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+I 27F broke up with partner 28M of years months ago, who is currently in a rebound relationship 19F. Has asked me to meet up twice now what do I do?! 27F ended things with my ex 28M months ago after years together. We owned a house and a dog together. He got into a relationship weeks after we ended things, with a 19yo girl he knows from work, while we were still living under the same roof. When I confronted him about it, he was very angry and said that we need to go no contact for at least a year after he moves out. He moved out a month ago, and now has asked twice in week to catch up with me and the dog. I won't stop him seeing the dog, ofcourse, but I'm not sure if I want to see him again... I feel like the timing is a but suss as it's seems that his rebound relationship might have fizzled out? I don't want him to use me as an emotional crutch, but at the same time, this man was my best friend for years and it might be nice to catch up. I have stuck to my end of the bargain, I never contact him about anything except financial matters that need sorting out. But he has started to text me personal information about his work and family, and sometimes mixes it in with texts about financial separation so it would be rude of me to reply to the logistics but not the personal information. The contact from his end has also increased in the last week, which further makes me suspicious about the timing of it all. So do I see him? Lovers of Reddit, does this mean that he is interested in being friends, or does this indicate he might want more?
+Broke up with partner of years, months ago, who is currently in a rebound. Has asked me to meet up what do I do?! I 27F ended things with my ex 28M months ago after years together. We owned a house and a dog together. He got into a relationship weeks after we ended things, with a 19yo girl he knows from work, while we were still living under the same roof. When I confronted him about it, he was very angry and said that we need to go no contact for at least a year after he moves out. He moved out a month ago, and now has asked twice in week to catch up with me and the dog. I won't stop him seeing the dog, ofcourse, but I'm not sure if I want to see him again... I feel like the timing is a but suss as it's seems that his rebound relationship might have fizzled out? I don't want him to use me as an emotional crutch, but at the same time, this man was my best friend for years and it might be nice to catch up. I have stuck to my end of the bargain, I never contact him about anything except financial matters that need sorting out. But he has started to text me personal information about his work and family, and sometimes mixes it in with texts about financial separation so it would be rude of me to reply to the logistics but not the personal information. The contact from his end has also increased in the last week, which further makes me suspicious about the timing of it all. So do I see him? Lovers of Reddit, does this mean that he is interested in being friends, or does this indicate he might want more?
+For all the people who married young and are now in a DB For all the over40yos who have a DB in an otherwise perfect relationship, if you could go back in time, would you leave? And if so, do you remember a time when you felt like you were at that crossroad, and why you chose to stay? What was it like?
+You are right...
+Feels cruel to not let him see the dog though... Do you think he still wants to be in my life even though he is in a relationship? Especially if they are still in the honeymoonlimerence period??
+Yes, there is definitely a part of me that misses my best friend of so long. I don't want to get back together with him, but on a friendship level we got along so well, that I feel like it would be nice to catch up but definitely not if there's going to be pressureexpectation of anything more than that...
+I suspect the same thing... Sometimes it's tricky trying to figure out the difference between love and codependencyattachment. Agreed, perhaps need more time apart and with no contact before even thinking about meeting up
+Hahaha, most definitely not...
+Many reasons, life going in different directions, dead bedroom, no time for each other, both felt unappreciated, growing apart, etc
+Yikes... May he best to hold off from seeing him then... Thanks for your input
+Before we got together, he was single for about a year? But I am leaning towards him not able to be alone for sure both his brothers monkey branch from one relationship to another, and I think he may be the same? He is the youngest and has always had either family or a girlfriend by his side all his life. Thank you so much for your input... I definitely don't want him back, so maybe need to tell him that catching up may not be a good idea.
+Thank you for sharing your experience and for your advice
+Thank you for your advice
+Thank you so much for your advice and perspective
+Thank you for your advice. I guess I just need to know why it happened, and if we do need to consider if our lives are drifting away from each other. I don't think our relationship would be the same if something did happen, and even the doubt it's currently created has affected the relationship, so for closure, it would be important to discuss this and come to a conclusion either way.
+Thanks for your advice. I'm more and more confident that her interactions with him weree inappropriate, but I still don't think it got physical. We have talked about being open a few years ago, so she knows if she wanted to be open, all it needed to be was a discussion, really. Her friend is single, and in his 30s.
+You're definitely right, need to talk to mainly set boundaries and even thought she corrected the behaviour, it would still be good to know why it happened in the first place, and whether our lives are heading in different directions. Thanks for the advice.
+Thanks for your advice, I think that's what happened as well.