so they realized their fuck up and went home. Eventually, I hope the twins realize they should've stayed with the "more strict" parent, because then maybe they could become decent adults.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625337457.0, "created_utc": 1625337457.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y1biu", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y1biu", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xfr07", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y1biu/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 24, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 24, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "shingdao", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8u0ku", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": ">...the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want...\n\nAnd very likely the same reason brother chose sister to move in with.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>...the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want...</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>And very likely the same reason brother chose sister to move in with.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625341263.0, "created_utc": 1625341263.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y8lm7", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y8lm7", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xfr07", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y8lm7/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 182, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 182, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey\u2019s Mom doesn\u2019t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey\u2019s Mom doesn\u2019t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322768.0, "created_utc": 1625322768.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x9aq7", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x9aq7", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x93e9", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x9aq7/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LadyReika", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [2]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_f26f50", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It sounds like she's cut from the same cloth as her brother and his brats.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It sounds like she's cut from the same cloth as her brother and his brats.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325076.0, "created_utc": 1625325076.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xdk6m", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xdk6m", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x9aq7", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xdk6m/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I know. I\u2019m hoping that this is simply a matter of falling into old habits from childhood and that she can be reasoned with if she thinks she is being abusive.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I know. I\u2019m hoping that this is simply a matter of falling into old habits from childhood and that she can be reasoned with if she thinks she is being abusive.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326715.0, "created_utc": 1625326715.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xgnxe", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xgnxe", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdk6m", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xgnxe/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 68, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 68, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "drongo_congo", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c4e6z9fh", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This is the kind of thing that starts to end a marriage. Op is going to start to see the little things his wife does that bug him are not changeable because her whole side of the family is like this. Some things you can\u2019t unsee bro.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This is the kind of thing that starts to end a marriage. Op is going to start to see the little things his wife does that bug him are not changeable because her whole side of the family is like this. Some things you can\u2019t unsee bro.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332919.0, "created_utc": 1625332919.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xsoph", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xsoph", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdk6m", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xsoph/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 31, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 31, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MrsMayhem17", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bmc8ozx3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It really is amazing that OPs daughter turned out so well with a mother like this. Hopefully this is some kind of mental break on her part and she hasn\u2019t always been this abusive towards her own daughter.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It really is amazing that OPs daughter turned out so well with a mother like this. Hopefully this is some kind of mental break on her part and she hasn\u2019t always been this abusive towards her own daughter.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625343656.0, "created_utc": 1625343656.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yd5ts", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yd5ts", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdk6m", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yd5ts/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, 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false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Either Mom insisted on too many rules for their taste, or -- since they are 18 and no longer legally her responsibility -- she decided to be done with the little thieves.\n\n​\n\nThat is honestly the ONLY reasons I can think of why they would opt to live with their homeless father and be homeless themselves.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Either Mom insisted on too many rules for their taste, or -- since they are 18 and no longer legally her responsibility -- she decided to be done with the little thieves.</p>\n\n<p>​</p>\n\n<p>That is honestly the ONLY reasons I can think of why they would opt to live with their homeless father and be homeless themselves.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325080.0, "created_utc": 1625325080.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xdkf8", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xdkf8", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8guv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xdkf8/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Foreign_Astronaut", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [4]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1llbeu07", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Oh, no!! I missed that they're 18. I thought they were 12 or 13, because that's how they act. They are straight-up bullying their younger cousin! I'd kick em out, too, if I were their mom.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Oh, no!! I missed that they're 18. I thought they were 12 or 13, because that's how they act. They are straight-up bullying their younger cousin! I'd kick em out, too, if I were their mom.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326397.0, "created_utc": 1625326397.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xg1yf", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xg1yf", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdkf8", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xg1yf/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 150, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 150, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I agree- and here\u2019s another reason- he lets them have whatever they want, even if it\u2019s not theirs. So why wouldn\u2019t they go with him? They pretty much have carte blanche to do what they want. So if they stick with him they get more stuff.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I agree- and here\u2019s another reason- he lets them have whatever they want, even if it\u2019s not theirs. So why wouldn\u2019t they go with him? They pretty much have carte blanche to do what they want. So if they stick with him they get more stuff.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326881.0, "created_utc": 1625326881.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xgz4s", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xgz4s", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdkf8", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xgz4s/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Effective_Put_7604", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_k4573je", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Hard to have stuff when you're homeless and couch surfing.\n\n​\n\nWhich is why they're stealing from their cousin.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Hard to have stuff when you're homeless and couch surfing.</p>\n\n<p>​</p>\n\n<p>Which is why they're stealing from their cousin.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327049.0, "created_utc": 1625327049.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xhaop", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhaop", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xgz4s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhaop/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly what I mean! They are acting like they have been deprived for a long time and have arrived at an Oasis. And don\u2019t care who they hurt.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly what I mean! They are acting like they have been deprived for a long time and have arrived at an Oasis. And don\u2019t care who they hurt.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330764.0, "created_utc": 1625330764.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xofu8", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xofu8", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhaop", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xofu8/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 20, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 20, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 31, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 31, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 222, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 222, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LaylaBird65", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6a4crjrl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Agreed. I wonder if his sister is scared of him and is or has been intimidated by him.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Agreed. I wonder if his sister is scared of him and is or has been intimidated by him.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330488.0, "created_utc": 1625330488.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xnw2y", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xnw2y", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8guv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xnw2y/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MrsMurphysCow", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5hgzjqeb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "The SIL probably was being abused just as much as Zoey is.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>The SIL probably was being abused just as much as Zoey is.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327493.0, "created_utc": 1625327493.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xi527", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xi527", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8guv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xi527/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly my thinking about falling into old childhood habits. Habits is not a great word for that, but whether it was good or bad it\u2019s the devil she knows and the only \u201cnormal\u201d she knows so that\u2019s why she probably isn\u2019t really seeing it for what it is. I hope OP will show her these replies.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly my thinking about falling into old childhood habits. Habits is not a great word for that, but whether it was good or bad it\u2019s the devil she knows and the only \u201cnormal\u201d she knows so that\u2019s why she probably isn\u2019t really seeing it for what it is. I hope OP will show her these replies.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329255.0, "created_utc": 1625329255.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xlj1f", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xlj1f", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xi527", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xlj1f/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 787, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 787, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Prestigious_Fruit267", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bmg9bu7u", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And they can take the wife with them", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And they can take the wife with them</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325112.0, "created_utc": 1625325112.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xdmof", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xdmof", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xdmof/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NoxTempus", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_cdtbr", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I\u2019d be booking into a marriage counseling for sure. That or drafting up a divorce. \n \nKids come first. That\u2019s the sacrifice you (are meant to) make when you have them. \nIt\u2019s not saving face with your family, tolerating your shitty brother, or enabling his shitty kids. \nIt\u2019s your kid\u2019s happiness and wellbeing. \n \nThis is the one point in a relationship I will never compromise on. I don\u2019t even want kids, but if I ever have any, they come first. \n \nBetween both parents I\u2019ve been second to drugs, alcohol, gambling, boyfriends, girlfriends, wives and family. \nI will never, ever put a child through that.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I\u2019d be booking into a marriage counseling for sure. That or drafting up a divorce. </p>\n\n<p>Kids come first. That\u2019s the sacrifice you (are meant to) make when you have them.<br/>\nIt\u2019s not saving face with your family, tolerating your shitty brother, or enabling his shitty kids.<br/>\nIt\u2019s your kid\u2019s happiness and wellbeing. </p>\n\n<p>This is the one point in a relationship I will never compromise on. I don\u2019t even want kids, but if I ever have any, they come first. </p>\n\n<p>Between both parents I\u2019ve been second to drugs, alcohol, gambling, boyfriends, girlfriends, wives and family.<br/>\nI will never, ever put a child through that.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625340883.0, "created_utc": 1625340883.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y7v5e", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y7v5e", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdmof", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y7v5e/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 16, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 16, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 59, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 59, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ranchojasper", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_wy7ya", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Seriously, every last one of them but OP and Zoey have a level of entitlement I literally can\u2019t even comprehend. \n\nThe most bizarre part for me is how they all seem to not know about this little thing called *KNOCKING ON DOORS*?!?!? As if having a lock means someone outside the room, like, has NO WAY to communicate that they\u2019d like to come in or speak to the person in the room?! Are they all fuckin **aliens**?! I mean what the actual fuck", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Seriously, every last one of them but OP and Zoey have a level of entitlement I literally can\u2019t even comprehend. </p>\n\n<p>The most bizarre part for me is how they all seem to not know about this little thing called <em>KNOCKING ON DOORS</em>?!?!? As if having a lock means someone outside the room, like, has NO WAY to communicate that they\u2019d like to come in or speak to the person in the room?! Are they all fuckin <strong>aliens</strong>?! I mean what the actual fuck</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329334.0, "created_utc": 1625329334.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xlogj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xlogj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xlogj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "HoodieGalore", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d03cv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Here's something else to consider: depending location and other variables, it may not be just that easy, and OP may have to legally evict BIL if things get contentious. This is a nightmare waiting to happen.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Here's something else to consider: depending location and other variables, it may not be just that easy, and OP may have to legally evict BIL if things get contentious. This is a nightmare waiting to happen.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333081.0, "created_utc": 1625333081.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xt01v", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xt01v", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xt01v/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Jengaleng422", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bytb2pd", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Sammy is about to bring down a second marriage, what a train wreck of a dude", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Sammy is about to bring down a second marriage, what a train wreck of a dude</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338227.0, "created_utc": 1625338227.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y2sxh", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y2sxh", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y2sxh/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 4275, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 4275, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "anm313", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_g62le", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320618.0, "created_utc": 1625320618.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625334538.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x5e7m", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5e7m", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5e7m/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "enameledkoi", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8edd2", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It makes me wonder if his wife\u2019s whole family is like this and her \u201cnormal meter\u201d is broken. Especially if her brother has done this to her their whole lives. Not an excuse, but maybe an explanation.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It makes me wonder if his wife\u2019s whole family is like this and her \u201cnormal meter\u201d is broken. Especially if her brother has done this to her their whole lives. Not an excuse, but maybe an explanation.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325385.0, "created_utc": 1625325385.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xe56o", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xe56o", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5e7m", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xe56o/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "nicannkay", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_l81it", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My family is made up of codependents and enablers and I do alright with myself until they are around but when I am around them having boundaries is out the door. They do not respect them or acknowledge them and they will bully me until I give them up. It could be 100% her family triggering this response in the wife. I had to go no contact with my mother and I can have a little involvement like in texts with my brother but it gets to where I have to walk away from even that much.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My family is made up of codependents and enablers and I do alright with myself until they are around but when I am around them having boundaries is out the door. They do not respect them or acknowledge them and they will bully me until I give them up. It could be 100% her family triggering this response in the wife. I had to go no contact with my mother and I can have a little involvement like in texts with my brother but it gets to where I have to walk away from even that much.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326743.0, "created_utc": 1625326743.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xgpt3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xgpt3", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xe56o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xgpt3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "IPetdogs4U", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3b3aac4u", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I am also looking at this and wondering if OP is codependent. His wife sounds toxic. I came to the realization of how messed up my childhood was when I started to think about the shit that happened to me happening to my daughter and I was like, \u201cno fucking way.\u201d It was an eye opener for me to think that I never would tolerate those things being done to my child when they were just my \u201cnormal.\u201d This can be the beginning of a painful process that leads to better mental health and happiness. OP sticking up for his daughter here is most excellent and a start in the right direction.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I am also looking at this and wondering if OP is codependent. His wife sounds toxic. I came to the realization of how messed up my childhood was when I started to think about the shit that happened to me happening to my daughter and I was like, \u201cno fucking way.\u201d It was an eye opener for me to think that I never would tolerate those things being done to my child when they were just my \u201cnormal.\u201d This can be the beginning of a painful process that leads to better mental health and happiness. OP sticking up for his daughter here is most excellent and a start in the right direction.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329195.0, "created_utc": 1625329195.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xlex3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xlex3", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xgpt3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xlex3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Self_Reddicating", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3e96wieb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I was about to disagree with you, until I realized that this dude is posting here wondering if he screwed up. Either he's in a shit storm and needs some positive reinforcement to give him the strength to continue doing what's right ... or, he's codependent and genuinely can't tell if he should be taking this or not. I can honestly say that if this happened in my house, then the wife and I would have had it out well before it got to this point, so I feel like you're on to something with this codependency crap. I could grin and bear shitty situations with he best if them, but when my kids are being hurt and harmed, repeatedly, and their mom is enabling and participating in it? Fuck all that. Fuck all that right the fuck off.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I was about to disagree with you, until I realized that this dude is posting here wondering if he screwed up. Either he's in a shit storm and needs some positive reinforcement to give him the strength to continue doing what's right ... or, he's codependent and genuinely can't tell if he should be taking this or not. I can honestly say that if this happened in my house, then the wife and I would have had it out well before it got to this point, so I feel like you're on to something with this codependency crap. I could grin and bear shitty situations with he best if them, but when my kids are being hurt and harmed, repeatedly, and their mom is enabling and participating in it? Fuck all that. Fuck all that right the fuck off.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332261.0, "created_utc": 1625332261.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xrel4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xrel4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xlex3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xrel4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 35, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 35, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 40, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 40, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 149, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 149, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 369, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 369, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "quippers", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_a1dh4", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This is fantastic advice.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This is fantastic advice.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321657.0, "created_utc": 1625321657.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x794x", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x794x", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5e7m", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x794x/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 83, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 83, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "magog12", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_15o6x9", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Hi I'd literally just like to repeat something you wrote as it's so important. Enforcing her personal boundaries gives her nothing to lose except bad relationships. NTA op, you are not just looking after your daughter short term, you are modelling useful behaviour to her later in life. Does your wife want your daughter to be someone that doesn't enforce her own boundaries? That the cousins or the brother in law, that even the mom doesn't understand is not relevant, they are not their boundaries. Your daughter has a reasonable boundary which can be harmlessly respected, that it hasn't been has made her hide her belongings and you to get a lock, that they still aren't is what is causing the ongoing drama. There would be no problem if the kids or the brother or your wife had at any point been like no, respect her boundary", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Hi I'd literally just like to repeat something you wrote as it's so important. Enforcing her personal boundaries gives her nothing to lose except bad relationships. NTA op, you are not just looking after your daughter short term, you are modelling useful behaviour to her later in life. Does your wife want your daughter to be someone that doesn't enforce her own boundaries? That the cousins or the brother in law, that even the mom doesn't understand is not relevant, they are not their boundaries. Your daughter has a reasonable boundary which can be harmlessly respected, that it hasn't been has made her hide her belongings and you to get a lock, that they still aren't is what is causing the ongoing drama. There would be no problem if the kids or the brother or your wife had at any point been like no, respect her boundary</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327820.0, "created_utc": 1625327820.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xirk5", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xirk5", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5e7m", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xirk5/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 23, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 23, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1213, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1213, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "awhiled", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c91j0", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If thats how they act towards your daughter for not wanting all her stuff stolen, they should go, it has been long enough.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If thats how they act towards your daughter for not wanting all her stuff stolen, they should go, it has been long enough.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320429.0, "created_utc": 1625320429.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x52cx", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x52cx", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x52cx/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 336, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 336, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Bun_Bunz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2n9mybaj", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Doing what's right is often the hardest thing. Keep at it. \n\nAlso, it may have been said elsewhere but sharing makeup, especially eye make up is a big no no. It can lead to infections or warts so that should be shut down immediately even between the sisters.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Doing what's right is often the hardest thing. Keep at it. </p>\n\n<p>Also, it may have been said elsewhere but sharing makeup, especially eye make up is a big no no. It can lead to infections or warts so that should be shut down immediately even between the sisters.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320542.0, "created_utc": 1625320542.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x59f4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x59f4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x59f4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "neverclearone", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_plqu1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly! Styes, pink eye and many more things are transferred between users of make up, also hair brushes with lice and such. It is not healthy. This is important and I agree that you should mention to your wife that her behavior is questionable not being on your daughters side. \n\n I would just have a talk with BIL and remind him he is in your home as a guest and he should be appreciative or you are going to have to part ways, Being disrespectful to you and your daughter by making a hostile environment in your own home is horrible behavior of grown adults. I would let him know and your wife that this is a deal breaker and if things don't change they will have to move out immediately, while reminding them it IS A TEMPORARY situation and they should be more concerned with working on getting their own place. Two 18 yr olds and an adult should all be working and able to afford an apartment of their own.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly! Styes, pink eye and many more things are transferred between users of make up, also hair brushes with lice and such. It is not healthy. This is important and I agree that you should mention to your wife that her behavior is questionable not being on your daughters side. </p>\n\n<p>I would just have a talk with BIL and remind him he is in your home as a guest and he should be appreciative or you are going to have to part ways, Being disrespectful to you and your daughter by making a hostile environment in your own home is horrible behavior of grown adults. I would let him know and your wife that this is a deal breaker and if things don't change they will have to move out immediately, while reminding them it IS A TEMPORARY situation and they should be more concerned with working on getting their own place. Two 18 yr olds and an adult should all be working and able to afford an apartment of their own.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325212.0, "created_utc": 1625325212.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xdtin", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xdtin", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x59f4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xdtin/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 70, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 70, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 224, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 224, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "VeryStickyPastry", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [14]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4ros1uu", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It\u2019s time to kick them out. They have no right to dictate ANYTHING in your home. If they want to use guilt and manipulation tactics they can do it in a hotel.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It\u2019s time to kick them out. They have no right to dictate ANYTHING in your home. If they want to use guilt and manipulation tactics they can do it in a hotel.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320572.0, "created_utc": 1625320572.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x5b9q", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5b9q", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5b9q/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "lastdazeofgravity", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_10310p", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "i have a feeling he is going to need to call the police to get them out...", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>i have a feeling he is going to need to call the police to get them out...</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333019.0, "created_utc": 1625333019.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xsvob", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xsvob", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5b9q", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xsvob/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 199, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 199, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NCKALA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ab8c0e", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "fe8bfb56-f967-11e8-aad8-0e2a3f932fc0", "author_flair_text": "Colo-rectal Surgeon [30]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_681ftsvi", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If they are eating w/o you, are they buying their own food? Or your food? Coz I'd sit down and set some limits on what these freeloaders should be funding to live in your home. Hey, everyone shares, right? Dang, I think I'd sit right down and grab a plate and start eating whatever they made. This is ridiculous, OP, I hate it for you. You are being SO used :(", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If they are eating w/o you, are they buying their own food? Or your food? Coz I'd sit down and set some limits on what these freeloaders should be funding to live in your home. Hey, everyone shares, right? Dang, I think I'd sit right down and grab a plate and start eating whatever they made. This is ridiculous, OP, I hate it for you. You are being SO used :(</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320822.0, "created_utc": 1625320822.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x5qs2", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5qs2", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5qs2/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "doubt they are buying thier own food, probably uses the wife to do it. If they are living with OP for free, i dont think they spend money on food, if its food is cheaps stuff like fast food.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>doubt they are buying thier own food, probably uses the wife to do it. If they are living with OP for free, i dont think they spend money on food, if its food is cheaps stuff like fast food.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625336468.0, "created_utc": 1625336468.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xzg9x", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xzg9x", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5qs2", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xzg9x/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 193, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 193, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ICWhatsNUrP", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#e3be04", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "e899ca7e-a710-11e9-8365-0e193c0f4a16", "author_flair_text": "Professor Emeritass [96]", "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e9qln5g", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Tell your enabling wife and BiL that borrowing stuff requires asking permission first. Simply walking in and taking is theft. Then walk in to their room and permanently borrow the $60 to buy your daughter a replacement set of makeup. Give the ruined set to the cousins.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Tell your enabling wife and BiL that borrowing stuff requires asking permission first. Simply walking in and taking is theft. Then walk in to their room and permanently borrow the $60 to buy your daughter a replacement set of makeup. Give the ruined set to the cousins.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321259.0, "created_utc": 1625321259.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6jfm", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6jfm", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6jfm/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "littlegingerfae", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1hwudea8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Throw the ruined palette in the TRASH. The cousins should NOT profit off of their theft!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Throw the ruined palette in the TRASH. The cousins should NOT profit off of their theft!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327567.0, "created_utc": 1625327567.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xia2y", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xia2y", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6jfm", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xia2y/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "cbcfan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4yvpz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "They don't want it. They used her makeup as a power move.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>They don't want it. They used her makeup as a power move.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338620.0, "created_utc": 1625338620.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y3kat", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y3kat", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xia2y", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y3kat/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 177, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 177, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Auroraburst", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ab8c0e", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "fe8bfb56-f967-11e8-aad8-0e2a3f932fc0", "author_flair_text": "Colo-rectal Surgeon [31]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_730i00yc", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320739.0, "created_utc": 1625320739.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x5lp3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5lp3", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5lp3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "littlegreenapples", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ld39bb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Well they're twins so I'm pretty sure they're both 18. \ud83d\ude06", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Well they're twins so I'm pretty sure they're both 18. \ud83d\ude06</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321130.0, "created_utc": 1625321130.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6b09", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6b09", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5lp3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6b09/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Auroraburst", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ab8c0e", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "fe8bfb56-f967-11e8-aad8-0e2a3f932fc0", "author_flair_text": "Colo-rectal Surgeon [31]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_730i00yc", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Whoops i missed that bit!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Whoops i missed that bit!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321354.0, "created_utc": 1625321354.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6piw", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6piw", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6b09", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6piw/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "littlegreenapples", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ld39bb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I figured, it just made me giggle a lot!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I figured, it just made me giggle a lot!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321775.0, "created_utc": 1625321775.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, 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"subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 24, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 58, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 58, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 177, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 177, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LobotomyxGirl", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4rd7t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320614.0, "created_utc": 1625320614.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625322491.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x5dzn", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5dzn", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5dzn/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "sixtytwosixtyseven", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_z3qqg", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "she'll remember which parent took her seriously and protected her during the divorce too.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>she'll remember which parent took her seriously and protected her during the divorce too.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323817.0, "created_utc": 1625323817.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xb7uv", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xb7uv", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5dzn", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xb7uv/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CountVonTroll", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3xhz9", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "That's why I though, too -- took BIL 10 months to achieve first results on his path to ruin marriage #2.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>That's why I though, too -- took BIL 10 months to achieve first results on his path to ruin marriage #2.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339493.0, "created_utc": 1625339493.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y58cp", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y58cp", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xb7uv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y58cp/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Dadbotany", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5rro1qn1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Oooh very true. This could 100% end their marriage. Its a very serious issue and it seems like its simmering right now. Whatever next step OP takes is a risk. If his wife stays on her brothers side, thats it, marriage over. No parent who cares about their child should back down against abusers.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Oooh very true. This could 100% end their marriage. Its a very serious issue and it seems like its simmering right now. Whatever next step OP takes is a risk. If his wife stays on her brothers side, thats it, marriage over. No parent who cares about their child should back down against abusers.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625342300.0, "created_utc": 1625342300.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yaktk", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yaktk", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3y58cp", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yaktk/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 20, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 20, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MrsMayhem17", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bmc8ozx3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If this was happening at my house, that\u2019s exactly where it would be heading. Child abuse will never be something I accept from my husband.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If this was happening at my house, that\u2019s exactly where it would be heading. Child abuse will never be something I accept from my husband.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625343807.0, "created_utc": 1625343807.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ydg12", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ydg12", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xb7uv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ydg12/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 245, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 245, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "space_keeper", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_fnwmk", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "By the sounds of it, it's about the only positive thing going on. Poor girl probably feels like an alien in her own house.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>By the sounds of it, it's about the only positive thing going on. Poor girl probably feels like an alien in her own house.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330464.0, "created_utc": 1625330464.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xnud5", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xnud5", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5dzn", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xnud5/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 18, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 18, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Contrariwisey", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_aaru7yir", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yes, THIS!!!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yes, THIS!!!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321897.0, "created_utc": 1625321897.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x7oy9", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x7oy9", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5dzn", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x7oy9/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 39, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 39, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 499, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 499, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "vimse85", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5kd0thrw", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. So it's also a healthrisk to share make-up as well as the plain rudeness of taking stuff without permission.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. So it's also a healthrisk to share make-up as well as the plain rudeness of taking stuff without permission.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320632.0, "created_utc": 1625320632.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x5f0j", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5f0j", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5f0j/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Contrariwisey", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_aaru7yir", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Good point!! I don\u2019t share my makeup with anyone due to this.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Good point!! I don\u2019t share my makeup with anyone due to this.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321964.0, "created_utc": 1625321964.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x7thd", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x7thd", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5f0j", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x7thd/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 34, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 34, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "atked", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_y7iir", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Especially during a global panini", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Especially during a global panini</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324474.0, "created_utc": 1625324474.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xcfki", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcfki", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5f0j", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcfki/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 27, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 27, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CountVonTroll", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3xhz9", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And re: $15 set from Walmart:\n\nShe wanted to have this particular set, she set herself a goal, and she saved up for it. This wasn't just a makeup set to her, but something she had been looking forward to getting and that she had made sacrifices for. She must have been really happy when she brought it home, not because of the makeup, but because she had *achieved* something. \nTo save up for something bigger you're dreaming of is a really important experience, for learning how to manage your finances specifically and also in general. The lesson that someone can just ruin something that is important to you without even having it recognized as having been wronged was an experience she could have done without, but at least she learned that her dad has her back.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And re: $15 set from Walmart:</p>\n\n<p>She wanted to have this particular set, she set herself a goal, and she saved up for it. This wasn't just a makeup set to her, but something she had been looking forward to getting and that she had made sacrifices for. She must have been really happy when she brought it home, not because of the makeup, but because she had <em>achieved</em> something.<br/>\nTo save up for something bigger you're dreaming of is a really important experience, for learning how to manage your finances specifically and also in general. The lesson that someone can just ruin something that is important to you without even having it recognized as having been wronged was an experience she could have done without, but at least she learned that her dad has her back.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625340662.0, "created_utc": 1625340662.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y7g6a", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y7g6a", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5f0j", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y7g6a/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 8, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 8, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 154, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 154, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "walkonbi0207", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6iw82vhf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. \n\n18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. \n\nDo the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? \n\nI hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying \"this needs to be dealt with\", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn\u2019t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. \n\nThe biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. \n\nAnd silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. *Isn't wrong* and b. *Is protecting herself* is *exactly* what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. </p>\n\n<p>18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. </p>\n\n<p>Do the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? </p>\n\n<p>I hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying "this needs to be dealt with", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn\u2019t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. </p>\n\n<p>The biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. </p>\n\n<p>And silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. <em>Isn't wrong</em> and b. <em>Is protecting herself</em> is <em>exactly</em> what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321374.0, "created_utc": 1625321374.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6qtq", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6qtq", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6qtq/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "atked", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_y7iir", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS!!! I\u2019m sorry OP but these aren\u2019t house guests. They live with you now. Honestly it\u2019s a matter of time before the twins bring in a couple of useless boyfriends to live with you too.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS!!! I\u2019m sorry OP but these aren\u2019t house guests. They live with you now. Honestly it\u2019s a matter of time before the twins bring in a couple of useless boyfriends to live with you too.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324600.0, "created_utc": 1625324600.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xcnup", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcnup", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6qtq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcnup/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "beretbabe88", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5whr9", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And who will get them pregnant. Zooey will be expected to provide free babysitting of course. \nGet these deadbeats out of your house NOW.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And who will get them pregnant. Zooey will be expected to provide free babysitting of course. \nGet these deadbeats out of your house NOW.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625335285.0, "created_utc": 1625335285.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xx8t2", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xx8t2", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcnup", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xx8t2/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NoThyme4Raisins", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_40d3bkf6", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I have a friend who's father moved a co-workers whole family into their home and she immediately became a live in maid for every single person in that house.\n\nIts absolutely despicable to see and I'm no longer welcome there because as soon as I saw it happening I called them out for being the lazy assholes they were but she puts up with it cause she has nowhere else to go. \n\nOP has no idea just how much this will affect his daughter in her adult life, he needs to protect her with everything he's got right now.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I have a friend who's father moved a co-workers whole family into their home and she immediately became a live in maid for every single person in that house.</p>\n\n<p>Its absolutely despicable to see and I'm no longer welcome there because as soon as I saw it happening I called them out for being the lazy assholes they were but she puts up with it cause she has nowhere else to go. </p>\n\n<p>OP has no idea just how much this will affect his daughter in her adult life, he needs to protect her with everything he's got right now.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625342868.0, "created_utc": 1625342868.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ybo7i", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ybo7i", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xx8t2", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ybo7i/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 31, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 31, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 43, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": 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false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Rent and house rules. For all of them...I had actually suggested house rules for the girls and rent for the dad but by golly, you are RIGHT. 18 is old enough to get a job.\n\nEach one of them should be paying rent independently. Anyone who can't pay can be evicted.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Rent and house rules. For all of them...I had actually suggested house rules for the girls and rent for the dad but by golly, you are RIGHT. 18 is old enough to get a job.</p>\n\n<p>Each one of them should be paying rent independently. Anyone who can't pay can be evicted.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625335796.0, "created_utc": 1625335796.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xy7ap", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xy7ap", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6qtq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xy7ap/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "84unicorn", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_aolpn5tx", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": ">instead of staying with mom where they grew up.\n\nKinda wonder why they aren't staying there... Maybe Mom had rules against some of their shenanigans.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>instead of staying with mom where they grew up.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>Kinda wonder why they aren't staying there... Maybe Mom had rules against some of their shenanigans.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330390.0, "created_utc": 1625330390.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xnp7q", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xnp7q", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6qtq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xnp7q/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "WhatFreshHello", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_51jtsewo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You make an excellent point. The brother-in-law and his two poorly raised kids have successfully driven a wedge between OP and his wife. What\u2019s next? \n\nDollars to donuts they\u2019ve gotten a little *too* comfy and will keep stomping on any normal boundaries until you get fed up and leave \u201ctheir\u201d home. \n\nI\u2019d also encourage the OP to review the household finances, e.g. credit card statements and ATM withdrawals. It often happens that one partner is \u201cloaning\u201d money to their deadbeat sibling, or, as his daughters have no problem stealing, items of value may start disappearing from the home.\n\nCheck into your state\u2019s housing laws as well. After a certain period of time, OPs brother-in-law and adult kids may be viewed as tenants, and that\u2019s a whole other can of worms.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You make an excellent point. The brother-in-law and his two poorly raised kids have successfully driven a wedge between OP and his wife. What\u2019s next? </p>\n\n<p>Dollars to donuts they\u2019ve gotten a little <em>too</em> comfy and will keep stomping on any normal boundaries until you get fed up and leave \u201ctheir\u201d home. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019d also encourage the OP to review the household finances, e.g. credit card statements and ATM withdrawals. It often happens that one partner is \u201cloaning\u201d money to their deadbeat sibling, or, as his daughters have no problem stealing, items of value may start disappearing from the home.</p>\n\n<p>Check into your state\u2019s housing laws as well. After a certain period of time, OPs brother-in-law and adult kids may be viewed as tenants, and that\u2019s a whole other can of worms.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338976.0, "created_utc": 1625338976.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y492q", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y492q", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6qtq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y492q/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 449, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 449, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "madpeachiepie", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6e1aumcp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320533.0, "created_utc": 1625320533.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x58tz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x58tz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x58tz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ClothDiaperAddicts", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#c7a509", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "d5e9f50c-a710-11e9-895a-0ec19882c37a", "author_flair_text": "Pooperintendant [64]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bypah", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And the wife can go with them.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And the wife can go with them.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321279.0, "created_utc": 1625321279.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6kq5", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6kq5", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x58tz", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6kq5/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "rhet17", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1qo7jnu0", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Right? I seriously question why a person would side with their brother & his kids over their own child and husband. Something more is likely going on here for the wife to have more allegiance with her nieces than her own kid.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Right? I seriously question why a person would side with their brother & his kids over their own child and husband. Something more is likely going on here for the wife to have more allegiance with her nieces than her own kid.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325233.0, "created_utc": 1625325233.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xduwa", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xduwa", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6kq5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xduwa/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MrsMurphysCow", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5hgzjqeb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "What's going on is that now wife has \"permission\" to be as abusive as she likes. She's probably always leaned towards abuse, but with her brother there she has the support she needs to do whatever she wants to. And she wants to be abusive.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>What's going on is that now wife has "permission" to be as abusive as she likes. She's probably always leaned towards abuse, but with her brother there she has the support she needs to do whatever she wants to. And she wants to be abusive.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327704.0, "created_utc": 1625327704.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xije0", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xije0", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xduwa", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xije0/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LMR0509", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_38r2e3m7", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "More likely this was what was accepted in her childhood home and she is now facing dealing with it again and she is trying to be the fixer and keep the angry person pacified. She knows her husband and daughter are not going to hurt her but it's pretty obvious how her brother and his children behave. OP mentions her placing a lot of importance on privacy but being uncomfortable with the lock on her daughter's door. I think the mother is caught between a healthier adult life and a more abusive childhood and having her brother there is causing her to revert to old habits. I think the brother is likely far more abusive than OP is aware.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>More likely this was what was accepted in her childhood home and she is now facing dealing with it again and she is trying to be the fixer and keep the angry person pacified. She knows her husband and daughter are not going to hurt her but it's pretty obvious how her brother and his children behave. OP mentions her placing a lot of importance on privacy but being uncomfortable with the lock on her daughter's door. I think the mother is caught between a healthier adult life and a more abusive childhood and having her brother there is causing her to revert to old habits. I think the brother is likely far more abusive than OP is aware.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625343212.0, "created_utc": 1625343212.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3ycbsy", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3ycbsy", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xije0", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3ycbsy/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 18, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 18, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 63, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 63, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 138, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 138, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 181, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 181, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 396, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 396, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "jayd189", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_walnl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "At this point I'd be outright telling your BIL and nieces it's time to start respecting YOUR FAMILY in YOUR HOUSE or they have to leave.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>At this point I'd be outright telling your BIL and nieces it's time to start respecting YOUR FAMILY in YOUR HOUSE or they have to leave.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320537.0, "created_utc": 1625320537.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x593h", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x593h", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x593h/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ValDina", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3xe7fvuz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "While reminding them that NO ONE ELSE wanted to take them in.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>While reminding them that NO ONE ELSE wanted to take them in.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325803.0, "created_utc": 1625325803.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xexv9", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xexv9", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x593h", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xexv9/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 92, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 92, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 262, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 262, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "otterknowbeter", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_z76h4", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly, you should say this because in reality you have a wife problem and her actions nows can have long tearm impact on her relationship with Zoe. You guys aren't providing a united front on house rules. Your wife js dismissive of your daughters items and privacy in a way she wouldn't be with her own. She's the one letting the house guest manipulate the situation like there doing you a favor by teaching you lessons on sharing everything you own? The silent treatment really? Have you checked your bank accounts? Your housing them (alough the house didn't come with an extra wardrobe and makeup supplies to experiment with). This is a wife problem. Nex", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly, you should say this because in reality you have a wife problem and her actions nows can have long tearm impact on her relationship with Zoe. You guys aren't providing a united front on house rules. Your wife js dismissive of your daughters items and privacy in a way she wouldn't be with her own. She's the one letting the house guest manipulate the situation like there doing you a favor by teaching you lessons on sharing everything you own? The silent treatment really? Have you checked your bank accounts? Your housing them (alough the house didn't come with an extra wardrobe and makeup supplies to experiment with). This is a wife problem. Nex</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320951.0, "created_utc": 1625320951.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x5z4l", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5z4l", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5z4l/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 256, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 256, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Contrariwisey", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_aaru7yir", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA! You are in the right! Also 60$ makeup is VERY different from 15$ makeup from Walmart. Not even compatible quality. She\u2019s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things safe. Also, they aren\u2019t borrowing, they are outright stealing. To borrow, you have to ask for permission! Don\u2019t back down. Someone needs to be on your daughters side. Please don\u2019t let her down.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA! You are in the right! Also 60$ makeup is VERY different from 15$ makeup from Walmart. Not even compatible quality. She\u2019s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things safe. Also, they aren\u2019t borrowing, they are outright stealing. To borrow, you have to ask for permission! Don\u2019t back down. Someone needs to be on your daughters side. Please don\u2019t let her down.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321833.0, "created_utc": 1625321833.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x7kvi", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x7kvi", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x7kvi/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "84unicorn", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_aolpn5tx", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Agreed. When I read about the color blending ruining the make up, I was like... that had to have been pretty destructive, beyond just normal wear and tear that comes with application. It sounds like the cousins a maliciously ruining things and getting away with it. I hope OP is able to get this to stop.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Agreed. When I read about the color blending ruining the make up, I was like... that had to have been pretty destructive, beyond just normal wear and tear that comes with application. It sounds like the cousins a maliciously ruining things and getting away with it. I hope OP is able to get this to stop.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330535.0, "created_utc": 1625330535.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xnzav", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xnzav", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x7kvi", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xnzav/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 23, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 23, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AlanFromRochester", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_mzfy3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah part of the problem is someone not understanding a quality but expensive product is worth it", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah part of the problem is someone not understanding a quality but expensive product is worth it</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625344499.0, "created_utc": 1625344499.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yer1x", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yer1x", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x7kvi", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yer1x/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 122, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 122, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Seymour_Zamboni", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_oh4pu", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA....and this is crazy. These people, who you generously have allowed to live in your home, are sticking their nose into your parenting and acting in a deeply disrespectful way toward you and your daughter--making your home an uncomfortable place for you and daughter. And you wife is enabling them and not supporting her own family. What is the exit plan here for her brother? When he came to live with you 10 months ago, was there any talk about how long he would be staying? Because it sounds like he has overstayed his welcome. I think it is time to have a serious talk with your wife about your feelings on this. If she dismisses you, then I'm not sure what you can do....unless you are prepared to move out with your daughter until wife's brother is gone.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA....and this is crazy. These people, who you generously have allowed to live in your home, are sticking their nose into your parenting and acting in a deeply disrespectful way toward you and your daughter--making your home an uncomfortable place for you and daughter. And you wife is enabling them and not supporting her own family. What is the exit plan here for her brother? When he came to live with you 10 months ago, was there any talk about how long he would be staying? Because it sounds like he has overstayed his welcome. I think it is time to have a serious talk with your wife about your feelings on this. If she dismisses you, then I'm not sure what you can do....unless you are prepared to move out with your daughter until wife's brother is gone.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321085.0, "created_utc": 1625321085.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x681g", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x681g", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x681g/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 87, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 87, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "mer-shark", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4rru7rkb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Tell your wife that teaching and providing boundaries and privacy for your daughter now will give her a healthy baseline for the rest of her life. No joke, this is one of the most important things you will ever teach your daughter.\n\nInstead, Zoey's basically being taught that stealing from her is fine, she doesn't deserve to have anything of her own, people can barge in on her without her consent, and standing up for herself results in punishments. What if she has a toxic roommate or significant other someday? She won't be able to see mistreatment because that will be her normal.\n\nThe lock is giving Zoey protection and control over her own life. Keep the lock.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Tell your wife that teaching and providing boundaries and privacy for your daughter now will give her a healthy baseline for the rest of her life. No joke, this is one of the most important things you will ever teach your daughter.</p>\n\n<p>Instead, Zoey's basically being taught that stealing from her is fine, she doesn't deserve to have anything of her own, people can barge in on her without her consent, and standing up for herself results in punishments. What if she has a toxic roommate or significant other someday? She won't be able to see mistreatment because that will be her normal.</p>\n\n<p>The lock is giving Zoey protection and control over her own life. Keep the lock.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322534.0, "created_utc": 1625322534.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x8vav", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8vav", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8vav/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 79, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 79, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Remind your wife too, that her behavior is abusive towards your daughter. Removing her emotional support from her own child is abuse as well, especially when it is punishment for voicing her concerns about her privacy and her belongings.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Remind your wife too, that her behavior is abusive towards your daughter. Removing her emotional support from her own child is abuse as well, especially when it is punishment for voicing her concerns about her privacy and her belongings.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322220.0, "created_utc": 1625322220.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x8ar8", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8ar8", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8ar8/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 80, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 80, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Frejian", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5tzfv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Your wife and BIL are absolutely in the wrong here. There is something to be said about kids of a similar age borrowing things from each other. However, a key part of borrowing another person's belongings is asking that person for permission and if it is okay to use their things. At no point in this post did I see that the cousins were doing that. They were just taking her stuff to use as their own. That isn't borrowing anymore. That is stealing. It doesn't matter if they return it later, if they did not have permission from the owner, it is theft.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Your wife and BIL are absolutely in the wrong here. There is something to be said about kids of a similar age borrowing things from each other. However, a key part of borrowing another person's belongings is asking that person for permission and if it is okay to use their things. At no point in this post did I see that the cousins were doing that. They were just taking her stuff to use as their own. That isn't borrowing anymore. That is stealing. It doesn't matter if they return it later, if they did not have permission from the owner, it is theft.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321254.0, "created_utc": 1625321254.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6j1f", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6j1f", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6j1f/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 80, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 80, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Tarquinandpaliquin", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9gmtk221", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Zoey doesn't feel safe in her own house, your wife needs to realise that. If she wants the lock gone she needs to make sure Zoey can feel safe. And we know what that means. NTA\n\nZoey is 16 she's a human being with autonomy, not a toy for her cousins to play with as they wish. If she wants to hang out with them she can open the lock. Otherwise all they're missing is the chance to force themselves on her.\n\nedit: Spelled \"lock\" \"look\". Fixed it.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Zoey doesn't feel safe in her own house, your wife needs to realise that. If she wants the lock gone she needs to make sure Zoey can feel safe. And we know what that means. NTA</p>\n\n<p>Zoey is 16 she's a human being with autonomy, not a toy for her cousins to play with as they wish. If she wants to hang out with them she can open the lock. Otherwise all they're missing is the chance to force themselves on her.</p>\n\n<p>edit: Spelled "lock" "look". Fixed it.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322341.0, "created_utc": 1625322341.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625330349.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x8iqe", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8iqe", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8iqe/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 77, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 77, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Dreams-in-the-Rain", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3yq3yl4r", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": ">I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's how to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\n\nuh yeah Zoey isn't wrong to do that, she's just learnt the only lesson there is to learn from how her cousins are stealing from her and her mother and uncle are ok with that.\n\nIt is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife.\n\nSo yeah NTA for you and the silent treatment from her cousins and uncle doesn't sound like much of a punishment for Zoey. Sure beats them constantly stealing from her.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's how to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>uh yeah Zoey isn't wrong to do that, she's just learnt the only lesson there is to learn from how her cousins are stealing from her and her mother and uncle are ok with that.</p>\n\n<p>It is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife.</p>\n\n<p>So yeah NTA for you and the silent treatment from her cousins and uncle doesn't sound like much of a punishment for Zoey. Sure beats them constantly stealing from her.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322213.0, "created_utc": 1625322213.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x8aag", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8aag", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8aag/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Caddan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [2]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_dcjpw", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "> It is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife.\n\nBut but but but but faaaaamily! My sibling is more important!\n\n... \n... \n\nUgh, I need a shower after writing that.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>It is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>But but but but but faaaaamily! My sibling is more important!</p>\n\n<p>...<br/>\n... </p>\n\n<p>Ugh, I need a shower after writing that.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325328.0, "created_utc": 1625325328.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xe1ax", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xe1ax", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8aag", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xe1ax/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 79, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 79, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Let them be silent. Have Zoey mirror you walking right past them. I was a teenage girl and I've raised a family, and you must show your daughter that it's not her responsibility to bear others injustice against her. Zoey is her own person, not an extention of your wife and if she doesn't receive the respect she deserves in her own home, this will set up a lifetime of her subjugation to others if they are 'mean' to her in any capacity. You wanna watch this happen to her at college and in the corporate world? Of course not. Respect is earned and I'm embarrassed that her mother isn't standing up for her too. It's very sexist of her and her brother to hand you, \"teenage girls share things\". Bullshit! Walk right past them like they're not there. Gaslighting you both is cruel.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Let them be silent. Have Zoey mirror you walking right past them. I was a teenage girl and I've raised a family, and you must show your daughter that it's not her responsibility to bear others injustice against her. Zoey is her own person, not an extention of your wife and if she doesn't receive the respect she deserves in her own home, this will set up a lifetime of her subjugation to others if they are 'mean' to her in any capacity. You wanna watch this happen to her at college and in the corporate world? Of course not. Respect is earned and I'm embarrassed that her mother isn't standing up for her too. It's very sexist of her and her brother to hand you, "teenage girls share things". Bullshit! Walk right past them like they're not there. Gaslighting you both is cruel.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322204.0, "created_utc": 1625322204.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x89nz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x89nz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x89nz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 77, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 77, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TigerBelmont", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [14]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3mhfuoy5", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Why are these people still in your house? Your BIL cannot afford his own house and yet criticizes your parenting and tries to get around rules you have made in your own home. Your nieces are stealing and making your duaghter miserable in her own home.\n\nWhy are your nieces feeling prioritized in your home over your daughter?\n\nTell Sam if he doesn't like your rules in your house to find somewhere else to live.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Why are these people still in your house? Your BIL cannot afford his own house and yet criticizes your parenting and tries to get around rules you have made in your own home. Your nieces are stealing and making your duaghter miserable in her own home.</p>\n\n<p>Why are your nieces feeling prioritized in your home over your daughter?</p>\n\n<p>Tell Sam if he doesn't like your rules in your house to find somewhere else to live.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321933.0, "created_utc": 1625321933.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x7re3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x7re3", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x7re3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 69, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 69, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "lolcakeyy", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4f5s0lpp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Her cousins are ADULTS. They're 18. They're old enough to know better. There are very real consequences for adults who do shit like this. What are they going to do when they move out into their own apartment with a roommate and the roommate doesn't put up with that sh--? It sounds like you're teaching not one, but two lessons. You're teaching your daughter that her space and privacy is valued and disrespecting it won't be tolerated, and you're teaching her cousins that you cannot get away with taking things without people's permission (something that, clearly, they're own parents havent taught them.) \n\nOdd question: how does _their_ mom feel about this behavior?\n\nEditing for judgement: NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Her cousins are ADULTS. They're 18. They're old enough to know better. There are very real consequences for adults who do shit like this. What are they going to do when they move out into their own apartment with a roommate and the roommate doesn't put up with that sh--? It sounds like you're teaching not one, but two lessons. You're teaching your daughter that her space and privacy is valued and disrespecting it won't be tolerated, and you're teaching her cousins that you cannot get away with taking things without people's permission (something that, clearly, they're own parents havent taught them.) </p>\n\n<p>Odd question: how does <em>their</em> mom feel about this behavior?</p>\n\n<p>Editing for judgement: NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321360.0, "created_utc": 1625321360.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6px7", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6px7", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6px7/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 128, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 128, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Jeb764", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3szph1w1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It sounds like it\u2019s time for your in-laws to find a new place to live. They are causing massive disruption to your family and refuse to not act like spoiled brats.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It sounds like it\u2019s time for your in-laws to find a new place to live. They are causing massive disruption to your family and refuse to not act like spoiled brats.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321431.0, "created_utc": 1625321431.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6uip", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6uip", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6uip/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 47, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 47, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "cheesecake_croissant", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_b0yrt5z5", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Dude who tf acts this entitled?? I cannot fathom how somebody can be disrespectful towards people who are preventing you from being homeless. Those girls are a bully and what you did was right OP. I think you should talk to your daughters and let her know that she hasn't done anything wrong and all of them are being pricks.\n\nAlso 10 months??? I think its time your BIL finds a place to rent atleast and get out of your house", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Dude who tf acts this entitled?? I cannot fathom how somebody can be disrespectful towards people who are preventing you from being homeless. Those girls are a bully and what you did was right OP. I think you should talk to your daughters and let her know that she hasn't done anything wrong and all of them are being pricks.</p>\n\n<p>Also 10 months??? I think its time your BIL finds a place to rent atleast and get out of your house</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6v4j", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v4j", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v4j/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 45, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 45, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Ahblahright", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_kui0o", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Why is your wife valuing the comfort of her nieces over that of her own daughter? And that comment her brother made about your daughter having a defect... What in the holy fuck of a thing to say to someone who housed you after going homeless??", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Why is your wife valuing the comfort of her nieces over that of her own daughter? And that comment her brother made about your daughter having a defect... What in the holy fuck of a thing to say to someone who housed you after going homeless??</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321748.0, "created_utc": 1625321748.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625329062.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x7f5v", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x7f5v", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x7f5v/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 92, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 92, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Jhudson1525", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_xzigb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Your wife wants you to placate people who are treating you and your daughter as second class citizens in your own home. Has her FOO always come before you two?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Your wife wants you to placate people who are treating you and your daughter as second class citizens in your own home. Has her FOO always come before you two?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321004.0, "created_utc": 1625321004.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x62na", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x62na", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x62na/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 69, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 69, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Jazzyfizzles18", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_cm7thl4s", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "These girls are 18? And are pissed that they can\u2019t steal from their minor cousin anymore. \nI\u2019d ask them not so kindly to gtfo your house if they cannot muster even the minimum of respect for your home and belongings", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>These girls are 18? And are pissed that they can\u2019t steal from their minor cousin anymore. \nI\u2019d ask them not so kindly to gtfo your house if they cannot muster even the minimum of respect for your home and belongings</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321729.0, "created_utc": 1625321729.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x7dyn", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x7dyn", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x7dyn/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "KatLikeTendencies", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_hc913", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I\u2019d be telling Sammy and the entitled twins that if they don\u2019t like the house rules, they are more than welcome to go somewhere else. Oh that\u2019s right, no one else will take them. \n\n\nI\u2019d also let your wife know she\u2019s welcome to go with them if she doesn\u2019t stop being a hypocritical cow", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I\u2019d be telling Sammy and the entitled twins that if they don\u2019t like the house rules, they are more than welcome to go somewhere else. Oh that\u2019s right, no one else will take them. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019d also let your wife know she\u2019s welcome to go with them if she doesn\u2019t stop being a hypocritical cow</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321346.0, "created_utc": 1625321346.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6ozm", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6ozm", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6ozm/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "jinxrn1975", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8p9q66sy", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Omg, I was looking for this comment. I'd tell them to get out and take OP's wife with them. She's a huge part of the problem.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Omg, I was looking for this comment. I'd tell them to get out and take OP's wife with them. She's a huge part of the problem.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323922.0, "created_utc": 1625323922.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xbexp", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xbexp", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6ozm", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xbexp/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 36, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 36, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 117, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 117, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You should kick them out. They can't make you feel bad in your own home", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You should kick them out. They can't make you feel bad in your own home</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321568.0, "created_utc": 1625321568.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x73g6", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x73g6", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x73g6/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 23, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 23, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "beetleswing", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2xgbtgw8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Absolutely ridiculous. Having a lock on your room so you're entitled to some privacy doesn't give anyone the right to treat you poorly. This girls are just brats and want to \"borrow\" (and ruin, honestly) your daughters stuff without consequences. Your BIL and your wife are acting like these two basically adult women get to have say over what your own daughter finds acceptable. It's not cool, and they're acting like giant children. Tell your wife to stop putting her brother and his kids over your own, and to stop babying and spoiling them. Also honestly get them out of your house. They sound toxic as heck and they're making your wife toxic too.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely ridiculous. Having a lock on your room so you're entitled to some privacy doesn't give anyone the right to treat you poorly. This girls are just brats and want to "borrow" (and ruin, honestly) your daughters stuff without consequences. Your BIL and your wife are acting like these two basically adult women get to have say over what your own daughter finds acceptable. It's not cool, and they're acting like giant children. Tell your wife to stop putting her brother and his kids over your own, and to stop babying and spoiling them. Also honestly get them out of your house. They sound toxic as heck and they're making your wife toxic too.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323773.0, "created_utc": 1625323773.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xb4s7", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xb4s7", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xb4s7/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 16, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 16, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Mesapholis", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ffd700", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "d0f51afc-f510-11e8-a5da-0e4d9a1c42d6", "author_flair_text": "Supreme Court Just-ass [118]", "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_p01e5", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I'm sorry, I read your text twice and I still need to ask - is Zoe only your daughter? Like is your wife her step-mother? Because how can she watch her child be mishandled like this?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I'm sorry, I read your text twice and I still need to ask - is Zoe only your daughter? Like is your wife her step-mother? Because how can she watch her child be mishandled like this?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323709.0, "created_utc": 1625323709.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xb0i3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xb0i3", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xb0i3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "draksid", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_7mnib", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "2 18 year old ADULTS stealing from a 16 year old CHILD then punishing her for not \"sharing\" and being treated like garbage...", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>2 18 year old ADULTS stealing from a 16 year old CHILD then punishing her for not "sharing" and being treated like garbage...</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322831.0, "created_utc": 1625322831.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x9eww", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x9eww", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x9eww/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Crafty_Birdie", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_17a9lq", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This is some seriously toxic nasty behaviour.\n\nLack of respect for boundaries is something that we learn from parents - your wife as well as BIL both have issues here. I imagine neither of them were allowed boundaries as teenagers and children, hence the issues now. You on the other hand, have boundaries and understand the need. I have no suggestions as to how you move forward with this, but you are definitely NTA, and your wife\u2019s behaviour towards her own daughter is appealing.\n\nZoey needs solid reassurance from you that she is entitled to boundaries and that she has done nothing wrong.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This is some seriously toxic nasty behaviour.</p>\n\n<p>Lack of respect for boundaries is something that we learn from parents - your wife as well as BIL both have issues here. I imagine neither of them were allowed boundaries as teenagers and children, hence the issues now. You on the other hand, have boundaries and understand the need. I have no suggestions as to how you move forward with this, but you are definitely NTA, and your wife\u2019s behaviour towards her own daughter is appealing.</p>\n\n<p>Zoey needs solid reassurance from you that she is entitled to boundaries and that she has done nothing wrong.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323286.0, "created_utc": 1625323286.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xa8yb", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xa8yb", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xa8yb/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Ursula2071", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c9yii2zz", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You need to explain to your wife that she is completely disregarding Zoey\u2019s feelings and she is sending the message that her nieces and brother\u2019s feelings are more valid and important than her own daughter\u2019s. And since zoey is moving her stuff out already, mom is going to be shocked when she abandons all of you in 2 years. And I would not blame her. Her room should be 1005 off limits unless zoey gives them permission to be in there.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You need to explain to your wife that she is completely disregarding Zoey\u2019s feelings and she is sending the message that her nieces and brother\u2019s feelings are more valid and important than her own daughter\u2019s. And since zoey is moving her stuff out already, mom is going to be shocked when she abandons all of you in 2 years. And I would not blame her. Her room should be 1005 off limits unless zoey gives them permission to be in there.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322707.0, "created_utc": 1625322707.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x96r4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x96r4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x96r4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "bagelmanb", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [2]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_72eba", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "holy shit if some assholes were living in my house stealing my child's belongings, telling me my child is defective and I need to fix her, and then doing immature shit like giving the silent treatment, they would be out on the curb so fast...\n\nHuge NTA on this one", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>holy shit if some assholes were living in my house stealing my child's belongings, telling me my child is defective and I need to fix her, and then doing immature shit like giving the silent treatment, they would be out on the curb so fast...</p>\n\n<p>Huge NTA on this one</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323681.0, "created_utc": 1625323681.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xaym7", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xaym7", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xaym7/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 8, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 8, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "allyearswift", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_ahxfbiyd", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Very soon Zoey is going to move *herself* out. Your wife thinks her cousins should just be able to steal her stuff (sharing makeup is unhygienic, also, it was HERS) and refuses to take her own daughter\u2019s side? \n\nYou don\u2019t just have a BIL and cousin problem, you have a wife problem.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Very soon Zoey is going to move <em>herself</em> out. Your wife thinks her cousins should just be able to steal her stuff (sharing makeup is unhygienic, also, it was HERS) and refuses to take her own daughter\u2019s side? </p>\n\n<p>You don\u2019t just have a BIL and cousin problem, you have a wife problem.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324378.0, "created_utc": 1625324378.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xc945", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xc945", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xc945/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "jonpeeji", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_11ueiigm", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My dude something is really off here between you and your wife. WTF is she doing siding with her brother against her own family? Her daughter is being hurt and she is telling you and her to suck it up? BIL giving his opinion about how things should be done around your household?? No no and hell no. You sir need to pull yourself out of the moment and ask yourself what is going on here and what you would think if someone else was in this situation.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My dude something is really off here between you and your wife. WTF is she doing siding with her brother against her own family? Her daughter is being hurt and she is telling you and her to suck it up? BIL giving his opinion about how things should be done around your household?? No no and hell no. You sir need to pull yourself out of the moment and ask yourself what is going on here and what you would think if someone else was in this situation.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324791.0, "created_utc": 1625324791.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xd121", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xd121", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xd121/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ashwhenn", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3weht", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. But I\u2019m kinda just hijacking this comment to say - if buying a $15 Walmart make up kid is the solution for your daughter - who spent her own money on this pallet - why isn\u2019t he doing that for his daughters who clearly *need* make up if they\u2019re willing to steal for it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. But I\u2019m kinda just hijacking this comment to say - if buying a $15 Walmart make up kid is the solution for your daughter - who spent her own money on this pallet - why isn\u2019t he doing that for his daughters who clearly <em>need</em> make up if they\u2019re willing to steal for it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325441.0, "created_utc": 1625325441.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xe8yd", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xe8yd", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xe8yd/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 7, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 7, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {"sentiment": "", "stance": "", "emotion": "", "content_type": "", "humor": "", "hostility": ""}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"": 1.0}}}
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"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.",
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.",
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"content": ">Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there\n[...quoted text...]\n\nThis is it. They are extremely disrespectful and hugely entitled to think they can waltz into OP's house and do whatever the hell they want?! Instead of being grateful for a shelter over their heads. Bil and daughters are all adults - they can all be kicked out for pulling this shit.\n\nAnd the wife?? Yikes. I have no advice there, she sounds like she'll eventually end up in r/justnomil.",
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It's already too late, if they've gotten any mail it'd take months to force them out using the law. Luckily most people don't know that, and would just leave if OP/wife insisted.
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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"content": "I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself",
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Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.",
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"content": "I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.",
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Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.
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These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "giantbrownguy", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ab8c0e", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "fe8bfb56-f967-11e8-aad8-0e2a3f932fc0", "author_flair_text": "Colo-rectal Surgeon [49]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5e601kif", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "u/OnlyInQuebec9 you need to tell your wife this!!! They are bullying her, they were bullying her to begin with and they (and your wife) are now gaslighting her. Your daughter has a right to feel safe in her own home and your wife is contributing to taking that away from her. NTA.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p><a href=\"/u/OnlyInQuebec9\">u/OnlyInQuebec9</a> you need to tell your wife this!!! They are bullying her, they were bullying her to begin with and they (and your wife) are now gaslighting her. Your daughter has a right to feel safe in her own home and your wife is contributing to taking that away from her. NTA.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323053.0, "created_utc": 1625323053.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x9tn5", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x9tn5", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x9tn5/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1304, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1304, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": ">Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there\n\nThis is it. They are extremely disrespectful and hugely entitled to think they can waltz into OP's house and do whatever the hell they want?! Instead of being grateful for a shelter over their heads. Bil and daughters are all adults - they can all be kicked out for pulling this shit.\n\nAnd the wife?? Yikes. I have no advice there, she sounds like she'll eventually end up in r/justnomil.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>This is it. They are extremely disrespectful and hugely entitled to think they can waltz into OP's house and do whatever the hell they want?! Instead of being grateful for a shelter over their heads. Bil and daughters are all adults - they can all be kicked out for pulling this shit.</p>\n\n<p>And the wife?? Yikes. I have no advice there, she sounds like she'll eventually end up in <a href=\"/r/justnomil\">r/justnomil</a>.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323039.0, "created_utc": 1625323039.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x9spa", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x9spa", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x9spa/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "RogueDIL", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_10bv57", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "She\u2019s already in the r/JustNoSO camp.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>She\u2019s already in the <a href=\"/r/JustNoSO\">r/JustNoSO</a> camp.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324788.0, "created_utc": 1625324788.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xd0t7", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xd0t7", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x9spa", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xd0t7/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 292, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 292, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 885, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 885, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "HRHArgyll", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5n6vdgpn", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get\u2019em out. NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get\u2019em out. NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323158.0, "created_utc": 1625323158.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xa0ow", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xa0ow", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xa0ow/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "A_Magical_Potato", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_hrsoa", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328594.0, "created_utc": 1625328594.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xk9hd", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xk9hd", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xa0ow", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xk9hd/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Tortoiseshell007", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_35p9kog", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625341363.0, "created_utc": 1625341363.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y8sc4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y8sc4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xk9hd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y8sc4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 43, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 43, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LuckOfTheDevil", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9v5r8m4s", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339917.0, "created_utc": 1625339917.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y61dz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y61dz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xk9hd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y61dz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 41, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": 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"t2_2zf82lmj", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And if OP's wife pitches a fit, she can go with them.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And if OP's wife pitches a fit, she can go with them.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331807.0, "created_utc": 1625331807.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xqiee", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xqiee", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xa0ow", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xqiee/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 49, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 49, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 200, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 200, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CobaltEchos", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1mkws6mf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Tell Zoey that not only does she have you, but the whole internet supports her!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Tell Zoey that not only does she have you, but the whole internet supports her!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330823.0, "created_utc": 1625330823.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xok3t", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xok3t", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xok3t/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 116, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 116, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "GoodWorms", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_iw3n128", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This whole situation makes me sick. u/OnlyInQuebec9 has way more patience than I ever could. I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some reason(s).\n\nI personally would not only have a firm discussion with the BIL, but I would with his daughters as well. You DO NOT steal shit from anybody in this household without first asking permission to use it. PERIOD. Then present them with an ultimatum. If that makes them upset, good, facing repercussions for inexcusable actions is part of growing up and seeing as how they are now adults, they're falling behind as a result of poor parenting.\n\nAs harsh as that may sound, OP would actually be doing them a favor, because this sort of unfettered lack of respect for other people and their property won't just come to an end when they finally move out. It'll likely manifest itself in situations where people won't be so kind or forgiving of them\u2014possibly even legal altercations.\n\nIt sounds like your BIL is setting himself up for a rough future and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.\n\nI will say with utmost certainty (unless for some reason you're omitting crucial details) that you are absolutely NTA and should stand your ground. You are in the right here.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This whole situation makes me sick. <a href=\"/u/OnlyInQuebec9\">u/OnlyInQuebec9</a> has way more patience than I ever could. I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some reason(s).</p>\n\n<p>I personally would not only have a firm discussion with the BIL, but I would with his daughters as well. You DO NOT steal shit from anybody in this household without first asking permission to use it. PERIOD. Then present them with an ultimatum. If that makes them upset, good, facing repercussions for inexcusable actions is part of growing up and seeing as how they are now adults, they're falling behind as a result of poor parenting.</p>\n\n<p>As harsh as that may sound, OP would actually be doing them a favor, because this sort of unfettered lack of respect for other people and their property won't just come to an end when they finally move out. It'll likely manifest itself in situations where people won't be so kind or forgiving of them\u2014possibly even legal altercations.</p>\n\n<p>It sounds like your BIL is setting himself up for a rough future and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.</p>\n\n<p>I will say with utmost certainty (unless for some reason you're omitting crucial details) that you are absolutely NTA and should stand your ground. You are in the right here.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331087.0, "created_utc": 1625331087.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625396446.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xp38q", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xp38q", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xp38q/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 47, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 47, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MrsMurphysCow", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5hgzjqeb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "\"...if your wife has a problem with that - she can drive them there.\"\n\nActually, if the wife has a problem with it she should move out with them. She is just as abusive as they are, and to her own daughter at that!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>"...if your wife has a problem with that - she can drive them there."</p>\n\n<p>Actually, if the wife has a problem with it she should move out with them. She is just as abusive as they are, and to her own daughter at that!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327428.0, "created_utc": 1625327428.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xi0i6", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xi0i6", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xi0i6/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 44, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 44, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "dogGirl666", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_igvqw", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "> Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home.\n\nThey are definitely DARVO-ing. Deny, Attack, Reverse,Victim, Offender. Typical abuser tactics. NTA btw", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>They are definitely DARVO-ing. Deny, Attack, Reverse,Victim, Offender. Typical abuser tactics. NTA btw</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625336117.0, "created_utc": 1625336117.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xyskr", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xyskr", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xyskr/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 20, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 20, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "BretTheShitmanFart69", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4dk4zcg3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339853.0, "created_utc": 1625339853.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y5x0n", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y5x0n", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y5x0n/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Thegrumbliestpuppy", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e1p71", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It's already too late, if they've gotten any mail it'd take months to force them out using the law. Luckily most people don't know that, and would just leave if OP/wife insisted.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It's already too late, if they've gotten any mail it'd take months to force them out using the law. Luckily most people don't know that, and would just leave if OP/wife insisted.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625347913.0, "created_utc": 1625347913.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yl337", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yl337", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3y5x0n", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yl337/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ChariotKoura", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9jqfk8ta", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "\"she can drive them there\"\n\nShe can stay there, too. Zoey's room wouldn't be the only one with a new lock.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>"she can drive them there"</p>\n\n<p>She can stay there, too. Zoey's room wouldn't be the only one with a new lock.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328293.0, "created_utc": 1625328293.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xjom1", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xjom1", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xjom1/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 21, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 21, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "WashedUpRiver", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4d75imnp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "OP should also round everyone up and warn them that Sammy's gone if he finds that lock tampered with at all. It might be a long shot, but I wouldn't trust the other adults in this situation given how opposed they were to the lock and it would probably be a good idea to get out in front of them and draw a line before anyone makes an attempt to go behind someone's back. Call me cynical, see a lot of irrational and misguided people in these stories, just throwing a play out.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>OP should also round everyone up and warn them that Sammy's gone if he finds that lock tampered with at all. It might be a long shot, but I wouldn't trust the other adults in this situation given how opposed they were to the lock and it would probably be a good idea to get out in front of them and draw a line before anyone makes an attempt to go behind someone's back. Call me cynical, see a lot of irrational and misguided people in these stories, just throwing a play out.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334898.0, "created_utc": 1625334898.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625335146.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xwigj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xwigj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xwigj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 21, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 21, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CeelaChathArrna", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1zzeofsa", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And stay with them", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And stay with them</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323510.0, "created_utc": 1625323510.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xanb1", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xanb1", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xanb1/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "bimmy2shoes", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5gbtgy5b", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I would take Sammy aside, personally, and tell him your intentions. You are NOT going to live in a hostile home, you are also NOT calling his daughters thieves and judging their character.\n\n\"I'm not going to tolerate you undermining me in front of my family. I get you're going through tough times right now and I am trying to be accommodating, but this is interfering with how I'm raising my child.\"\n\nLay out your expectations and stress that the development of your child supercedes everything else.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would take Sammy aside, personally, and tell him your intentions. You are NOT going to live in a hostile home, you are also NOT calling his daughters thieves and judging their character.</p>\n\n<p>"I'm not going to tolerate you undermining me in front of my family. I get you're going through tough times right now and I am trying to be accommodating, but this is interfering with how I'm raising my child."</p>\n\n<p>Lay out your expectations and stress that the development of your child supercedes everything else.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338583.0, "created_utc": 1625338583.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y3hrf", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y3hrf", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y3hrf/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {"sentiment": "", "stance": "", "emotion": "", "content_type": "", "humor": "", "hostility": ""}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"": 1.0}}}
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"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.",
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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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> Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home.
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They are definitely DARVO-ing. Deny, Attack, Reverse,Victim, Offender. Typical abuser tactics. NTA btw
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.",
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u/OnlyInQuebec9 you need to tell your wife this!!! They are bullying her, they were bullying her to begin with and they (and your wife) are now gaslighting her. Your daughter has a right to feel safe in her own home and your wife is contributing to taking that away from her. NTA.
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.",
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WTF dang these people are entitled AF.
I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.
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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "giantbrownguy", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ab8c0e", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "fe8bfb56-f967-11e8-aad8-0e2a3f932fc0", "author_flair_text": "Colo-rectal Surgeon [49]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5e601kif", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "u/OnlyInQuebec9 you need to tell your wife this!!! They are bullying her, they were bullying her to begin with and they (and your wife) are now gaslighting her. Your daughter has a right to feel safe in her own home and your wife is contributing to taking that away from her. NTA.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p><a href=\"/u/OnlyInQuebec9\">u/OnlyInQuebec9</a> you need to tell your wife this!!! They are bullying her, they were bullying her to begin with and they (and your wife) are now gaslighting her. Your daughter has a right to feel safe in her own home and your wife is contributing to taking that away from her. NTA.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323053.0, "created_utc": 1625323053.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x9tn5", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x9tn5", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x9tn5/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1304, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1304, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": ">Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. 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Bil and daughters are all adults - they can all be kicked out for pulling this shit.</p>\n\n<p>And the wife?? Yikes. I have no advice there, she sounds like she'll eventually end up in <a href=\"/r/justnomil\">r/justnomil</a>.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323039.0, "created_utc": 1625323039.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x9spa", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x9spa", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x9spa/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "RogueDIL", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_10bv57", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "She\u2019s already in the r/JustNoSO camp.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>She\u2019s already in the <a href=\"/r/JustNoSO\">r/JustNoSO</a> camp.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324788.0, "created_utc": 1625324788.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xd0t7", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xd0t7", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x9spa", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xd0t7/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 292, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 292, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 885, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 885, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "HRHArgyll", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5n6vdgpn", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get\u2019em out. NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get\u2019em out. NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323158.0, "created_utc": 1625323158.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xa0ow", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xa0ow", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xa0ow/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "A_Magical_Potato", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_hrsoa", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328594.0, "created_utc": 1625328594.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xk9hd", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xk9hd", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xa0ow", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xk9hd/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Tortoiseshell007", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_35p9kog", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625341363.0, "created_utc": 1625341363.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y8sc4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y8sc4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xk9hd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y8sc4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 43, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 43, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LuckOfTheDevil", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9v5r8m4s", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339917.0, "created_utc": 1625339917.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y61dz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y61dz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xk9hd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y61dz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 41, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 41, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 273, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 273, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "woodwitchofthewest", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2zf82lmj", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And if OP's wife pitches a fit, she can go with them.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And if OP's wife pitches a fit, she can go with them.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331807.0, "created_utc": 1625331807.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xqiee", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xqiee", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xa0ow", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xqiee/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 49, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 49, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 200, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 200, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CobaltEchos", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1mkws6mf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Tell Zoey that not only does she have you, but the whole internet supports her!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Tell Zoey that not only does she have you, but the whole internet supports her!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330823.0, "created_utc": 1625330823.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xok3t", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xok3t", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xok3t/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 116, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 116, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "GoodWorms", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_iw3n128", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This whole situation makes me sick. u/OnlyInQuebec9 has way more patience than I ever could. I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some reason(s).\n\nI personally would not only have a firm discussion with the BIL, but I would with his daughters as well. You DO NOT steal shit from anybody in this household without first asking permission to use it. PERIOD. Then present them with an ultimatum. If that makes them upset, good, facing repercussions for inexcusable actions is part of growing up and seeing as how they are now adults, they're falling behind as a result of poor parenting.\n\nAs harsh as that may sound, OP would actually be doing them a favor, because this sort of unfettered lack of respect for other people and their property won't just come to an end when they finally move out. It'll likely manifest itself in situations where people won't be so kind or forgiving of them\u2014possibly even legal altercations.\n\nIt sounds like your BIL is setting himself up for a rough future and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.\n\nI will say with utmost certainty (unless for some reason you're omitting crucial details) that you are absolutely NTA and should stand your ground. You are in the right here.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This whole situation makes me sick. <a href=\"/u/OnlyInQuebec9\">u/OnlyInQuebec9</a> has way more patience than I ever could. I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some reason(s).</p>\n\n<p>I personally would not only have a firm discussion with the BIL, but I would with his daughters as well. You DO NOT steal shit from anybody in this household without first asking permission to use it. PERIOD. Then present them with an ultimatum. If that makes them upset, good, facing repercussions for inexcusable actions is part of growing up and seeing as how they are now adults, they're falling behind as a result of poor parenting.</p>\n\n<p>As harsh as that may sound, OP would actually be doing them a favor, because this sort of unfettered lack of respect for other people and their property won't just come to an end when they finally move out. It'll likely manifest itself in situations where people won't be so kind or forgiving of them\u2014possibly even legal altercations.</p>\n\n<p>It sounds like your BIL is setting himself up for a rough future and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.</p>\n\n<p>I will say with utmost certainty (unless for some reason you're omitting crucial details) that you are absolutely NTA and should stand your ground. You are in the right here.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331087.0, "created_utc": 1625331087.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625396446.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xp38q", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xp38q", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xp38q/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 47, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 47, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MrsMurphysCow", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5hgzjqeb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "\"...if your wife has a problem with that - she can drive them there.\"\n\nActually, if the wife has a problem with it she should move out with them. She is just as abusive as they are, and to her own daughter at that!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>"...if your wife has a problem with that - she can drive them there."</p>\n\n<p>Actually, if the wife has a problem with it she should move out with them. She is just as abusive as they are, and to her own daughter at that!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327428.0, "created_utc": 1625327428.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xi0i6", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xi0i6", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xi0i6/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 44, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 44, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "dogGirl666", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_igvqw", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "> Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home.\n\nThey are definitely DARVO-ing. Deny, Attack, Reverse,Victim, Offender. Typical abuser tactics. NTA btw", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>They are definitely DARVO-ing. Deny, Attack, Reverse,Victim, Offender. Typical abuser tactics. NTA btw</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625336117.0, "created_utc": 1625336117.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xyskr", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xyskr", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xyskr/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 20, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 20, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "BretTheShitmanFart69", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4dk4zcg3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339853.0, "created_utc": 1625339853.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y5x0n", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y5x0n", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y5x0n/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Thegrumbliestpuppy", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e1p71", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It's already too late, if they've gotten any mail it'd take months to force them out using the law. Luckily most people don't know that, and would just leave if OP/wife insisted.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It's already too late, if they've gotten any mail it'd take months to force them out using the law. Luckily most people don't know that, and would just leave if OP/wife insisted.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625347913.0, "created_utc": 1625347913.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yl337", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yl337", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3y5x0n", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yl337/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ChariotKoura", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9jqfk8ta", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "\"she can drive them there\"\n\nShe can stay there, too. Zoey's room wouldn't be the only one with a new lock.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>"she can drive them there"</p>\n\n<p>She can stay there, too. Zoey's room wouldn't be the only one with a new lock.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328293.0, "created_utc": 1625328293.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xjom1", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xjom1", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xjom1/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 21, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 21, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "WashedUpRiver", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4d75imnp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "OP should also round everyone up and warn them that Sammy's gone if he finds that lock tampered with at all. It might be a long shot, but I wouldn't trust the other adults in this situation given how opposed they were to the lock and it would probably be a good idea to get out in front of them and draw a line before anyone makes an attempt to go behind someone's back. Call me cynical, see a lot of irrational and misguided people in these stories, just throwing a play out.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>OP should also round everyone up and warn them that Sammy's gone if he finds that lock tampered with at all. It might be a long shot, but I wouldn't trust the other adults in this situation given how opposed they were to the lock and it would probably be a good idea to get out in front of them and draw a line before anyone makes an attempt to go behind someone's back. Call me cynical, see a lot of irrational and misguided people in these stories, just throwing a play out.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334898.0, "created_utc": 1625334898.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625335146.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xwigj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xwigj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xwigj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 21, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 21, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CeelaChathArrna", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1zzeofsa", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And stay with them", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And stay with them</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323510.0, "created_utc": 1625323510.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xanb1", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xanb1", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xanb1/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "bimmy2shoes", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5gbtgy5b", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I would take Sammy aside, personally, and tell him your intentions. You are NOT going to live in a hostile home, you are also NOT calling his daughters thieves and judging their character.\n\n\"I'm not going to tolerate you undermining me in front of my family. I get you're going through tough times right now and I am trying to be accommodating, but this is interfering with how I'm raising my child.\"\n\nLay out your expectations and stress that the development of your child supercedes everything else.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would take Sammy aside, personally, and tell him your intentions. You are NOT going to live in a hostile home, you are also NOT calling his daughters thieves and judging their character.</p>\n\n<p>"I'm not going to tolerate you undermining me in front of my family. I get you're going through tough times right now and I am trying to be accommodating, but this is interfering with how I'm raising my child."</p>\n\n<p>Lay out your expectations and stress that the development of your child supercedes everything else.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338583.0, "created_utc": 1625338583.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y3hrf", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y3hrf", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y3hrf/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8guv", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322655.0, "created_utc": 1625322655.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x93e9", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x93e9", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8guv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x93e9/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "EndlessWanderer316", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3wbx9tru", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My guess is that either the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want, or mom said no way because she is tired of their crap & is no longer legally obligated to house them anymore", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My guess is that either the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want, or mom said no way because she is tired of their crap & is no longer legally obligated to house them anymore</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326236.0, "created_utc": 1625326236.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xfr07", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xfr07", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x93e9", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xfr07/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Matriarch2020", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8ybflij0", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Or she just wants her make-up to herself.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Or she just wants her make-up to herself.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334524.0, "created_utc": 1625334524.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xvt60", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xvt60", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xfr07", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xvt60/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "EndlessWanderer316", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3wbx9tru", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Lol that too. OP should tell them to \u201cborrow\u201d wife\u2019s makeup since she feels so strongly about making these leeches happy", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Lol that too. OP should tell them to \u201cborrow\u201d wife\u2019s makeup since she feels so strongly about making these leeches happy</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625342490.0, "created_utc": 1625342490.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yay4s", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yay4s", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xvt60", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yay4s/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 77, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 77, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ridandelous", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_k4ju9sr", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This sounds familiar; my mom's friend got divorced bc her hubby was sleeping around and she got the house and custody of the kids. Well. Eventually, with weekends at dad's, they realized they could get away with a lot of bullshit. They eventually, one at a time, decided they wanted to run away to daddy's. Well, kids go there and realize that mac and cheese isn't a meal and the \"fun\" parent just didn't give a shit at all, not just about what they weren't supposed to be doing. He didn't care about them at all. And when he had them full time, he started to get temperamental with them and get frustrated easily because, let's face it, kids are a lot of work and he was still honeymooning with his new girl, who wants kids to ruin that??? They realized they hadn't had a proper meal in months and they weren't wanted or loved by daddy, so they realized their fuck up and went home. Eventually, I hope the twins realize they should've stayed with the \"more strict\" parent, because then maybe they could become decent adults.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This sounds familiar; my mom's friend got divorced bc her hubby was sleeping around and she got the house and custody of the kids. Well. Eventually, with weekends at dad's, they realized they could get away with a lot of bullshit. They eventually, one at a time, decided they wanted to run away to daddy's. Well, kids go there and realize that mac and cheese isn't a meal and the "fun" parent just didn't give a shit at all, not just about what they weren't supposed to be doing. He didn't care about them at all. And when he had them full time, he started to get temperamental with them and get frustrated easily because, let's face it, kids are a lot of work and he was still honeymooning with his new girl, who wants kids to ruin that??? They realized they hadn't had a proper meal in months and they weren't wanted or loved by daddy, so they realized their fuck up and went home. Eventually, I hope the twins realize they should've stayed with the "more strict" parent, because then maybe they could become decent adults.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625337457.0, "created_utc": 1625337457.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y1biu", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y1biu", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xfr07", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y1biu/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 24, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 24, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "shingdao", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8u0ku", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": ">...the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want...\n\nAnd very likely the same reason brother chose sister to move in with.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>...the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want...</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>And very likely the same reason brother chose sister to move in with.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625341263.0, "created_utc": 1625341263.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y8lm7", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y8lm7", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xfr07", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y8lm7/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 182, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 182, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey\u2019s Mom doesn\u2019t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey\u2019s Mom doesn\u2019t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322768.0, "created_utc": 1625322768.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x9aq7", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x9aq7", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x93e9", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x9aq7/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LadyReika", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [2]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_f26f50", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It sounds like she's cut from the same cloth as her brother and his brats.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It sounds like she's cut from the same cloth as her brother and his brats.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325076.0, "created_utc": 1625325076.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xdk6m", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xdk6m", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x9aq7", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xdk6m/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I know. I\u2019m hoping that this is simply a matter of falling into old habits from childhood and that she can be reasoned with if she thinks she is being abusive.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I know. I\u2019m hoping that this is simply a matter of falling into old habits from childhood and that she can be reasoned with if she thinks she is being abusive.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326715.0, "created_utc": 1625326715.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xgnxe", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xgnxe", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdk6m", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xgnxe/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 68, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 68, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "drongo_congo", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c4e6z9fh", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This is the kind of thing that starts to end a marriage. Op is going to start to see the little things his wife does that bug him are not changeable because her whole side of the family is like this. Some things you can\u2019t unsee bro.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This is the kind of thing that starts to end a marriage. Op is going to start to see the little things his wife does that bug him are not changeable because her whole side of the family is like this. Some things you can\u2019t unsee bro.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332919.0, "created_utc": 1625332919.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xsoph", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xsoph", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdk6m", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xsoph/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 31, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 31, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MrsMayhem17", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bmc8ozx3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It really is amazing that OPs daughter turned out so well with a mother like this. Hopefully this is some kind of mental break on her part and she hasn\u2019t always been this abusive towards her own daughter.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It really is amazing that OPs daughter turned out so well with a mother like this. Hopefully this is some kind of mental break on her part and she hasn\u2019t always been this abusive towards her own daughter.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625343656.0, "created_utc": 1625343656.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yd5ts", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yd5ts", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdk6m", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yd5ts/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, 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false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Either Mom insisted on too many rules for their taste, or -- since they are 18 and no longer legally her responsibility -- she decided to be done with the little thieves.\n\n​\n\nThat is honestly the ONLY reasons I can think of why they would opt to live with their homeless father and be homeless themselves.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Either Mom insisted on too many rules for their taste, or -- since they are 18 and no longer legally her responsibility -- she decided to be done with the little thieves.</p>\n\n<p>​</p>\n\n<p>That is honestly the ONLY reasons I can think of why they would opt to live with their homeless father and be homeless themselves.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, 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[4]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1llbeu07", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Oh, no!! I missed that they're 18. I thought they were 12 or 13, because that's how they act. They are straight-up bullying their younger cousin! I'd kick em out, too, if I were their mom.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Oh, no!! I missed that they're 18. I thought they were 12 or 13, because that's how they act. They are straight-up bullying their younger cousin! I'd kick em out, too, if I were their mom.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326397.0, "created_utc": 1625326397.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xg1yf", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xg1yf", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdkf8", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xg1yf/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 150, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 150, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I agree- and here\u2019s another reason- he lets them have whatever they want, even if it\u2019s not theirs. So why wouldn\u2019t they go with him? They pretty much have carte blanche to do what they want. So if they stick with him they get more stuff.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I agree- and here\u2019s another reason- he lets them have whatever they want, even if it\u2019s not theirs. So why wouldn\u2019t they go with him? They pretty much have carte blanche to do what they want. So if they stick with him they get more stuff.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326881.0, "created_utc": 1625326881.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xgz4s", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xgz4s", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdkf8", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xgz4s/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Effective_Put_7604", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_k4573je", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Hard to have stuff when you're homeless and couch surfing.\n\n​\n\nWhich is why they're stealing from their cousin.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Hard to have stuff when you're homeless and couch surfing.</p>\n\n<p>​</p>\n\n<p>Which is why they're stealing from their cousin.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327049.0, "created_utc": 1625327049.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xhaop", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhaop", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xgz4s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhaop/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly what I mean! They are acting like they have been deprived for a long time and have arrived at an Oasis. And don\u2019t care who they hurt.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly what I mean! They are acting like they have been deprived for a long time and have arrived at an Oasis. And don\u2019t care who they hurt.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330764.0, "created_utc": 1625330764.0, "depth": 7, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xofu8", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xofu8", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhaop", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xofu8/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 20, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 20, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 31, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 31, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 222, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 222, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LaylaBird65", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6a4crjrl", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Agreed. I wonder if his sister is scared of him and is or has been intimidated by him.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Agreed. I wonder if his sister is scared of him and is or has been intimidated by him.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330488.0, "created_utc": 1625330488.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xnw2y", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xnw2y", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8guv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xnw2y/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MrsMurphysCow", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5hgzjqeb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "The SIL probably was being abused just as much as Zoey is.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>The SIL probably was being abused just as much as Zoey is.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327493.0, "created_utc": 1625327493.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xi527", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xi527", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8guv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xi527/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly my thinking about falling into old childhood habits. Habits is not a great word for that, but whether it was good or bad it\u2019s the devil she knows and the only \u201cnormal\u201d she knows so that\u2019s why she probably isn\u2019t really seeing it for what it is. I hope OP will show her these replies.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly my thinking about falling into old childhood habits. Habits is not a great word for that, but whether it was good or bad it\u2019s the devil she knows and the only \u201cnormal\u201d she knows so that\u2019s why she probably isn\u2019t really seeing it for what it is. I hope OP will show her these replies.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329255.0, "created_utc": 1625329255.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xlj1f", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xlj1f", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xi527", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xlj1f/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 787, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 787, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Prestigious_Fruit267", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bmg9bu7u", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And they can take the wife with them", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And they can take the wife with them</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325112.0, "created_utc": 1625325112.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xdmof", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xdmof", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xdmof/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NoxTempus", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_cdtbr", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I\u2019d be booking into a marriage counseling for sure. That or drafting up a divorce. \n \nKids come first. That\u2019s the sacrifice you (are meant to) make when you have them. \nIt\u2019s not saving face with your family, tolerating your shitty brother, or enabling his shitty kids. \nIt\u2019s your kid\u2019s happiness and wellbeing. \n \nThis is the one point in a relationship I will never compromise on. I don\u2019t even want kids, but if I ever have any, they come first. \n \nBetween both parents I\u2019ve been second to drugs, alcohol, gambling, boyfriends, girlfriends, wives and family. \nI will never, ever put a child through that.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I\u2019d be booking into a marriage counseling for sure. That or drafting up a divorce. </p>\n\n<p>Kids come first. That\u2019s the sacrifice you (are meant to) make when you have them.<br/>\nIt\u2019s not saving face with your family, tolerating your shitty brother, or enabling his shitty kids.<br/>\nIt\u2019s your kid\u2019s happiness and wellbeing. </p>\n\n<p>This is the one point in a relationship I will never compromise on. I don\u2019t even want kids, but if I ever have any, they come first. </p>\n\n<p>Between both parents I\u2019ve been second to drugs, alcohol, gambling, boyfriends, girlfriends, wives and family.<br/>\nI will never, ever put a child through that.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625340883.0, "created_utc": 1625340883.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y7v5e", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y7v5e", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdmof", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y7v5e/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 16, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 16, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 59, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 59, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ranchojasper", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_wy7ya", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Seriously, every last one of them but OP and Zoey have a level of entitlement I literally can\u2019t even comprehend. \n\nThe most bizarre part for me is how they all seem to not know about this little thing called *KNOCKING ON DOORS*?!?!? As if having a lock means someone outside the room, like, has NO WAY to communicate that they\u2019d like to come in or speak to the person in the room?! Are they all fuckin **aliens**?! I mean what the actual fuck", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Seriously, every last one of them but OP and Zoey have a level of entitlement I literally can\u2019t even comprehend. </p>\n\n<p>The most bizarre part for me is how they all seem to not know about this little thing called <em>KNOCKING ON DOORS</em>?!?!? As if having a lock means someone outside the room, like, has NO WAY to communicate that they\u2019d like to come in or speak to the person in the room?! Are they all fuckin <strong>aliens</strong>?! I mean what the actual fuck</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329334.0, "created_utc": 1625329334.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xlogj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xlogj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xlogj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "HoodieGalore", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d03cv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Here's something else to consider: depending location and other variables, it may not be just that easy, and OP may have to legally evict BIL if things get contentious. This is a nightmare waiting to happen.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Here's something else to consider: depending location and other variables, it may not be just that easy, and OP may have to legally evict BIL if things get contentious. This is a nightmare waiting to happen.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333081.0, "created_utc": 1625333081.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xt01v", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xt01v", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xt01v/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Jengaleng422", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bytb2pd", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Sammy is about to bring down a second marriage, what a train wreck of a dude", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Sammy is about to bring down a second marriage, what a train wreck of a dude</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338227.0, "created_utc": 1625338227.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y2sxh", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y2sxh", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y2sxh/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 4275, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 4275, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {"sentiment": "", "stance": "", "emotion": "", "content_type": "", "humor": "", "hostility": ""}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "stance_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "emotion_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "content_type_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "humor_distribution": {"": 1.0}, "hostility_distribution": {"": 1.0}}}
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"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.",
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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>Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there
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This is it. They are extremely disrespectful and hugely entitled to think they can waltz into OP's house and do whatever the hell they want?! Instead of being grateful for a shelter over their heads. Bil and daughters are all adults - they can all be kicked out for pulling this shit.
And the wife?? Yikes. I have no advice there, she sounds like she'll eventually end up in r/justnomil.
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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