Hello everyone, It seems like my relationship is going downhill. My girlfriend is almost never happy with me and gets mad at everything I do. For example, we went to a festival last night and this morning she was telling me how we should have danced more, how we should have done more things and stuff - even though from my point of view things were going well and we were actually having fun. I feel like she always sees the bad part of things while I try to be more optimistic. Another issue is our sex life. Although it has never been the best, a few years ago we used to do it regularly . But this year we haven't done it even once. And I don't necessarily have a problem with that, but she also got mad at me for a few days when she found out I was watching porn. She used to send me nudes and I didn't need porn, but these days she doesn't send me those either. And I am tired of asking her to have sex or send me nudes because it feels like she always finds excuses not to come at my place or send me things. And because I don't want to pressure her in any way, I resort to watching porn to relieve some stress. Also, I feel like she gets mad at almost every little thing I do that she doesn't agree with. In the last few months I've had a lot of stress regarding my career and I've told her that sometimes I might not be 100% when we go out, for example. Even though I tell her that, she always gets mad at me when we're in a restaurant and I look around, saying that I'm not paying enough attention to our relationship and to what she's saying. She seems to get mad when I go out with my friends too . Last week I asked her if she wants to go out with me and she said "no", because she had some exams. I fully understood that, and some friends asked me to go out with them that day and I accepted. She got mad because I did that, I am still not sure why... I go out with her 10x more than I go with my friends and I always put here on the first place when it comes to these things, but I still fell that this isn't enough. Should I break up with her? Or try to restore the relationship? Because after 4 years being together, it feels so hard just to let anything behind and start again...

I'm sure you do care about her as a person, but you basically made a list of reasons why you should break up. Do you still love her and actually feel it in you to fight for the relationship or is it really just for the fear of starting anew? Yes, if the two of you are not happy, you should break up. People often stay in an unhappy relationship because it’s become comfortable or they fear being alone . You both deserve to be with someone who makes you happy. Say, “It doesn’t seem as if we make each other happy and , I don’t see this relationship going any farther. I think it would be best if we went our separate ways.“ It’s unnecessary to go into details because that will likely just evolve into a fight over who’s right/wrong. If you are living together, make sure you have an exit strategy.


My wife and I recently had a son in January, she quit her job a few months before the baby was born and I've been supporting us financially for the past 9 months or so. Quickly after the baby's birth we accumulated and have been bouncing between 500-1000 dollars in credit card debt which I've desperately been trying to pay off, medical bills from a hospital stay she had 1 month after giving birth, and big bills such as new tires and registration for two cars, and house maintenance looming on the horizon. My birthday is right around Christmas, being that my wife was 8 months pregnant and newly becoming the sole earner in my family I did not expect any big gifts. Both my birthday and Christmas came and went and my wife didn't even do so much as make a handwritten card to give me, I literally received nothing. I let her know I was upset that I didn't receive even a card and through several different discussions and arguments I believed we had worked out our issues. I just recently purchased myself a father's day gift knowing if I want more than a card that I'd have to get it for myself, which is perfectly fine with me. I knew from the start there would be lots of added stress and I would have to make sacrifices to start a family. however, last night my wife said her friends are coming into town in August and she wants to get a couple tattoos with them while they are here. Being that just about every cent I make goes to bills and groceries I asked how shed pay for it and she told me she's got a secret stash of money that shed use. I shrugged it off and said okay, because it is her money. But as the hours have passed it's starting to bug me more and more. Shes had to of had this money hidden since before she quit her job before December, and I got nothing from her during the holidays and she led me to believe that she had no money to buy gifts with, and she's watched me struggle and fall further and further behind on our bills for the past 6 months. Am I wrong for feeling like me and our family are not priority's for her? And if so how do I confront her about this situation?

You’ve been paying the bills for the past six months because you consider it your duty as a husband and a father right? Flipping every dollar to make ends meet. And now you found out that she had a secret stash of money hidden away all along while you were grinding for your family. Throughout the past six months she never mentioned this money, and never offered to pick up a bill or two to lighten your load. That is wrong in so many ways, you’re definitely not in the wrong for feeling the way you feel man. Seems like your wife has a “what’s yours is ours, but what’s mine is mine” attitude. I don’t beleive you are wrong for feeling this way at alllllll. I would personally be very upset if I heard abt a secret stash of money, mind you it’s her $$, but why wouldn’t she want to get you something ? It could have been as little as your favorite candy. I would understand that she just had a baby, and she may be going through her own personal crisis… sometimes tattoos are an indicator of that. But I would talk to her abt the situation and ask her why wouldn’t you want to help your own family. Tattoos are something when you have everything paid and your family isn’t struggling. If she doesn’t respond to talking, you could mention that the bills arent going to get paid and maybe it will wake her up a little? Or maybe start putting some of your own funds away, without her knowing so you can do something nice for yourself when she doesn’t feel like doing anything for you. Wish I could offer more help… but your feelings are completely valid.


I keeps getting unwanted attention from gay men. which I guess I appreciate because atleast there's people who find me attractive but it's kind of frustrating, I work out dress nice and I'm 6'5. All that for women but none would even look at me. There would be a point where these gay men would sexually harassed me in clubs or take advantage of me. It's disgusting to say the least. I don't know what else can I do. I really want a girlfriend to have a woman in my life yet none would even look at my direction. Is this normal? Any men have experienced the same thing?

It's completely normal. Men are much more aggressive in pursuing others for sex than women are. It doesn't matter if they're gay or straight. Men and women are extremely different on this front. It says nothing about you. It's not like you're more attractive to gay men because of some inherent quality you possess. Any guy gets more sexual attention in a gay club than a straight club. When you want to date women you have to hit on them. Make the first move. Receiving eye contact before you approach is nice, but it's more of a bonus than a necessity. you have to be active about women and not just wait


I matched with a guy on a dating app, and conversation has gone well. It's the most I've engaged with someone for a while. He asked for my phone number and I said no. He said he understood. I explained without too much detail that I got out of an abusive relationship a few years ago and had some stalking issues there still so I'm cautious and don't give out too much info too soon. His response was, "You have a stalker? That must be flattering. Hahaha jk." I responded saying "no it's not, it was actually all really hard." And then he apologized for making a joke of it and said it wasn't "cool" of him. Fairly, it rubbed me the wrong way. Tone deaf response, definitely. I just want to stop the conversation. But am I being unfair? I know people act dumb sometimes when someone shares something and they don't know how to respond. Or is this a clear sign that there's not going to be any empathy there?

I mean he apologized so there’s clearly a conscious there. Seems like he was trying to make a joke to make you feel better about it or be flirty or something and he didn’t realize how you would respond. You aren’t wrong to be uncomfortable but I wouldn’t necessarily end it all because of one bad joke. It’s a dating app so people are probably not used to being serious when they first start conversations If it made you uncomfortable and you want to end the conversation, that's valid. Your boundaries are your boundaries. If you're not sure, you could always take a few days off the app to think it over and decide if his apology feels genuine. If you decide to continue getting to know him, now that he knows it is a boundary, if he crosses the line there's no mistaking it for nerves or a misguided attempt to be witty or perhaps lighten the mood on an app. I'm sorry you went through all of that, I know from experience it's hard to start trusting again on the other side.


Two weeks ago i met this lovely lady on a Muslim dating app. We got along very good, same interests. We both are from Turkey living in Germany. The only problem is, she lives 500km away. But this past weekend she was on a wedding of her friends‘ which was 1 hour from me. We decided to meet on Sunday but she told me couple of days before that sunday won‘t work. So when she was at the wedding i jokingly asked her that we can meet up after the wedding . And then she said at 2 at night that we can meet now. Idk what got me but i jumped from my bed and drove off after that. 1 hour car ride and i was at her hotel at 3 at night. We talked a lot, got ice cream at McDonalds . And at 4:30 i drove home and she went to sleep at her hotel. But i was really surprised when i saw a text from her when i got home if i arrived. She really waited one hour til i got home. These past two days i am thinking about her all day. My car even smells like her. 🫠 So what do you think? Should i tell her that i have a crush on her or is it too soon and i‘d scare her away?

I’m not familiar with Muslim culture. I think it depends on the woman. Some are ok with you expressing feelings, and others are turned off by this. You can lighten things up by saying, I like how you make me feel and I would like to pursue things with you for now. Depending on your culture, maybe tell her for now you would like both of you to cut off other people from dating apps etc and focus on each other. Youll never regret telling someone how you feel, but you will regret not tellin them I mean it’s a dating app, that’s what they’re for buddy, you went on a date you like the girl, so you tell her you would like to pursue this further, developing a crush is standard


Met someone wonderful on Hinge a few weeks ago on vacation. We live on opposite coasts in the states but want to try to make it work! He is visiting me for the first time in my city and I am extremely excited but also slightly apprehensive about him staying with me for three days. Is it too soon? We’re not officially dating yet just talking still and seeing where this goes. Him staying with me feels like a very big step but is it on par with him visiting me and I should be more vulnerable? How do I go about asking him to get his own hotel room? Should I offer to get one for him? One of my friends thinks my asking him to stay elsewhere even thought he’s coming specifically to see me and spend all weekend with me will send the wrong message about me and my intentions with him. The next step if this goes well would be visiting him. It’s early but I feel really good about him/this and want to proceed with intention and he seems to be in the same boat. Any advice would be much appreciated!

You're debating but you're not really talking about your actual comfort level. What would you prefer? * Him staying at your place and he sleeps on couch. * Staying over and potentially cuddling. * Throwing him in a hotel room. What is most comfortable for you? Stop people pleasing. What do you prefer to see happen? Because if its hotel, then you should stick to that. It should be understandable, right? >Thank you for coming to see me. I know we hardly know each-other and meeting up is the only for this to develop. But, I am not sure if I am ready to be sleeping in the same house together. Is it okay if we get you a hotel? I will pitch in on it. I need to be eased into this and I will probably feel a lot more comfortable the next time. That should be understandable right. If you're worth it to him, he will respect you and deal with it. Otherwise, if he is flying out and expecting you to put out when you haven't truly met him... Is that really the kind of guy you're down for? Spending 3 days straight with someone you barely know, that's ALOT to take in for a first time. And who knows, maybe only book the first 2 days for hotel, by the 3rd... You could be open to it. If you plan to have sex with him, then let him stay with you. If not, then he needs to find a hotel.


Context: I met this guy on work. Sometimes I would catch him looking at me then turning away suddenly whenever I would look at him. He would come to the place that I work at multiple times a day, would ask what my name is, and while I was preparing his order for him, I could notice him staring at me. This goes on for about a month. Strange thing is, whenever I look at him, he snatches his gaze away. His manager once told me in front of him and that he is “good with girls”. Anyways, fast forward, I start liking him too, I tell my supervisor about it and she thinks it’s a good idea to be a matchmaker for us. Spoiler: she makes it too obvious that I like him and I think okay, this is over for me, he’s gonna lose interest. Now he doesn’t initiate conversation, kind of turned abit ‘cold’. BUT he still keeps staring and glancing at me whenever he thinks I don’t notice. Even my coworker told me he saw him staring at me. What’s the explanation behind his behavior?

I'm not really sure why he decided to be cold towards you all of a sudden but if he's still catching glances at you, he must still feel something or is fixated. Maybe now knowing that you possibly like him he might be trying that to seem more desirable to you? Try actually talking to him, I feel like nothing will happen with this when its been a whole month of just staring at each other. If you don't want to be direct asking if he's totally interested in you, you could ask to just hang out with him and deciding on what to do, you ask about his hobbies. Likely not interested, he knows u r, + he’s not doing anything about it despite having the skills to do so


I hAve been seeing this guy for 7ish months at this point. We were talking about going away and I asked "oo where should we go" and he goes "the bush so that I can r*** you". I immediately had a pretty visceral reaction: "what the fuck" "fuck you" "where did that come from" "what compells you to say sometbing like that" etc. but took myself aside for a second to cool off. He knows I've had some marginal experiences and that would be a particularly sensitive topic for me. It was so fucking out of pocket and out of character. His explanation was that it was dark humour and that him and his friends make jokes about dark things. I just could not believe my ears. I kept on being like how could you possibly think that was funny even in any context ever ?!?!?! Anyways. I now feel very conflicted on what sort of person he is. He's never said anything of this nature before and had always approached the topic of sexual assault very carefully or seemed to have concern at least. Pretty fucked up from my point of view and it really really really left just a terrible taste in my mouth. Am I overreacting? What would you do??!!

Run Normal people don't make jokes about raping their partner.


What advice would have for someone who has the mindset of always feeling ugly? both on the outside and inside. It's like non stop thinking that i am, that i am not good enough m31 btw, feels like i will always be alone the way it's going. Even regret splitting from my very toxic, controlling relationship of 4.5 years cause I feel so ugly i won't find anyone else. Have gone on Dates but when they don't lead anywhere I blame myself like there is something wrong with me It us absolutely head wrecking and I can't seem to change

"Love people like love flowers" You're not ugly, you just don't treat yourself well. The reason why flowers fail to bloom may simply be due to insufficient nutrients, such as lack of water or sunlight. Think of yourself as a flower, take good care of yourself, and wait for you to find the right nutrients, enough water and sunlight. You will naturally bloom. Lift weights, build up a track record of success.


I will try to keep this short. My boyfriend and I use third party social media to send impromptu private and risqué photos. We FaceTimed this morning as usual, and I could see that he was in the mood, and he asked for photo to help take care of him. I happily obliged and sent the photo. However, the aftermath of this is where I am stuck. After receiving the notification that he opened my photo, my BF was silent on the call and spoke only once to call me pretty. The next 5-7 minutes were silent and I had no clue what to do/say. Then, he enthusiastically says, “hey baby!”, and I ask him if he had done anything with my photo and he replied that he already saw it and finished to it. I was kind of in shock and even now I just don’t understand his thought process. I would’ve like to been included or even told about what he was doing, not just have it mentioned to me after the fact, especially since I was literally on the phone with him. I feel like it was common sense to follow through considering he initiated here and any other time we’ve done this both parties were active on the call. Was it a fluke? He said he doesn’t know why he did it and it had nothing to do with embarrassment or nervousness. Am I right to feel used/betrayed/hurt or am I totally blowing this out of proportion?

that sounds like a very small thing to be betrayed by. He used YOUR picture to get off to. Yeah it's a little weird when you think about it, but it's not like he was doing it out of attraction for someone else. If you want him to get involved then get yourself involved too, make it mutual Bro what do even think he did obv jerked off lmao 😂


So I feel like I could make this way to drawn out so I’ll try to make it as short as I can. So for the story I’ll just call her H. We all ended up going on this trip through our colleges. Just so happens H is going a the same school I’ll be going to in the fall. Since in total it’s around 50 people on this tour group us young ones stick together. “When in Rome” ig we’ve been getting drunk and staying up about every night. ik it sounds horrible saying it outloud. From all this me and her have grown real close definitely real good vibe to her like on homie status. She’s told me about her life, trauma, her goals. And 2 a certain extent me too. Well speaking on trauma she’s only had 1 ex and he abused and cheated on her. Well just keep that in mind. Last night she ran out of zan and finished off her cart that she smuggled overseas. So she was going through withdrawal badddd. So when we were hanging out one on one the night before the whole withdrawal stuff it got real late into the night and she ended up low key kicking me out cuz she said she can’t sleep in the same room as a man not even her brother after her ex. So last night while she was feeling so ruff our friend booked her a taxi back 2 the hotel and I went back with her to make sure she’s ok. I spent the whole ride with my arm around her cuz she asked. Well I ended up just laying beside here while she was dry heaving and I just felt so bad I couldn’t help her. Like all I wanted to do was help her at the very least just put my hand on her shoulder and comfort her but I basically ended up laying with her till she just told me she doesn’t wanna be touched and just wants to be alone rn. So that was 2 days ago and we didn’t get much time to talk yesterday cuz we both just were feeling like ass her from withdrawal and me presumably from the bender we’ve both been on. All this boiling down to say do I just bit the bullet and tell her how I feel straight up or do I just keep quiet? We have 6 more days together and I’m just not trying to make it weird between us.

Those two silly gooses just love boring out cuz she's a tomboy they bond over you First off, this girl sounds like a lot of chaos, so I don't think it's a good idea to get with her. But if that's what you want to do, I recommend you SHOW not TELL. Basically just kiss the girl next time you are in such a close, intimate situation. If you make a move and she turns away, that's rejection. There's no need for words. Cut to the chase. No matter the outcome you'll both know how you feel about each other.


It kind of saddens me to know that so many people believe in the saying “once a cheater, always a cheater”. I cheated on my ex who held a knife to me and forced me to have sex and give BJs, and for some reason I always ran back to him between the ages of 15-18. I received therapy, but the name calling, harassment, and outcasting still haunts me from time to time. When I met my current bf , I cheated and eventually broke up with my ex. It was the worst time of my life physically and emotionally, being the HS proclaimed whore. I lost all my friends, had no one besides him, and heavily self harmed from all the hateful emails and anonymous text messages sent from random people senior year. He was there for me though it all and I am beyond grateful he showed me how beautiful life could be. I have zero desire for anyone besides him and our 2 year anniversary is coming up. I was recently told that odds are I’ll cheat again in the future and I understand that may be the case but I really love him and it hurts to hear that. I don’t think I’m a serial cheater, because it’s only happened once, but now I have this thought in my head that I’m going to ruin everything one day in the future and cheat when times get hard because of this one comment. How do I cope with this feeling and do you all believe in this saying?

I would like to think that people are capable of becoming better. However, once someone cheats in the relationship... I am a firm believer that relationship is as good as dead. Too much damage to sift through and its never going to be the same. A no coming back from kind of moment. Usually its the letting go and doing better for the next relationship where people actually grow. Can't really let the old you die when the relationship is keeping that part of you alive. To move on from mistakes, you have to remove the entire storyline and write a new one. A relationship with cheating, that story is ruined. Time to close the book and write a new one. Hi OP! How does your bf feel about your past cheating . Has it affected your sex life? I’m going through situationship with my bf right now.


So I started dating this guy from a different state and all was good, he'd text me like crazy and say how much he likes me and l like him too so three days ago we made things official but these past two days he's just been busy and doesn't even like my messages or send me a quick text Instead he'd leave me on delivered even though he'd be active on insta for a good while When he does give me his time of day the conversation always leads from sweet talk to somehow being sexual so this is where I ask my question. Am I being insecure or is this something to worry about??

Idk how anyone can do long distance. I don't trust anyone anymore lol. Too busy to respond but online? He is lying about something. My ex used to do that when he traveled for work. I knew immediately something was off. He just wants sex. This is a very common behavior for fboys.


I was kind to her and she sent me them on instagram messenger

Ask her Dude it’s just hearts. I use whichever one I see. It doesn’t matter


Yes I was dumb and let myself talked into the “pull out” method yet still I got anxious and took the plan B after which made me feel terrible, but little does he know cause he just ghosted me after one month dating. I don’t even find the words for myself. I should have known better but I guess I was just craving that affection and thought this one really likes me.

Dont let a guy hit raw if yall arent even together , we have more to lose than they do. He didnt even spot you the plan b Dont feel dumb , use this as a learning experience and move on. Please use protection in the early stages of dating. Pregnancy and stds are not light matters.


I’ve have been talking with this girl and been on a few dates and she said she needs space to grieve and be in silence and with family. She’s a therapist and it’s been tough because she was just out of the country for 2 weeks and after 2 dates is leaving again now to attend that funeral and will be gone 10 days. Things are otherwise very fruitful, conversations have been getting much deeper and I’ve conveyed interest. She said she will message me when she returns. Is this a subtle avoidant way of saying she doesn’t want to move forward or wants to move on from me?

Sounds like a very direct and straightforward way to tell you she’s fucking busy for a week because she’s had a death in the family and she doesn’t have the time or energy to be on “had a few dates with” terms with a new person. Are you really going to take this as some kind of attempt to avoid you? How self-centered are you? The correct response is “I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope you and your family are able to comfort each other during this difficult time.” Or maybe she's just grieving and going through a tough time


Hi everyone, Quick context: We have been dating for a couple months now. This is my first real relationship, and have only been on a few dates with a girl before that. My girlfriend has had several relationships but none that lasted very long . My gf is also very comfortable with her guy friends and have slept in other friends beds’ a fair amount of times . I need some advice on how to set boundaries with my girlfriend. Here’s a recent conversation we had that’s really confusing to me, and Im somewhat concerned about: Around 3am she sent me a video of herself drunk, talking to me: “I need to go to bed but you [unintelligible]. So we sleep like [together] but I’m like [facing away].” The conversation takes place the morning after. She confirmed she was drunk and that she had slept at a friend’s house in Derry. Dylan is Canadian and only comes down for a couple of weeks each summer. She mentioned she slept in his bed and so did he. I noticed from a Snap she sent that she was in a different bed frame and location, so I asked, “Whose bed is that lol?” She replied, “Dylan’s,” who she had previously talked about as being a friend she was excited to see. I then asked where Dylan slept, and she said, “In his bed.” I responded, “Like a heads-up would’ve been nice.” Then she called me and said, “Hey, I thought you said you weren’t insecure,” referring to a recent time I said that I’m not an insecure person. I was so confused that I didn’t know what to say, and after expressing my confusion, she said, “I thought you would, okay have a good day, bye.” End of call. She then texted me: “He wasn’t even there the whole time. He transferred to upstairs. Deadass platonic sleepover.” When texting, she mentioned the video she sent and said, “So like I did think of you last night, I also mentioned you. So like, fuck you.” In the last phone call, she made it clear that she’s never been interested in him, there were two other girls on the pullout couch, and she wanted to drive home but they wouldn’t let her because she was too drunk . She also said that Dylan was only there for 30 minutes before going back downstairs. I want to stay together, but I feel like I need to talk to her and maybe set some boundaries. How can I approach this situation without coming off as insecure or controlling?

Male freinds are a red flag Hanging out and getting drunk with? Drunk in his bed ???? Theres no way that she’d be able to convince me they didnt have sex. Who sleeps in other mens beds while in a relationship. Ppl masturbate and have sex on those mattresses. Im not comfortable with at all. U might have to break up with her. Or atleast start inviting girls to get drunk and sleep on your bed. I was a wild child in my uni days. Was partying, was going to bars and slept in friends houses a lot. I have slept in beds with people I barely knew to sleep. BUT I never did that when I was in relationship, either found a way to go to my dorm/house or shared a bed with a female friend. Her responses seems gaslight-ish and unnecessarily aggressive. It feels like she is trying to gaslight you into thinking that you are insecure and are reading too much into it. And also; > so I asked, “Whose bed is that lol?” She replied, “Dylan’s,” who she had previously talked about as being a friend she was excited to see. I then asked where Dylan slept, and she said, “In his bed.” >He wasn’t even there the whole time. He transferred to upstairs. Deadass platonic sleepover.” >She also said that Dylan was only there for 30 minutes before going back downstairs. Which one is true? Did he sleep in the bed, did he go upstairs, or did he go downstairs after 30 mins? These are 3 different stories... This doesn't look good I'm sorry


My ex and I decided before our kid was born that we weren’t going to allow any pictures of her online. This came from our own wants of privacy as well as the protection of her from creeps online. Even while attending daycare we wouldn’t allow her to be included in anything public. We expressed this desire to all close to us soon after and everyone agreed to keep her offline. Aside from my sister accidentally posting a video on her story that was only up for a couple of minutes everyone respected our wishes. Aside from my mom. I don’t follow her on Instagram and I’m not on Facebook, so I don’t have access to her accounts. A couple of months after she was born I was on my mom’s phone and saw she had posted a picture of my newborn on instagram, showing her hands and feet. Not the biggest deal but I told her not to post anything else and that I wouldn’t be coming around otherwise. I don’t really see anything come up until earlier in the year where I see her Instagram open and it’s full of posts of her again. I told her again to stop but yet again I see her earlier today making a post on Instagram and again she seems to just ignore me. I’ve explained before why I do not want pictures online, including stories showing how it could get into the wrong hands. Her account is private but regardless I don’t want pictures online and I’ve been adamant on that stance since she’s been born. She disregards my wants and authority as the parent. Me and my daughter are both living with her currently so I can’t exactly just remove visits. Is there a way to get her to stop posting and remove the pictures?

Dont give her any photographs and dont let her take them either Report the pictures and her account over and over again on top of not giving her pictures and telling her she can't take pictures anymore, - now keep in mind she can always take them behind your back and still post them - I know crazy gmas that have done that there is nothing you can do really besides that nobody has the right to privacy in a public space and can have videos and pics taken regardless of how you feel sadly thats a legal amendment that I do support for good reason but when it comes to this that makes these situations hard, I don't want my own mother having any sort of pictures or videos of my kids for reason. And my brother constantly sends them to her against my own will. I don't like him doing that. I've told him he's not allowed to do that and he still doesn't behind my back because she deserves to know what she's missing out on is his point of view. I don't feel like that's a good enough. Excuse because I don't want her seeing my kids after everything. She put me through so and there's nothing I can do about that. Other than stop giving him pictures.But then he just gets them from other people who he knows has them, thats one of the few reasons why he's not allowed around me either anymore


I male/18, met my girlfriend female/16. 6 months ago. It was online. She lives in Syracuse, NY, and I live in NYC 3 and half hour ride. We always made plans to meet up, the first time it went bad her dad, got upset and told me to not contact her anymore, and threatened me. When I first met her she told me she was 17 turning 18 in October. So she lied about her age I didn't find this out till yesterday. After the first incident she would text me asking to to talk again. I said okay but it has to be a secret. Long story short we finally agreed to meet which was yesterday 6/29. I got her a bus ticket to come here. Things went well, blah blah. Her dad finds out he calls her and they start calling me. Then a deputy calls me too. He told me I wasn't in trouble. I spoke to her dad and helped him have him support and said I was sorry, and I didn'tnt know she was 16. I told the cop what I should do after this if I should block her, stop telling to her. And he said "do nothing" her dad thanked me for being supportive and everything. Then he sent me a text this morning saying how we would appreciate if me and her don't talk anymore and the police advise it too. I spoke to the cop and he said I am not in trouble. I don't wanna give up on her because she was there on my lowest time. I was thinking of calling the dad and telling him I feel, and how I wanna fix things.

1) Please try to write in complete sentences, it makes it easier to read and understand. 2) Yes, leave her alone. You're young and in a year you won't care about this. You're in NYC. Why are you going for girls 3 hours away when you live in the most active dating market in the western hemisphere? There are many things wrong with this story young man. She lied to you about her age. That is statutory rape in the state of NY. Why would you give your trust and respect to someone that would not only lie to you but put you in harms way? Do you think you are the only guy she is talking to and doing this with as well since you met her online? You are 3 hours away, you don’t even know her full situation. You need to take a step back and think about this.


I am M 19 and she is F 20. We’ve been friends for just over 2 years now. In the beginning we always met with other friends but this year we started meeting each other one on one. I asked her one time if she wanted to go shopping and she said yes, we’ve been out quite a few times alone and last week we met up to go to the gym together then grab a snack after. Yesterday we went to the movies together. And she makes it clear that she doesn’t go out with other people a lot, but I believe that the things we do, we could just be doing them as friends. She is very introverted and I don’t know what a subtle hint is for her. I like her and I want to tell her but I don’t know how without maybe losing our friendship if she doesn’t like me back, what should be my next move?

Grow a pair and ask her out like a man. Or wait until a man comes along and takes her away. Your choice. [deleted]


How do I explain to my ex that I made a mistake breaking up? Nearly a year ago I made the very painful decision to breakup with my wonderful partner because he decided he doesn’t want kids and I did. This decision wasn’t made lightly and it was painful to end our relationship when we were still in love, but at the same time, he was also struggling mentally and he told me if he wasn’t focusing on me he’d put that focus on him. I thought I was making the right decision for both of us, without me he could help himself and wouldn’t need to put any of his energy into me. In the time since, I’ve seen one other guy but ended it because I wasn’t ready or interested. My main prerogative has been finding myself, travelling, joining groups, focusing on my health etc. The thing is, this whole time I’ve not been able to imagine a future with ANYONE else but my ex, I’ve not been interested in trying to find anyone new . I’ve had other men approach me but I’ve just not wanted to date. Lately I’ve been thinking about my ex nearly all day and I’m not sure how to proceed, because in this time I’ve decided that I actually don’t mind if I don’t have children, I’d rather just have him Now, I know he felt abandoned by me and he’s very stubborn. We’ve not spoken for probably 8 months… So how would I reach out or is moving on my only? I’m so anxious about not having the opportunity to see him again, I feel like I totally messed up but it was with our best interest at heart, I never wanted to hurt him, I wanted my absence to heal him. Man, adulting is so hard. I feel really broken.

How about NOT contacting him. Let the man live in peace. You made the right decision to break up, it’s a hard decision and you just need to give it time. You’re saying that you don’t mind not having children but this is likely not true, you miss him and trying to convince yourself you can be happy without having kids. I think you should focus on yourself and starting dating when you’re ready


my bf of 4 years cheated on me with my bestfriend for months. Would y’all stay too? We don’t have kids or aren’t married . Recently moved to San Diego, CA and prices are no joke here. That’s the biggest thing i’m considering before deciding to leave. He always talked about marriages and babies so this was the last thing i expected. Apologizes for being naive as my mind is telling me to run for the hills but my heart wants me to stay🥹Do all men cheat? Once a cheater always a cheater? Will he actually change?

Not all men cheat. But yours does so you should move on. That’s many lies over an extended period of time. He doesn’t respect you as his partner or as a person. Be done. He’s shown you who he is, believe him. Look a little further north or east, if you can commute. It is more affordable.


I’ve made it two the fourth date with a couple of women only to fall flat on my face and get rejected the next day. In looking back I’ve realized that I treat the fourth date just like the first date meaning I’m just having fun and maybe asking some top level questions. So what is the expectation of a fourth date from a women’s perspective?!

Dude here, for context what kind of dates are the first 3 dates, what are you talking about with the women, and do you have any physical contact with them I just had my 4th date with a guy. But just to preface, we are going super slow! We took our dogs out and went hiking for a couple hours. It was super chill, easy, kinda like hanging with a friend. But like a sexy friend. We admitted later that day that we were checking each other out the whole time haha. But again, we're going slow. We arnt being romantic yet or being physical. We are establishing a friendship as a foundation and seeing how compatible we are. I honestly think that there's no template or protocol when it comes to dating. Some people's fourth dates will be wildly different than other peoples. It all comes down to preference.


I tend to jump into things too fast. I’m wondering, how long do you guys feel comfortable with keeping things casual while going on dates and having sex before you want to take things to exclusivity? I am looking for something longterm, but want to be rational and not suffocating. Maybe also mention how often you hung out regularly.

If I’m gonna have unprotected sex with them then it gotta be exclusive I won't consider it until after at least 10 dates and at least a dozen hook ups.


My gf wants one but I have no idea how to do it I tried three times on her wrist but it still doesn't work, I bite a small area with my lips and suck it but still nothing shows up. Any ideas?

technique is the key here! how hard are you sucking? are you biting hard enough? usually it’s a few nibbles and then some sucking and then a hickey can start to form. it also depends on where you’re at on her body. places with thinner skin have been better areas for me as a female receiver, and depending where on the wrist you’re at, the skin can be kinda thick. they can show up in as little as 30 seconds or take longer. i’ve had some show up an hour after the fact! don’t be afraid to go harder than you think! but if you notice your partner is in pain, stop! communicate with them and try again if they’re willing. practice makes perfect, as they say, so don’t be discouraged if nothing happens as you want it to the next few times. good luck to you and i hope everything goes swimmingly :) Hickeys are made with intense sucking, not biting. Depending on your lip shape and mouth size, it might be tricky, especially if you are doing it on a thicker piece of skin. There’s a reason people always have neck hickeys: because they show up real easy. The best advice to a good hickey is 1. Don’t hold back on sucking. It’s important to incorporate more then just sucking, but you gotta pull hard to make a mark 2. Do it on a place of the body that has looser/thinner skin 3. Commit to it for sometime. It takes a second to do a good hickey, be a little patient 4. Keep your lips in one place. If you are sucking hard on the skin, you should essentially be trapping the skin. Think about your lips like they are an empty water bottle, if you squeeze it tight against it, the skin should suck in and remain there for a while, same with your lips. It’s more of a tight space/air game then it is a mouth one. 5. Accept that it can’t guarantee a hickey. Depending on your GF, she might not bruise all that easy, so it might be harder to leave a mark. Hopes this helps!


my boyfriend and I have been dating for around 3 months. yesterday, his ex reached out to me and told me that my boyfriend has been liking her instagram stories. she sent me screenshots of him liking recent stories of her, even one in a bikini. she said he also swiped up on one, and they messaged for 4 days idk how to feel. I know social media isn’t real life but i’ve never had anyone reach out to me before. is this a big deal or am I overreacting? I don’t like the idea of my boyfriend liking another girls story let alone his ex

Have you talked to him about it? For me, I’d be immediately gone. Very disrespectful. I think she’s trying to break you two up, and start drama. You shouldn’t trust her. Why else would she rat on your bf if she is on good terms with him? Seems like shady behavior.


My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. Over the past year there have been some worrisome signs of abuse as follows: * He has used swear words while fighting with me . He has called me a dumb b!tch, c*unt, piece of sh!t, lazy useless pig, fagg0t, l0ser. * He used to punch walls and throw stuff in anger including my belongings and his phone * He has driven the car rashly and angrily while I was sitting in the passenger seat * He has brought his hand up to my throat momentarily during a bad fight and later said it was just to get me to stop talking * He has twisted my arm during a fight and it kept hurting for 2-3 days after but he said he did it playfully like he would with one of the boys and that he did not know it would hurt me * During a fight he said over phone "I will punch your face and make you bleed" He says he's reducing such reactions and controlling his anger. The physical part has stopped since but the verbal abuse still continues to an extent. I got scared and shared some of this with my mother and she wants me to call it off. He comes from a dysfunctional family and I feel bad for what he went through, being raised by a single mother. And he is also responsible for her financially. We are also from different religions so that's another point of contention for him . The reason I have stayed: He has promised it will get better and I do love him a lot and the good times have been really good. And I saw myself marrying this man. He can be a very caring and loving and trustworthy partner. I have seen some improvement in him, but I do feel disrespected at times in this relationship. I'm scared of a future where I'll be in an abusive marriage. Because I have read that most men do not improve/change. I would like some advice and for others to share their experiences. Have you faced such a situation before and has your partner improved/changed? I feel completely confused as to how to proceed, and some insights would be helpful. I will also speak to my therapist about this.

LEAVE NOW!! Please OP realise this is NOT love and he is manipulating you, Call the police and have them help you collect your belongings and escort you out Don’t become a statistic, You deserve better than this Please save me from every woman that is actively being abused and still thinking they can fix him. “Ohhh but the good times are so good”, it’s not signs of abuse, you’re being abused regularly and if you give him warning that you’re leaving your life will be in danger. I hope you can tell some trusted people and get away safely.


So I've known this girl for almost 2 years now . We were together for 10 months before breaking up, then we got back together again recently, but even throughout the time we were not together, we were practically still together, with us doing everything except making it official. Lately, we don't enjoy talking to each other over phone or over texts. I told her about how I felt, and she said it was the same for her. It's different in person, though, as we both really enjoy our conversations in person. The problem here, though, is that we can't have a decent conversation over texts or on a phone call anymore, and I'm not sure why. At first, I thought that it was because we knew each other for almost 2 years, with us texting every day during that time, but now I am thinking that this is not the case anymore. I love her a lot, and I know I love her because I do not have feelings towards her anymore but I still choose her 100% of the time over any other girl in the world. She says its the same for her but I start to question this because she said that she is not feeling the relationship anymore and that she feels irritated when she texts me or when we talk on a call due to her feeling like there is a double meaning or a hidden intention behind everything I say. She says its not the same in person, however, so I am confused over this. The easy solution would just be to go out more, but we can't go out a lot because she has strict parents and there is some distance between us. I tried talking to her about this, but she doesn't completely understand her own feelings, and neither do I. On one hand, I don't really think I care, but at the same time, it's eating at me with every passing moment. I watched my favourite football team play today and win their match, but throughout the whole match, this situation was on my mind. I really love this girl, and I put my all into the 2 years we knew each other, but I feel like we may come to an end. I don't usually ask for relationship advice but I really do not know what's next for me to do, so if there is anyone on here that could help, please let me know what I could do to take my next step.

My man, there. Is a double intention. You’re hiding your true feelings and you will never build the trustworthiness it takes to have a loving relationship. You may love her and she may love you but I’m sorry to say that this feels over in the way you describe. I’d love to hear her side here and not from you. i know it feels so significant rn, but you guys are so young. why not break up and come back if it’s convenient? you’ve done it before


I’m 25m, she’s 25f. So long story short, I met this girl at work through tinder. She works in a different department but at the same site. Anyway, she was cool and we started chatting. She said she’s never been in a relationship which is fair enough, and she was ready for one which is what I’m in the search for. Anyway, we went on a few dates, kissing, sex and all was seeming well, then just out of no where, I’m not ready for a relationship can we just be friends. I asked her, please don’t break my big heart at the start, if you don’t think you’re ready please let’s just, we’ll leave it here, but she insisted she was ready and now here we are. I just dunno how to react. I’m frustrated, slightly angry and don’t want to waste anymore time with her but we work for the same company and cross paths occasionally…

She didn't use you. You can't reallyy know how you will feel in a situation until you are experiencing it. And for some reason the experience of dating you didn't live up to her expectations. Grow up. She doesn't owe you sex or a relationship. She can consent to whatever she wants and if not, that's none of your business. Leave her alone. And no, she didn't 'use' you, you're just whining because you didn't get what you want. This is a tantrum and nothing more.


I’m a 22f and I went on a 1st date with a guy. It was nice, I had a great time, but I didn’t feel anything special when I was with him. He didn’t tell me anything about how it went for him and I just don’t know if I should give it a 2nd try or just stop things now. And how should I do it ? What can I say without sounding rude ? Or is it okay to just let the conversation die ? Thank you for your answer !!

There’s no way not to hurt someone when you reject them, but that doesn’t mean that you disrespect them. On the contrary, you value them enough to tell them what you feel. People get closure when they know the truth, don’t give a fake excuse for the sake of being kind. Tell him politely that you don’t want to see him again. Let him know you don’t feel the connection don’t let him hang like that. That’s disrespectful


Okay me and my best friend each have boyfriends, in her case more of a situationship of several MONTHS. Our guys happen to be bestfriends as well. Both "boyfriends" previously have kids from past relationships. Recently my friend moved out of state for her job, and her situationship stayed for his. He refuses to be committed to her despite her begging and pleading. Every now and then his baby momma comes from states away to bring his daughter to see him. While the daughter is sleeping, he has sex with his ex in the hotel room. He also has a tinder and meets random girls. This is hard because ive known for quite some time and dont know how to tell her. Its hard to give advice to someone when i know the dirt that is being done. I hate being in the middle. I told my boyfriend i was going to tell her but he told me not to. Do I go against him and tell her or do I let it just play out?

Wtf. She’s your friend. Tell her! How is this even a question. She’s your bestfriend, of course you tell her. And you reconsider having a boyfriend that has friends like that.


Heya, my gf 21f and I 23m have had a rocky start to our long distance, for reasons I can’t be arsed to type out to be honest. Anyway scene set and moving on. Naturally as we’ve begun long distance, and it’s started imperfectly and been handled imperfectly since, there’s been a few things brought up to each other. One thing I was aware of before but now I see it growing more as a problem is that she tells her mom every time we have a fight. I don’t know how much info she gives, I doubt all of it because to be honest some of these circumstances have only arose because of her actions. But regardless, I’m more aware of how her parents view of me is probably pretty bad, she says they like me, although don’t believe it and she wouldn’t say they didn’t like me even if they did, I don’t think. She has brought up comments from her mom in several conversations about these things, all revolving around the general idea that I’m being too harsh/mean/judgemental etc. I find it difficult because I do still have some genuine concerns for how our relationship is changing, and very little is being done to combat them. And now I feel I can’t bring anything up because it could upset her and make her family dislike me more. I can give more detail if you guys think it’s needed for this situation, but I’m mainly wondering how to approach this subject fairly, as I know she’s close with her family, or if it’s reasonable or justified at all to be thinking about it. For me, a boundary between our relationship and the opinions of family and friends should be made so that we can solve these things internally. I mean if we can’t solve it internally, that’s a pretty bad omen right? Or possibility two, am I just being too unreasonable should I just lay off and deal with the issues I have on my own

Don't take it the wrong way, but you are not entitled to decide what she can or cannot confide in to her mother. As long as she's not informing her about very private stuff like intimacy-related details and so on, you have to accept it. Regardless, it seems like you don't really have a positive view of her. I have no idea why it is like that, but her parents are the last issue you should focus on. Are you sure you like her enough to be together? There should be a balance here. She is entitled to seek support from her loved ones, including her family. That includes relationship issues. It's not reasonable to ask her to only discuss relationship issues with you. But she should also be keeping in mind that complaining or venting about you too much, too often, will poison her loved ones against you. It's up to her to be thoughtful about only seeking that support when it's really needed and not every time anything goes wrong. I think you can tell her, once, that you get worried her family only hears bad things about you, and that you're hoping she balances it out by talking about the good stuff, too. Beyond that I would worry less about how she's seeking support and more about why you're fighting so much that this is even an issue. Fix the underlying relationship problems and this part will fix itself.


Context: we fought, haven’t spoken to each other in 3 days. She works late night during weekends 7pm - 7am shifts. I ignored her for few days she got mad. And now she seemed my text and hasn’t texted me in 2 days. She’s trying to get even. I can feel our relationship is heading to toxicity. We are probably both stubborn. No one wants to text first. And she hasn’t done anything shady to make me question her. To be honest. This is our first fight. Yesterday she posted a selfie on her instagram story as well. I am also not sure if it was directed to me. Or she’s fishing for a new guy. and it was 50/50. The one that posted with “skin” usually wants to fish. But she just posted a selfie. No skin or anything revealing. With music something along the lines of “f&$& love, I don’t need it” I am not sure what to do. She said she doesn’t use her phone at work. I caught her lying. I just haven’t told her that. She doesn’t text me at work but she texts other people. She’s working right now. Only during weekends. We text on Instagram. I see her online on whatsapp. I just need help. It’s our first fight. Am I being paranoid? Is she being shady? Do girls chat late at night? Who could she be texting at this hour?

It smell bad. What you should do depend of the nature of your fight in the first place. If you yelled at each other for something stupid like the color of the new couch, just be mature and apologize to calm things down. If she insulted your mom out of nowhere, start fishing for a new partner. This is baby behavior…getting into an argument and then ignoring each others’ texts. Come on. It’s one thing to cool down over night or something, but days? Neither of you should be in a relationship if that’s how both act. Man up and text her you’d like to talk about the other day and have an adult conversation and come to a resolution. If she doesn’t respond like and adult within a few hours to that text, then say it’s clear that you two aren’t ready for an adult relationship and move on. This is not how to handle disagreements.


I have noticed on at least two occasions that the contents of my wallet have been fanned out as if they were deliberately taken out and looked at after spending the night at my gfs house. I didn’t notice either time until after I left and got home. We have been dating for about 5 months now and she hasn’t said a word about it. I’m not really sure how to approach this. My past girlfriends have usually respected my privacy. I keep mulling over in my head exactly how I’m going to ask her why she keeps doing this, without her becoming defensive. I know damn sure I’m not the first guy who has encountered this kind of behavior. So, can anyone who’s dealt with this before tell me how you handled it, and what happened? TIA.

Honestly,it sounds like your partner has boundary issues. I've been with my partner for over 10 years and I've never looked in his wallet without his permission. Perhaps she was financially abused or is trying to catch you in some sorta lie. Honestly red flag but id attempt to talk to her. 5 months is hardly enough time to be snooping imo. Just flat out tell her that your aren't okay with it and if there is any resistance perhaps rethink the relationship My petty side says to write in a small piece of paper "why are you looking through my wallet" and slide it in between your paper money. Then see what she says the next time she looks in your wallet.


My bf and I have been dating for 4 months. I'm definitely not planning to have children with him yet. But since he keeps fantasizing about children, a wife and a house every day I decided to find out his "timeline". When I asked him he told me he isn´t even sure about wanting children, just discussing what if´s. He wants to live his life for the next 4-5 years and then maybe he´s ready. Maybe it´ll never happen. Okay. I continued to ask for his reason for maybe wanting children out of interest and he told me there is someone there to take care of him when he´s old. Idk what to think about this. My first reaction would be that I love children and want to see someone grow up. Imo demanding care from a child is unrealistic at best bc you never know if you get along and if the child wants to do it. His second reason is that is the ultimate proof of love since it´s a combination of both partners DNA. And also the love you feel towards a child is on a whole different level than everything else which i kind of get. Idk but the first reason that came up to his mind kind of irritates me

Wonder why he wants a wife? > he told me there is someone there to take care of him when he´s old. Idk what to think about this. Just ask more questions about it. Why was this the first thing coming to his mind? How does he imagine the process of RAISING kids? Will he take time off/reduce to working part-time to be there for them? Will he be willing to be the primary parent/emergency contact? What happens if the child is disabled? What if the child has mental health issues? etc. etc.. > His second reason is that is the ultimate proof of love since it´s a combination of both partners DNA. What happens if him and his partner can't have kids the "natural"way? What if his sperm is an issue?


36F - Are girls really out here “using”men for free meals? I have had a few guys tell me that girls they’ve gone on dates with from apps are using them for free meals. I love a good meal but this seems ridic to me. One guy even asked me if I was going to pay for myself before we even met up, which made me really uncomfortable. I was raised very traditional so there are some aspects that I enjoy about dating a man but I don’t need a stranger paying for my meal; I’m not homeless. The way I was raised was if a guy asks me on a date and he’s picking the place, he’s taking me out and I’m assuming he had the funds to cover it. Whether I like him enough to go on a second date does not determine whether I offer to pay for myself, which I always do, and depending on the situation I may let him pay that time. I only do this if I am certain I want to go out with him again and there are no major red flags waving. Backstory- in my 20s, I did experience some backlash from men who I let pay for me and did not want to go on a second date with. Obviously there’s still a huge wage gap so I am not saying I think every girl can do this, especially if she has kids, but I think in general it is a good policy I’ve stuck to because then guys can’t hold it over us later. Just wondering if there are truly women out there doing this whole “free meals” thing or if that is a myth bc the guys make it seem rampant!

Well, for me it isn’t like i need your money but it would be nice if you at least offer sometimes. A lady who can take care of herself is so hot There are absolutely people looking for free things. I'm not saying quid pro quo where the person who didn't post is owed anything, but the first date should be split. I had a date I was asked on. The woman ordered a fresh juice, appetizer, coffee, 20$ lunch item, dessert and an espresso coffee item. I ordered a 7$ lunch. The bill came and she loudly proclaims, don't worry, I'll get the tip. The bill was 70$ and I ordered 10% of it. I sat there in awe and put a 20$ on the table and watched her whip out her cell phone calculator smashing the screen in a fury and she got visibly agitated. I just walked out with the 20$ left.


My girlfriend came around to my house yesterday were we just hung out and watched some videos. Couple hours later she was on top of me and pushed for sex so I reciprocated. One thing led to another and I was fingering her. Eventually she wanted penetrative sex so she got on top and this is where problems arrive. She had her orgasm took a couple seconds break as she aways does. Usually we switch position because I don't get enough stimulation when she's on top but she carried on going. A minute after we carried on fucking and all of a sudden she complained of pain in her stomach. I asked if she was okay and she carried on going. She said she had pain again and so I said "do you want to stop?". She said "yes" so I immediately stopped. She hadn't complained about stomach pain before or after we had sex so I was maybe wondering if I did anything wrong. The past 3 times we've had sex she has acted a little different. The first 1/3 she had her orgams and then when it was my turn decided I had to jerk myself off whilst she watched . The 2/3 times my parents were in the next room so we were trying to be really quiet, which didn't work too well and so she suggested we stop penetrative sex and I jerk myself off again. And the 3/3 was what I've just said above Quite a few times she has brought up what blue balls feels like so I confused to wether this is mayne a kink or an actual problem. She did have a panic attack the day before so maybe it has something to do with that. When I asked her what was wrong she just kept saying "I don't know". So I'm really not sure what to do or how to get her to open up about it. If it is a kink I'm more than happy to try it, in fact I have a similar kink that goes hand in hand. But if this is an actual problem she's having why doesn't she want to tell me what's going on. Relationship is fairly fresh, we met around 2 and a half months ago and because boyfriend and girlfriend one month ago.

Maybe try asking her if she is experiencing pain during intercourse. Different positions can be more or less painful. Being on top may be fine but when you switch it hurts her. A lot of women will also struggle to express this in words. If that is the case, encourage her to see a Dr and /or Gyno. A lot of reproductive conditions can manifest as painful sex. Also try different positions and ask her what she enjoys. If that is not the case then ask her directly why she doesn't want to have sex where you both climax. If she keeps avoiding it then keep telling her how you feel. It could simply be she is selfish and once shes finished doesn't care about you. If that is the case, it might be best to reflect on if this is a healthy relationship and one you want to be in. It sounds like she may have hit/ bruised her cervix. Especially during orgasm, she may not pay attention to the angle and intensity of her movements which can result in her going too deep and pushing on her cervix. This can result in extremely painful period like cramping, that she will likely only realize afterward. Ibuprofen and/or heat can help alleviate this. In the future, try encouraging her to lean forward/ not go as deep while on top. Or make sure she is warmed up really well before riding as arousal makes the vaginal canal lengthen, decreasing the likelihood of hitting her cervix. Other DP positions would be good to look out for as well. Let her take the lead as far as depth and intensity.


I have a boyfriend, and he sometimes talks to me in a pet voice or as if he is talking to a child when it comes to intimate things. If I flash him he starts talking in a pet voice like "wow" or "omg you look so nice" but all in a way as if a kid was holding a drawing, instead of a deep voice and the way that he talks too makes me feel less of a hot or sexy woman and more as a cute kid. I asked him about it he said because he loves me and sees me as his baby that he respects, and doesn't want to be disrespectful to, but i'm not sure how to feel. Before we started dating and we were friends and he would tell me about all his dirty experiences and how flirty he was, frankly he had wondering eyes in the beginning and that led to some infidelity . I've seen his texts calling other women hot and bad, but i'm just cute and beautiful in his eyes. I'm not sure if he's just not attracted to me in that manner and that's why all these issues stemmed and why he talks that way and doesn't treat me like an actual woman in that sense. I am still going over the infidelity thing out and it has been hard to get my confidence back or be convinced that he truly is attracted to me in a sexy manner. Can someone knock some sense in me? Is he attracted to me?

He is just socially awkward Who knows maybe you’re just cute. I don’t know. Good luck.


I need to vent to some bros Had two dates with this cute girl, had a little foreplay before I dropped her off after 2nd date. A lot of laughs and stayed texting a lot between. 3rd date she was gonna come over and hangout for the evening. Very sensual and ended up fucking for 5 hours on/off. Some of the best sex of my life and felt like we had a real connection. She definitely had multiple O’s and she even said I was an undercover pornstar. She gave every indication that she absolutely loved it, even the following days she sent me a couple memes on Insta describing how good the sex was. The following week we had plans and at the very last minute cancels our plans after leaving me on read for 2 days but says how she was so excited for our plans and that we’ll rain check. Following that, she completely ghosts me while posting on her fucking story 😂 so I text her letting her know I appreciated the time spent and I hope she finds what she is looking for. Which she then replies saying she enjoyed the time and just wants to be friends. I’ve definitely done my fair share in my past so no hard feelings, but damn. I deadass have never felt so played in my whole life 😂

yep, you got played, it happens. just keep it movin lol Karma


Not really what you'd think lol My spouse and I have been married for about 15 years. They came out as Trans/ACE. We have a great partnership - coparent, split finances, live as best friend roommates. There is zero sexual or overly intimate between us. They are perfectly happy, and all of their needs are met. However, some of my needs are not being met. The intimacy, having a masculine presence, etc.. It was suggested that I start dating. My question: I am married. I have a roommate who is also my child's parent. The relationship is strictly platonic. How would I address this with potential dates? Would dates even be possible? *No we aren't planning on divorcing or living apart. It isn't financially smart, nor does it align with how we parent and want our kid raised.* I am looking for masculine friends who can fill the need for intimacy .*

When/if you get on tinder or another dating app or if you're already on dating apps, be sure to specify in big letters in your bio "POLYAMOROUS" or something similar so people have an idea of what's in store. When it comes time to divulge details, just say everything you have said here. Put your status on dating apps as polyamorous. When people reach out, explain to them what you explained to us. You'll probably get a bunch of guys looking to hook up and bounce, which I don't get the impression is what you want, but you may also have an issue with guys opening up and being intimate with you when you still live with the child's other parent.


I could really use some perspective here. I'm feeling conflicted about my friendship with K , and I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or if my concerns are justified. We've been friends for five years online, initially bonding over a video game and chatting on Discord. At first, we were close, and he even used to give me in-game currency bought with real money. However, things changed when I turned down his romantic advances – the gifts stopped, and so did much of our communication. Months later, we reconnected, and he apologized, but I noticed he started showering other women online with gifts and attention instead. It frustrated me because I saw these women taking advantage of his generosity while he seemed oblivious, just craving companionship. Our friendship became strained as I couldn't stand watching this dynamic play out daily. Recently, he's become very close to a married woman in our game community, showering her with gifts and money. It's escalated quickly over just a few months, and he considers her his best friend now. I've repeatedly advised him to be cautious with his money and to value himself more, especially now that he's not trying to win someone's affection but just being generous to a friend. I've voiced my concerns to him and others in our circle because I've known him for years and have seen this pattern before. However, it seems I've upset everyone by talking behind their backs and making assumptions. I feel torn because I care about K and want to protect him from being taken advantage of, but I also realize he's an adult who can make his own decisions. Am I wrong for speaking up? Is there a way to handle this situation better?

I'm not sure why you think it's ur place to get involved. Also it's kinda hypocritical to complain about them taking advantage of him when u accepted gifts from him in the past. You also talked to others about it? So ur gossiping about it? Yea I can see why ppl are upset that ur talking about them to other ppl. You are absolutely wrong and kind of a hypocrite and definitely a gossip. He's and adult. He can spend his money how he wants. Mind ur own business. He knows exactly what he’s doing and your own history with him on his vices makes this issue murky for you to get involved in, in my opinion. although I understand how frustrating it must be to watch go down if you care about the guy. People self destruct in all kinds of ways, it sucks you have to watch it go down like that but frankly he could probably self destruct in worse ways. Sorry, I’m sure that doesn’t make you feel better. But from the way you have told the story, I believe he and everyone is aware of this woman’s marital status? It sounds like he will be spending his money on egirls who take advantage of him one way or another, perhaps at least this is a more stable situation since he and everyone knows she’s married? Ultimately it boils down to not your circus, not your monkeys and you need to not get involved or people are going to read into your meddling as jealousy since you once benefitted from his self destruction before you rejected him. I’ve been there and it’s rough being a girl online that way sometimes but it’s just gonna be drama you don’t need to get involved with. Honestly considering the type of friendship he clearly craves id honestly be most interested in distancing myself from that guy. It’s just not gonna be a good look and frankly you know exactly the only kind of attention he really wants…


I M18 have a crush on my friend who I will call ,S for reference we are both in high school but don’t go to the same school I met her about a year ago through a friend and we quickly became friends. I cannot tell if S thinks of me as more than a friend though. A few weeks ago we were at a party and her ride left before we got locked in I told her that she could sleep in my car she said she would bc she knows that I’m a guy that she can trust. So whenever I went to bed that night she was already asleep and whenever I woke up she was already awake and my head was on her lap. I apologized for that but she just laughed and said she didn’t mind. About 2 weeks ago we were texting late at night and the only part I remember about that is that I told her that I think she is very beautiful she told me that that was sweet of me but, she then asked me if I was drunk and I answered honestly, she responded with “you’re such a flirt when you’re drunk” which I thought she was trying to flirt with me there. Last week I asked one of our mutual friends if S thought of me as more than a friend. Our friend didn’t directly ask S that question but J said she thinks that S sees me as a close friend. 2 days ago we were on a friends boat and it was very crowded me and S sat at the front of the boat and she used my lap as a footrest she kept touching me with her feet too and we sat there together for like an hour talking. Last night S invited me as her +1 to a party we were there for about 30 minutes then the cops showed up and we ended up separate ways and we ended up at 2 different party’s but we were both to intoxicated to go get each other. So what I really want to know is should I take a chance at ruining our friendship and ask her personally If she wants to be more than friends or should I just stay friends and see what happens?

Always take a chance!!!! Every chance you get an opportunity that is positive for you then take it. You got nothing to lose Get a pair and make a move. You’re only 18 once. Don’t be 5 years from now looking back on it and wonder what might have happened if you asked out that girl back in high school. Staying friends and “see what happens” is not a good strategy. Look - the biggest mistake guys make is they often have someone interested right in front of them and fail to take chances. Plan a date. Ask her if she wants to do something with you. Get some food and go a park or beach, mini golf, amusement park, or something along those lines.


My girlfriend of almost 2 years moved in with me last week. In the weeks leading up to it we were fighting more and more to the point where we almost called the move, and almost even the relationship, off. After taking some space to gain clarity and peace again, I came back every time telling her that we should give it another try, lessons learned, let's be better. Our relationship dynamic is classic avoidant with anxious attachment . However, I feel I deserve a medal or something, for the enormous progress I have made to opening my heart more, doing what feels like "risking" intimacy and staying present. I really want to make it work this time, because after a divorce 7 years ago and 3 failed relationships after that, I'm just tired of failing relationships and take responsibility for my contributions to those failures. As a matter of fact, I was the one who always breaks up. So I'm trying something new - find a quality partner and stick it out. So I've been regulating my reactions and mood exceptionally well even if I have to say so myself. I don't snap at her, there are no sting in my tone of voice. However she just can't seem to help herself sometimes. Getting short, cold, critical. And these things flair up my anxieties. I also feel a sort of anger, because the things she says is falsely accusatory and overall just super negative energy to be around. She wasn't always like this, but after learning about how overbearing and dominating and bullying her father was when growing up, it's like she's still acting out against that, even today. She needs to be loud and be heard because her voice was always silenced when she was young. Either way, it makes me to overall feel quite miserable much of the time. It feels like I have to walk on eggshells, or she'll just explode. I don't know when she's okay and when not. Trying to bring things I feel is important to discuss up with her is received extremely poorly. And all these behaviours only came out about 6 months ago. I feel my happiness has taken a severe knock. All I am left to do is try to forgive her as best I can and meet her again with care and love. Is it supposed to feel this miserable? I thought I'd really give a long-term relationship an honest try, and thought she would be a good partner, but I'm hating most of it right now. Please give me some advice or hope?? Thank you.

Maybe therapy could be helpful so you both can learn how to communicate the right way with each other? Why would you actively choose to stay in a situation that makes you miserable just for the sake of "sticking it out"?


So I feel in a slump. I'm 31 and still have never been married. Most of my 20s I was working and going to school full time to get my 3 degrees. I feel unlucky in love. My longest relationship ended because he cheated. And I just had a relationship of two months end because he said he's too busy for a girlfriend. I just feel like I'll never meet my husband and I won't have a partner in life. I'm starting to question what is so wrong with me. I'm a really not pretty enough, or smart enough or funny enough? Advice please.

i don't know where you are from, but I think 31 is just a normal age to not be married yet. Hell, I even know people that got married in their 50's. You should just do what you like, and focus on yourself. When you do that, you might even gain some confidence in yourself. People like people who like themselves. Because that's hella attractive. You will find your person if you put yourself out there and start liking yourself a bit more. You just had a bit of bad luck with the people you met. Hey you’re not alone. I got cheated on by my long term bf too and im so glad i didnt marry the wrong person. I get your frustration but dont change to get more dates. Be authentically you and eventually you’ll meet someone that clicks. Are you smart enough? Girl you have 3 degrees! That’s so impressive!!! If you truly want to be happy, don’t force connections or settle for someone just to add a checkmark to your list. My uncle and his wife didnt meet until they were 35. It takes time to meet the right person but i know you will eventually. Hang in there💕


How should I tell her? Do you think this is the end if I bring it up now? I feel that I have to bring it up no matter what but how should I go about it? We have been in a relationship for 1 year and she asked about my degree and I just kind of brushed it off till her friend asked me and I lied. I have stuck to that but try to not bring it up too much. Now I love her and can’t get a good night sleep because of the stress this is causing me. I have so much anxiety about this I am basically stressing all day and night. For a bit of background, I went to school but left after a year to take care of an ex with medical problems, it was a mistake but I got a fine job and kept moving up there. The pay was fine and it allowed me to take care of my ex. That relationship ended and I moved one 2 years past and I met my now girlfriend. She is lovely and I am lucky but it hurts every time school is brought up. I don’t know how to break it to her and what to do next. I also have been looking for jobs and she is so supportive but I can’t tell her the reason I don’t get the job is because of my degree status. Most of my friends know and they let it slip every so often over the last year but she seems to not notice. I am a fool for not telling her sooner but now I am here and need some advice. Anyhow this is a throwaway and I really just need some advice on next steps. TL:DR I fucked up told my GF I have a college degree when I don’t, now I need to tell her, but how?

Listen, it's not the biggest lie ever. Drink a shot of vodka for courage and tell her you need to tell her something. Say the reason why you lied in front of her friend was that you were feeling insecure and were scared of disappointing her or scare her away, but that you're very stressed because you don't like hiding things from her. She will understand. You’ll just have to tell her and risk losing her. Losing her would be better than holding in the anxiety of the lie. It sucks that her friends and family also have been told the lie, so that’ll be embarrassing. But I don’t think people care as much as you would think. You slipped up and lied about something early in your relationship and it snowballed, pretty common thing. You’re also young so nothing is stopping you from getting that degree if you want to. I would decide in your mind when you’re going to tell her and just follow through. Ex “I’m seeing her tomorrow I am absolutely telling her then no excuses”. Say something like “hey there’s something I need to be honest with you about. I’m really sorry but I lied about having a degree. I’m insecure about not having one which is why I lied, and once I told the lie it felt hard to get out of. Now that we’re in a serious relationship, I’ve realized honesty is required, and I’m telling you this bc I love you and want a future with you. I would understand if a lie of this magnitude makes you reconsider the relationship, and am here for you regardless of what you decide.” Owning up to this will be an opportunity to grow regardless of the outcome. Good luck.


Hii I would love to hear your opinions. Me and my boyfriend have only been together for a few months now and I had went to his house the other day for the first time. when I was there he had a surprise for me and it was lingerie. There was 2 body suits both a size small and I am a bit chubby so I fit medium or large and he knows that. As I was looking at it, it had no new tags, the brand was Fenty. He had me try one and it couldn’t even get passed my tits, then as I was going to try on the next one, I literally looked at the crotch and there was dry DISCHARGE literally I got so grossed out. I didn’t say anything at all to him and told him I didn’t want them, they don’t even fit. I felt weird the rest of the day with him and went home early. Now I’m thinking where did he get the lingerie? who wore this lingerie? To be honest after thinking I feel like he stole it from his sister or still had it from a previous relationship, which he hasn’t been in one for “years”. He is now my ex

That's fucking gross. I'm not usually a break up with him kinda person but that's so fucking gross Eeeeeeew!!! How does a man not notice this!? Id ask him next time and show him tbh. I'd be like "Wild you tried to give me this, look here babe - there's discharge from someone else vagina. Where did you even get these? And what made you think I could fit them/want them?" But maybe that's because I'm direct and like to address issues when they happen. Maybe he did truly order them for you and can show a receipt, who knows.


So basically I went through a break up, it was my first relationship stayed together for 2 years. She went abroad to study and started lying to me about her whereabouts the second she landed, was very disrespectful throughout the relationship, shit load of issues. Not nice to me at all but nice to everyone else like wtf is even that, I endured it all till that day i broke things off. People who got back together after a break up, why did you do it and did it get better this time?

No, they're never going to be the person you fantasize they are. Why do you want to get back together? It seems like she treated you bad and didn’t have respect for you. It seems like you idealize the fun times you had together and miss that. Unless she realizes that it was very bad what she did, and you trust that she can change.. i don’t see a reason to get back together. It’s also your first relationship, which means that it’s always special to you, but it also means you didn’t get to experience anything else and your judgement may be a bit, clouded I guess? Focus on you, and what you deserve. Your partner is a person that’s supposed to respect you and love you. And not treat you like crap. Do you want to spent the rest of your life with someone that treats you like crap? I don’t think so. So, focus on you, feel your heartbreak. Be sad, mourn the loss of the first relationship. You will heal, it is inevitable and that you will also inevitably find someone that deserves you and your time as you will also deserve theirs. But the first break up ever, sucks the most because it’s the first time you’re feeling it. Remember that! But you will heal. My advise, don’t get back together *Edited for spelling


My ex-boyfriend and I met while I was doing a semester abroad in Europe. He lives there and I live in the US. We met pretty early on in my semester so we were together for about 3 months before I had to go back home. Honestly, it was the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. We talked every single day, and were quite inseparable. However, I expressed early on that I didn’t want to do long distance, which he understood despite our growing feelings for eachother. Because I knew I was leaving, I feel like I gaslit myself into believing I didn’t love him as much as I did. He really loved me and wanted to try and make it work, but I was still pretty adamant about splitting up when I got back home. For about a month after I got back we were still talking everyday, and basically still together . It wasn’t until a couple weeks ago that I finally actually split from him, and the reasoning was because ever since I’ve been home we’ve been arguing more. Most of our arguments have to do with him being a really jealous person, and getting upset when I’d tell him i’m seeing male friends of mine . So I ended it because I was tired of defending my innocent hangouts, but to be honest it was mainly because I felt like it needed to end anyway, since as I said I never wanted to do long distance. Now it’s been about two weeks since we split, and I can’t stop thinking about him. I feel that as more time passes the more I realize I really do love him and it’s hard to let go. Part of me feels like I took the easy way out instead of letting it take it’s course. Now I don’t know what to do, because I already ended it. And even if we got back together, I have no idea how we would move forward. I came here because I don’t know what to do or how to feel. I want to talk to him but I also don’t want to hurt him more or hinder his healing. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Think about the consequences of your actions before you carry them out. The fact he is jelous and its causig arguments is a good indication you did the right thing. I get hes got insecurities with you away and having a social life etc. But thats one of the issues of a long distance relationship. And there isnt anything he can do about that, so being jelous and causing fights is not healthy. It would have lead to resentment over a few months. Its gona sting for a bit. But it will fade. The fastest way to have it fade is to delete and block communication. But I doubt your want to do that. but i would refrain from communicating as its like a clock. With no communication the pain lessons, with communication it resets the clock.


I was seeing this girl for 2 months, which is short but it was intense and serious . She recently decided that she’s going to her hometown for the summer , which prompted a very long and messy breakup. At first, she said that she feels like this won’t work long distance but was very insistent on being friends. I said that I can’t think of her platonically, and we agreed to just ‘take things as they come along’. We went out the next day, and she invited me over to her place and was being very affectionate overall and wanted to discuss what we’ll do while she’s away. Right before the day ended, she did a 180. She said that we’re going in circles, and that there’s already emotional distance here which means that long-distance will make it worse and that she lost romantic attraction. I turned very cold and left, but reached out to her a few days later because I wanted closure. We met up, she told me that a joke I made that day threw her off. I had given her one of my bracelets, and she asked me if I wanted it back because we might not be on speaking terms by the time she’s back. I joked and told her that she can just give it to a mutual friend. This apparently prompted her to start thinking about how complicated the situation can end up being and made her ‘realize that she lost romantic interest’. She said that she doesn’t usually like being friends with exs but that she wants to try with me, and asked if she can text me in a few days. I gave her a very halfhearted okay because I’m not sure if I wanna be friends but didn’t wanna make that decision now. I’m just very confused right now because I feel that the joke I made wasn’t that big of a deal and she could’ve communicated that it made her uncomfortable. Was this actual loss of interest or a fear response? Is she likely to regain feelings once she’s back? Also, I’m not sure whether she wants to be friends due to guilt or whether she really wants to.

No, mate. She's not that into you. She realized you two are incompatible, and she doesn't see a future with you. It's best for you to go no contact and move on with your life. Basically she doesn’t want you. That’s a hard thing to accept sometimes, but at least she didn’t string you along or cheat on you. You’re young and there are always plenty of girls before you find the one. She’s not the one. Deep breath and let her go. On to the next. :) And if you can truly be her friend and take out the romantic side of things, then for sure go for it. But if you can’t, best to just end it cold and call it a day. No use torturing yourself later.


my boyfriend and I have been together for over 1.5 years. We hang out alot, he normally initiates it and is good at balancing me with his friends, alone time, work and school. I notice that when he does ask to hang out, which is more than 4 times a week I always say yes. He’s still in school so he has a part time job that’s 4-cl and I have a full time 8-5. We normally hang out when he’s off and finishes at the gym. Even though I should probably be sleeping by the time he’s back for the gym, He still comes over or vice versa. Sometimes when I ask him to hang out he’ll say he’s tired from work or wants to hop on the game but he’ll see me in a day or two. I have run into the issue that whenever he asks me, I always say yes even though I know I should take a rest or watch some tv by myself. He lives with his two best friends and I currently live alone, so I feel like I’m always alone and want to be with him. He doesn’t have that problem. Today is sunday and he suggested that I come over after I finish my reset . In my head I know i should probably get to bed early for work- but I really would like to see him. I’m trying to figure out how to balance and just say no when I know I should probably stay home, or if it’s even healthy that I am so quick to say yes to hang out with him . TDLR: I have trouble saying no to hang out with my bf because i hate being alone. He’s fine with taking time for himself whenever he wants a day or two alone. I feel desperate.

Just say you think it's better to go to bed early for work. Tell him you'll see him the next day or something. Make a schedule of when you guys see each other. If it’s outside of the regular schedule, you don’t have to feel guilty for saying no. Also, it’s okay to want to see him frequently as long as you aren’t codependent and you don’t make him feel bad when he needs a break.


My boyfriend has always been a little chunky but reasonably fit, exercising 2-4 times a week depending on his schedule. We're not taking six pack fit, but just a mild 'dad bod'. It's never been a problem for me. Recently, he's started turning his fitness journey up to eleven. He goes 48-72 hours without food and still trains Thai kickboxing during these prolong fasts. He started doing these things a couple of weeks ago and the weight is just shedding off. I'm so proud and happy for him, but as someone who has struggled with an eating disorder in the past, I'm worried that he may be developing one. It seems like whenever we meet to eat, he's finally breaking a 40+ hour fast. And even when he does eat, he eats keto. Normally he'd grab something like a burger at our usual spot, but he's now opting for salad bowls with grilled chicken, eggs and no dressing. He says that he's avoiding carbs because it means he can get back to ketosis faster in his next fast, butt that sounded like someone with an ED rationalizing. He says that what triggered this journey was him meeting an old friend from high school who told him he looked exactly the same as when he was in high school, when he was quite a bit heavier. When I was younger, I struggled with orthorexia, so I'm worried about him. I know these kinds of comments can be the exact kind of fuel that develop into eating disorders. When I brought up my concerns, he just laughed me off and explained that he was just trying to be healthier. He showed me fasting salts and multivitamins that he was using to convince me that the fasts weren't dangerous, but that really just made it feel worse to me. Like if you need pills to make sure you don't damage your body, surely what you're doing can't be healthy? Despite my concerns, he's been going for some electric inbody scans at a health lab that have showed the fat literally just melting off. He's dropped like 3 kilos over 2 weeks and says that he'll stop once he loses another 2-3 kilos. But again, that sounds like what I'd tell myself when I was struggling with my ED. So reddit, tell me if I should be concerned. Should I ask him to talk to a doctor? How can I help him out here?

He doesn’t eat for 2-3 days??? Yes. That sounds like an ED to me. As a former wrestler and competitive martial artist during most of my school years. I saw this a lot and was warned by the coaches and the trainers not to do this. Yeah, this is not good. He needs to eat more consistently and healthy and not starve his body…especially during training. Such crash dieting can lead to heart problems later in life and the body will scavenge the muscles for protein and fats to burn. This includes the heart. He needs to go see his doctor, get a referral to a registered dietitian and perhaps a trainer that specializes in martial artists.


I broke up with my boyfriend last Monday. Long story short, he really betrayed my trust and disrespected me. Now it's been a week, he's saying that if we are a strong couple we should be able to move past this. I feel as though I've been pretty strong for the past three years, moving past his occasional hurtful behaviors and boundary crossing. Of course it is not all bad, but there have been 4 major instances of disrespect or just flat out meanness. Anyway. I am feeling really down and today I reached out asking if he could come over. He said yes but then I changed my mind, told him I had plans with friends. He was okay with that, but when I came home I told him it wouldn't be a good idea for us to hang out. This is all so incredibly brief and missing a lot of details. So I guess my question is-- how do I stay strong, honor myself and my boundaries, and not cave in just to make him happy and take the oath of least resistance? I'm trying to do right by me, after taking one too many on the chin.

Don't call him and ask him to come to you. No matter how bad you feel, do not call him under any circumstances. You can’t stay with him and also honor yourself. Pick one.


I'm 21 year old male long story short went round friends uni party met this girl around 2am she seemed interested in me started playing with my hair, tiggling me. 5am we left she went back to her flat I went downstairs to sleep, I then messaged her saying there's not space here to sleep can I stay round yours she said yes I went round there and we started cuddling, playing with my hair, tiggling I got more info from a friend the next day that she was mad that I didn't make any moves and that I was the first man she ever chased sorta thing. I knew I should've atleast kissed her that night I feel stupid but I'm not the most confident person so I didn't unfortunately. I did actually like her as shes the first girl that's ever showed me that much attention. I messaged her a couple of days after the party saying it was nice meeting you do you want to hang out some time and she hasn't responded for 5 days. It's literally the only thing on my mind and it's making me regret not doing anything that night. What I want to know is can I do anything or should I just leave it at that?

If she hasn't responded in five days then she's not that interested in you. Maybe she was surprised that you didn't make any moves on her and maybe she thinks that you're boring? But you did what you felt was right at the time and if she was truly interested and liked you, believe you me she would let you know or at least get back with you. I would leave her alone and move on. So all these words typed to random strangers. You could have already texted her again, and let her know you like her, you were too nervous to make a move, there was also alcohol involved, and you want to see her as your better self


My gf wants me to baby her, so i was kindly touching her hair, sweet kissing her, and keeping her between my arms. So what is the best way for you to be babied?

Physical touch is my #1 love language. Gentle touches in any form while going about mundane activities make me feel weak in the knees. A subtle hand hold or playing with my fingers. Super soft strokes of my arm or leg. Hugs from behind. A quick kiss on the cheek. Cheeky tap on the butt while passing by. I can totally lose my train of thought in the middle of a sentence if I am gently and subtly touched in a sweet way. I love the more overtly sexual touches too, but the corny shit is what gets me. Forehead kisses and being held.